Today, we're going to talk about “sexual
expression” in the context of xes psychology. Sexual problems that arise in
human relationships that directly affect others are caused by the expression of
sexuality.
Of course, before there is a sexual
expression that can cause sexual problems, distorted values and ideas are
formed from perceiving and remembering sexuality, but even if you have
distorted values and ideas, they will not directly cause damage or affect
others if you only have them as thoughts without expressing them.
We first perceive some information from the
outside world. Our unconscious mind works with our memories to determine
whether or not the perceived information is about sex, and then moves to bring
it into our conscious awareness, creating moods and feelings such as joy,
anger, pleasure or sorrow around the perceived information.
The problem is that when this unconscious
mind is at work, the expression is always at work as well, and since over 90%
of our expressions are unconscious, we may not be aware of them at all, or if
we are aware of them, it's only after we've already expressed them that we
recognize them again, and we're aware of what we've expressed.
What we express is what we say verbally,
what we do with our hands, feet, and other gestures, and the expressions on our
faces. And then there are thoughts, which are internal expressions that don't
show up externally. The thoughts that we have and the facial expressions and
gestures that we make on purpose are conscious and intentional expressions that
we're aware of, but they're actually less than 10% of our total expression. To
make the 10% of conscious expression, there's 90% of unconscious expression that
goes on.
The same is true for sexual expression.
Sexual words, sexual facial expressions, and all other sexual behaviors are all
sexual expressions, and the problem is that less than 10% of our sexual
expressions are conscious and intentional, and the other 90% are unconscious,
which is why they are so dangerous. That's why sex education is so problematic,
because you can only consciously control less than 10% of the sexual
information that you receive through knowledge education. Control over sexual
expression must be made 10% consciously and 90% unconsciously, which justifies
the argument that the power of control must be formed in the unconscious
habits.
We don't casually touch the body of the opposite sex in general relationships. Is this really conscious control? The knowledge and experiences that we have lived through create habits in our unconscious minds, and they are controlled before we become conscious of them. However, some people, regardless of whether they are male or female, casually touch the body of the opposite sex, and we can think that they lack knowledge and experience.
When wounds and stress are operating
powerfully in the unconscious mind, sexuality is often activated to repair
those wounds and stress. Sexual attention, comfort, and sexual expression are
much more powerful than normal processing of information, so women who are
overwhelmingly hurt think they're creating love and happiness through sexual
expression, and men who are overwhelmingly stressed think they're creating
stress relief and passion through sexual pleasure. All of this is unconscious,
not conscious, and the problem is that when they happen in relationships, they
affect other people.
The unconscious is the part of sexual
expression that we shouldn't miss. It's important to keep in mind that the only
way we can have healthy control over our sexual expression is that we develop
the right values and perceptions about sex as unconscious habits.
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