You had a divorce but you haven't got out of marriage psychologically. The difficulties you have experienced during marriage life continue to affect you even after divorce. That is, your present life and past marriage life are still connected in your psychology. When you continue to stay in the same psychological condition as you did during marriage life regarding relationships, children, family, and sexuality, you can never break away from the past. Then, you may feel that you are still tied and restricted to marriage life against your will. You have not transferred to the psychology of a person who got a divorce.
It is essential to transfer to the psychology of divorce once you get a divorce. When you do not transfer to the psychology of divorce even after divorce, you cannot live a happy life afterwards. You must never think that a life with a divorce is something wrong. Life after divorce can be as happy one as any other happy life. However, when you stay in the psychology of marriage even after divorce, you cannot achieve happiness. You may have an untreated psychological disorder or post traumatic stress from marriage experience. Your psychological condition may deteriorate when you forcefully block or suppress the condition in order to break free from it.
You must first figure out exactly what you are tied to and restricted by and what the root cause is, for which you may need professional help. Then, you must find ways to solve present practical problems. Now, you can get out of the psychology of marriage after resolving the above two components of issues. You can leave the past experience of marriage behind and put your life back in the right track for happiness in the new life.
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