[Mother Therapy] Should I do what I like or what I’m good at?

 

When we talk about our children's career paths, we often wonder whether they should choose what they're good at or what they like. Someone may say, “You should do what you like, no matter what, because that's what makes you happy!!! It's stressful to do something you don't like.” Someone else may say, "No, no, no. Doing what you like is too idealistic, and it's not realistic to just pick something you like and stick with it without financial backing. Choose what you're good at first, so you can become financially independent, and do what you like later, it's never too late.”

     Both make sense. If you keep doing what you like, it may become what you're good at, or if you keep doing what you are good at, you may become to like it. Am I saying that either choice is fine, whether it's something you're good at or something you like? Yes.

     It doesn't matter if you choose what you're good at or what you like or whatever, as far as you're making your own choices and you're taking responsibility for them. Then, you are more willing to take responsibility for what you're doing, and you are more passionate and more fulfilled. And even if something bad happens on the way, you are more likely to overcome it well because you don’t blame someone else and you motivate yourself to take responsibility.

     In fact, autonomy is associated with higher career success. In the process of pioneering a career, you will encounter various situations, and people who make their own choices are more likely to face them and overcome difficulties instead of avoiding them. It is important to know what you are good at and what you like, but it is more important to make your own choices and take responsibility for them.

     The role of parents, then, is not to choose for them, but to be interested in them, but not to interfere and control them, and to create an environment where they can make their own choices and take responsibility for them. Then, as they experience making small choices and taking responsibility for themselves in their daily lives, this will accumulate and give them the strength to make choices and move forward in their careers.

     At the end of the day, circumstances and environments can change the choices you make, and whether you choose to do something you like or something you're good at, if you choose to do it and take responsibility for it, you will make it a good choice. And this is true for all of us, by the way, not just our kids.

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