Showing posts with label 16. Sex & Xes. Show all posts
Showing posts with label 16. Sex & Xes. Show all posts

1/15/2025

[Sex & Xes] The interrelationship between the pleasure of sex and the mind.


The xesmind exists within the mind, supplying energy to the mind and the body. When the xesmind is activated, you can have feelings of happiness in the mind or pleasure in the body. When sexuality energizes the mind, it can create positive feelings by healing wounds in the mind to create feelings of comfort or happiness, and when sex energizes the body, it can create pleasurable sensations in the sensory organs or make the body healthy. When these actions are out of order and distorted, they can disrupt the psychology that works in the mind and cause illness or sexual dysfunction in the body.

When this activation of sexuality is biased toward one or the other between the body and the mind, energy is lost in the other. In the case of women, once they are married and have a solid sense of stability in their minds, the pleasure of sex felt in the body becomes unnecessary. Surprisingly, women’s xesmind works for the happiness of the mind, so when a woman feels she has fulfilled meanings of life with her husband and children, there is no reason for her sexuality to be activated.

On the other hand, women who have a lot of wounds to heal, or who are not yet married and have not yet created meanings in their lives, live with a passion for sex. But what happens if a woman’s xes energy is activated only for the body and not for the mind? The mind loses its function and role as the energy is not fed to the mind, so the feelings of love and happiness, or the social norms and controls that operate in the mind, all lose their meaning, and she lives solely to feel pleasure from the sensory organs in the body. In other words, she becomes psychologically disturbed and live her life solely for the pleasure of sex.

Men, on the other hand, do not generate emotional energy from their xesmind; their minds are conceptual minds that process only facts and temporary moods. Men’s xesmind is biased to direct its energy toward feeling pleasure in the sensory organs of the body in the first place, men's love is not connected to sexuality, and men value the pleasure of sex for its own sake. 

Men use sex as a vehicle to activate the women’s xesmind, and women use sex with men to create feelings of happiness and love in their minds. When a man's passion for sex creates the feelings of happiness in a woman, he can create a mood energy called passion based on the woman’s emotional energy. In this way, a man's passion is generated by doing something for his woman, using his heart and his sexuality as a vehicle. So, ironically, men don't connect sexuality with their own emotion because their sexuality is supposed to be a tool to create happiness in women.

If this mechanism is disrupted, if a man has sex for his own pleasure and not for the happiness of the woman he's with, he becomes overly sexualized and develops psychological disorders and sexual dysfunction. This is what happens when men begin to perceive women as tools for their own pleasure.

Normal women use sex to create emotional energy in their minds, so it's very important for them to have a sexual partner who doesn't see them as a tool for pleasure, but who can help create feelings of happiness and protect them. Connecting emotions to sexuality is what women need.

When a man and a woman meet and marry to protect each other's bodies and minds, the woman fulfills meanings of life and feels stable, and she doesn't need sexuality to work for her. Then, the man's passion for creating happiness for the woman can become misdirected, and he wants to use sex for his own pleasure. If you don't understand this mechanism, all kinds of sexual problems, marital problems, and social problems will arise.

No matter how stable a woman's mind is, she should know that she can strengthen her emotional energy for happiness and love through the work of her xesmind, so she should never stop activating sexuality with the person she loves for her own happiness. It is good to keep in mind that a woman can continue to live the happiest life until the moment she dies by activating both her xesmind and her mind at the same time.

                             https://youtu.be/axHzgzwYn3k?si=WhDjlZ_5t6C6z5_z

                           About KIP(Korea Institute of Psycho-education)

Sex Therapy for Men : https://www.xestherapy.com/

1/08/2025

[Sex & Xes] A Life of Self-Chosen Slavery of Sexuality

 

Men and women don't know each other as well as they think they do. The psychology of each individual is different, but the system of mimind and the system of xesmind operating within mimind are the same for all men, from the youngest boy to the oldest man, and the same for all women, from the youngest girl to the oldest woman.

This system of mimind and xesmind is human nature. On top of this common system, each person's memories and habits are built up differently, resulting in their own unique disposition. However, the system is essentially the same, and we must understand it in order to understand ourselves and others.

Human sexuality, in particular, is a human instinct, and we must understand it in order to be able to live our own lives as major agents. Otherwise, we simply live our lives swept along by social standards. Social standards are important for the harmony and order of human relationships, but people who are swept along by distorted social standards become increasingly stressed and hurt.

Not many people clearly understand the nature of man and woman, and the system of mimind and xesmind, and everyone is interested only in psychological phenomena, which leads to the clash among different individual ideas and many controversies.

Sexuality is supposed to be inherently female-centered, but because it's been male-centered for so long, the psychology of all men and women is now tuned to male-centered sexuality. This inevitably leads to psychological and physical problems for humans, and they're living out of alignment with their underlying instincts. Humans live in relationships, so when individual psychological problems become prominent, they also become social problems.

Both men and women are so accustomed to a male-centered sexuality that many people feel very uncomfortable to go back to a female-centered sexuality. And there's nothing wrong with that feeling. You may feel like your life is over as you've lived in male-centered sexuality for the whole life time. However, it has been a life that has damaged your bodies and minds, creating distorted happiness, passion, and love that destroy each other.

Both men and women don't think about what lies beyond because such knowledge and information is unheard of. By and large, only those whose lives have been completely destroyed by their distorted sexuality strive for what lies beyond, and say, “If only I had known the system of mimind and xesmind before everything was destroyed.

Female-centered sexuality can be achieved when a woman separates her mind from her sexuality and becomes the main agent of her sexuality, and when a man supports it with his mind, not with his sexuality. It is very difficult for a man who has lived in male-centered sexuality to let go of his sexuality and strive to support his woman with his mind, and it is very difficult for a woman to separate her sexuality from her mind and strive to become the main agent of her sexuality. Sometimes, they don't want to do it, they don't know why they have to do it, and they don't know what they can accomplish by doing it.

This is not an unnecessary struggle for something idealized and fictional. Living a life with female-centered sexuality is true to who you are as a human being, and if you've been living with male-centered sexuality, it means that you've been denied happiness, love, true pleasure, and true passion that you deserve as a human being. Striving to live with female-centered sexuality should be a necessity, not a choice. It's about reclaiming what you've lost as a result of being swept along by distorted social standards. If you can’t lift yourself up from a life of downgrading, no one else can. 

                          https://youtu.be/OW0mQiS4sLI?si=Lz2SvnCH-R3SwWLS

            About KIP(Korea Institute of Psycho-education)

Sex Therapy for Men : https://www.xestherapy.com/

1/01/2025

[Sex & Xes] Women seeking sexual pleasure are in serious condition.

 

Today, we're going to talk about why the psychology of women seeking sexual pleasure is unhealthy. In today's world, saying that “women who enjoy sex are unhealthy” is going to cause a lot of controversy. This is because most people think about women and sex in terms of feminist and gender equality logic, so you'll hear a lot of people say, “Why shouldn't women enjoy sex, but only men?”

Both adult men and adult women have the right to enjoy sex, but sex is a very polarizing energy, and when it's used for good, it's a powerful force for happiness for both men and women, and when it's used for harm, it's a powerful force for destroying happiness for both men and women, ruining bodies and ruining lives. To harness the energy of sex for good, we need to understand its exact mechanism and essence before we can enjoy it. Once this is clear, we can create happiness energy through activating sexuality without limit.

Women who seek sexual pleasure having a distorted concept in a distorted environment where sexuality is interpreted only in terms of pleasure and love will develop serious psychological problems and lead a destructive life.

Sexuality is actually more important for women than for men, because through the work of the xesmind, women create happiness in the heart, and men's sexuality works to protect and support this, but now it is distorted into the opposite concept, as if sexuality is very important for men and women's sexuality is to support it, so both women and men are destroyed.

Men cannot use the energy of their xesmind to generate feelings of happiness in their hearts, and their sexuality only works in conjunction with their bodies. Men only utilize their sexuality as a source of temporary positive mood energy. Men's minds are not for generating feelings like women's, but rather they are minds of ideas connected with facts that make men experience temporary moods of pleasure or pain.

Woman's xesmind works to generate feelings of happiness, so it has a direct connection to a woman's psychological wounds. The bigger and deeper a woman's wounds are, the harder it is for her to repair them with her mind alone making her xesmind begin to work. There are women who have deep wounds that are activated, and then there are women who have wound dissociation, where the wound is so deep that it's covered over. They both try to activate their sexuality, so they are sexually expressive, but the woman with the deep wound is sexually expressive because she doesn't want to hurt, and the woman with wound dissociation is sexually expressive because she wants pleasure. 

As women try to activate their sexuality, they may have plastic surgery or genital surgery, they may train themselves to increase sexual sensitivity, or they may go to classes to learn about the art of sex. The original reason for women to activate their sexuality was to create feelings of happiness by repairing wounds of their heart, and their xesmind should only work for their own heart. However, when they have sex based on sexual desire that is rooted in wounds, the energy that should be working on their own heart is expressed to the other person, and the temporary positive sensations perceived through the sensory organs make them think that the partner has created happiness for them and they mistake this for love. Over and over again, instead of trying to repair the wound directly from their mind, they rely on the pleasure of the senses to create a temporary positive mood.

Eventually, she no longer needs the work of her mind, and the standards and notions of relationships, habits of control, and systems that create feelings of maternal love and happiness that were originally created in her unconscious mind are all broken. As a result, these women are no longer able to live a normal human life because they have abandoned the concept of being happy with other people and have come to believe that the pleasure of sex is happiness, or that any man who gives them sex loves them. If a woman's sexuality is triggered by her wounds and she is constantly wanting to express her sexuality, she needs to heal her wounds and stabilize her psychology before anything.

Men's sexuality is not connected to emotional wounds, but it is connected to the body, and excessive activation of sexuality leads to physical problems and sexual dysfunction in men. Men's sexuality is meant to create feelings of happiness in women, to protect women and make women happy, and to generate achievement and passion in men. When men use sex solely for their own pleasure, they end up using women as a means of pleasure, and this creates a vicious cycle that leads to breakdowns of both men and women.

The result of this vicious cycle is that the happiness of the mankind is lost, and we live in an environment where we compete and confront each other solely for individuals’ pleasure and satisfaction. The concept of family becomes unnecessary, and societies and nations exist solely for the survival of the individual. The emotionless humanity we see in science fiction movies is not just fiction.

We should never take sexuality lightly. Sexuality should be activated between two people who love each other, for women for their own happiness, and for men to create and protect it. It's for life's sake, and this is not some outdated idea, but an interpretation based on the Theory of Mimind and Xesmind. If you are not sure what you're really talking about, it's better to live in an outdated way of thinking about sexuality taking it seriously and conservatively, and protect yourself and your loved ones.

                         https://youtu.be/1FcJSX8P-eA?si=lKZIr75RwRWYd8sS

               About KIP(Korea Institute of Psycho-education)

Sex Therapy for Men : https://www.xestherapy.com/

12/25/2024

[Sex & Xes] Sexual Hedonism and Sexual Objectification

 

You've probably heard the term sexual hedonism, and sexual objectification is the perception of an individual only as a tool for sex. Often, the parties involved are unaware of the concept of sexual objectification because the person who is already hedonistic about sex and perceives the other person only as an object of pleasure doesn't care about the other person's position, and the person who is perceived as an object of sex doesn't know that they are being used as a tool for sex. 

A sexual hedonist values the pleasure itself above all else in sex, perceiving everything else as a means to that pleasure. They perceive the other person as an instrument of pleasure in order to pursue the pleasure of sex, and are not concerned with the pleasure and happiness of the objectified person. They also assume that if they are satisfied and happy, the other person will be satisfied and happy.

If you use everything you have to enjoy the pleasure of sex, and consider it to be the highest value and happiness, you're going beyond hedonism, especially if you're in a position of economic and social power. Sexual hedonism and objectification are more common among people with some degree of social power because they use their ability and power to realize their hedonism.

This is because it is advantageous to have a certain level of wealth, status, popularity, etc. to use others as a tool for sex. Sexual hedonism and sexual objectification can occur easily as successful people lose sight of their life goals and indulge in the pleasures of sex. The perception that anything is possible if you have the ability only reinforces this distorted perception.

Sexual hedonists are unable to escape the distorted pleasures of sex because they don't know the true flavor and coolness of sex. This is a phenomenon that has been primarily driven by men in the past, but in recent years it has also been driven by women. Once the pleasures of sex lead to addiction, you can never get out of it on your own. Sex is such a personal and secretive act that only the parties involved know about it, not the outside world.

As sexual hedonism and sexual objectification progress, people no longer get pleasure and enjoyment from sex between a couple or with a lover and lose interest in it, so they seek out sex with different stimuli and seek endless variety in sex. They try to brainwash and persuade everyone around them to join them in their sexual hedonism and objectification. As the stimulation of sex becomes more and more intense, it spirals out of control and every aspect of their lives becomes related to sex.

People who are sexually hedonistic and see others as nothing but objects of pleasure cannot address their condition on their own because they are so thoroughly mired in their own logic: they become dogmatic and closed off to sex styles that are different from their own, even though they think of themselves as open-minded with respect to sex. They are also very obsessive about sex, so what they think about once, they try to make happen. Their spouses often get caught up in this and slip into sexual hedonism with them.

People who practice sexual hedonism and sexual objectification have lost the concept and value of proper sex and live out their sex fantasies, which is why they are so permissive about sex with others. Having pleasure is a fleeting moment, followed by a search for greater stimulation and pleasure. These people should be reminded of their true sexual capabilities with a detailed explanation of the need for change, and to transition to feeling intense pleasure and happiness even from sex between two people in a normal relationship.

Sexual hedonism and sexual objectification are a phenomenon that can happen to anyone, and many people are currently in quite serious conditions. There's nothing wrong with enjoying sex, but it needs to be done in the right way and with an awareness of the other person's true happiness.

To do this, we need to first recognize the importance and value of human relationships, and then we need to educate ourselves about sexual empowerment so that we can enjoy the true flavor and beauty of sex. Surprisingly enough, most men want this. Women also need to know the value of true sex ability and build their sex ability, so that they can escape and prevent the objectification of sex. Pursuing only the pleasure of sex will make your body and mind sick. Please, keep in mind that you need to know the correct concepts so that you can know what true pleasure is and reach true sexual happiness.

                         https://youtu.be/ftt6jYT4e6I?si=y8ZuDdYLodYj2Cb-

                 About KIP(Korea Institute of Psycho-education)

Sex Therapy for Men : https://www.xestherapy.com/

12/18/2024

[Sex & Xes] If you want to get the best woman

 

Men aren't actually interested in women with good hearts. They usually like women who have a pretty pretty, have a good body, and are sexually capable. Women who only have these things are great for a momentary fling, but they're not what men want to be in a relationship with. They want to be with women who have all of the above, plus feelings of love.

In other words, they want a woman who is not only pretty and sexy, but also a woman who will be loving and caring to her husband and children, and of course, there are women who are both pretty and sexy and have feelings of love. In order to get such a great woman, a man must have the ability to protect her. There are men who only want women for their looks and sexual prowess, not their feelings of love. Once a woman is taken by such a manipulator, she loses the ability of love. Therefore, a man must have the ability to protect his woman from such a womanizer.

And men shouldn't go around looking for women, because if they do, they have already become one of the womanizers. A man should be able to protect a woman and wait for a woman. When a man is ready and able to wait, the woman he wants will come to him. And when he lives with that goal in mind, he will be passionate about pursuing his values, and do his best in whatever he does.

But if a man can't wait and starts looking for a woman, he won't be able to meet such a great woman. Such a woman won't come to a man who is looking for a woman because she has healthy mind. In fact, a woman should go looking for a man who can protect her.

A woman who has good appearance without having feelings of love is not the kind of woman a man would want to protect as his woman. If a man falls for a woman like that, he's only looking for a sexual relationship, not love, and that makes him sexually dysfunctional, and when you're sexually dysfunctional, you lose the ability to protect your woman, so a man should never go around looking for women.

When a man builds true sex ability, fulfills his values, and wants to protect a woman's love, a woman who has it all will find him. The most important thing for a man to do to get the woman he wants is to have the ability to protect her.

                                 https://youtu.be/jPzAwGQ6mBI?si=amcNd_QkEmPquB2k

                    About KIP(Korea Institute of Psycho-education)

Sex Therapy for Men : https://www.xestherapy.com/

12/11/2024

[Sex & Xes] Focus on women's sexuality, not feminism


 

Today's feminism tends to be extreme. Whereas early feminism cried out, “Women are capable of taking responsibility, so give them the rights they deserve,” it has been distorted into, “Women are not responsible for anything. Just recognize our rights already!”

The idea that “women can't take responsibility” is actually the male chauvinistic view of early feminism. The current distortion of feminism is the result of that resentment bubbling up like pus. In other words, distorted feminism comes from women's wounds, and by pouring all of life's wounds into feminism, distorted feminism has ended up with a group of wounds that are nothing like the original feminism. It means that they connect every hurt they receive from men to sexism or sexual inequality.

It's a very codependent way of life, and while it talks about women being independent and rebelling against the system, it's deeply rooted in male chauvinistic ideas. A truly independent woman does not associate her life with, nor is she influenced by, male supremacist ideas; even if she lives within a male supremacist system, she is empowered to transcend it. On the other hand, the very act of resisting chauvinistic ideas means that you are already positioning your dignity as a subordinate concept within those ideas.

The problem with male chauvinistic ideas and distorted feminism is that they distort the intrinsic roles in sexuality. In the intrinsic roles in sexuality, women are the active agents of sexuality, and men play a supporting role in sexuality, protecting and aligning themselves with women. Humans activate their sexuality to create passion and happiness in their hearts, and while women are capable of generating inexhaustible xes energy on their own, men are only capable of generating limited and weak xes energy, so men can only create greater passion and happiness by being fed with the xes energy that women generate.

In the essential gender role, men keep women safe and secure and cater everything to her so that she can generate xes energy to her heart's content. In distorted gender roles, men become the main agents of sexuality themselves and focus on exploiting women's sexual energy, not protecting and supporting women. This is the result of distorted gender roles and the root of male chauvinism.

In the past, this exploitation of women's sexual energy was supported by a social system that ignored women's potential and kept them in the home and denied their rights. This was changed by early feminism, and women now have many opportunities. However, to take it a step further, the reason why women cannot have both responsibilities and rights on an equal basis with men is because women themselves don't know who they are as sexual agents and keep trying to play the role of sexual support to men. This is no longer an issue of ideas like male chauvinism or feminism, but of distorted gender roles.

Women who become true sexual agents and generate and supply their own xes energy in all situations and circumstances will naturally be protected and supported by men. This is because instinctively, men need women's xes energy to create passion and happiness. Women need to be self-aware and unwavering in their sexuality, so that men who try to discriminate or exploit them will be culled from the group by men who want to protect them.

No matter how powerful a woman is as a generator of xes energy, if she doesn't recognize herself as the main agent in sexuality, her xes energy will only be exploited by men. From the perspective of a man living with distorted gender roles, a woman needs to be locked up for a specific reason and made to provide sexual energy only to him. This is because if she were to provide sexual energy to other men, he would find himself outcompeted by men who are more passionate than him.

The current distorted version of feminism is a strong argument for women to be recognized as objects of sexual exploitation. No one can understand true feminism if they exclude the idea of intrinsic roles in sexuality. Men and women who live in accordance with their intrinsic gender roles live in a world that transcends male chauvinism and feminism. It's a world where women, as well as men, enjoy the most powerful passion, happiness, and pleasure. We need to focus on women's intrinsic role in sexuality, not on feminism, and transform ourselves so that both men and women can fulfill their intrinsic gender roles.

                           https://youtu.be/aKieRX1n8kA?si=UqLA7hQUEkp6phCr

                About KIP(Korea Institute of Psycho-education)

Sex Therapy for Men : https://www.xestherapy.com/

12/04/2024

[Sex & Xes] How sexuality shapes the mind


 

Today, we're going to talk about the process of sexuality affecting the mind and the caveats that come with it. Xesmind works within your own mind, energizing only your own mind. It also affects the psychological operation of the mind, and it's important to remember that xesmind, mind, and psychology all belong to you.

Xesmind is designed to help the mind pursue happiness on its own by energizing it. It's supposed to create love and passion and heal wounds, but in today's society, where the concept of sexuality has become so distorted, it's easy to let your xesmind take over your mind and be directed toward other people. Especially for women, their xesmind should be working for their own happiness, but most of them direct their xesmind toward others because they want to look good to other people, because others want their sexuality, because they want to please others, and so on. Or they combine sexuality with social ideas or systems, and they end up having a negative perception of sexuality and even feel guilty about enjoying sex, or they do the opposite and have sex for pleasure that is recognized in the conscious mind, causing all kinds of problems.

But when all the sexual energy that should be feeding your own mind is directed toward the other person, your mind can't be healthy. You won't have the self-esteem you need, and you won't have the energy to repair stress and wounds on your own, resulting in frequent psychological problems and psychological disorders.

Humans are supposed to pursue happiness and live in self-actualization activating the conscious and unconscious mind, and xesmind works to support this process. However, as  xesmind gradually becomes more and more directed toward other people, the operation of mind and psychology are no longer centered on the mind, but on the xesmind, and mind, xesmind, and psychology become all entangled. As a result, mind continues to create wounds in relationships, and sexual desire keeps arising to repair these wounds to no avail. Sexual desire is generated as xesmind works to restore one's own mind, but no matter how much  xesmind works, psychology is bound to be ruined since it is directed toward others or outside.

When a man or a woman develops a psychological disorder, their sexuality is overly expressed and their sexual desire is intensified. When you have sex in this state, you can't help but feel a very powerful pleasure unlike anything you've ever felt before, because your mind is no longer in control. Needless to say, there's no need for human happiness anymore because you're living as if the pleasure of your sensory organs is the most important thing and you're mistaking pleasure for happiness.

There are exceptions. Depression in women and neurosis in men are also psychological disorders, but in the case of depression and neurosis, mind blocks out everything about sexuality, so instead of having a sexual desire, you become extremely resistant to having sex. When this happens, you can't even think about recovery or happiness because your xesmind can't energize your mind.

                            https://youtu.be/MKdcpe7NWD4?si=NL3wi9AmQIb6-XzY

                 About KIP(Korea Institute of Psycho-education)

Sex Therapy for Men : https://www.xestherapy.com/

11/27/2024

[Sex & Xes] The way you think about sexuality is the rudder of your life.


 

Today we're going to talk about the connection between your perception of sexuality and your life. Many of you might be thinking, “What big impact does sex have on your life?” And you might be thinking, “Well, maybe marriage and childbirth, or disease, or crime, or something else that's a big deal should have a greater impact,” but actually your perception of sexuality is the rudder that steers your life. Sexuality may be nothing, but it can also be everything.

We often say, “It's all in the mind,” and this is true. No matter what kind of environment we are in, our happiness or unhappiness is determined by how we perceive it and how our mind works. But it is the xesmind working within the mind that creates this mind. Although it is not recognized by the consciousness, it is responsible for healing stress and treating wounds by supplying energy to the mind, or, on the contrary, worsening wounds and stress. Therefore, the body and mind can be healthy due to the work of the xesmind, or, on the contrary, the body and mind can be destroyed by the xesmind.

Most importantly, most people associate xesmind with sexual actions. However, sexual actions are merely a manifestation of the xesmind's work on the mind. Also, the work of the xesmind and the mind changes depending on what perceptions and ideas we have about sexual actions. In fact, the xesmind is just a constant source of energy, and it's the mind's job to use that energy in ways that either promote happiness or unhappiness.

For example, sexual actions may be perceived as being very negative for someone. They've formed memories that make sexual actions uncomfortable, annoying, painful, or frustrating. For others, it's perceived as being very positive. It's enjoyable, fun, loving, and pleasurable. Sexual actions can be all of life's highs and lows, but the problem is that stereotypes are often applied only in one direction. Sexual actions are a double-edged sword that can be very painful and unhappy for some, or healing and revitalizing for others.

When a distorted perception of sexuality takes hold, sexual actions can become extremely pleasure-oriented, or the opposite, extremely aversive. This is because the emotions generated in the mind by the distorted concept of sexuality are set up that way. In such a case, psychological disorders are caused by the energy of the xesmind being supplied to the mind for pursuing excessive pleasure or for excessive nurturing of wounds.

When we think of sexuality, we usually think of it in an eroticized way, as a sexual act between a man and a woman. But sexual action is the result of the workings of the xesmind and mind, and it is not just about pleasure or love. If you have the right perception of sexuality and understand how it works in essence, you can use it as a rudder to help you heal your stresses and treat your wounds and live happily ever after.

Having sex itself is just a sexual action that pleases your sensory organs and generates temporary positive moods that you can turn around and forget no matter how many fancy techniques you know and apply. When you know how human mind and sexuality work behind the scenes, you can use sexual actions appropriately to make your mind and psychology healthy and happy, and live the life you want.

                                 https://youtu.be/1wyStB9ivSM?si=Z91xpgHX0Roh77YN

                  About KIP(Korea Institute of Psycho-education)

Sex Therapy for Men : https://www.xestherapy.com/

11/20/2024

[Sex & Xes] Is a complete life impossible? (Complete love and success through sex training)

 

The reason we think our lives are not perfect is because they are not in our control completely. To put it another way, if we could control our lives, our life would be perfect. The two most important things in our lives are love and success. A human being who is able to love enough and achieve enough will feel they have a perfect life, where there is nothing lacking.

However, even if we marry for the sake of perfect love, it soon withers away, and even if we achieve the material values that others envy, we feel it is not enough. In other words, we live an ironic life where the more we love and succeed, the more we feel lacking. Many people analyze this by connecting it to dopamine, and others by connecting it to religion, psychology, and philosophy, but I would argue that it's due to the intrinsic nature of human sexuality.

We have an instinct before we have a mind to navigate the world, and sexuality is an instinct. Sexuality creates the energy that fuels the mind, which is called xes energy. The energy generated by sexual action can become positive energy for restoration and creation, but when it is combined with relationships, purposes, and emotions in the mind, it changes to negative energy. However, we don't know that xes energy is working on us because we don't feel it directly in our consciousness.

The problem is that negative energy, created by the combination of our feelings for relationships or purpose and sexuality, is an energy that is wasteful. This negative energy burns our own bodies and minds to create love and passion, so the more we love and achieve with negative energy, the more we feel a deficit created by something that has been burned away. We feel satisfied only in the moment when we are immersed in the good feeling of love and passion, and when that moment is gone, we feel an even greater deficit, and our desire grows stronger.

However, love and success can be achieved only in relationships, so if we don't know the mechanisms and methods of converting this negative energy into positive energy in relationships, we cannot but live with endless needs. In other words, if we know how to convert negative energy into positive energy, we can live a full life, with enough love and success, without deficiency.

To do this, we need to train ourselves to understand exactly what the nature of sexuality is and how to change ourselves accordingly. Instincts cannot be overridden, but the mind that allows them to work in order can be changed by training our thoughts and habits.

This is how a man who shifts to a life that generates positive xes energy rises to the top of the pecking order over a man with the greatest success that comes from negative xes energy. And a woman who shifts to a life that generates positive xes energy can live a life filled with love and happiness, no matter who she is with. Men and women who generate positive xes energy have no deficit.

You've often heard the saying, “If you envy, you lose,” meaning that lack and want make you feel inferior and prevent you from feeling complete. No matter how much you try to change this by adopting philosophy, medicine, or religion, the harder you try, the more your needs will only grow, because none of them teaches you a way to shift the workings of your xes energy to a positive one.

Of course, when you let go of everything, feelings of deficiency and inferiority disappear. Such a life may be a comfortable life, but it will not be a complete life, because love and passion will also disappear if you put everything down. On the other hand, a life lived by converting negative energy into positive energy will definitely give you fulfillment in love and success in healthy ways, which will allow you to live a perfect life.

                              https://youtu.be/qfD1vLsmFaw?si=GU3joUo4gSF7tkPl

                 About KIP(Korea Institute of Psycho-education)

Sex Therapy for Men : https://www.xestherapy.com/


11/13/2024

[Sex & Xes] Why both mind and sexuality are so distorted today

 

We all have mind, and we all have psychology that works connecting the mind and the body. Psychology is composed of three parts: perception, which recognizes information from the outside world; memory, which stores and retrieves the perceived information; and expression, which expresses the results of the mind's work back to the outside world. The human mind takes in external information and expresses internal thoughts and emotions to the outside world through psychological processes. Why? Because we live in relationships with other people. The human mind is necessary for connecting with others.

Meanwhile, within the human mind is xesmind. It energizes our minds and bodies. Xesmind also has xes psychology that recognizes sexuality, remembers sexuality, and expresses sexuality, but surprisingly, it has nothing to do with human relationships. Xesmind works solely to energize our own mind and body. Mind exists to be with others, but xesmind and xes psychology exist solely for the sake of the individuals’ mind.

In a human relationship, our mind interacts with the other person's mind, and our xesmind energizes our mind. Xesmind is not supposed to be directed at the other person, and the workings of xesmind and xes psychology are not even recognized in the consciousness: everything you feel when you have sex is felt in the mind.

But today, this structure is perceived to be completely reversed. The mind is centered on what I feel, what is for me, what pleases me, and it is centered on satisfying individuals’ feelings rather than its role in relationships. Of course, it's true that my mind works for me, and all relationships start with me, but we are human beings living together, and when mind works only for ourselves, we can no longer move toward shared happiness.

There's a more serious problem. The workings of sexuality, which should be yours alone, are directed towards the other person. Everyone who discusses the psychology of sexuality analyzes it putting meanings in relation to the mind. Having sex is just a sexual action that is the result of the working of mind and xesmind. There is no meaning in the sexual action itself, and having sex should be used solely as a means of energizing one's own mind.

What happens when your xesmind is directed toward the other person, rather than toward your own mind? Most commonly, we interpret having sex in relation with love and pleasure. We want to look good to the partner, we become possessive or use the partner for our own pleasure, we want to fit in, or we learn sex techniques to show off and please the partner.

In modern society, these distorted notions are so thoroughly instilled in us from early childhood sex education that our minds are molded in this direction. The problem with current sex education is that it mostly focuses on having sex and issues related with it. With such a deeply ingrained distortion, how can we possibly have a proper perception of human mind and sexuality?

If we can at least get to the bottom of it, then we can at least strive to pursue the right standards, and we can give the next generation the right mindset from the early age. The education program exists to guide you to accurately understand the nature of human sexuality, if you are willing to change.

When your mind and xesmind are operating in a distorted way, it's only natural that your psychology will break down. Today, psychological problems are so common and many people live with neuroses, depression, and addictions and don't even realize they have them. It's important to learn what it takes to keep your mind and psychology healthy, and what is causing us to live in such a sick and troubled society.

                              https://youtu.be/_av4AzSNyIg?si=EnTBL1do2vJzrooe

About KIP(Korea Institute of Psycho-education)

Sex Therapy for Men : https://www.xestherapy.com/

11/06/2024

[Sex & Xes] Sexual prowess is not created by practicing sex techniques.


 

One of the stereotypes we all have is that “sex skills are built by practicing sex techniques.” But this comes from the idea that sex is an obviously limited act that is solely about the senses, mostly the sense of touch. Both men and women think of sex as being focused on the outcome of orgasm and ejaculation, and that's all that matters.

But this idea comes from a strictly masculine view of sex. Men take less time to orgasm than women and have more localized erogenous zones than women, so they don't really understand women's sex. Even women don't understand women's sex. If women understood what female-oriented sex is, both women and men would be able to enjoy much greater sexual pleasure than they currently do.

It's not your fault that you don't know what women-centered sex is. The problem is that there's no one to tell you what women-centered sex is, and that's because most people don't know how the male and female minds work and how the xesmind works. Women perceive sex as being more related with the mind than just a physical act, amplifying everything they perceive through their sensory organs into emotion, and feeling as much pleasure and orgasm as the amplified emotion, so it's not really where or how you stimulate them that matters, but all the moods and feelings of love that lead up to sex. In other words, the process of having sex is very important, rather than the outcome of orgasm and ejaculation.

In fact, women often find that even if they don't reach orgasm during sex, they get enough satisfaction from the things their partner says to them, the way he looks at them, and the way he ejaculates. It's about knowing in their hearts that their partner is incredibly passionate about them, which makes their own sexual arousal fulfilled. That's why women really dislike sex that's just about penetration and ejaculation. Women have a completely different perception of sex than men do.

In order for sex to be female-centered, and for women to achieve pleasure and orgasm in sex, you have to know how the female mind works. Sexual empowerment is not about sex techniques, it's about knowing how the female mind and male mind work. A woman's sex ability is knowing how to fully pleasure herself in sex, and knowing how to enlist the help of her partner to do so.

When a woman's sex ability is created so that she is able to achieve endless climaxes in sex, not only the woman but also the man feels a fullness that he has never felt before. This is because men become more aroused and judge the perfection of the sex by watching women's sexual response.

Women have the ability to amplify perceived information into emotion, so if you can understand a woman's emotions, you can bring her to orgasm without penetration. Unfortunately, neither women nor men know this concept, so men have to take the lead with the little knowledge they have, which leads to sex becoming male-dominated and limiting pleasure.

Always keep in mind that it's the heart that feels the pleasure of sex. The passion of a man and the love of a woman make sex more meaningful, enjoyable, and blissful. Sex without passion and love, just to make your sensory organs feel good, is no different from masturbation. To build sexual prowess, it is very important to learn how human mind works, not the technique.

                              https://youtu.be/l_5sIN6Zg1s?si=KIsUkILoRlJ6vfoO 

                   About KIP(Korea Institute of Psycho-education)

10/30/2024

[Sex & Xes] The concept of sexual memory

 

When the mind processes information about sexuality, the body's functions work together to recognize sexuality, remember sexuality, and express sexuality. In this video, we'll talk about sexual memory, where we store and retrieve information about sex and become aware of it.

The mind is composed of conscious and unconscious parts. First, the unconscious works so that we can feel and be aware of it as consciousness, and then the mind-body interaction of perception, memory, and expression is controlled by the unconscious, and then the conscious becomes aware of it and feels it.

When we perceive external information, all five sensory organs are controlled by the unconscious mind. The unconscious mind takes it all in before the conscious mind feels it, but it selectively filters and decides what to remember and what to bring to conscious awareness. The filtering is done by the “habits” in the unconscious mind. The habits in the unconscious mind also interact with the external information and the stored information in the memory to determine whether it is sexual or general information, and then bring it to conscious awareness. This is why each person perceives the same thing differently depending on how the habits in the unconscious mind have been formed.

In the process of recognizing and remembering sex, the unconscious mind works to store the perceived information in memory and retrieve it again from memory, reinforcing or changing what is already stored. As with all psychology, the workings of the habits in the unconscious mind are paramount when it comes to psychology of memory. When it comes to processing and recognizing information about sex, the habituated unconscious forms one’s values, perceptions, and ideas about sex. That is, we have unconscious habits that cause us to think about sex in a certain way when we consciously think about it.

Strictly speaking, it's not something external that comes in and makes you feel it, but rather, it's the information stored in the memory that is retrieved and recognized, which is triggered by the perceived external information. When something is recognized that does not fit with what is stored in the memory from the past experiences, the unconscious mind tries to understand it and readjusts the memory accommodating the new information. The unconscious habits can be changed by adding knowledge, experiences, thoughts, and external expressions. Therefore, even if distorted values and ideas have been formed by the distorted information so far, it is possible to change the stored information and form correct thinking habits by updating the memory by adding accurate information about values and ideas of sexuality in the future.

                          https://youtu.be/bd2Rd8LBMyA?si=rlKfXZtGBUvk_QoU

               About KIP(Korea Institute of Psycho-education)

[Mother Therapy] Passive income! Feels good just thinking about it?

  What do you think when you hear the term “passive income”? Many people probably think of “income that comes without effort,” but does it r...