Abnormal human relationships always bring problems. Thus, if it is not understood clearly or if it is not prevented, you might either be involved in incidents that you didn't want to be involved with or be damaged due to this relationship. These cases happen in relationships with specific purposes such as fraud, relationships of blind passion, adultery & infidelity, unfair works due to the cooperation of two who are not in the same position, etc.
Serious problems are potential even though one perceives his or her counterparty as an intimate person since the counterparty perceives their relationship as the relationship with a specific purpose.
If one expresses his or her emotions through speeches, actions, and facial expressions by habits, the unconscious, to his or her counterparty because the counterparty is intimate, the counterparty will accept the expressed emotions to the conscious through thoughts. Then, the counterparty will make speeches, actions, and facial expressions that the one wants; through this, one's thoughts and memory can be recognized by his or her counterparty. So, the one perceives the counterparty's speeches, actions, and facial expressions as if they are true. At this point, one does not recognize the counterparty's expressions are made intentionally for a specific aim but perceives only that the relationship with the counterparty has become intimate.
When looking into the abnormal human relationship, habits of the unconscious operate when one expresses his or her emotions because he or she thinks that he or she is close to or loves his or her counterparty. whereas the counterparty uses the conscious to express and perceive the expressed emotions. In this case, the person with habits operating is damaged by his or her counterparty who uses the conscious; this makes the counterparty become a perpetrator.
The abnormal relationships are relationships holding specific purposes. For examples are a criminal relationship, the relationship between swindler and victim, the relationship between perpetrator and victim, etc. In the end, it is very natural for one expressing his or her psychology through habits and for the counterparty accepting the expressed psychology by the conscious. However, expressions of psychology are made intentionally by thoughts of the conscious resulting in making one and the counterparty express psychology differently.
This kind of abnormal relationship occurs very often especially in intimate relationships and in relationship with people who have known for a long time. This does not operate in the conscious human relationship. Even though one person in a relationship feels intimacy and thinks the relationship has become closer, it is useless if the counterparty has a specific purpose to keep the relationship.
As mentioned several times, abnormal human relationships occur when relationships are considered to be intimate and when the relationship has been kept for a long time. People are swindled mostly by others who have kept intimate relationships with them. It is rare to be swindled by a stranger. So, although the conscious operates in the beginning when meeting a stranger, expressions start being made unconsciously by habits once one starts feeling intimacy in the newly formed relationship. The conscious keeps operating in the counterparty. In other words, the counterparty is using this person. As the counterparty starts thinking consciously with specific purposes, an abnormal human relationship has been formed. This person does not recognize this.
There are some people trying to come between related others by making them misunderstand and distrust each other. This is possible because the victims are close to the person trying to come between them; this also makes them keep this abnormal relationship with the perpetrator holding a specific purpose. When there is someone trying to play both sides in the middle, it means that the person has a specific purpose. Like this, those with specific purposes in human relationships express psychology intentionally.
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