Sometimes
children and teens use verbal and physical violence at home against parents and
siblings. To address this issue, it's important to understand the causes,
problems, and solutions for children's aggression and violence, and to know
what to do in your home.
First, we
need to understand why children and adolescents use verbal abuse and violence.
First, verbal abuse and violence can occur when a child is at risk of losing
his or her right to be safe, or when a child is at risk of losing his or her
right to develop healthy psychological habits. This can happen when parents
neglect or coerce their children, which can be seen as an absence of parenting.
Second, children may use verbal abuse and violence as a means of avoiding or
relieving stress and wounds when they are unable to manage trial and error in
the process of forming psychological habits.
Third,
when a child pursues his or her own pleasure and a parent or sibling
interferes, verbal abuse and violence may result. Fourth, when a parent has psychological
problems, verbal abuse and violence can occur as a result of resentment and
distrust of the parent. This is when a parent's words and actions become
intolerable to the child, and the child expresses anger toward the parent.
The
problems that occur in this situation are as follows. First, the psychology of
the parents, siblings, and children is destroyed, so family breakdown occurs
very quickly., Second, the child who is verbally abusive and violent already
has psychological problems, which is rapidly worsening. Third, the child loses
any sense of guilt or remorse for his or her verbal abuse and violence, and
rationalizes and justifies his or her verbal abuse and violence.
Fourth, a
child who is verbally abusive and violent may come to believe that everything
in the family belongs to him or her, that he or she should be in control of the
family, and that everyone in the family should obey him or her. Therefore, he
or she will use everything in the family for his or her own pleasure and
enjoyment. In this way, a child's verbal abuse and violence destroys a family,
and leads to the development of psychological and behavioral problems in both
the child and the family, ruining everyone's life.
Then,
what can you do about your child's verbal abuse and violence? First, you need
to separate the abusive child from the victims of the abuse, so that they have
a chance to learn that they can't get their way. Second, you need to hold your
child accountable for their verbal abuse and violence. You can do this by
helping them understand their rights and responsibilities as children and
adolescents and their rights and responsibilities to self-actualization. If
they commit crimes, they need to be punished and held accountable.
Third, the family needs to be restored. The family must be helped to cure and recover from the psychological and behavioral problems caused by the child's verbal abuse and violence, and when the child returns to the family after recovery, the child must be properly raised and educated about their rights. Fourth, you need to adopt a process of psychological recovery for children who are verbally abusive and violent. They need to recover by treating their own psychological conditions and form their own healthy habits of healing stress and healing wounds.
Once your
child has recovered, the verbal abuse and violence will stop, and they will be
able to grow up in a happy, healthy home with their family. It's important to
note that superficially addressing your child's verbal and behavioral issues
can actually exacerbate the problem. A comprehensive solution that fits the
family environment must be applied.
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