When men get stressed out, their unconscious is activated
in order to remove stressful moods. For men, stress is induced when they feel
negative moods due to the perception of information from outside through five
sensory organs. Then, their unconscious is activated without their control in
order to escape this negative mood; this is expressed through speech, actions,
and facial expressions. If the stress persists, the efforts to escape the
stress will become stronger. Then, this particular stress will be considered as
intense and get him to do anything to escape it. Men will do anything to block
the stressor and to remove negative moods.
When they are trying to get away from the negative moods,
their unconscious automatically expresses something through words, actions, and
facial expressions. The target of the expression is usually close friends,
lovers, or comfortable family members. Even if a man tries to suppress and
endure it, he can't help but escape or remove the stressful negative mood
eventually. So, men who are good at enduring stress will eventually let it out
on someone somewhere else. If possible, it will be expressed to one's lover,
comfortable person, or a close person. Men that often suppress their negative
moods almost always hold grudges. This is the reason why men hold grudges
against people who induce stress.
Most men with normal mind and psychology will not hold
grudges about stress because their unconscious expresses and relieves it
through words, actions, and facial expressions. They removed the stress or
negative moods. However, if the stress is consciously suppressed by thinking
about it, it remains in him and is never good for him. Oftentimes, men have to
endure stress and suppress their moods consciously with strangers or in
work-related relationships. The negative moods of stress are removed by
unconsciously expressing to people that the men perceive as intimate or comfortable
friends or loved ones. So, the bigger the stressor is (which depends on the
duration of its influence), the stronger the operation of one's unconscious
will be. The expression will be intense if the amount of stress is huge.
Men do not feel stressed when they escape the negative
moods of stress. Then, their unconscious tries to take in positive moods to
replace the negative moods of stress. They unintentionally get immersed in fun
and pleasurable things. It works the same way as looking for cool places in
scorching hot weather.
Most people get immersed in fun and pleasurable things to
induce positive moods. The immersion becomes stronger if the way of removing
the negative moods becomes habitual. If a man successfully removes stress using
the method, he will definitely get addicted to this fun and pleasurable thing.
He develops an addiction after repeating this several times. Addiction mostly
occurs in this way. Addiction is the power of immersion that arises from the
moment of removing stress. Due to the suppression and obsession of this fun and
pleasure, the object of immersion itself begins to induce stress and creates a
cycle of addiction.
Most men do not head home straight if
they are stressed out from work. They relieve their stress with their friends
first and then go to their cozy homes. Of course, if the method of relieving
stress is distorted and wrong, it will cause bigger problems and leave the
family neglected. But men rarely notice this problem. Most of them will justify
themselves saying that this process of removing stress and immersing in
pleasure is part of their job. Therefore, men do not remember stress or
negative moods because they remove them unconsciously. This is the normal
operating mind of men and their unconscious. It applies identically to all men
from babies to the elders. Men frequently forget stressful situations as soon
as they turn around, and similarly, they can't really stick to their
resolution.
When your son feels that his mother's
words, actions, and facial expressions induce negative moods, he gets stressed.
Once he feels this way, anything the mother tells him will be stressful to him.
The first thing that all men do under stress is escaping the stressful
situation. Men do not know why they do this. Their unconscious tries to escape
it by expressing through speech, actions, and facial expressions even though
they didn't even mean to do it. The stress has to be removed first. It doesn't
matter who it is; men have to avoid stress whether it comes from their lover or
parents.
A man will get stressed by little scolding and will express it
unconsciously or try to evade the stress. Sometimes, he will turn the table and
attack you. Husbands often say, "Stop it now.". "I get it, ok?
Drop it.". Some men will even wield verbal or physical violence. This is all
because men unconsciously express to avoid stress without realizing it. It is
not wrong. It happens naturally as the unconscious operates.
Let's take domestic violence as an
example. If a husband or father is abusing family members, it means that he could
not endure stress anymore. He unconsciously expressed it through domestic
violence on his wife and children that he loves as a means of removing the
stress. In this case, domestic violence can be solved with ease by changing his
means of expression. When men get stressed out, their unconscious always jumps
in and tries to remove stress by expressing through words, actions, and facial
expressions. It is repeated constantly because they do not know the principle
of the mind. I feel very sorry to see domestic violence spread and get worse.
Most people try to deal with it legally instead of finding the right way to
solve it because they do not know the principle of the operation of the
unconscious.
Men cannot remember the negative moods of
stress for more than three days. If they remember negative moods of stress,
those moods turn into feelings and cause severe pain. They may need to be
hospitalized or try to commit suicide to escape the pain. You may want your son
and husband to remember your wounds, but it is the same thing as wanting to
send them to a mental hospital. Women have a different system for the treatment
of wounds. You should understand that men and women have different ways of
remembering emotions and should learn how men heal their stress.
Now, we have discussed the underlying principle of men's expression under stress. In conclusion, men try to avoid stress when they get stressed, and they get immersed in fun and pleasurable things afterward. While men are going through the process of removing stress and getting immersed in fun and pleasure, you have a very important role. This principle must be known accurately to understand men.
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