According to a news report dated December
16th 2020, Kensuke Miyazaki, who served as a member of the House of
Representatives in Japan, and had to resign after being discovered for
infidelity 4 years ago, has been again found to be in an inappropriate
relationship with a fan he met through internet. His wife, Megumi Kaneko, who
is also a member of the House of Representatives in Japan, said she was not
considering divorce upon the disclosure of her husband's infidelity 4 years
ago. The couple even appeared on a TV show right after the news break of Miyazaki's
infedelity and then, she published her book, “The Power of Forgiveness” making the public believe that their problem of husband infidelity
and marriage crisis was solved. However, the recent news has reported that
Megumi Kanebo is consulting a lawyer regarding the recurrence of Miyazaki's
infidelity.
Taking the case of Kensuke Miyazaki and
Megume Kanebo as reported in the news article as an example, this video is
intended to inform you of the mechanisms of the spouse infidelity and the fact
that problems of spouse infidelity can be solved and couples can restore their relationship with
love and happiness. We plan to continue reporting analyses of more cases of
spouse infidelity in English, Japanese, and Korean to help people understand
the nature and solutions of spouse infidelity.
It is quite a natural phenomenon that
husband infidelity should recur since the husband's relationship addiction and
the wife's post traumatic stress due to husband infidelity have not been
adequately treated. This phenomenon occurs identically in everyone including
people with wealth, fame, power, and knowledge. Problems of spouse infidelity
are conventionally analyzed as being caused by problems of marriage
relationship, sex, and love, which leads to inaccurate interpretations and
solutions. Not only victims of spouse infidelity but also spouses in infidelity
are guided to mistakenly blame themselves, believe the self-justification of
the spouses in infidelity, and make efforts to no avail.
Korea Institute of Psycho-education has
developed the Theory of Mimind and Xesmind, and completed the on-line treatment
program of relationship addiction and post traumatic stress caused by spouse
infidelity. The Theory of Mimind and Xesmind postulates that the cause of spouse
infidelity is relationship addiction, and infidelity continues or recurs
multiple times unless it is properly addressed. Also, the wife's post traumatic
stress caused by spouse infidelity accompanied by excruciating psychological
pain, which can, in a metaphorical sense, reach the level of - 100,000 compared
to general psychological pain with the level of -10, must be treated first
before the husband's relationship addiction is treated. Without proper
treatment of her own post traumatic stress, the wife is likely to aggravate the
condition and give up on everything, or become an addict of different types
herself. The wives who have had a good life taking care of family and home and
career are likely to be more seriously affected by the discovery of spouse
infidelity. Anyone can be put under the influence of the infidelity issues
these days. The spouse who is involved in inappropriate relationships is
considered to have developed relationship addiction and the spouse who suffers
from spouse infidelity is considered to have developed post traumatic stress.
According to the news article about
Kensuke Miyazaki and Megumi Kanebo, the husband's infidelity was discovered 4
years ago, and the wife forgave the husband and published the book titled, “The Power of Forgiveness”. Then, another case of husband infidelity was
discovered recently and the wife is consulting a lawyer for the matter.
The husband developed relationship
addiction with a case of infidelity 4 years ago. The wife suffered from post traumatic
stress upon the discovery of husband infidelity. The wife probably made efforts
to restore the relationship by forgiving her husband and avoiding her pain.
This is a very common approach many wives take upon the discovery of husband
infidelity. Unfortunately, the concepts of relationship addiction and post
traumatic stress caused by spouse infidelity are not known to neither the
husband nor the wife. Restoring the relationship and forgiving the husband at
the conscious level may have been considered as the complete resolution of the
matter. The publication of the book seemed to finalize the couple's story with
the prospect of only happiness.
Untreated relationship addiction is
necessarily to recur with another case of infidelity. The treatment of the
wife's post traumatic stress is the precondition of the treatment of the
husband's relationship addiction. Neglecting the wife's painful condition of
post traumatic stress and forgiving the husband to restore the relationship
thinking that the hardship has been overcome may cause even more serious
problems. Under such circumstances, it is only natural that the husband
infidelity should recur, and it just happened to have recurred in 4 years. The
wife may have actually aggravated her psychological condition for the 4 years,
and now, upon the discovery of her husband's new infidelity case, it is much
harder for the wife to deal with the problem on her own, with extreme pain and
suffering, differently from the first incident of infidelity. Both the wife and
the husband can be considered to have continued with their psychological
problems of post traumatic stress and relationship addiction.
Fortunately, couples who are suffering
from spouse infidelity can restore their healthy psychology and healthy
relationship. They can stabilize psychology and relationship when the wife's
post traumatic stress is cured and the husband's relationship addiction is
cured. They can become a happy couple again without having to experience spouse
infidelity ever. Couples with problems of spouse infidelity must not lose hope
for becoming a happy couple again.
According to the Theory of Mimind and Xesmind, spouse infidelity is not caused by problems of relationship, sex, or love. The cause of spouse infidelity is relationship addiction. The cause of the pain and suffering the victim of spouse infidelity experiences is post traumatic stress. As shown in the case of Kensuke Miyazaki and Megumi Kanebo, the wife must never be blamed for anything. She only did her best to restore their marriage and happiness. It is crucial that problems of infidelity should not be associated with the problems of relationship, sex, or love. Any couple who are properly treated for relationship addiction and post traumatic stress can build happy marriage again. Please, never give up your hope for recovery and happiness.
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