Q : I am in the second grade in junior-high school. I am an introvert, and I have a few good friends at school now. But, I have to transfer to a new school soon. I am worried that I may not be able to make friends when I transfer.
A : A 13 year old girl is in the phase of formation of self-identity in psychological development. As you enter a new environment by transfering to another school, you may feel curious and uncomfortable at the same time. You may feel anxious and nervous, especially if your life at the old environment was comfortable and satisfactory since the sharp contrast between the old and the new is sensed.
You say you are an introvert. Introverts tend to find it hard to approach people first. They may be able to make friends only when they are approached by others and the relationship naturally continues. They also prefer keeping a few good friends to keeping many friends. However, any personality trait can function positively or negatively depending on circumstances. Also, teenagers are still in the process of forming personalities as well as self-identity, so you don't have to worry about your present personality at all.
It must be noted that students at the new school have their own established networks of relationships. You should also understand that it takes time and effort to adapt yourself to the new environment. If it really bothers you, you can ask your parents to contact teachers at the new school for helping you with making friends. Then, you are more likely to adapt yourself to the new environment smoothly.
You may not have the ability to make the new environment the way you want, but you can protect yourself and adapt better when you clearly understand the situation. It also helps to keep in touch with your old friends, and keep communicating with parents and teachers for support and encouragement.
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