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Mothers are always worried about their children. You may be worried about little things such as your child having skipped breakfast, not getting along well with friends, not doing school homework, and so on and so on. On top of that, mothers want to make sure every family member is healthy and well, and they also want to manage all the things that happen in the family properly. It is only natural for mothers to always think about their children and tend to have many worries about children's well being.
all mothers are women. Women consider present happiness more important than future happiness. They pursue present happiness and they feel that their future will be fine when they think they are happy at present. Of course, they think that they will not happy in the future when they feel unhappy at present. Thus, women tend to focus on everyday matter and become worried about little things that are happening at present, such as thier children skipping breakfast because they got up late.
On the other hand, men pursue future happiness. Men can deal with stress that happens at present as far as they have hope for the future. They don't think much of trivial problems that is happening at present. This can cause conflicts between women and men and the mother and the father in parenting.
The typical conversation between the mother and the father is like this. They mother says, “I am so worried about Tom. He watches his phone until so late at night.” Then, the father says, “boys at his age are all like that. You worry too much. He will be fine.” Then, the mother goes, “How could you take the matter so lightly? Aren't you worried about Tom at all? do you even care?” “Of course, I care. You are the one who is overreacting. Tom is a good kid. Why do you get angry at me?”
Mothers being worried about even little things about children and family indicates that they want to take good care of family. They activate their feelings more for their children than other people and it is sometimes manifested as being worried all the time. However, when the mother becomes worried too much about children and develops anxiety, it affects all the family members negatively.
For example, when the daughter has an argument with a friend and just wants to stay alone for a while, the mother may become too anxious and express her worry to her daughter. She may say, “I am so worried about you. You shouldn't stay alone like this. It will make you feel worse.” Then, the daughter may stop telling the mother about what goes on in her life keeping the distance.
Worrying too much may lead you to develop anxiety, fear, doubts, and even obsession as well as conflicts among family members. Worrying about children as a mother is a natural phenomenon, but we should make sure we don't get immersed into worrying too much. If you feel that you are worried about your children all the time, you can reflect on the causes and develop your own coping strategies to manage your worries at a moderate level and maintain your family life with stability and happiness.
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