What does it mean by being good
parents? No one starts being parents with a perfect manual for how to raise
children. Most parents just start parenting without a clear idea of what good
parents are and how to become good parents. They may look for good parenting
methods and read books about them. They many have some knowledge on good parenting
but it is not easy to apply it in daily life.
As children grow and become teenagers,
parenting becomes harder since teenagers are in the phase of formation of self-identity
and they seem to question everything they encounter in their life and look
rebellious or difficult in parents’
eyes. Conflicts keep being intensified since teenage children and parents keep
having arguments without understanding why they have conflicts in the first
place. The list of points of conflicts is so long that parents and teenage
children decide to stop communicating.
Children from the age 5 to 13 are in the
phase of adaptation to relationships and teenagers from 13 to 19 are in the
phase of formation of self-identity. Teenagers form their own thought standards
during teenage years through diverse experiences and trials and errors. When
parents don’t
understand the process of psychological development, both parents and children
get confused and cannot but develop conflicts. Taking practical measures to
correct children’s
thoughts and behaviors to accord with parents’
thought standards will only aggravate the situation and some parents may give
up on making efforts for good parenting.
Children have the right to form healthy
body and mind under the protection of parents, and parents have the
responsibility to provide children with safe and nurturing environment. Parents
must accurately understand the psychological development of children and guide
them in the right direction even when children are in the late adolescence.
Teenagers may look clumsy and awkward in many ways, but we just need to
remember that they are still in the process of forming self-identity making all
kinds of mistakes. Making mistakes and having diverse experiences will make
them make less mistakes and be more adaptive in adult life. The first step of
being good parents is to accurately understand children’s
psychological development and provide safe and nurturing environment where teenagers
can make trials and errors and form their own thought standards.
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