How do you parent your children? Are you
strict in a coercive way? It's been said that strict and coercive parenting can
have a negative impact on children because it stifles their autonomy and limits
their expression, so some people believe that allowing children to do whatever
they want can enhance their creativity and create a close relationship between
parents and children, like a close friend. But is that really true?
Especially nowadays, when children are so
precious and family life is so child-centered, many parents give in to their
children's demands. But giving in to everything unconditionally can lead to
other problems.
For example, if you allow your child to do
whatever they want, they may not learn to take responsibility for the
consequences of their actions, which can make it harder for them to be
responsible later in life. People feel safer when they have certain rules and
limits. Kids are no different. Having consistent rules makes things
predictable, which reduces stress and anxiety about uncertainty, which makes
them feel more secure and helps them grow up right.
Also, unconditional permission from parents
can be confusing for children. For example, if a child wants to play video
games all day and you give them full permission to do so, this can lead to
problems with schoolwork and relationships with friends and teachers. The child
may not understand what they've done wrong, which can lead to confusion.
The truth is, children need their parents'
attention and guidance. If parents don't take any interest in their child's
life, or don't know much about what they're doing, they may feel unimportant.
This can have a negative impact on their sense of being, and even cause a rift
in their relationship with their parents.
There are certain things that are important
to remember when raising children, and one of them is balance: you need to be
neither too strict nor too permissive. It's important to set rules for children
and let them experience the positive consequences of following them. At the
same time, parents can maintain a good relationship with their children and
grow together if they listen to them, understand their feelings, and give them
advice when necessary.
Ultimately, our children need to grow up to
be adults who can take responsibility for their actions and behave
appropriately in society, which requires following rules, discipline, and
parental attention and guidance.
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