Korea Institute of Psycho-education

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[Sex & Xes] The interrelationship between the pleasure of sex and the mind.

The xesmind exists within the mind, supplying energy to the mind and the body. When the xesmind is activated, you can have feelings of happiness in the mind or pleasure in the body. When sexuality energizes the mind, it can create positive feelings by healing wounds in the mind to create feelings of comfort or happiness, and when sex energizes the body, it can create pleasurable sensations in the sensory organs or make the body healthy. When these actions are out of order and distorted, they can disrupt the psychology that works in the mind and cause illness or sexual dysfunction in the body.

When this activation of sexuality is biased toward one or the other between the body and the mind, energy is lost in the other. In the case of women, once they are married and have a solid sense of stability in their minds, the pleasure of sex felt in the body becomes unnecessary. Surprisingly, women’s xesmind works for the happiness of the mind, so when a woman feels she has fulfilled meanings of life with her husband and children, there is no reason for her sexuality to be activated.

On the other hand, women who have a lot of wounds to heal, or who are not yet married and have not yet created meanings in their lives, live with a passion for sex. But what happens if a woman’s xes energy is activated only for the body and not for the mind? The mind loses its function and role as the energy is not fed to the mind, so the feelings of love and happiness, or the social norms and controls that operate in the mind, all lose their meaning, and she lives solely to feel pleasure from the sensory organs in the body. In other words, she becomes psychologically disturbed and live her life solely for the pleasure of sex.

Men, on the other hand, do not generate emotional energy from their xesmind; their minds are conceptual minds that process only facts and temporary moods. Men’s xesmind is biased to direct its energy toward feeling pleasure in the sensory organs of the body in the first place, men's love is not connected to sexuality, and men value the pleasure of sex for its own sake.

Men use sex as a vehicle to activate the women’s xesmind, and women use sex with men to create feelings of happiness and love in their minds. When a man's passion for sex creates the feelings of happiness in a woman, he can create a mood energy called passion based on the woman’s emotional energy. In this way, a man's passion is generated by doing something for his woman, using his heart and his sexuality as a vehicle. So, ironically, men don't connect sexuality with their own emotion because their sexuality is supposed to be a tool to create happiness in women.

If this mechanism is disrupted, if a man has sex for his own pleasure and not for the happiness of the woman he's with, he becomes overly sexualized and develops psychological disorders and sexual dysfunction. This is what happens when men begin to perceive women as tools for their own pleasure.

Normal women use sex to create emotional energy in their minds, so it's very important for them to have a sexual partner who doesn't see them as a tool for pleasure, but who can help create feelings of happiness and protect them. Connecting emotions to sexuality is what women need.

When a man and a woman meet and marry to protect each other's bodies and minds, the woman fulfills meanings of life and feels stable, and she doesn't need sexuality to work for her. Then, the man's passion for creating happiness for the woman can become misdirected, and he wants to use sex for his own pleasure. If you don't understand this mechanism, all kinds of sexual problems, marital problems, and social problems will arise.

No matter how stable a woman's mind is, she should know that she can strengthen her emotional energy for happiness and love through the work of her xesmind, so she should never stop activating sexuality with the person she loves for her own happiness. It is good to keep in mind that a woman can continue to live the happiest life until the moment she dies by activating both her xesmind and her mind at the same time.

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1/08/2025

[Sex & Xes] A Life of Self-Chosen Slavery of Sexuality

Men and women don't know each other as well as they think they do. The psychology of each individual is different, but the system of mimind and the system of xesmind operating within mimind are the same for all men, from the youngest boy to the oldest man, and the same for all women, from the youngest girl to the oldest woman.

This system of mimind and xesmind is human nature. On top of this common system, each person's memories and habits are built up differently, resulting in their own unique disposition. However, the system is essentially the same, and we must understand it in order to understand ourselves and others.

Human sexuality, in particular, is a human instinct, and we must understand it in order to be able to live our own lives as major agents. Otherwise, we simply live our lives swept along by social standards. Social standards are important for the harmony and order of human relationships, but people who are swept along by distorted social standards become increasingly stressed and hurt.

Not many people clearly understand the nature of man and woman, and the system of mimind and xesmind, and everyone is interested only in psychological phenomena, which leads to the clash among different individual ideas and many controversies.

Sexuality is supposed to be inherently female-centered, but because it's been male-centered for so long, the psychology of all men and women is now tuned to male-centered sexuality. This inevitably leads to psychological and physical problems for humans, and they're living out of alignment with their underlying instincts. Humans live in relationships, so when individual psychological problems become prominent, they also become social problems.

Both men and women are so accustomed to a male-centered sexuality that many people feel very uncomfortable to go back to a female-centered sexuality. And there's nothing wrong with that feeling. You may feel like your life is over as you've lived in male-centered sexuality for the whole life time. However, it has been a life that has damaged your bodies and minds, creating distorted happiness, passion, and love that destroy each other.

Both men and women don't think about what lies beyond because such knowledge and information is unheard of. By and large, only those whose lives have been completely destroyed by their distorted sexuality strive for what lies beyond, and say, “If only I had known the system of mimind and xesmind before everything was destroyed.

Female-centered sexuality can be achieved when a woman separates her mind from her sexuality and becomes the main agent of her sexuality, and when a man supports it with his mind, not with his sexuality. It is very difficult for a man who has lived in male-centered sexuality to let go of his sexuality and strive to support his woman with his mind, and it is very difficult for a woman to separate her sexuality from her mind and strive to become the main agent of her sexuality. Sometimes, they don't want to do it, they don't know why they have to do it, and they don't know what they can accomplish by doing it.

This is not an unnecessary struggle for something idealized and fictional. Living a life with female-centered sexuality is true to who you are as a human being, and if you've been living with male-centered sexuality, it means that you've been denied happiness, love, true pleasure, and true passion that you deserve as a human being. Striving to live with female-centered sexuality should be a necessity, not a choice. It's about reclaiming what you've lost as a result of being swept along by distorted social standards. If you can’t lift yourself up from a life of downgrading, no one else can.

https://youtu.be/OW0mQiS4sLI?si=Lz2SvnCH-R3SwWLS

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1/01/2025

[Sex & Xes] Women seeking sexual pleasure are in serious condition.

Today, we're going to talk about why the psychology of women seeking sexual pleasure is unhealthy. In today's world, saying that “women who enjoy sex are unhealthy” is going to cause a lot of controversy. This is because most people think about women and sex in terms of feminist and gender equality logic, so you'll hear a lot of people say, “Why shouldn't women enjoy sex, but only men?”

Both adult men and adult women have the right to enjoy sex, but sex is a very polarizing energy, and when it's used for good, it's a powerful force for happiness for both men and women, and when it's used for harm, it's a powerful force for destroying happiness for both men and women, ruining bodies and ruining lives. To harness the energy of sex for good, we need to understand its exact mechanism and essence before we can enjoy it. Once this is clear, we can create happiness energy through activating sexuality without limit.

Women who seek sexual pleasure having a distorted concept in a distorted environment where sexuality is interpreted only in terms of pleasure and love will develop serious psychological problems and lead a destructive life.

Sexuality is actually more important for women than for men, because through the work of the xesmind, women create happiness in the heart, and men's sexuality works to protect and support this, but now it is distorted into the opposite concept, as if sexuality is very important for men and women's sexuality is to support it, so both women and men are destroyed.

Men cannot use the energy of their xesmind to generate feelings of happiness in their hearts, and their sexuality only works in conjunction with their bodies. Men only utilize their sexuality as a source of temporary positive mood energy. Men's minds are not for generating feelings like women's, but rather they are minds of ideas connected with facts that make men experience temporary moods of pleasure or pain.

Woman's xesmind works to generate feelings of happiness, so it has a direct connection to a woman's psychological wounds. The bigger and deeper a woman's wounds are, the harder it is for her to repair them with her mind alone making her xesmind begin to work. There are women who have deep wounds that are activated, and then there are women who have wound dissociation, where the wound is so deep that it's covered over. They both try to activate their sexuality, so they are sexually expressive, but the woman with the deep wound is sexually expressive because she doesn't want to hurt, and the woman with wound dissociation is sexually expressive because she wants pleasure.

As women try to activate their sexuality, they may have plastic surgery or genital surgery, they may train themselves to increase sexual sensitivity, or they may go to classes to learn about the art of sex. The original reason for women to activate their sexuality was to create feelings of happiness by repairing wounds of their heart, and their xesmind should only work for their own heart. However, when they have sex based on sexual desire that is rooted in wounds, the energy that should be working on their own heart is expressed to the other person, and the temporary positive sensations perceived through the sensory organs make them think that the partner has created happiness for them and they mistake this for love. Over and over again, instead of trying to repair the wound directly from their mind, they rely on the pleasure of the senses to create a temporary positive mood.

Eventually, she no longer needs the work of her mind, and the standards and notions of relationships, habits of control, and systems that create feelings of maternal love and happiness that were originally created in her unconscious mind are all broken. As a result, these women are no longer able to live a normal human life because they have abandoned the concept of being happy with other people and have come to believe that the pleasure of sex is happiness, or that any man who gives them sex loves them. If a woman's sexuality is triggered by her wounds and she is constantly wanting to express her sexuality, she needs to heal her wounds and stabilize her psychology before anything.

Men's sexuality is not connected to emotional wounds, but it is connected to the body, and excessive activation of sexuality leads to physical problems and sexual dysfunction in men. Men's sexuality is meant to create feelings of happiness in women, to protect women and make women happy, and to generate achievement and passion in men. When men use sex solely for their own pleasure, they end up using women as a means of pleasure, and this creates a vicious cycle that leads to breakdowns of both men and women.

The result of this vicious cycle is that the happiness of the mankind is lost, and we live in an environment where we compete and confront each other solely for individuals’ pleasure and satisfaction. The concept of family becomes unnecessary, and societies and nations exist solely for the survival of the individual. The emotionless humanity we see in science fiction movies is not just fiction.

We should never take sexuality lightly. Sexuality should be activated between two people who love each other, for women for their own happiness, and for men to create and protect it. It's for life's sake, and this is not some outdated idea, but an interpretation based on the Theory of Mimind and Xesmind. If you are not sure what you're really talking about, it's better to live in an outdated way of thinking about sexuality taking it seriously and conservatively, and protect yourself and your loved ones.

https://youtu.be/1FcJSX8P-eA?si=lKZIr75RwRWYd8sS

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[Mother Therapy] The 'Stability Formula' Working Moms Should Know

A friend of mine who is a working mother told me that she wants to continue pursuing her career, but it's not easy because she worries about her child every day. Her child is still young, so she relies on her family for child care, but sometimes she can’t get help when she needs it. She loves her career, but she constantly wonders if her working outside home is affecting her child and if the choices she makes will have a negative impact on her family.

I think every working mother has to deal with the same thing at one point or another. If you're constantly feeling unstable, it can have a negative impact on both your work and your family, and you can't focus on either one. In the end, the more unstable you are, the more likely it is that your family will be unstable as well. So, what's the most important thing? You guessed it - your own psychological stability. If you're a working mother who wants to pursue your values through career, you need to think about how important your psychological stability is.

It's really not easy to pursue your career while maintaining a family and raising children. As a working mom, you're trying to make sure that both your work and your family are stable, and I think it's safe to say that the most important thing is how stable your psychology is. If you're unstable yourself and you're trying to make your family and children feel stable, you are likely to end up with conflicts and anxiety that you didn't intend to have. You're trying to make them feel stable when you're unstable yourself, so you're either repressing yourself or forcing yourself on them.

Another friend of mine wanted to be perfect at both work and raising her child, so she worked hard at work and tried to spend more time with her child at the same time, but there were many days when she was disappointed in herself because it was difficult to fully immerse herself in both work and home, and she blamed herself a lot. She was disappointed and blamed herself, and she didn't know what to do, so she kept repeating the same routine. She kept thinking about her child even while she was working, so it was difficult to concentrate on work, and even when she was spending time with her child, she became anxious about work. Finally, she quit her job, but quitting her job didn't solve all the problems either.

Eventually, she realized that she was unstable psychologically, and from then on, she started by first recognizing her own psychological state and then tried to recover. She was able to approach new things in a more relaxed way, both for his child and for herself. If a child sees anxiety in a mother's expression, it is transmitted to the child, so the child is affected by the psychological state of the parent and has a similar emotional state. In fact, your own stability leads to the stability of your family.

Of course, it can be harder when you don't have people around you to help you, but there are things you can do within your resources and your environment, depending on how you think about it. Don't limit yourself by saying you can't do this or you can't do that. It's not always easy to put yourself first as a working mom, but I want you to remember that your own psychological well-being is the most important starting point. When you are stable, your family is stable, and your child is able to see you and feel psychologically stable forming a virtuous cycle. That's when we can truly pursue our values and meanings of life with balance.

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12/25/2024

[Sex & Xes] Sexual Hedonism and Sexual Objectification

You've probably heard the term sexual hedonism, and sexual objectification is the perception of an individual only as a tool for sex. Often, the parties involved are unaware of the concept of sexual objectification because the person who is already hedonistic about sex and perceives the other person only as an object of pleasure doesn't care about the other person's position, and the person who is perceived as an object of sex doesn't know that they are being used as a tool for sex.

A sexual hedonist values the pleasure itself above all else in sex, perceiving everything else as a means to that pleasure. They perceive the other person as an instrument of pleasure in order to pursue the pleasure of sex, and are not concerned with the pleasure and happiness of the objectified person. They also assume that if they are satisfied and happy, the other person will be satisfied and happy.

If you use everything you have to enjoy the pleasure of sex, and consider it to be the highest value and happiness, you're going beyond hedonism, especially if you're in a position of economic and social power. Sexual hedonism and objectification are more common among people with some degree of social power because they use their ability and power to realize their hedonism.

This is because it is advantageous to have a certain level of wealth, status, popularity, etc. to use others as a tool for sex. Sexual hedonism and sexual objectification can occur easily as successful people lose sight of their life goals and indulge in the pleasures of sex. The perception that anything is possible if you have the ability only reinforces this distorted perception.

Sexual hedonists are unable to escape the distorted pleasures of sex because they don't know the true flavor and coolness of sex. This is a phenomenon that has been primarily driven by men in the past, but in recent years it has also been driven by women. Once the pleasures of sex lead to addiction, you can never get out of it on your own. Sex is such a personal and secretive act that only the parties involved know about it, not the outside world.

As sexual hedonism and sexual objectification progress, people no longer get pleasure and enjoyment from sex between a couple or with a lover and lose interest in it, so they seek out sex with different stimuli and seek endless variety in sex. They try to brainwash and persuade everyone around them to join them in their sexual hedonism and objectification. As the stimulation of sex becomes more and more intense, it spirals out of control and every aspect of their lives becomes related to sex.

People who are sexually hedonistic and see others as nothing but objects of pleasure cannot address their condition on their own because they are so thoroughly mired in their own logic: they become dogmatic and closed off to sex styles that are different from their own, even though they think of themselves as open-minded with respect to sex. They are also very obsessive about sex, so what they think about once, they try to make happen. Their spouses often get caught up in this and slip into sexual hedonism with them.

People who practice sexual hedonism and sexual objectification have lost the concept and value of proper sex and live out their sex fantasies, which is why they are so permissive about sex with others. Having pleasure is a fleeting moment, followed by a search for greater stimulation and pleasure. These people should be reminded of their true sexual capabilities with a detailed explanation of the need for change, and to transition to feeling intense pleasure and happiness even from sex between two people in a normal relationship.

Sexual hedonism and sexual objectification are a phenomenon that can happen to anyone, and many people are currently in quite serious conditions. There's nothing wrong with enjoying sex, but it needs to be done in the right way and with an awareness of the other person's true happiness.

To do this, we need to first recognize the importance and value of human relationships, and then we need to educate ourselves about sexual empowerment so that we can enjoy the true flavor and beauty of sex. Surprisingly enough, most men want this. Women also need to know the value of true sex ability and build their sex ability, so that they can escape and prevent the objectification of sex. Pursuing only the pleasure of sex will make your body and mind sick. Please, keep in mind that you need to know the correct concepts so that you can know what true pleasure is and reach true sexual happiness.

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12/18/2024

[Sex & Xes] If you want to get the best woman

Men aren't actually interested in women with good hearts. They usually like women who have a pretty pretty, have a good body, and are sexually capable. Women who only have these things are great for a momentary fling, but they're not what men want to be in a relationship with. They want to be with women who have all of the above, plus feelings of love.

In other words, they want a woman who is not only pretty and sexy, but also a woman who will be loving and caring to her husband and children, and of course, there are women who are both pretty and sexy and have feelings of love. In order to get such a great woman, a man must have the ability to protect her. There are men who only want women for their looks and sexual prowess, not their feelings of love. Once a woman is taken by such a manipulator, she loses the ability of love. Therefore, a man must have the ability to protect his woman from such a womanizer.

And men shouldn't go around looking for women, because if they do, they have already become one of the womanizers. A man should be able to protect a woman and wait for a woman. When a man is ready and able to wait, the woman he wants will come to him. And when he lives with that goal in mind, he will be passionate about pursuing his values, and do his best in whatever he does.

But if a man can't wait and starts looking for a woman, he won't be able to meet such a great woman. Such a woman won't come to a man who is looking for a woman because she has healthy mind. In fact, a woman should go looking for a man who can protect her.

A woman who has good appearance without having feelings of love is not the kind of woman a man would want to protect as his woman. If a man falls for a woman like that, he's only looking for a sexual relationship, not love, and that makes him sexually dysfunctional, and when you're sexually dysfunctional, you lose the ability to protect your woman, so a man should never go around looking for women.

When a man builds true sex ability, fulfills his values, and wants to protect a woman's love, a woman who has it all will find him. The most important thing for a man to do to get the woman he wants is to have the ability to protect her.

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[Mother Therapy] Your life, your choice (Psychological dependence and independence)

What was the first choice you made this morning? I briefly debated whether to sleep in for another 10 minutes or get up right away, but I chose to get up right away, which allowed me to complete the morning routine I had planned the day before, with the added bonus of feeling good about myself.

From the moment we wake up in the morning till the end of the day, we make a lot of choices, some of which we make on our own, but a surprising number of them are influenced by others. We often make decisions based on what our family, friends, and coworkers think of us, or what they expect us to do.

While it's important to respect and consider other people's opinions, we often lose sight of what we really want in the process. What's more, being overly dependent on others makes it harder to live our lives to the fullest, as we become more dependent on their reactions than our own decisions.

So why do we need to be able to make our own choices and not lean on others? Leaning on others for a moment can be comforting and supportive, but if it's repeated, you're constantly asking someone for many parts of your life. You can become dependent on them for every single decision including the smallest matters, which can make them feel overwhelmed, which can lead to conflicts and make it harder to maintain a healthy relationship.

Being psychologically dependent means that you've surrendered your power to other people, and you're at their mercy, which means that a lot of your life is dictated by their reactions, and you're bound to feel a sense of loss and helplessness when they change or leave, making it harder for you to live your life on your own terms.

Psychological independence, on the other hand, is about valuing yourself and living by your own standards, not being swayed by other people's opinions. This doesn't mean that you should cut off relationships with others; it's important to cherish and protect relationships that meet your standards. The key is to understand the difference between dependence and independence clearly and to develop the ability to make your own choices.

Everyone can make their own choices, and although it's not easy, you can make a difference with time and effort. Once you've achieved psychological independence, economic independence will naturally follow, and you'll no longer depend on others for happiness. You can create your own happiness and share it with those around you.

People say that our life is formed based on how we look at it, and we can choose how we react in every moment, so it's all up to us. We have the power to make ourselves unhappy, or we have the power to make ourselves happy, so why spend energy on making ourselves unhappy? Wouldn't it be better to use that energy to choose happiness?

https://youtu.be/M5XQSVMyRAg?si=DCufzUVznnP8wvb8

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12/11/2024

[Sex & Xes] Focus on women's sexuality, not feminism

Today's feminism tends to be extreme. Whereas early feminism cried out, “Women are capable of taking responsibility, so give them the rights they deserve,” it has been distorted into, “Women are not responsible for anything. Just recognize our rights already!”

The idea that “women can't take responsibility” is actually the male chauvinistic view of early feminism. The current distortion of feminism is the result of that resentment bubbling up like pus. In other words, distorted feminism comes from women's wounds, and by pouring all of life's wounds into feminism, distorted feminism has ended up with a group of wounds that are nothing like the original feminism. It means that they connect every hurt they receive from men to sexism or sexual inequality.

It's a very codependent way of life, and while it talks about women being independent and rebelling against the system, it's deeply rooted in male chauvinistic ideas. A truly independent woman does not associate her life with, nor is she influenced by, male supremacist ideas; even if she lives within a male supremacist system, she is empowered to transcend it. On the other hand, the very act of resisting chauvinistic ideas means that you are already positioning your dignity as a subordinate concept within those ideas.

The problem with male chauvinistic ideas and distorted feminism is that they distort the intrinsic roles in sexuality. In the intrinsic roles in sexuality, women are the active agents of sexuality, and men play a supporting role in sexuality, protecting and aligning themselves with women. Humans activate their sexuality to create passion and happiness in their hearts, and while women are capable of generating inexhaustible xes energy on their own, men are only capable of generating limited and weak xes energy, so men can only create greater passion and happiness by being fed with the xes energy that women generate.

In the essential gender role, men keep women safe and secure and cater everything to her so that she can generate xes energy to her heart's content. In distorted gender roles, men become the main agents of sexuality themselves and focus on exploiting women's sexual energy, not protecting and supporting women. This is the result of distorted gender roles and the root of male chauvinism.

In the past, this exploitation of women's sexual energy was supported by a social system that ignored women's potential and kept them in the home and denied their rights. This was changed by early feminism, and women now have many opportunities. However, to take it a step further, the reason why women cannot have both responsibilities and rights on an equal basis with men is because women themselves don't know who they are as sexual agents and keep trying to play the role of sexual support to men. This is no longer an issue of ideas like male chauvinism or feminism, but of distorted gender roles.

Women who become true sexual agents and generate and supply their own xes energy in all situations and circumstances will naturally be protected and supported by men. This is because instinctively, men need women's xes energy to create passion and happiness. Women need to be self-aware and unwavering in their sexuality, so that men who try to discriminate or exploit them will be culled from the group by men who want to protect them.

No matter how powerful a woman is as a generator of xes energy, if she doesn't recognize herself as the main agent in sexuality, her xes energy will only be exploited by men. From the perspective of a man living with distorted gender roles, a woman needs to be locked up for a specific reason and made to provide sexual energy only to him. This is because if she were to provide sexual energy to other men, he would find himself outcompeted by men who are more passionate than him.

The current distorted version of feminism is a strong argument for women to be recognized as objects of sexual exploitation. No one can understand true feminism if they exclude the idea of intrinsic roles in sexuality. Men and women who live in accordance with their intrinsic gender roles live in a world that transcends male chauvinism and feminism. It's a world where women, as well as men, enjoy the most powerful passion, happiness, and pleasure. We need to focus on women's intrinsic role in sexuality, not on feminism, and transform ourselves so that both men and women can fulfill their intrinsic gender roles.

https://youtu.be/aKieRX1n8kA?si=UqLA7hQUEkp6phCr

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[Mother Therapy] Starting is half the battle, but only half.

Is there something new you're trying these days? We start a lot of new things in our lives, whether it's studying, taking up a new sport or hobby, or dreaming up a business. For each of these endeavors, we set goals, both big and small, but do we achieve them all at once? I think I rarely achieve my goals all at once. No matter how exciting the start, there are bound to be trials and errors along the way.

Take a business, for example: you start out thinking, “I'm going to launch a product that's so perfect and so good, it's going to be a hit!” and then it doesn't turn out the way you thought it would, and if it does, it's most likely the result of a lot of trial and error and refinement.

The problem is, we know this, but we don't apply it to ourselves, and that's where a lot of people get stuck. They only see what they want to see, and they envy someone else's success and want to emulate it. It might get you started, but it's not sustainable, because you're not looking at the effort and the process, but you're just looking at the outcome, and you're comparing yourself with others.

You may say reasons why you can't keep doing it - “I'm not talented enough,” “I don't think I can do that no matter what I do,” “I don't have the environment to do that,” etc. But it is usually more likely that it's not really that you can't, it's that you don't.

Some people pretend they don't work much but it’s more likely that they work really hard. In fact, they do their best every moment of their life without even realizing it. Most people I see are working hard in their own way.

There are some people who feel sorry for themselves because they're working so hard and they don't have any time for themselves. They feel sorry for themselves because they think, “Why do I have to work so hard?” But I think they should be proud of themselves, not sorry for themselves. They should be proud and happy that they're able to work hard every day.

It's true that starting is important, so you can say, “Starting is half the battle,” but starting is not the end. Any achievement requires continuous effort, and in this case, if you take a product as an example, it doesn't sell by itself when you launch it. You have to constantly manage it and improve the quality, and you have to pay attention to sales, service, delivery, etc. because it's not just the product that should be good and there are so many other things to take care of. If you neglect these things, even the best product will disappear sooner or later.

There's so much you can do, and if you start anything, stick with it, and you'll see results, or you'll find yourself becoming an expert in your field. Starting is half the battle. But if you just start and don't put in the effort, you're literally only halfway there, and we all know that just starting doesn't mean you're done.

https://youtu.be/tRpjNw04tCA?si=sSO7ZWs8jATWLJQg

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12/04/2024

[Sex & Xes] How sexuality shapes the mind

Today, we're going to talk about the process of sexuality affecting the mind and the caveats that come with it. Xesmind works within your own mind, energizing only your own mind. It also affects the psychological operation of the mind, and it's important to remember that xesmind, mind, and psychology all belong to you.

Xesmind is designed to help the mind pursue happiness on its own by energizing it. It's supposed to create love and passion and heal wounds, but in today's society, where the concept of sexuality has become so distorted, it's easy to let your xesmind take over your mind and be directed toward other people. Especially for women, their xesmind should be working for their own happiness, but most of them direct their xesmind toward others because they want to look good to other people, because others want their sexuality, because they want to please others, and so on. Or they combine sexuality with social ideas or systems, and they end up having a negative perception of sexuality and even feel guilty about enjoying sex, or they do the opposite and have sex for pleasure that is recognized in the conscious mind, causing all kinds of problems.

But when all the sexual energy that should be feeding your own mind is directed toward the other person, your mind can't be healthy. You won't have the self-esteem you need, and you won't have the energy to repair stress and wounds on your own, resulting in frequent psychological problems and psychological disorders.

Humans are supposed to pursue happiness and live in self-actualization activating the conscious and unconscious mind, and xesmind works to support this process. However, as xesmind gradually becomes more and more directed toward other people, the operation of mind and psychology are no longer centered on the mind, but on the xesmind, and mind, xesmind, and psychology become all entangled. As a result, mind continues to create wounds in relationships, and sexual desire keeps arising to repair these wounds to no avail. Sexual desire is generated as xesmind works to restore one's own mind, but no matter how much xesmind works, psychology is bound to be ruined since it is directed toward others or outside.

When a man or a woman develops a psychological disorder, their sexuality is overly expressed and their sexual desire is intensified. When you have sex in this state, you can't help but feel a very powerful pleasure unlike anything you've ever felt before, because your mind is no longer in control. Needless to say, there's no need for human happiness anymore because you're living as if the pleasure of your sensory organs is the most important thing and you're mistaking pleasure for happiness.

There are exceptions. Depression in women and neurosis in men are also psychological disorders, but in the case of depression and neurosis, mind blocks out everything about sexuality, so instead of having a sexual desire, you become extremely resistant to having sex. When this happens, you can't even think about recovery or happiness because your xesmind can't energize your mind.