[Mother Therapy] Different positions of adults and teenagers

 

      Many teenagers think that adults don’t understand them and adults say that they can’t understand teenagers. Why would adults and teenagers have different positions in so many matters? The biggest difference between adults and teenagers is that adults have already established their thought standards and self-identity and teenagers are still in the process of forming thought standards and self-identity. Their psychology is developing and their habits are being formed. They have to go through diverse trials and errors before they fully establish their thought standards and self-identity.

     A 15 year-old boy has the experience and knowledge he has accumulated for 15 years. He is forming his self-identity and thought standards through each direct and indirect experience making what he likes and what he doesn’t and what is right and what is wrong clear every day. On the other hand, adults have more experience and knowledge and have already established self-identity and clear thoughts standards. They have their own way of thinking and what they accept as common sense as well as their own rules of life. They may take many things for granted with established thought standards and it is hard to think differently from their thought standards. They are likely to try to stick to their standards in interacting with other people.

     Both teenagers and adults get stress and wounds when their thought standards are not met and equally feel they can’t understand the counterparty. Adults may think that they are guiding teenagers with earnest and caring mind, but teenagers may feel that they are forced to think and act differently from their own thought standards, which may lead to conflicts between adults and teenagers.

     Adults must understand that teenagers are still in the process of development and they are forming self-identity and thought standards making trials and errors, which may look clumsy and irrational to adults’ eyes. Adults must try to provide teenagers with safe environments where they can explore and try as many things as possible to build healthy psychology. Teenagers must understand that adults and teenagers are different and anyone can have stress and wounds when their thought standards are violated.

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