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Q. I have recently heard that my 13-year-old daughter speaks carelessly to her friends. I checked with my daughter for the fact and she said it was right. She wants to become closer to her classmates in her 7th grade class but she still feels distant, and her friends from the 6th grade have already made many new friends, making my daughter jealous. My daughter used to cry often because her friends hurt her in different ways, and she couldn't speak out even when she was treated unfairly. Now, she is the one who hurts other girls by speaking carelessly and speaking ill of others. I feel speechless out of disappointment and worry. I thought I raised her to be polite to people but she is even rude to her own family members these days. What should I do?
A. From parents' point of view, it is only natural that parents are disappointed and worried when their daughter behaves inappropriately. You must have felt really sad when she admitted her inappropriate behaviors after you have made all the efforts to teach her to be polite.
Your daughter said that she behaved rudely because her old friends made many new friends when she still felt distant to new classmates. Your daughter seems to have wanted to look superior to other girls or get attention from classmates by speaking carelessly.
Your daughter seems to feel unstable since her needs are not satisfied somehow. She tries to satisfy her needs by getting attention from friends and family, but it doesn't work so she behaves rudely. She speaks carelessly not because she doesn't like friends and family, but because she wants attention. It is not wrong to express her emotions but she needs to learn how to control her speech and maintain good relationships with people.
When you learn about the process of children's psychological development and apply the right parenting strategies and treatment methods by adopting Mother Therapy, your daughter will feel that she is getting enough attention from her mother and be able to stabilize psychology.
When you naturally let her know that it is good to express her emotions to people instead of suppressing them, but she must express her emotions in ways others are not hurt by her expressions, your daughter will find how to express her emotions appropriately on her own.
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