It's common for women to lose their desire for sex after
giving birth and during raising children. Many people say that this is because
they're tired of parenting, or because sex is just not fun for them anymore. Of
course, they are all legitimate reasons because that's how women feel in their conscious.
However, when you look at how xesmind works behind
what the conscious recognizes, you'll find something interesting and
surprising. Women make love and have sex to create meanings of life, which
means that xesmind works to have mimind create meanings of life. That's why
women are so active in having sex with men during the dating phase and even in
the early days of marriage.
When a woman gives birth and raises a child, she develops
the sense of fulfillment in her life:
she has a husband who she believes will never be separated from her, and she
has a child born out of that loving relationship. That's when she changes from
being a woman to being a wife and a mother.
From this point on, a realm of which she is not aware
begins to operate in her xesmind and the
unconscious. In the operation of xesmind, a woman pursues the value of her
sexuality. She tries to find a person who she can trust and share sexuality. When
she can't find such a person, she feels lonely and wants to be in a
relationship. Then, when she thinks she has found the person, she keeps
confirming it through love and sex. Finally, when the person is confirmed and
settled in her unconscious mind, her xesmind decides that she has achieved the
value of sexuality and stops seeking it. Her mimind feels this as happiness and
comfort in the conscious. This is the true cause of sexlessness in women.
On the other hand, the male xesmind works completely
differently from the female xesmind: the male xesmind is focused on the present
realization of sexuality. Men need to keep generating energy by activating
sexuality in xesmind to be able to generate passion in mimind for the pursuit
of future happiness and values of life. So when a man activates sexuality, it
doesn't matter with whom he activates sexuality from the perspective of xesmind.
It just matters to him that he activates sexuality at the present moment. It is
like throwing coal into the stove to build up the energy of passion.
When the wife completes the value of sexuality and no
longer needs sex, the husband may still seek to activate sexuality to be used
as fuel for generating passion for life. Or, surprisingly, when the wife is no
longer seeking the value of sexuality, that is, when she is in a relaxed state
of mind, the husband may also stop thinking about activating sexuality with his
wife. This is how human mimind and xesmind work, and this is why many couples
end up living in sexlessness, which is only a natural phenomenon.
However, there is one thing that women should know.
Happiness, once created, does not last forever until the day you die. Happiness
may last for only a certain period of time, and it is fleeting and fades away
as life's storms come and go, so you must constantly strive for your own
happiness until the day you die.
When we feel stable and comfortable in the present, we
think that this comfort will last forever. However, no one can guarantee that
we will be comfortable and happy tomorrow because we are comfortable and happy
today. This is why even women who have been living comfortably without having
sex suddenly start to experience abnormal sexual desire when they experience
traumatic stress, such as husband infidelity, bereavement, or other traumatic
events. It's a phenomenon that occurs when a woman feels so much pain that she desperately
wants to feel stable again, so her sexuality, which has been dormant, is
strongly triggered to be activated again.
At some point, when sex becomes a distant or
obligatory part of a couple's life, they have to start from scratch to rekindle
their passion and love. So if you're still in a relationship in which you have
passion, love, and sex, you both need to work to make sure you don't lose it.
And if you're in a relationship where you've been sexless for a long time, you
shouldn't rush into sex, but you should prepare little by little to have
passion, love, and sex again. If you have sex before you're ready, and passion
and love haven't been rekindled, it may not mean anything to you and may even
serve to destroy your relationship.
Whatever the case may be, please, remember that a life
with lasting love, passion, and sex in a couple creates the energy for overcoming
adversity and, more importantly, the fuel for endless happiness.
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