A
news article of Showbiz Cheat Sheet on January 23rd in 2021 reported that a
famous pop singer Beyoncé said she does not want her children to suffer
from problems of infidelity as she did.
She said her family has had 'curses' related with infidelity for generations
including her parents and herself. She wants to break the 'curses' in her
generation so that her children will not experience such pain and suffering
when they grow up and get married. Beyoncé married a rapper and music mogul Jay-Z
in 2008 and has three children with him. She implied husband infidelity and her
father's infidelity in the past in her album 'Lemonade' in 2016. Jay-Z also
admitted and apologized for his infidelity in his album in 2017. Beyoncé's
parents got divorced in 2011 and Beyoncé and Jay-Z have attended therapy and
worked together to overcome the difficulties.
All parents who have suffered from infidelity would want their children never to experience such pain and suffering. However, many people do not understand the true nature of infidelity and do not address the problem adequately. Most people are convinced that infidelity is caused by problems of marriage, sex, and love, and people in infidelity have normal psychology.
Korea
Institute of Psycho-education has discovered through years of research that
infidelity is caused by relationship addiction, which is a severe psychological
disorder, and people in infidelity are bound to self-justify their actions. It
has also discovered that the victimized spouses develop post traumatic stress and
they are to suffer from the condition throughout their lifetime unless it is
properly treated. They may also self-justify their actions in many ways to get
out of pain. Then, the couple may experience repeated cases of infidelity and
aggravated conditions of post traumatic stress as time goes by.
All paretns want their children never to experience pain and suffering due to infidelity, but the problem may occur in any marriage relationship in the future if the mechanism of infidelity is not known to people and the problem is not addressed in an adequate way. If people continue to believe that infidelity is caused by problems of marriage, sex, and love, and try to address the issue based on the wrong belief, what has been happening so far through many generations will continue to happen in future generations.
If a couple who try to overcome the suffering from infidelity consult experts of psychology who base their therapy and counseling on the belief that infidelity is caused by problems of marriage, sex, and love, it is likely that the issue of infidelity is not addressed adequately enough. Then, the husband cannot treat relationship addiction and the wife cannot treat post traumatic stress. The couuple may feel that they have restored their relationship and psychological conditions temporarily, but the problem of infidelity is highly likely to recur and post traumatic stress is likely to be aggravated.
As in the case describe above, most people love their spouse and do their best to overcome the difficulties together and live happily together. In order to restore happiness and psychological stability, it must be understood that the spouse in infidelity has developed relationship addiction and the victimized spouse has developed post traumatic stress. It must also be understood that both the spouse in infidelity and the victimized spouse tend to self-justify their actions for comfort and ease at the moment and make decisions they may regret later. Untreated relationship addiction and post traumatic stress may lead to unahppiness of not only the couple but also people around them including their children.
Improper treatment and therapy may only aggravete the whole situation adversely affecting individuals' psychological conditions and human relationships. Relationship addiction and post traumatic stress can be cured and marriage and family relationship with love and happiness can be restored through proper treatment.
Beyoncé / Jay-Z January 23rd, 2021 Showbiz Cheat Sheet
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