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Q. Every morning is like a war waking up my 13 year-old son and getting him ready for school. He is always so slow to get up complaining about a stomach upset or a headache. Then, he spends a long time in the restroom and he doesn't seem to be worried about getting late for school. He often leaves school early saying that he is sick and eats junk food at home. He was diagnosed for irritable bowel syndrome. He refuses to eat healthy food and goes to bed very late. I am very stressed everyday and I wonder if it ever ends.
A. A 13 year-old boy is in the phase of self-formation in psychological development, where children form their own thought standards. They are stressed when things do not accord with their own standards or they can't understand the situation. It may be hard for parents to understand the boy's behaviors and they may do their best to send him to school on time thinking that he is just making excuses not to go to school. Parents may have to persuade or encourage him to get up and go to school on time every day and they may have to push or force him sometimes.
When parents' behaviors change often without consistency, being harsh one day and soft another day in the same situation, the boy cannot feel stable. He is still in the process of forming his own thought standards and has not built the ability to heal stress in a healthy way in an unstable environment. He may accumulate stress in spite of himself and develop a case of somatization such as irritable bowel syndrome.
Irritable bowel syndrome is often caused by stress and insecure psychology. It is crucial for the boy to have psychological stability as well as getting proper medical attention. Parents must show consistent behaviors to help children build psychological stability, which is based on parents' psychological stability. When parents continue daily life with consistent and adequate standards based on healthy psychology, children can also establish psychological stability. Also, they can learn and understand about what is right and wrong and build healthy relationships with people around them.
It can be difficult for parents to practice this understanding in daily life continuously even when they know that stable psychology is important for both parents and children. Mother Therapy and Father Therapy guide parents to build a healthy environment that leads to the happiness of both parents and children.
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