A happy
life is a life in which touching emotions (emotions overflowed by delightful
joy) last by the combination of passion of male and love of female. For
females, delightful joy operates as love, which is the best joy and lasts in
their daily lives; for males, it operates as passion, which comes from the
process of achieving goals of specific objects, and last in their daily lives.
Both
males and females have experience of feeling touching emotions temporarily, but
it is very rare to keep those emotions last in daily life. A happy life is what
everyone pursues, but it is not easy, making us delude ourselves that the
pursuit of a comfortable life and pleasurable life is the same as the pursuit
of a happy life. This is because males pursue only their happiness and because
females pursue their happiness only. Therefore, a happy life is impossible
alone and only possible if there is a relationship between a male and a female.
A happy life is the ultimate self-actualization of males and females.
In
order to live a happy life, a condition must be fulfilled. A man must have
unlimited responsibility for his woman (unconscious love, agape love,
unperceived love) and passion (love integrated with love of giving, love of
eros, and platonic love).
Also,
a woman must have maternal love (love of giving, agape love, love that is seen)
to give to her husband or children based on love received (perceive passion as
love, love integrated with platonic love and love of eros) from her man.
For
a happy life, a man's unconscious love and his passion for immersing himself in
good moods and a woman's love for immersing herself in good feelings and her
maternal love must be integrated. Ultimately, a happy life can be made neither
by a man himself nor by a woman herself individually.
The
passion of males is the love of giving, and it combines platonic love and love
of eros. It pursues vague future happiness in which they think they can give it
to their counterparty constantly. Females have present happiness by perceiving
males’ passion as love received. Then maternal love, agape love that is
devoting in other words, operates in females; males receive this maternal love
that enables them to have unconscious love which is unlimited responsibility. Males
and females can have touching emotions by both feeling happiness when this
circulation structure operates; these touching emotions last when this
circulation structure lasts. This is the happy life for both males and females.
Unlimited
responsibility and passion of males, and love and maternal love of females
shouldn’t be simply judged. A man's unlimited responsibility is formed as
unconscious love by having joy, anger, sorrow, and pleasure with his woman;
passion operates as energy. So, unlimited responsibility and passion must not
be distorted. Love of female is receiving passion from her man, who has
unlimited responsibility; maternal love is love given to children and her man
with unlimited responsibility.
A happy life that is formed by the integration
and circulation structure of a man and a woman brings touching emotions. Thus,
the man and the woman are touched by and thankful to each other, family,
surrounding people, and everybody related to themselves and enjoy the happiness
together.
A comfortable life might seem to be a
happy life because it is comfortable; however, in fact, it is a life of having
wounds and unhappiness psychologically. A pleasurable life might seem to bring
a happy future because of the fun, but it is, in fact, a futile life where the
body and mind are devastated, leaving nothing in the end due to excessive
pleasure psychologically. So, a life pursuing happiness that brings touching
emotions constantly must be the aim and the direction that we need to live
towards living as PIR (person in relationships); it is the happiness of
self-actualization for both men and women.
If a male's passion (the combination
of platonic love and love of eros), his unconscious love of protection and
unlimited responsibility, which is also called agape love, female's love (the
combination of platonic love and love of eros), and maternal love, which is
unconditional love of giving (agape love, feelings of happiness) are integrated
and circulated, happiness can be made easily. So, happiness is not somewhere
else or at a specific object, but it is determined by the mind of self.
Also, how to live a happy life is not
that difficult, but it is difficult to know how to do so since the mind of males
and of females is not understood clearly. Happiness may be perceived as a vague
and abstract concept, but it is not far away. It is not somewhere outside. Happiness is in one's own unconscious, hidden and
invisible, and must be understood, and found. For this, you need to know the
unconscious of you and your counterparty accurately, understand the principles
of how the mind and psychology operate, understand, and consider each other in
order to live a happy life.
What is the greatest happiness when a
man works? It's good to be immersed in work because it's fun, but he's happiest
when he is recognized by his wife and children as a husband or father who works
hard for their happiness. A man is happy in whatever he does make his wife and
children happy. It goes the same for a woman. No matter how good she is at
work, her work is useless if her husband and children do not appreciate her as
a wife and as a mother or not recognized at home and if problems arise. In the
end, family happiness rather than work is more important for men and women to
be happy, and (married) couples' happiness is more important for family
happiness.
Men pursue their future happiness
with passion and achievement, while women pursue their present happiness with
love. A man treats his family as himself by 'the unconscious love' and has unlimited
protection and responsibility for his family. Thus, he is psychologically
stabilized and strengthens passion and achievement for future happiness if his
family becomes stable and happy. At this time, it is necessary to have his
passion and achievement get immersed not only in work but also in his family.
Then, he can be appreciated by his family and share happiness together.
Also, no matter how immersed a woman
is in her work, a warm word from her husband and children makes her happy. When
she feels guilty about not caring for her children, she can be happy if she
hears how happy her children are and is recognized as a mother who works hard
for her family.
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