Men and women perceive conversations differently. Because of this, emotional confrontations occur if they do not understand the difference between their perception of conversations. About 10 % of the causes of emotional confrontation is this.
About having conversations, men perceive it as problems and reject to have conversations as negative emotions are aroused due to the operations of stress. On the other hand, women perceive conversation as problem-solving because it operates as consolation, and they have positive emotions aroused. Things mentioned above are only for men and women with normal psychology.
However, if they have abnormal psychology, men will get positive emotions since they perceive having conversations as problem-solving whereas women get stress since they will perceive it as a problem. This is the conflict and fight caused by the men and women's different perception of conversations. Thus, fights caused by problems of different perceptions of conversations will be decreased if how the counterparty perceives the conversations is understood.
Just for a reference, conversation and communication are different. The conversation includes psychological operations as one exchanges his or her opinions and emotions with his or her counterparty whereas communication does not include psychological operations. Also, both animals and human beings can make communications, but conversations which include psychological operations can be only done by human beings.
As for conversations, men and women perceive them differently. It is the process of resolving problems, but men perceive conversations as stress since they perceive them as problems. Negative emotions are created unknowingly. So, men do not like to have vague conversations. On the other hand, women perceive conversations as consolation and resolution because they perceive them as the process of problem-solving. So, they are positive about having vague conversations.
This phenomenon happens because conversations are perceived as the exchange of emotions. Conversations for exchanging opinions generate positive emotions to men; this is why men become very talkative when they have talks. However, they do not like having emotions included in conversations. Having conversations with women for exchanging emotions generate positive emotions.
If a man is told to have a conversation without getting a specific subject, he will get stress as negative emotions will be generated. When he is told 'let's have a talk,' he thinks 'why does that person want to have a talk with me? what is the problem?' Without a specific subject provided, having a conversation will cause him great stress. On the other hand, if a woman is told 'let's have a talk,' she will think of it as the process of problem-solving about things she's interested in even when she doesn't know what the subject of the conversation would be. Because of this, positive emotions are generated.
Men do not get stress when having conversations if they are given a specific subject of the conversation that they have in advance whereas women can have positive emotions generated without knowing the subject of the conversation they will have. Moreover, if a woman has a conversation that is different from the subject that she was told in advance or if the result of conversations does not meet her expectation, negative emotions will be generated. Simply saying, very negative results would come out in these cases. Thus, it would be better to not mention specific subject or resolutions in advance when trying to have conversations with a woman since she might be disappointed after having conversations and end up having negative emotions.
In summary, men do not have negative emotions of stress when having conversations if he is told what the conversation would be about in advance whereas women do not need to be provided with the subject of conversations they will have.
Like this, men get stress as they perceive conversations as problems; positive emotions are generated for women as they perceive conversations as problem-solving.
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