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Hello, everyone. I am Jin Hee Lee at Korea Institute of Psycho-education. Today, I will talk about how daily reflection on their condition can help mothers manage parenting. It applies to mothers more than to fathers since mothers are the center of family as a person who carries feelings that can affect everyone in the family.
It is not to recommend that mothers must check on themselves for their problems. It is only to recommend that mothers can benefit greatly by examining on their own body and mind everyday to be able to maintain their own happiness and manage parenting effectively.
You can check on your physical and psychological state everyday or every few days. You as a woman, a wife, and a mother have so many things to take care of and to deal with in daily life. You have to take care of your husband, children, career, house chores, and so on. Mothers naturally get stressed and wounded in spite of themselves, but they usually have no time to take care of themselves and reflect on how they are doing.
Mothers keep checking on their children every moment. They check whether children had a good sleep, how they feel, whether they feel healthy, and even what food they ate at school. However, mothers tend to neglect how they are doing physically and psychologically everyday.
When you are not healthy physically and psychologically, you cannot give others healthy attention and love. You may be doing your best in the conscious, but everything you do may be based on wounds, which makes both yourself and your family feel unstable and uncomfortable. You may become irritable and capricious. You may overreact on trivial things making family members feel nervous and avoid you. Stress and wounds may be accumulated inside you without being recognized and you may make negative expressions more and more as time passes.
Mothers make all their efforts to raise their children in the best possible way within their capability. They look for information on parenting and study on child psychology. However, no good parenting method or strategy can work when mothers don't have healthy state of body and mind. Knowledge on parenting will have more adverse effects than when you don't have knowledge if mothers have psychological problems. Mothers' psychological condition is important since it affect children's psychology directly at the fundamental level. Reflecting on your condition is not only important for your children but also for yourself.
It can never harm yourself and your family to have a short moment and check on your condition consciously just asking yourself if you are doing fine and if you are happy today staying with your children and living your own life. Mothers should take care of themselves before they can take care of their children. They should give themselves the same level of attention to themselves as well as to their children.
If you find that you are in negative emotions now, you can look for ways to heal yourself such as having a quite moment to yourself or looking for practical ways to manage stressful situations. When you deal with negative emotions as they occur, you will not grow them until they become overwhelming and unmanageable. As you make it a habit to reflect on your condition as often as possible, you will be able to deal with problems as they occur. That is, you can protect yourself and your family easily and effectively. In this process, it is also important that mothers should not blame themselves for every little thing that occurs in the family or at work or get paranoid about every little negative feeling they experience. Just remember that mothers must be healthy and happy first for children to be healthy and happy.
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