[Infidelity Therapy] What it means to destroy your life due to infidelity

 

Everyone lives pursuing happiness. They make efforts to achieve happiness as an individual, happiness in relationships, and materialistic values. When infidelity occurs in one's life or one is related with infidelity somehow, all three components of happiness are destroyed.

People who have committed infidelity have already developed relationship addiction, which is a psychological disorder. They may also have developed intermittent explosive disorder or hysteria. Their psychological condition may direct them to behave in the way that destroys their life and the lives of people around them. They cannot stand the smallest trigger of stress, which leads them to react irrationally harming themselves and others.

Spouses who discover their husband's or wife's infidelity suffer from excruciating pain of post traumatic stress. Post traumatic stress causes unbearable suffering making you feel that you have lost your whole life. You may feel comfortable again when post traumatic stress deteriorates and you have actually destroyed your mind completely. Then, they don't hesitate to destroy others' lives including their own children to pursue their own comfort and pleasure. They feel confident of what they think and what they do regardless of circumstances. They mistake destroying their own happiness, happiness of relationships, and materialistic values for happiness. 

Firstly, they destroy themselves. They generate strong negative energy by activating xesmind, and develop abnormal sexual desire. They put priority on pursuing pleasure of different kinds over any other value. In this process, they develop problems in the habits of psychology, which makes them feel comfortable and pleased as their condition progresses. They are alive, but their mind has died. They also develop different physical problems and diseases. 

Secondly, they destroy human relationships. Their relationships with people change to distorted ones. They are all mixed up and get confused. Most of all, they end up destroying family relationships. They don't care about their children anymore. They lose people they used to trust, depend upon, and share life together. These relationships cannot be restored once they are lost. Now, they have lost all meaningful relationships. 

Thirdly, they destroy materialistic values. They begin to use all their materialistic values to pursue their own pleasure. They can be perpetrators or victims depending on circumstances in this process. They may lose their career and economic stability since they usually think and act with distorted habits of psychology. Both the spouse in infidelity and the victimized spouse end up going through this course of life. 

Any one who realize this fact must hurry to treat his or her condition before it is too late. Then, they can restore their happiness and normal relationships with people they love. They may also be able to give their spouses an opportunity to stop destroying their life and treat their condition.

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