Why you are as unhappy as you have and how you can be as happy as you have

Some people say that you are as unhappy as you have. It can be interpreted that you should not have too much in order to be happy. To accurately understand the relationship between 'having' and 'being happy', we must first understand what it means to 'have'. You can 'have' either materials or knowledge and experiences. Materials can be possessed by you and then transferred to other people, but knowledge and experiences uniquely belong to you and cannot be transferred to others. 

Firstly, if you become unhappy as you have more materials, it is because you become nervous and anxious for keeping what you already have or grow excessive desire to have even more, which may lead you to become unhappy. You may also feel unhappy when you see people who have more than you. When you have all the above conditions, you are considered to be enslaved by materials. Of course, people who do not have much can become enslaved by materials when they become nervous and anxious about having more and keeping what they already have.      

Having or not having materials does not determine happiness or unhappiness. It is rather your ideas and attitudes about 'having' that determines happiness or unhappiness. People who have a lot can be happy when they are not obsessed or enslaved by materials. They will make good use of what they have for themselves and other people promoting happiness everywhere. Materials cannot be judged as negative or positive in and of themselves, but it is people's mind set and behaviors that make materials look positive or negative. We all must reflect on how to make use of what we have to become happy in a true sense. Without accurately understanding what you can do with what you have in a negative of positive way, you will become unhappy no matter how much materials you have. 

Secondly, you can have knowledge and experiences with which you can be happy or unhappy. Your knowledge and experiences are uniquely yours and cannot be transferred to other people as materials can. Your knowledge and experiences can be connected with negative or positive emotions inside you. When they are connected with negative emotions such as stress and wounds causing psychological suffering at present, you will become as unhappy as you have. However, you can change your emotions to positive ones and you can become happy with the identical knowledge and emotions. Then, you will actually become as happy as you have. 

With respect to materials, you can become as happy as you have by establishing right ideas and attitudes toward keeping and making use of materials. With respect to knowledge and experiences, you can become as happy as you have by changing negative emotions connected with them into positive ones. For materials, you may gain some and lose some in the course of life, but you can still be happy with the right ideas and attitudes regardless of how much you have. For knowledge and experiences, the more stress and wounds you have, the more happiness you can achieve by changing all the stress and wounds into positive emotions. You are the only person who can decide what emotions you want to connect with them. For both materials and knowledge and experiences, you yourself can and must decide whether to make use of what you have for happiness or unhappiness. You can be as unhappy as you have or as happy as you have depending on your ideas, attitudes, and emotions. 

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