When
you realize that you cannot fulfill your dream anymore or you find out that
your ideal and the reality are too far from each other, you may despair and
want to give up on everything. You may feel depressed and lethargic suddenly
and don’t want to do anything. Children can
experience despair as much as adults do. Actually, Children may fall into
despair over trivial things from adults’ point of view
since they have only limited life experiences and limited thoughts standards.
Parents must understand the phases of
children’s psychological development and the right
parenting strategies to be able to provide children with healthy environment
for overcoming despair. They have to guide children to break away from negative
thoughts and feelings and go back to enjoying daily activities.
When
children cannot get help from parents for overcoming despair, they may keep
having negative thoughts and feelings and begin to blame self and others and
develop the sense of inferiority. Then, they may end up seeking attention and
consolation from other people in the wrong way and seek only diversion exposing
themselves to dangerous situation.
It cannot be said that experiencing
despair during childhood or teenage years has only negative effect on children.
It can be a part of trials and errors children experience during growth period.
It can provide them with opportunities to learn how to balance ideal and
reality and form diverse thought standards. Experiencing conflicts and
difficulties and overcoming them wisely through trials and errors can help
children in pursuing self-actualization when they become adults. Children who
do not experience any despair during growth period may have to deal with it as
adults for the first time, but then, it can be more difficult and dangerous
since they have to take full responsibility for their judgment and actions
without any help.
Parents must provide children with a safe
environment where children can overcome despair on their own and wait for them
to restore healthy psychological condition. Children are much more able and
resilient than adults think. It is parents’ role to help
children exercise their ability and grow to be a healthy and confident adult.
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