[Infidelity Therapy] Self-delusion part 1 : The husband in infidelity

 

When husband infidelity is discovered by the wife, the husband and the adulteress have developed relationship addiction, which is an advanced condition of psychological disorder, and the wife has developed post traumatic stress. All of them have distorted ideas and illusion since they think based on relationship addiction or post traumatic stress.

As distorted ideas and illusion continue, the husband may develop intermittent explosive disorder and the adulteress and the wife may develop hysteria. The wife's hysteria is more destructive than that of the adulteress since it is based on post traumatic stress. The wife's condition becomes more serious than the condition of the husband or the adulteress. Then, what kind of illusion and distorted ideas does each party develop?

In case of the husband, he may think that he can stop committing infidelity and the wife can regain psychological stability as far as he keeps making efforts. However, relationship addiction and post traumatic stress can be treated only through proper treatment. All the efforts made by people who have psychological disorders only aggravate the condition. 

Men's relationship addiction is a psychological disorder in which perception disorder and expression disorder occur simultaneously. When the husband makes efforts to restore marriage relationship without proper treatment, he ends up generating even more stress by consciously suppressing negative emotions and the desire to pursue pleasure. Also, the wife only aggravates her condition by having to perceive and think about the husband no matter what he does. 

When the husband tries to make the wife feel better, he usually tries to make her have comfort or have fun. The wife who has post traumatic stress feels excruciating pain by the operation of mimind for restoring happiness. When she seeks comfort and pleasure to block the pain, she may also develop relationship addiction and the psychology of the adulteress. Then, the husband may mistake the wife's responding sexually for her being cured based on his standard as a pleasure seeker.

When the husband gives up on marriage relationship, he begins to justify his infidelity and thinks that his wife and children get in the way of his pleasure seeking. Then, he may avoid or destruct the wife and children psychologically and economically. The husband's illusion and distorted ideas get more and more serious as his condition deteriorates into intermittent explosive disorder. The husband may become violent even upon getting the smallest stress being convinced that he is always right. He even allows his wife and children to be taken advantage of by other people to achieve his pleasure and the sense of superiority thinking that it is the right thing to do. 

The husband cannot even think about restoring marriage and family before he loses everything in his life. He may have to take medication before treating his psychological condition by taking KIP treatment program. In case the husband has not developed intermittent explosive disorder yet, only the wife who has restored happiness ability through proper treatment can give him an opportunity to treat his relationship addiction. 

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