[Infidelity Therapy] The spouse in infidelity who demands a divorce

The most foolish person is the one who demands getting a divorce after he or she is caught cheating on the spouse. The next foolish person is the one who gives up on the possibility of restoring marriage and gets a divorce when the spouse in infidelity demands getting a divorce. There are so many couples who get a divorce in this way. Committing infidelity is to discard and give up on happiness. Getting a divorce upon the discovery of infidelity is also to discard the opportunity to live happily all together.

People who have relationship addiction, intermittent explosive disorder, or hysteria justify themselves believing that they can live happily only when they get a divorce whenever they have conflicts with the spouse. They destroy all human relationships throughout their life. They destroy not only marriage relationship but also relationships with their own children and other close people. Then, they only form and maintain abnormal relationships.           

They pursue pleasure with people who have problems in habits of psychology as they do. They feel happier as the counterparty is destroyed and enjoy having fun together in distorted ways. People with normal psychology think that they are the worst kind of people, but they themselves are convinced that they are the best kind of people. 

When they are caught cheating on their spouse and get stressed, they immediately want to get a divorce since they cannot stand the situation. They want a divorce more and more when their psychological condition deteriorates. As relationship addiction deteriorates, their relationships, business, reputation, and wealth are destroyed. They go straight to destroying everything they have without even realizing what they are doing. 

The victimized spouses of spouse infidelity suffer from post traumatic stress. They suffer since they want to restore marriage and protect family. The only person who has the ability to protect family and children and lead the spouse in infidelity to recovery is the wife or the husband who is suffering from post traumatic stress. 

People who have milder conditions of relationship addiction tend to avoid or block stress instead of demanding getting a divorce. They may leave home when they cannot stand stress. When relationship addiction advances and they cannot stand stress, they may begin to demand getting a divorce and destroy themselves and other people. 

Spouses in post traumatic stress and their children are necessarily taken advantage of by other selfish people. People in infidelity throw away their spouses and children to be preyed on by other people to be able to live a pleasurable life. They also throw away their opportunity to recover. Thus, they become the most foolish people. 

People who do not treat their post traumatic stress are also foolish people. When they get a divorce without treating post traumatic stress, they become to be taken advantage of by selfish people. They may mistake being taken advantage of by other people for being happy. They may end up living a worse life than people in infidelity. 

If your spouse in infidelity demands getting a divorce, you don't even have to get angry about it. Your spouse in infidelity is announcing that he or she wants to destroy their own life. The spouse who is suffering from post traumatic stress is the only person who can save the spouse in infidelity and family by taking KIP Treatment Program. When you restore happiness by treating post traumatic stress, you will realize that how nonsensical your spouse's demand for a divorce is. Please, remember that happiness of yourself and your children is in your own hands not in the hands of the spouse in infidelity. 

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