The mechanism of psychological treatment of children who are in the phase of survival under age 5

 

  Since the psychology of your sons and daughters are focused on survival, it could be said that their survival and psychology are connected. Especially, children do not necessarily need to be separated into males and females since survival psychology of sons and daughters are the same. It’s just that they need to be separated into males and females when analyzing their expression because moods that operate in survival psychology and expression by emotions are different. Basically, survival psychology operates positively when survival is stable but negatively when it’s unstable.

1. If the information that comes in is stable for their survival, they perceive it positively, but they perceive it negatively if it is not stable. So, you can analyze how your children’s survival psychology is operating if you look at how they react and perceive certain information. Your sons and daughters will be psychologically stable if you change their psychology into stable survival psychology.

2. The only difference among remembered information is whether children remember it as stable information for their survival or as unstable information for their survival since they remember things that are necessary only for their survival. When certain information is perceived, they feel it as either stable or unstable for their survival by comparing it with remembered information. Also, they need to be exposed to an environment where they can perceive as much information as they can since they constantly try to perceive and remember necessary information for their survival.

3. Children make positive expressions when their survival is stable, but they make negative expressions when their survival is unstable when they express their psychology in survival. You must be aware that whatever your sons and daughters express depends on whether their survival is stable or unstable.

   Like this, psychological problems of your sons and daughters in survival can be analyzed by whether their survival is stable or unstable; they can maintain stable conditions for their survival by resolving these psychological problems. Children gradually move from survival to the period where they differentiate good and bad human relationships around age 3; therefore, the psychology of children between age 3 and 5 needs to be analyzed based mostly on survival psychology and by partially applying adaptation to relationship. You may refer to sons and daughters in adaptation to relationship about this.

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Psychology of children in the phase of adaptation to relationship_ between age 5 and 13

 

  When we look through human relationships in adaptation to relationship, the relationship between parents and children, the relationship among siblings, relationship with teachers and relationship among friends are the most representative; children learn how to form their own human relationships through these limited human relationships.

In the case of sons, they differentiate human relationships right or wrong. So, they learn how to distinguish people who fit them from people who don’t fit them, and they make memories and habits. Good moods of fun and interest occur from relationships with people who fit them; human relationships with those who do not fit them cause bad moods of stress. Your sons who are males can feel that their psychology is stabilized and that they are happy when good moods of fun and interest occur, but they feel that their psychology is very unstable and that they are unhappy when bad moods of stress occur.

    On the other hand, in the case of daughters, they differentiate human relationships likes or dislikes. So, they learn how to distinguish people they like from people they don’t like, and they form memories and habits. Good emotions or emotion of love occur from relationships with people they like; however, they feel bad emotions of wounds from relationships with people they dislike. Like this, your daughters who are females can feel their psychology being stabilized and the emotion of happiness when good emotions occur, but their psychology will be unstable when wounds which are the bad emotions occur. They will remember the emotion of wounds.

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The mechanism of psychological treatment of children who are in the phase of adaptation to relationship between age 5 and 13

 

  Psychological problems of your sons in the period of adapting to relationship are phenomena that occur due to the operation of stress which is a negative mood in certain human relationships. If you adjust their psychology to remove the stress, which is a negative mood, and have found and interest which are positive moods, their problems will disappear allowing their psychology to become stable. This is the principle of treating the psychological problems of your sons in adaptation to relationship.

Also, psychological problems of your daughters in the period of adapting to relationship are phenomena that occur due to the operation of wounds which is negative emotion in certain human relationships. So, if you adjust their psychology to treat their wounds, the negative emotion, and have positive emotions, their problems will be gone making their psychology operate stably. This is the principle of treating the psychological problems of your daughters in adaptation to relationship.

Like this, all you need to do for your sons is to analyze and resolve their psychological problems from the point of view of right or wrong human relationships; you need to analyze and resolve your daughters’ psychological problems from the point of view of good or bad human relationships.

  Moreover, children whose ages are between 3 and 7 where survival and adaptation to relationship appear together need psychological adjustments that are necessary to adapt to relationships along with adjustments in survival psychology. Children whose ages are between 11 and 15 where adaptation to relationship and formation of self-identity coexist need psychological adjustments that are necessary to form self-identity along with an adjustment in psychology needed for adapting to relationships.

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Psychology of children in the phase of formation of self-identity_between age 13 and 20

 

  Formation of self-identity is the period where children make their own standards of thoughts. It is the period where they make efforts a lot to perceive necessary information for their own standards of thoughts; they practice self-actualization by these standards of thoughts formed in this period as they live as adults whose ages are over 20. Based on adapting methods formed in adaptation to relationships, children make their own standards of thoughts of human relationships in this period of forming self-identity.

In case of sons in formation of self-identity, their thoughts depend on their moods; their standards of thoughts are based on right or wrong. So, they have positive feelings when certain information fits their standards and negative feelings when it doesn’t fit their standards. These negative feelings operate as stress; positive feelings give fun and interest. Therefore, sons who are males feel that their psychology is stabilized and that they are happy when they feel fun and interest in these positive moods, but they think their psychology is unstable and feel unhappy when they get stress from negative moods.

On the other hand, in case of daughters in formation of self-identity, their thoughts depend on their emotions; their standards of thoughts are based on likes or dislikes. So, they have positive emotions when certain information fits their standards and negative emotions when it doesn’t fit their standards. Negative emotions operate as wounds; positive emotions operate as love and emotions of happiness. Therefore, daughters who are females feel their psychology is stable and think that they are happy when they feel love and emotion of happiness from positive emotions, but they feel unhappy and think their psychology is unstable when they feel wounds from negative emotions.

  Like this, in the period of forming self-identity, children make their own standards of thoughts. It is the process of making standards through right or wrong and through likes or dislikes. It is the process where children experience trials and errors a lot.

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The mechanism of psychological treatment of children who are in the phase of formation of self-identity between age 13 and 20

 

  When psychological problems occur in children in the formation of self-identity, it means that children have unstable psychology as information that does not fit their standards of thoughts based on adaptation to human relationships constantly comes in. Whether their standards of thoughts have been formed and how these standards are formed must be known; psychological problems won’t occur again if these problems are removed by making them have accurate standards of thoughts. 

In the case of sons in formation of self-identity, their formation of standards of thoughts about information needs to be analyzed since their standards depend on right or wrong; distorted information can be corrected. Wrong things must be corrected to be right by psychological adjustments because psychological problems will occur if wrong things keep being formed. Then psychological problems will be removed; correct and right standards of thoughts will be formed naturally allowing them to have stabilized psychology. Psychological problems of your sons are treated in this way.

Also, in case of daughters in formation of self-identity, their formation of standards of thoughts about information needs to be analyzed since their standards depend on likes or dislikes; distorted information can be corrected. Things that they dislike must be corrected to be liked by psychological adjustments since psychological problems will occur if what they dislike keeps being formed. Problems will be gone; correct and good standards of thoughts will be made naturally making their psychology stable. Your daughters’ psychological problems can be treated in this way.

  You must look through adaptation to human relationships and formation of the standard of thoughts and know to adjust psychology from which point of view in cases where your children are between age 11 and 15 when periods of forming self-identity and adapting to relationship coexist. You need to look through the formation of standards of thoughts and self-actualization and know to adjust psychology from which point of view in the case where your children are between age 18-25 when periods of forming self-identity and self-actualization coexist.

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Mothers suffering from difficulties in parenting children

 

If you are a mother suffering from difficulties in parenting your children, you need Mother Therapy. If you take Mother Therapy, you will get away from difficulties in parenting, won’t have much difficulty in parenting, and will be able to actively cope with any situation as you learn differences and methods when raising your sons and daughters accurately.

There is nothing new about problems in parenting children. The happiness of becoming a mother soon that you feel when you are pregnant after marriage can become very hard and difficult psychology when problems occur in raising children after giving birth. Nobody can be comfortable when it comes to raising children since parenting must be done for a long period of time, not just for 1~2 years.

If you are a mother, you have the mind, of course, to do everything you can do in order to raise your children well when it comes to parenting; it is so natural that your love to children lasts endlessly.

However, problems will occur in parenting if it becomes difficult; mothers will make efforts a lot to find parenting method for children. They look for information from broadcasting, the internet, and books; they apply other mothers’ parenting methods; they take advice or counseling about parenting from experts.

Even though mothers make much effort for parenting children, the reality is that it is very difficult. You can feel that parenting problems are everywhere instead of being resolved even if you apply many other methods.

Therefore, in the case of mothers suffering from difficulties in parenting children, they must 1) understand differences between sons and daughters in psychology, 2) raise sons and daughters in different ways, 3) be aware of that parenting environment and mothers’ psychology the same very rarely. And 4) they need to be well in choosing directions and goals when raising children.

To do so, you must know principles and methods of parenting children accurately and learn how to raise your sons and daughters in the right ways. That is why mothers must be experts in raising their children. You must remind yourself that you are the only ones who raise children with maternal love. You must become experts in parenting your children.

Experts in parenting children, examples of other mothers saying that they have been parenting their children well, various information and data about parenting children are all examples and study results of other mothers. Your children are different from other children; you are the only ones who can make parenting methods of your children.

 You no longer need to suffer from difficulties in parenting. Mother Therapy will make you experts in parenting your children.

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Mothers wanting to treat problems of children’s conflicts

 

As you raise your children, there are cases when you are in an embarrassing position or when you face difficulties as a mother due to your children’s conflicts. These conflicts not only become children’s problems but also causes mothers to face difficulties; if these conflicts are not treated, they could cause another conflict making the situation worse.

- In cases when both mother and children suffering from difficulties due to conflicts between mother and

- In cases when your child has difficulties due to conflicts between the child and friends

- In cases when you have difficulties because your child doesn’t want to go to school or hates school

- In cases when you face difficulties due to conflicts between your child and school teachers

- In cases when you have difficulties because your child doesn’t want to go to private educational institutes or because of conflicts between your child and instructors from the private institute.

Besides these, there are so many various conflicts. Various problems and conflicts that occur due to children make not only mothers but also children face difficulties.

These conflicts of children can be treated without much difficulty. If mothers understand the exact causes of conflicts of sons and daughters and learn how to cope with them, the conflicts of sons and daughters can be resolved without difficulty. However, if the mothers do not know exactly about these, children’s conflicts will enlarge causing both mother and children to suffer in more difficulties.

The most important thing is that conflicts of sons and daughters can be treated depending on how mothers treat them. This can be done not by anyone such as experts, counselors, teachers, etc. but only by mothers. Mother Therapy makes mothers be able to treat their children’s conflicts like this. Mothers who have taken Mother Therapy will be experts in treating their children’s conflicts. I hope you suffer no longer from difficulties due to any of your children’s conflicts or problems.

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Free Consultation on Psychological Problems

 

Please, send us an e-mail providing the following information for free consultation on your psychological problems. You will receive a written report on the result of consultation in a few days. We will guide you to correctly address psychological problems with adequate concepts and strategies based on accurate understanding of human mind and psychology.

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[Application form for free consultation on psychological problems]

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3. Points of request :

4. Questions :

[Notes]

1. Please, include facts about yourself in a simple way for '1. Personal information'.

2. Include what you are concerned about, what issues you have, how things are going

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3. Include any requests for '3. Points of request'.

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[About free consultation on psychological problems]

Korea Institute of Psycho-education provides free consultation on psychological problems based on the Theory of Minind and the Theory of Xesmind. It analyzes foundational causes of psychological problems and provides you with an important guideline for properly addressing psychological problems.

Psychological problems and psychological disorders are differentiated, and different solutions are suggested for individual cases. It also informs you of treatment and prevention methods of psychological problems and disorders.

We aim for fundamental mechanism of psychological problems being known to as many people as possible and for guiding people in pain and suffering to restore healthy psychology and true happiness instead of getting lost in the midst of misguiding information and knowledge and ruining their life.

[Points to be included in the report of consultation]

- Analysis of fundamental causes of psychological problems

- Causes of present pain and suffering

- Points to be noted when you attempt to solve psychological problems

- Expected results when psychologica problems are not solved

- Expected results when psychologica problems are solved

- Directions and methods of solving psychologial problems

- Answers to questions you have provided

[Recepients of free consultation on psycholoical problems]

People with issues of :

1. Continuing psychological problems

   - You have kept psychology counseling and treatment, but have not recovered.

2. The disorder of memory of emotion

   - Depression, bipolar disorder, other emotional problems.

3. Perception disorder(Neurosis)

   - Panic disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder, anxiety disorder, etc.

4. Expression disorder (addiction)

   - Gambling addiction, alcohol addiction, narcotics addiction, drug addiction

   - Game addiction, exercise addiction, work addiction, shopping addiction, cosmetic surgery addiction, etc.

5. Other psychological problems and disorders

   - Consciousness disorder, personality disorder

   - Stockholm syndrome, burnout syndrome, somatization, etc.

Free consultation on psychological problems of KIP accurately analyzes your psychological condition and introduces methods of treatment and prevention of psycholgical problems. You may be provided with a guide map of how to proceed with pursuing true happiness with healthy psychology through the free consultation of KIP.

Conventional fields of psychology and psychiatry do not differentiate psychological problems and psychological disorders and tend to guide people with psychological difficulties to break away from the current condition and pursue pleasure instead of true happiness. Then, people end up experiencing recurrence of diverse psychological problems and aggravating pathological conditions.

Korea Institute of Psyco-education has developed the Theory of Mimind and the Theory of Xesmind, and applies the operational mechanism of human mind and psychology to analyze human perception, memory, and expression, which are manitested as a result of the operation of the conscious and the unconscious. It tries to accurately analyze and diagnose the current psychological condition, solve psychological problems, and treat psychological disorders, addressing root causes and rebalancing the underlying psychological sturcture. It categorizes psychological disorders into 3 types and prescribes appropriate treatment and prevention methods for individual cases.

Please, contact us for free consultation if you

1. want to treat and prevent your psychological problems

2. are suffering from psychological pain and difficulties

3. find that you are inflicting psychological damage on people around you

4. want to find out what psychological condition you have

You yourself can solve your psychological problems when you have a strong enough will power even if you are in the worst condition. The report on the result of the free consultation will provide you with detailed and systematic analysis of your psychological condition. You may be led to a new path to psychological stability and true happiness, which you have long sought but not found yet, through free psychology consultation at KIP.

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Free Consultation on Sex Issues

 

Please, send us an e-mail providing the following information for free consultation on sex issues. You will receive a written report on the result of consultation in a few days. We will guide you to correctly address problems of human sexuality with adequate concepts and strategies based on accurate understanding of human mind and psychology.

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[How free consultation on sex issues may help]

Korea Institute of Psycho-education provides free consultation on sex issues based on the Theory of Mimind and the Theory of Xesmind. It informs you of the mechanism of human Xesmind and Xes psychology, root causes of sex troubles, and the interactional mechanism of Mimind and Xesmind in order to guide you to take the right path in pursuing happiness in a true sense.

Through the free consultation on sex issues provided by KIP, you will be able to start to break free from distorted concepts and ideas on human sexuality and resolve inner confiicts that have caused diverse sexual difficulties and other related problems.

[Points to be included in the report of consultation]

- The operational mechanism of xesmind and xes psychology

- The analysis of the root causes of sex problems

- Explanation of your present difficulties

- Points to be noted when solving sex problems

- Expected results when sex problems are not solved

- Expected results when sex problems are solved

- Guidance and instructions on how to solve sex problems

- Answers to your questions on sex issues

[Recepients of free consultation on sex issues]

People with issues of :

1. Sexual dysfunctions

    - Male sexual dysfunctions : premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, impotence, etc.

    - Female sexual dysfunction : frigidity, orgasmic disorder, dyspareunia, etc.

2. Sex troubles

    - Ennui, sexlessness, sexual indifference, avoidance & rejection, etc.

3. Abnormal sexual desire

    - Infidelity, womanizing, etc.

4. Sexual inferiority complex

    - Fear of sex, lack of confidence, repulsion, etc.

5. Sexual ability

    - Relief or sexual desire, techniques, sexual massage, sexual diet, etc.

6. Physical challange and sex

    - Innate or acquired physical challange, etc.

7. Damage due to sex crimes

    - Experience of prostitution, damage due to sex crimes, etc.

8. Homosexuality

    - Gay, lesbian, bisexual, asexual, etc.

9. Sexual identity and preference

    - Transgender. SM, CD, fetish, etc.

    - Threesome, swaping, group sex, etc.

10. Others

    - Incest, , bereavement, etc.

Korea Institute of Psyho-education has developed the Theory of Mmimind and the Theory of Xesmind, and discovered that conventional information and knowledge on sex are quite distorted. It has been trying to inform as many people as possible of the underlying mechanism of human Mimind and Xesmind, and help people find the right way to solve diverse sex problems.

Free consultation on sex issues provided by KIP will guide you to resolve conflicts regarding sex issues in an adequate and healthy way. Conventional information and knowledge on sex mostly focus on the pursuit of pleasure instead of pursuit of happiness, and generate all types of individual and social problems. You can and must accurately understand human sexuality, break away from sexual problems, and pursue happiness in a true sense.

Human sexuality is not to be viewed negatively, suppressed, or hidden. Especially, sex issues greatly affect not only individual's pursuit of happiness but also intimate relationship and marriage relationship, so it is important to accurately understand and activate sex in the right way to achieve both individual's and couple's happiness.

Korea Institute of Psycho-education educates people to build positive views on sex based on accurate understanding of the operational mechanism of human psychology and xes psychology. It does not judge or preach for right and wrong of individuals' sexual preferences or orientations, which are as complex and as diverse as human psychology issues. Free consultation on sex issues of KIP is intended to relieve people of worries and difficulties through detailed analysis of their current condition and circumstance.

When people have problems in their body, they can easily consult a doctor to recover, but when they have sexual worries and problems, they tend to neglect, hide, or try this and that on their own. Then, they may not solve the issue or even fall for inaccurate information or distorted measures, producing even more serious psychological problems and entering a vicious cycle.

You yourself must take care of your body and mind, which are more precious than anything in the world. You also must take care of your psychology and xes psychology and solve sex problems if there is any. You can achieve happiness in a true sense only with proper understanding and application of human sexuality. We hope that you will get the free consultation on sex issues of KIP and get one step closer to true happiness.

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How to cope with the crisis of your body and mind being in danger of perishment

All Human beings try to cope with the crisis when their life is threatened or their mind is in danger of collapse. When the body perishes, humans die and when the mind perishes, they cannot live as human beings in a true sense. What would be a wise way to cope with the crisis of losing life or mind? First, we need to define what a crisis is. 

Our body and mind are usually taken for granted and we do not perceive common problems as a crisis. The body and mind are essential elements in human beings. We sense that we are in a crisis when the body and mind are in danger of disappearing. Sensing a crisis also means we desperately want to save our body and mind. It is only yourself that can sense the crisis of your body and mind. 

We need our body and mind to survive as human beings. First of all, we need to be alive to sustain life as living creatures. Secondly, we need the mind for feeling and thinking to pursue happiness as human beings. When we lose the mind, we may live as a living creature but not as a human being. All human beings try to cope with the crisis when these two essential elements of life are in danger of perishing. We can easily know when our body is in danger of perishing. Then, how do we know our mind is in danger of perishing? 

Human beings’ happiness, and emotions of joy, anger, sorrow, and pleasure are sensed in the mind as a result of the operation of psychology of perception, memory, and expression. The mind perishes when psychological disorders occur in the three components of psychology. The three components of psychology reflect all the experiences in one’s life. One’s experiences of life include both facts and emotions. When one’s mind perishes, his or her life experiences are not sensed anymore and one cannot live as a human being anymore in any true sense. 

When body perishes, it is sensed in the body. If people do not sense their body is perishing, they many die without knowing that they are dying. The same applies to the mind. When all three psychological components develop disorders, people cannot live as human beings. If they do not sense this crisis, their mind will die in spite of themselves. 

When we go through a crisis, we are supposed to feel pain and anxiety. Mild pain and anxiety can be easily overcome by efforts. Self-recovery is possible since your body and mind are in stable conditions. However, when your mind senses that psychology is damaged so much and self-recovery is impossible, it signals you are in a critical condition sending an SOS. Any human being can experience such a crisis. When we sense a crisis, we must decide on coping strategies. Otherwise, our body or mind may just perish. 

There are some typical coping strategies many people adopt in time of crisis. The first most common strategy is avoidance. When a crisis occurs, we necessarily feel pain and anxiety, so we tend to deny the fact and want to avoid the situation. However, avoidance only results in collapse. The second most common strategy is to relinquish, thinking that they are not capable of coping. 

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Relinquishment also results in collapse. Avoidance and relinquishment are different. Avoidance is to deny collapsing and pretend it is not happening, but relinquishment is to admit collapsing and go to perishment without taking any counteraction. The third common coping strategy is to blame others or self for collapse. When they blame other people or situations, they feel victimized. When they blame themselves, they feel unworthy. Whether they blame others or themselves, the result is collapse and perishment. 

All three strategies lead to only collapse and perishment. The fourth strategy many people adopt is to try to solve the problems of crisis. They try to overcome the crisis and restore the stability of the body and mind. Once the crisis is overcome, the stability may be achieved, but the crisis may happen again repeating multiple times. Therefore, we must take measures to prevent the crisis once we restore stability. 

The best strategy we can adopt in time of crisis is to overcome the crisis and prepare preventative measures. To be able to do this, you must clearly understand the causes of crisis. When you have already overcome the crisis, you have time to analyze the causes of the crisis. Prevention is absolutely necessary to avoid the recurrence of the crisis. Unfortunately, most people in  a crisis choose to collapse, taking the strategies of avoidance, relinquishment, or blaming others and self. 

There is another strategy some people adopt, which leads to quite detrimental consequences. Some people try to analyze the causes of the crisis instead of restoring the stability first. They do not recognize the crisis is in progress. Analyzing the causes of the crisis must come before the crisis occurs or after the stability is restored. While the crisis is in progress, we don’t have time to analyze causes so diverse and complex. Being in the crisis means that your body or mind is in danger of perishment, which is a urgent situation. Trying to analyze the causes without trying to restore stability will make your body and mind perish much faster than when you just avoid, relinquish, or blame others or yourself. Trying to analyze the causes and then solve the problems without restoring the stability first in the crisis of losing your life or mind will only bring about the worst result. What you need to do is to overcome the crisis and restore the stability first, and then analyze the causes of the crisis and prepare yourself for prevention of the same crisis happening again. 

We are sufficiently educated about saving and protecting our body from our childhood. We are all familiar with the concept of the importance of our body and health, and the seriousness of damaging our body and risking our life. When we are in the crisis of losing our life, we all deal with the crisis first and foremost. And then, we prepare ourselves for prevention. Unfortunately, we are not educated enough to save and protect our mind either in childhood or adulthood. We are less familiar with the concept of the importance of our mind, and the seriousness of damaging and risking our mind. We are less capable of coping with the crisis of losing and damaging mind. Many people try to find the causes of the crisis and solve related problems instead of restoring stable mind first, thereby expediting the perishment process. 

Human desire naturally is produced when people feel deficiency or lose what they have. When people are in the crisis of losing life and mind, the desire for restoring life and mind becomes extremely strong. Once the body or mind perishes, it cannot send an SOS and the desire for restoration does not even apply. Perished life or mind cannot have any desire. 

When the desire for recovery disappears, it may indicate either of the two things. One is that the life or mind has already perished, or the crisis has been overcome, and stability and comfort have been achieved. Nothing can be done when the life and mind have already perished, but when we have achieved stability and comfort, we must necessarily make efforts to find causes of the crisis and prepare ourselves for prevention. Please, keep in mind that it leaves us no choice but to follow the procedures described so far in dealing with the crisis of not only our body but also our mind. 

 

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How to build a happy home

Most people must have thought about what it would take to build a happy home. We must start with accurately understanding the meaning of 'home' to be able to build a happy home. To have a home, we need to form a family with people who live together. You yourself must exist and then the counterparty (spouse, children, parents, and others) must also exist at home. Human beings pursue individual's happiness as a person and happiness in relationships with other people as a person in relationships. Home is a basic social group that exists for happiness in relationships. Your home may be a happy home with reference to your standards but not a happy home with reference to your counterparty's (spouse, children, parents and others) standards since everyone has different standards. To have a happy home in a true sense, it is crucial that each and every member of the family is happy as a person and a person in relationships.  

 Human beings feel happy as a person when men can generate passion getting immersed into positive moods and maintain the condition, and women can generate love getting immersed into positive feelings and maintain the condition. Human beings feel happy as a person in relationships as a family member when all family members can adequately pursue 'meanings' that lead to feeling happy to be together, and pursue 'values' under the protection and within the safety of home. 

It can be said that we have built a happy home when the pursuit of both meanings and values are proceeded in harmony. Some people think that a home with comfort and without turbulence or disputes is a happy home. However, comfort is a clearly different concept from happiness. Also, one person may feel comfortable, but the other may not. If you want to build a happy home, first you need to check for your individual happiness and also check for other family members' happiness. Each family member's happiness can be effectively checked for through conversations.

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Many people get engaged in conversations only when they are in a good mood, when they feel comfortable, or when they want to claim for their rights, and their conversations are most exclusively about what they themselves need. In many cases, people initiate conversations in order to claim for their rights and demand for others' responsibilities or in order to impose their moods regardless of others' feelings. This type of conversation tends to be one-sided and cannot be considered as a true conversation. This pattern of conversation causes problems in family relationship instead of contributing to building a happy home. Conversations must be employed to share each member's happiness and unhappiness and solve problems. Conversations must aim for fulfilling not only members' rights but also roles and responsibilities, so each member's rights and responsibilities must be manifested in conversations in a bidirectional way. The amount of true conversations is an indicator of the degree of happiness of the family.

Individual rights are the focus of happiness as a person, and roles and responsibilities are the focus of the happiness as a person in relationships. People tend to think that roles and responsibilities are something huge and grand, and some even identify roles and responsibilities with suppression and sacrifice. However, individual's happiness is the basis of a happy home, so suppression and sacrifice that are opposite concepts of individual happiness cannot lead to a happy home. It will only create an unhappy home. We must neither claim only for our own happiness nor solely focus on roles and responsibilities. Every member of the family has the right to pursue individual happiness and the responsibility to take at the same time. Understanding this basic concept will contribute to smooth and productive conversations among family members. 

When we have problems in relationships, we experience stress and wounds. We think that the cause of our stress and wounds is the counterparty since they have occurred from conflictual relationship. However, stress and wounds are generated and sensed only within ourselves, so the counterparty is not likely to recognize our stress and wounds. We demand the counterparty to restore our emotions usually by initiating conversations, but the counterparty has no ability to restore our emotions. Then, more conversations lead to more conflicts than resolutions, eventually leading us to mistakenly sever the relationship itself to eliminate the cause of stress and wounds. We need to restore our emotions by healing stress and treating wounds on our own. It is then when we can get engaged in conversations to talk about rights and responsibilities and promote and reinforce happiness. A home is the most basic social group and when people are happy at home with rights and responsibilities in harmony, they can also fulfill happiness in other social groups and in diverse relationships. 

In case of the relationship of adults and children such as a parent-child relationship, the adult must have both rights and responsibilities at home, but children have only rights and not responsibilities. Parents need to rear children taking responsibilities but children are not in the position to take responsibilities yet. They only have rights to be protected and reared by parents in the safety of home. Imposing parents' ways on children is to claim for parents' rights and demand for children's responsibilities, which may lead to diverse psychological problems in children. 

We can build a happy home when we accurately understand the operational mechanism of human mind and psychology. A happy home is not something too far to be reached as far as you gather up your will to take time and effort to form new habits and make changes.

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