Psychology and happiness of children in the development phase of adaptation to relationships (age 5-13)

 

Understanding children’s developmental process of psychology helps understand the training and the treatment mechanisms of Youth Mind Training and Mother Therapy. The psychological development process adopted by the Theory of Mimind may be different from those adopted by conventional fields of psychology and psychiatry. The concept of the process of psychological development is essential in designing and implementing the training and treatment methods of Youth Mind Training and Mother Therapy.

[The process of psychological development]
- Under age 5 : The phase of survival
- Age 5 to 13 : The phase of adaptation to relationships
- Age 13 to 20 : The phase of formation of self-identity
- Over age 20 : The phase of self-actualization

Children form habits and memory required for adapting themselves to relationships during this period. When they grow with psychological stability during the phase of survival by being provided with adequate environment for survival, they begin to focus on adapting themselves to relationships. The psychology of children at this phase is determined by how children perceive relationships with people around them. Relationships children are usually exposed to during this period include relationships with parents, siblings, other family members, teachers, and friends. They learn how to form and maintain relationships through trial and error.

Boys categorize relationships into right ones and wrong ones. They form habits and memories based on their experiences of relationships that are right or wrong. A relationship is perceived as a right one when they can derive positive moods of fun and pleasure from the relationship, and it is perceived as a wrong one when negative moods of stress are generated from the relationship. Boys feel that they are happy and their psychology is stabilized when positive moods of fun and pleasure are generated, but feel they are unhappy and their psychology is destabilized when negative moods of stress are generated.

On the other hand, girls categorize relationships into ones they like and not like. They form habits and memories based on their experiences of relationships that they like and not like. A relationship is perceived as a liked one when they can derive positive feelings or feelings of love from the relationship, and it is perceived as a not-liked one when negative feelings of wounds are generated from the relationship. Girls feel that they are happy and their psychology is stabilized when positive feelings and feelings of love are generated, but feel they are unhappy and their psychology is destabilized when negative feelings of wounds are generated.

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