Many teenagers think that adults don’t
understand them and adults say that they can’t understand teenagers. Why would
adults and teenagers have different positions in so many matters? The biggest
difference between adults and teenagers is that adults have already established
their thought standards and self-identity and teenagers are still in the
process of forming thought standards and self-identity. Their psychology is
developing and their habits are being formed. They have to go through diverse
trials and errors before they fully establish their thought standards and
self-identity.
A 15 year-old boy has the experience and
knowledge he has accumulated for 15 years. He is forming his self-identity and
thought standards through each direct and indirect experience making what he
likes and what he doesn’t and what is right and what is wrong clear every day.
On the other hand, adults have more experience and knowledge and have already
established self-identity and clear thoughts standards. They have their own way
of thinking and what they accept as common sense as well as their own rules of
life. They may take many things for granted with established thought standards
and it is hard to think differently from their thought standards. They are
likely to try to stick to their standards in interacting with other people.
Both teenagers and adults get stress and
wounds when their thought standards are not met and equally feel they can’t
understand the counterparty. Adults may think that they are guiding teenagers
with earnest and caring mind, but teenagers may feel that they are forced to
think and act differently from their own thought standards, which may lead to
conflicts between adults and teenagers.
Adults must understand that teenagers are
still in the process of development and they are forming self-identity and
thought standards making trials and errors, which may look clumsy and
irrational to adults’ eyes. Adults must try to provide teenagers with safe
environments where they can explore and try as many things as possible to build
healthy psychology. Teenagers must understand that adults and teenagers are
different and anyone can have stress and wounds when their thought standards
are violated.
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