(Q) A man in separation with his wife and a married woman have had an extramarital relationship for 7 years. The man tells the woman that he loves her and plans to marry her after his divorce 5 years later. Can we say that he really loves her?
(A) The two people are in relationship addiction with psychological disorders. They have been seeking only pleasure in life for the last 7 years and they could easily continue such a relationship for the rest of their life. It is simply a nonsense that he loves her and he plans to get a divorce 5 years later and marry the woman.
He is only lying that he plans to marry her in order to continue his pleasurable life without problems and is self-justifying the current situation. It is identical to say that they should just keep enjoying as they do now since they will get married in 5 years, which is unlikely to happen.
Normal people cannot understand speech and actions of people with psychological disorders since their thoughts are completely distorted from normal operation. They may look absolutely smart and rational in dealing with other matters, but their psychology operates in a distorted way to accord with the standard of pleasure seeking regarding the object of addiction, which is relationship in this case.
People in infidelity may actually think and argue that those who seek pleasure are capable of love and those who do not are not. They are at the center of destroying healthy human relationships along with destroying individuals, families, and the whole society. The nature of such a relationship is the woman offering her body for the man's sexual pleasure disguised as love.
The woman is likely to be indifferent to her family and her children since she is also in relationship addiction. She is considered to be addicted to the man's attention and consolation at the cost of her life, and she has to keep responding to the man in return for his attention. She is also highly likely to display symptoms of hysteria upon the slightest negative stimulation.
Both of them are ruining their own life and the lives of people around them without even having a clue about what is actually going on in their mind and psychology.
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