Men and women perceive problems of the past differently. Every problem related to various things like conjugal problems, family problem, sex trouble, etc. in the past keep lasting unless they are resolved. These problems keep proliferating unless they are resolved. If they are not resolved, they will be remembered as wounds for women whereas men won't be able to remember these problems. It is because women remember wounds, which are negative emotions whereas men cannot remember the stress, which is also the negative feelings.
Perception of psychology is recognized by thoughts; expression of psychology is made through habits, which are speeches, actions, and facial expressions. So, psychological expressions about problems are made unknowingly whereas counterparty's expressions related to problems are remembered very well. When problems occur, both oneself and the counterparty don't know their problems because they make expressions by the unconscious.
A man and a woman need to have a talk with each other in the process of problem-solving, but problems are not easy to be resolved since the man perceives having conversations as problems whereas the woman perceive conversations as resolution. Because they perceive conversations differently, emotional confrontation is unavoidable without knowing the core of problems. The problems would rather be enlarged.
A man perceives conjugal problems, family problems, sex troubles, etc. as problems. So, if a woman tries to have a talk about problems with him, he will either avoid or reject having conversations because stress, which is the negative feelings, is aroused since he perceives the conversation itself as raising a problem. Due to this, the woman gets wounded psychologically whereas the man avoids and forgets the problems.
As time passes, the man will think there is no problem. He will not allow the woman to speak a word about problems because talking about the problems itself is a great stress for him. It is very natural for him thinking that there is no problem because he cannot remember the negative feelings. However, the woman speaks that she needs to talk about the problems since she thinks the problems will be resolved through having conversations. This is very natural for her thinking that problems have not been resolved yet because she still remembers the negative emotions. Since men and women have different systems of memory and perception as mentioned above, it is difficult to resolve problems such as conjugal problems, family problems, sex troubles, etc. through conversations.
If a man is told to have a cup of coffee together, he won't perceive it as a problem. Having a conversation with him would be naturally done because he just thinks it's a matter of having a cup of coffee. However, if he is told to have a talk without letting him know what the subject would be, stress will be aroused as he perceives it as raising a problem. That is why men do not like having conversations without knowing the subject.
Men cannot remember the negative feelings of stress by rejecting conversations due to operations of rejection defense mechanism towards the stress whereas women remember negative emotions well by accepting conversations since they accept and treat the negative emotions due to operations of acceptance defense mechanism. So, men and women perceive conversations and problems so differently.
Thus, Men cannot remember various problems of the past whereas women remember them well.
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