[Infidelity Therapy] Who's the bad guy?

 

     The spouse who has committed infidelity may be perceived as 'the bad guy' to the victimized spouse. However, it is not only the spouse in infidelity who contributes to the collapse of many people. The spouse in infidelity has done wrong and caused the victimized spouse post traumatic stress, but he or she is also the victim of psychological disorder. The social atmosphere that does not recognize infidelity as a psychological disorder blocks them from realizing their fault and treating their condition in the right way. 

     Experts' opinions that relate infidelity with love, pleasure, sexual instinct, emotional or physiological issues become the device that distorts the nature of infidelity and advocates infidelity. The same applies to defining and perceiving post traumatic stress of the victimized spouse. Experts who misinterpret the nature of infidelity and disseminate distorted ideas without understanding the operational mechanism of human mind and psychology must be held responsible for their misguidance. People who promote distorted ideas through mass media and social media for their own selfish purposes are also 'the bad guy'. More influential people contribute more to aggravating the condition of psychological disorders of people involved in infidelity issues. 

     There are many other people who fall under the category of 'the bad guy'. Lawyers who talk people into divorce and lawsuits, psychology counselors who help aggravate psychological conditions by encouraging changing practical and superficial matters in marriage relationship, doctors who encourage plastic surgery and the modification of sexual organs, and anyone who encourages pleasure seeking of all types belong here.

     Those who empathize with you would never take responsibility for dire consequences you may have to face. They lead innocent people to aggravate their psychological condition and destroy their lives. Even those who give you consolation and warm advice as friends and acquaintances may contribute to destroying yourself and your family.

      Of all the bad guys, the worst is yourself who do not save yourself from the crisis. Not making efforts to treat post traumatic stress in the right way is likened to not trying to go to the hospital and treat yourself even when you are bleeding badly. When you don't save yourself and become dependent on things or people to cap your pain, your children are also exposed to danger and adversity. As parents activate and express negative emotions toward children, they also get stress and wounds and their psychology deteriorates. 

     The victimized spouse of infidelity can treat their post traumatic stress and restore happiness or destroy themselves and children with their own hands. If you destroy yourself and your children, you also become 'the bad guy'. If you want to restore happiness and protect your children, you must move heaven and earth on your own. You must treat post traumatic stress in the right way before anything and build happiness ability. It is recommended that you become the one who guards and protects you and your family, not 'the bad guy'. 

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