9/01/2021

[On Divorce] Changing the pattern of relationships with people after divorce

When you get married, your relationships with people change. Before you get married, all relationships with people including parents, siblings, friends, and acquaintances are formed putting yourself at the center, but after you get married, your relationships with people change so that they accord with your husband's standards and his relationships with people. You may become more distant with friends you used to hang out with everyday, or you may even have to stop seeing some people. You may also form new relationships with new people after you get married. 

When you get a divorce, it is only natural that your relationships with people change once more. Not only the people you meet but also the dynamics and patterns of the existing relationships must change so that they accord with your marital status. When you do not adequately change the patterns of relationships with people after divorce, you may experience psychological problems and relational conflicts. 

To be able to adequately change the dynamics and patterns of relationships with people after divorce, you must first accurately understand how human relationships work and how they affect psychology. You must learn what relationships to sever, what relationships to start, and for what relationships to change their meaning. You must also change your psychology to that of a divorced person in this process. For example, your relationship with your parents must be different before marriage, after marriage, and after divorce respectively. 

When you do not understand this mechanism and do not change your psychology and relationships after divorce, you may keep confronting problems and conflicts. Problems and conflicts worsen when you avoid dealing with them properly and address only practical problems that rise to the surface. Your relationship with your children must also change after divorce. Keeping the same pattern of your relationship with children will lead to psychological and practical problems in both yourself and your children. 

The psychology of a married person and that of a divorced person are completely different. Relationships during marriage and after divorce must be different, too. You can prevent relational problems from occurring after divorce and prepare for a happy life through Free Consultation on Divorce provided by Korea Institute of Psycho-education. 

   Apply for Free Consultation on Divorce

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  Korea Institute of Psycho-education : http://www.uip.ac/ 

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