When we talk
about our children's career paths, we often wonder whether they should choose
what they're good at or what they like. Someone may say, “You should do what
you like, no matter what, because that's what makes you happy!!! It's stressful
to do something you don't like.” Someone else may say, "No, no, no. Doing
what you like is too idealistic, and it's not realistic to just pick something
you like and stick with it without financial backing. Choose what you're good
at first, so you can become financially independent, and do what you like
later, it's never too late.”
Both make sense. If you keep doing what
you like, it may become what you're good at, or if you keep doing what you are
good at, you may become to like it. Am I saying that either choice is fine,
whether it's something you're good at or something you like? Yes.
It doesn't matter if you choose what
you're good at or what you like or whatever, as far as you're making your own
choices and you're taking responsibility for them. Then, you are more willing
to take responsibility for what you're doing, and you are more passionate and more
fulfilled. And even if something bad happens on the way, you are more likely to
overcome it well because you don’t blame someone else and you motivate yourself
to take responsibility.
In fact, autonomy is associated with
higher career success. In the process of pioneering a career, you will
encounter various situations, and people who make their own choices are more
likely to face them and overcome difficulties instead of avoiding them. It is
important to know what you are good at and what you like, but it is more
important to make your own choices and take responsibility for them.
The role of parents, then, is not to
choose for them, but to be interested in them, but not to interfere and control
them, and to create an environment where they can make their own choices and
take responsibility for them. Then, as they experience making small choices and
taking responsibility for themselves in their daily lives, this will accumulate
and give them the strength to make choices and move forward in their careers.
At the end of the day, circumstances and
environments can change the choices you make, and whether you choose to do
something you like or something you're good at, if you choose to do it and take
responsibility for it, you will make it a good choice. And this is true for all
of us, by the way, not just our kids.
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