Emotions and Opinions

 

If you look into a specific incident or subject when having conversations, it is always separated into opinions and emotions. Opinions about the incident and subject and emotions about the incident and subject coexist. At this point, opinions are very objective, are based on knowledge, and operate by learned experiences, various memories & thoughts of oneself. On the other hand, emotions are very subjective and operate according to emotions you remember and your habits. 

If the counterparty's opinions cause negative emotions to you in the process of being expressed, your emotions won't be good even if you agree with the counterparty's opinions. Your reactions will be negative. If the counterparty's opinions cause positive emotions to you in the process of being expressed, you will view the opinions positively no matter what they are. Thus, when exchanging opinions, emotions decide whether the opinions will be accepted positively or whether they are going to be accepted negatively. 

If positive emotions are formed due to the intervention of emotions, opinions that used to be very different become same. In other words, the operations of each individual's emotions are put before the objectivity of opinions. Instead of asking further explanations for the counterparty's opinions or asking whether the opinions are correct or wrong, the opinions become united fairly easily. In general, this is mass psychology and used a lot in propagandas and incitements. If phenomena like this occur, the same emotions will be maximized, allowing to secure the similarity, which could be an advantage. However, adjusting opinions won't be possible; due to this, the possibility of having problems is very high. The legal, ethical, moral standards of opinions won't be important matters to be considered. 

If people have different emotions during conversations, they will eventually end up trying to oppose and win emotionally with each other. It is because of the principles of occurrence of emotions. Positive emotions will be generated for you if opinions suit your emotional standards, but your counterparty will have negative emotions generated. It is the same vice-versa. 

Thus, due to emotional confrontations, you and your counterparty will only try to oppose to each other. If problems occur at this point, you two will blame each other and think that each of you didn't do anything wrong. In the end, emotional confrontations and fights last endlessly because there is no understanding and consideration for each other. 

On the other hand, in circumstances where emotions are excluded, it is not that difficult to resolve problems and adjust opinions since all of these are done objectively only by one's own knowledge and experiences regardless of whether the opinions are same or not. If emotions are exchanges after adjusting opinions this way, not only emotional exchanges will be more comfortable but also positive emotions will be generated to both sides. That is to say, understanding and consideration can be easily done. Therefore, when having conversations that require adjusting opinions and exchanging emotions at the same time, adjusting opinions must be done first before emotions get exchanged if you want to have enough conversations.

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