[Sex & Xes] Why both mind and sexuality are so distorted today

 

We all have mind, and we all have psychology that works connecting the mind and the body. Psychology is composed of three parts: perception, which recognizes information from the outside world; memory, which stores and retrieves the perceived information; and expression, which expresses the results of the mind's work back to the outside world. The human mind takes in external information and expresses internal thoughts and emotions to the outside world through psychological processes. Why? Because we live in relationships with other people. The human mind is necessary for connecting with others.

Meanwhile, within the human mind is xesmind. It energizes our minds and bodies. Xesmind also has xes psychology that recognizes sexuality, remembers sexuality, and expresses sexuality, but surprisingly, it has nothing to do with human relationships. Xesmind works solely to energize our own mind and body. Mind exists to be with others, but xesmind and xes psychology exist solely for the sake of the individuals’ mind.

In a human relationship, our mind interacts with the other person's mind, and our xesmind energizes our mind. Xesmind is not supposed to be directed at the other person, and the workings of xesmind and xes psychology are not even recognized in the consciousness: everything you feel when you have sex is felt in the mind.

But today, this structure is perceived to be completely reversed. The mind is centered on what I feel, what is for me, what pleases me, and it is centered on satisfying individuals’ feelings rather than its role in relationships. Of course, it's true that my mind works for me, and all relationships start with me, but we are human beings living together, and when mind works only for ourselves, we can no longer move toward shared happiness.

There's a more serious problem. The workings of sexuality, which should be yours alone, are directed towards the other person. Everyone who discusses the psychology of sexuality analyzes it putting meanings in relation to the mind. Having sex is just a sexual action that is the result of the working of mind and xesmind. There is no meaning in the sexual action itself, and having sex should be used solely as a means of energizing one's own mind.

What happens when your xesmind is directed toward the other person, rather than toward your own mind? Most commonly, we interpret having sex in relation with love and pleasure. We want to look good to the partner, we become possessive or use the partner for our own pleasure, we want to fit in, or we learn sex techniques to show off and please the partner.

In modern society, these distorted notions are so thoroughly instilled in us from early childhood sex education that our minds are molded in this direction. The problem with current sex education is that it mostly focuses on having sex and issues related with it. With such a deeply ingrained distortion, how can we possibly have a proper perception of human mind and sexuality?

If we can at least get to the bottom of it, then we can at least strive to pursue the right standards, and we can give the next generation the right mindset from the early age. The education program exists to guide you to accurately understand the nature of human sexuality, if you are willing to change.

When your mind and xesmind are operating in a distorted way, it's only natural that your psychology will break down. Today, psychological problems are so common and many people live with neuroses, depression, and addictions and don't even realize they have them. It's important to learn what it takes to keep your mind and psychology healthy, and what is causing us to live in such a sick and troubled society.

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[Mother Therapy] What type am I? (Based on working styles)

 

Harvard University studied what it takes to live a happy life by following over 1,000 people for nearly 85 years, and according to the research, the most important factor for a happy life is relationships. Strong, stable relationships have a huge impact on happiness.

When we think of relationships, we often think of family, friends, and romantic partners, but we can't ignore our relationships with people at work. We spend a significant portion of our day at work and are closely connected to our coworkers and the people we meet through our work, so the relationships we have at work have a huge impact on our lives.

Today we're going to talk about the types of people you meet at work based on their working styles and how they affect your work and yourself.

The first type is people who have executive ability. These are the people who make a plan and then jump right into action. They get things done quickly, and when problems arise, they deal with them immediately. Working with them is a great way to achieve your goals. However, their fast pace can be exhausting for those around them, and they can be hard to keep up with.

If you are this type, your ability to work and cope can be very good personally, but you don't work alone, so you need to share and coordinate with your coworkers on a daily basis, so that you can pace yourself and keep a balance all working towards the same goal.

The second is people with lots of ideas but not enough execution. These are the people who are creative and full of ideas, but take time to realize them or lack the ability to execute them. In other words, they're “all talk, no action.” Having a lot of ideas is definitely an important strength, but if they don't follow through, they can lose credibility with team members and cause disruption. 

So how can these types of people make the most of their strengths? Partnering with someone who is a good executioner can help them keep their ideas alive and lead to tangible results. Setting clear goals can also help compensate for their lack of execution, and it can be helpful to routinely envision how their ideas will be implemented. 

The third is people who are critical but not problem-solving. These people are good at pointing out problems and quickly identifying areas for improvement, but they often don't offer any solution. Criticism is important because it points out errors and inefficiencies so that we can move in a better direction. However, if you only point out problems and don't offer any concrete ideas on how to solve them, it slows down progress and lowers morale.

That's why it's important to have conversations that are open to criticism, but also work together to find solutions. It's not just about pointing out problems, it's about turning that criticism into concrete solutions.

What types do you see in the people you work with now, and what type do you see yourself as? We get to work with a lot of different types of people, and I think if we can capitalize on their strengths and complement each other's weaknesses, we'll get a lot more out of our work.

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[Sex & Xes] Sexual prowess is not created by practicing sex techniques.

 

One of the stereotypes we all have is that “sex skills are built by practicing sex techniques.” But this comes from the idea that sex is an obviously limited act that is solely about the senses, mostly the sense of touch. Both men and women think of sex as being focused on the outcome of orgasm and ejaculation, and that's all that matters.

But this idea comes from a strictly masculine view of sex. Men take less time to orgasm than women and have more localized erogenous zones than women, so they don't really understand women's sex. Even women don't understand women's sex. If women understood what female-oriented sex is, both women and men would be able to enjoy much greater sexual pleasure than they currently do.

It's not your fault that you don't know what women-centered sex is. The problem is that there's no one to tell you what women-centered sex is, and that's because most people don't know how the male and female minds work and how the xesmind works. Women perceive sex as being more related with the mind than just a physical act, amplifying everything they perceive through their sensory organs into emotion, and feeling as much pleasure and orgasm as the amplified emotion, so it's not really where or how you stimulate them that matters, but all the moods and feelings of love that lead up to sex. In other words, the process of having sex is very important, rather than the outcome of orgasm and ejaculation.

In fact, women often find that even if they don't reach orgasm during sex, they get enough satisfaction from the things their partner says to them, the way he looks at them, and the way he ejaculates. It's about knowing in their hearts that their partner is incredibly passionate about them, which makes their own sexual arousal fulfilled. That's why women really dislike sex that's just about penetration and ejaculation. Women have a completely different perception of sex than men do.

In order for sex to be female-centered, and for women to achieve pleasure and orgasm in sex, you have to know how the female mind works. Sexual empowerment is not about sex techniques, it's about knowing how the female mind and male mind work. A woman's sex ability is knowing how to fully pleasure herself in sex, and knowing how to enlist the help of her partner to do so.

When a woman's sex ability is created so that she is able to achieve endless climaxes in sex, not only the woman but also the man feels a fullness that he has never felt before. This is because men become more aroused and judge the perfection of the sex by watching women's sexual response.

Women have the ability to amplify perceived information into emotion, so if you can understand a woman's emotions, you can bring her to orgasm without penetration. Unfortunately, neither women nor men know this concept, so men have to take the lead with the little knowledge they have, which leads to sex becoming male-dominated and limiting pleasure.

Always keep in mind that it's the heart that feels the pleasure of sex. The passion of a man and the love of a woman make sex more meaningful, enjoyable, and blissful. Sex without passion and love, just to make your sensory organs feel good, is no different from masturbation. To build sexual prowess, it is very important to learn how human mind works, not the technique.

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[Mother Therapy] Types of people you meet at work

In your work, you'll meet a variety of people, some of whom you can positively influence and grow with, while others can be a constant source of conflict and hinder your growth. Some people even cause lasting damage to you. So what kind of people are you working with right now?

When you're working, no matter how clear your goals and direction, no matter how capable you are, there's a limit to how much you can do on your own, so you naturally realize that you can't do it all on your own, and you find people to work with.

The people you work with determine not only the outcome, but also the pace and direction of your work, so “who you work with” is a very important issue for success. I've categorized the people I encounter in my work into three main types.

The first is people you can grow with. It's a mutually beneficial relationship where you grow and they grow. It's a very positive and ideal relationship. If you have someone like that in your life, it's really important to keep that relationship alive and well, because you're helping each other grow.

The second one is someone who stunts your growth. Honestly, you want to avoid these people, right? But the reality is that you can't pick and choose who you want to be around. These people tend to tear you down out of envy or jealousy, or they tend to put you down, and it's easy to get stressed out and see them in a negative light, and when you see them in a negative light and pay attention to them, it's stressful and hurtful. It's a vicious cycle, and instead of seeing it as a negative thing, you can use it as an opportunity to reflect on yourself and say, “I must be doing something right,” because their envy and jealousy could be a sign that I'm doing something right. In other words, their negativity could be a reflection of my success. The important thing is to take care of yourself and not let the negative energy of these people get to you. Having your own way of dealing with stress and wounds can be very helpful!

The third type of person is someone who leads you in a wrong direction. These are the people you need to be careful of, as they often try to use you for their own gain. It would be nice to cut ties with these people completely, but sometimes that causes more problems. For example, they may attack you in other ways after you cut ties with them. So rather than cutting ties altogether, it may be wiser to keep a healthy distance from these people and engage with them only when necessary. This way, you can minimize the negative impact they can have on you.

In the end, in order to achieve any goal, you have to be careful and selective about who you surround yourself with. It's important to find people who can grow with you and cherish those relationships, while keeping the right amount of distance from those who have a negative impact on you, so that you don't lose your way. I think all of the above are conditions we cannot help facing at some point of our career to achieve greater growth.

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[Sex & Xes] The concept of sexual memory

 

When the mind processes information about sexuality, the body's functions work together to recognize sexuality, remember sexuality, and express sexuality. In this video, we'll talk about sexual memory, where we store and retrieve information about sex and become aware of it.

The mind is composed of conscious and unconscious parts. First, the unconscious works so that we can feel and be aware of it as consciousness, and then the mind-body interaction of perception, memory, and expression is controlled by the unconscious, and then the conscious becomes aware of it and feels it.

When we perceive external information, all five sensory organs are controlled by the unconscious mind. The unconscious mind takes it all in before the conscious mind feels it, but it selectively filters and decides what to remember and what to bring to conscious awareness. The filtering is done by the “habits” in the unconscious mind. The habits in the unconscious mind also interact with the external information and the stored information in the memory to determine whether it is sexual or general information, and then bring it to conscious awareness. This is why each person perceives the same thing differently depending on how the habits in the unconscious mind have been formed.

In the process of recognizing and remembering sex, the unconscious mind works to store the perceived information in memory and retrieve it again from memory, reinforcing or changing what is already stored. As with all psychology, the workings of the habits in the unconscious mind are paramount when it comes to psychology of memory. When it comes to processing and recognizing information about sex, the habituated unconscious forms one’s values, perceptions, and ideas about sex. That is, we have unconscious habits that cause us to think about sex in a certain way when we consciously think about it.

Strictly speaking, it's not something external that comes in and makes you feel it, but rather, it's the information stored in the memory that is retrieved and recognized, which is triggered by the perceived external information. When something is recognized that does not fit with what is stored in the memory from the past experiences, the unconscious mind tries to understand it and readjusts the memory accommodating the new information. The unconscious habits can be changed by adding knowledge, experiences, thoughts, and external expressions. Therefore, even if distorted values and ideas have been formed by the distorted information so far, it is possible to change the stored information and form correct thinking habits by updating the memory by adding accurate information about values and ideas of sexuality in the future.

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[Mother Therapy] Being responsible for what you have tamed

 

Have you ever read the book The Little Prince? You may or may not have. I remember it was listed as one of the must-read books at school, and even if you haven't, you probably know the title because it's so famous.

The other day, I stumbled across a quote from The Little Prince, where the fox says to the prince: “The reason this rose has become so dear to you is because of the time you've spent with it, but don't forget. You will always be responsible for what you have tamed. You are responsible for your rose.”

It's not just about having a relationship with someone, it's about the feelings, expectations, and responsibilities that come with that relationship. This quote made me think about myself as a parent. When I read it as a student, I thought it was about relationships with friends, but now I'm thinking about the role of a parent.  

In the relationship between a parent and children, we create a special bond with our children by giving them love and attention, and in the process, we naturally feel a deep responsibility for them. The expression ‘tame’ here doesn't mean simply raising a child in a parental way, but rather the process of building a loving relationship and trust with a child.

In addition to simply caring for a child, parents play an important role in shaping their emotional stability and social relationships so that children learn how to relate to the world through their parents and discover themselves in the process.

In the end, “responsibility for what you have tamed” means that we are not just responsible for the physical care of our children, but also for their emotions and their whole lives. It is our responsibility to be there for them when they need us, to understand and help them through their emotional struggles, and to encourage them to grow on their own.

When I saw the quote from The Little Prince, I dwelled on the phrase “responsible for what you have tamed,” and it gave me a chance to reflect on my role as a parent in my relationship with my children. What do you think your responsibilities are in your relationship with your children?

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[SATW] All human happiness and unhappiness originate from sexuality.

 

All women are born with true sex ability and true sexual charm, but not many women know that they have sex ability. The conventional concepts of sexuality available for education and information women are exposed to for the whole lifetime are seriously distorted. No one tells them how human sexuality is supposed to operate and how the operation of sexuality affects human body and mind.

     The Theory of Mimind and the Theory of Xesmind that attempt to explain the operational mechanism of men's and women's mimind and xesmind postulate that human sexuality is supposed to operate with women at the center instead of men. However, problems cannot but continue to occur throughout history since distorted concepts of sexuality that put men instead of women at the center and prioritize having sex as a core component of sexuality prevail all around the world.

     Xesmind generates mimind, and mimind activates psychological operations. Humans live in a society forming relationships with other people. When individuals' sexuality or the operation of xesmind, which is the basis of all human relationships, is distorted, their mind collapses, psychology is damaged, and not only individuals but also the whole society suffer from all kinds of problems due to distorted and ruined relationships. At the center of all these problems exist women with true sex ability as major agents of restoration of happiness of individuals and the society.

     When women understand the true nature of human sexuality and restore true sex ability through Sex Ability Training for Women, they can build wound treatment ability and happiness ability as well as powerful sex ability in a true sense. They can live a happy life as women who have the best charm and as major agents who generate happiness and sexual happiness, making all the relationships related with them healthy and happy. Only women can have this ability.

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[Sex & Xes] The Concept of Sexual Expression

 

Today, we're going to talk about “sexual expression” in the context of xes psychology. Sexual problems that arise in human relationships that directly affect others are caused by the expression of sexuality.

Of course, before there is a sexual expression that can cause sexual problems, distorted values and ideas are formed from perceiving and remembering sexuality, but even if you have distorted values and ideas, they will not directly cause damage or affect others if you only have them as thoughts without expressing them.

We first perceive some information from the outside world. Our unconscious mind works with our memories to determine whether or not the perceived information is about sex, and then moves to bring it into our conscious awareness, creating moods and feelings such as joy, anger, pleasure or sorrow around the perceived information.

The problem is that when this unconscious mind is at work, the expression is always at work as well, and since over 90% of our expressions are unconscious, we may not be aware of them at all, or if we are aware of them, it's only after we've already expressed them that we recognize them again, and we're aware of what we've expressed.

What we express is what we say verbally, what we do with our hands, feet, and other gestures, and the expressions on our faces. And then there are thoughts, which are internal expressions that don't show up externally. The thoughts that we have and the facial expressions and gestures that we make on purpose are conscious and intentional expressions that we're aware of, but they're actually less than 10% of our total expression. To make the 10% of conscious expression, there's 90% of unconscious expression that goes on.

The same is true for sexual expression. Sexual words, sexual facial expressions, and all other sexual behaviors are all sexual expressions, and the problem is that less than 10% of our sexual expressions are conscious and intentional, and the other 90% are unconscious, which is why they are so dangerous. That's why sex education is so problematic, because you can only consciously control less than 10% of the sexual information that you receive through knowledge education. Control over sexual expression must be made 10% consciously and 90% unconsciously, which justifies the argument that the power of control must be formed in the unconscious habits.

We don't casually touch the body of the opposite sex in general relationships. Is this really conscious control? The knowledge and experiences that we have lived through create habits in our unconscious minds, and they are controlled before we become conscious of them. However, some people, regardless of whether they are male or female, casually touch the body of the opposite sex, and we can think that they lack knowledge and experience.

When wounds and stress are operating powerfully in the unconscious mind, sexuality is often activated to repair those wounds and stress. Sexual attention, comfort, and sexual expression are much more powerful than normal processing of information, so women who are overwhelmingly hurt think they're creating love and happiness through sexual expression, and men who are overwhelmingly stressed think they're creating stress relief and passion through sexual pleasure. All of this is unconscious, not conscious, and the problem is that when they happen in relationships, they affect other people.

The unconscious is the part of sexual expression that we shouldn't miss. It's important to keep in mind that the only way we can have healthy control over our sexual expression is that we develop the right values and perceptions about sex as unconscious habits.

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[Mother Therapy] A coworker who doesn't work well, should you just give up?

 

Most of us work with coworkers, but if they're doing their job not as well as you'd like, or if you wish they were more creative and enterprising but can't think outside the box, what do you do? Do you just let them do what they can do and be satisfied with that? Or do you say “enough is enough,” cheer them on, and let them go their separate ways?

The perfect employee or coworker is probably out there somewhere, but it's not easy to find, so instead of waiting for the perfect person, why not recognize the strengths and weaknesses of the people you have now, and work to align and grow with them?

As I mentioned earlier, if someone is doing their job but not doing it well, what if, instead of assuming that “they can't do the job,” you could help them get better at it, which in turn could improve their performance and the performance of your company or team?

For example, you might want to be clearer and more specific when communicating tasks, or show them samples of what you're looking for in advance. No one gets it right the first time, so you can build on each other's strengths and work on weaknesses with constant feedback and encouragement.

Many people think of learning new things or gaining experience as a way to improve their skills. But the process of teaching and leading others is also an important part of self-improvement, and it can help your company perform better and, in turn, strengthen your own career.

In order to work efficiently and harmoniously within an organization, you need to broaden your horizons and look at problems from different perspectives. This doesn't just apply to the workplace, it also applies to raising children at home: when children make a mistake or do something clumsy, instead of just judging them, you can guide them to learn from the experience, so that they can grow in their own way and you can grow with them.

Even if it's uncomfortable right now and there are no tangible results, we can see the potential for growth and work towards harmony for the success of everyone involved.

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[Sex & Xes] Differences in perceptions of sexual dysfunction between men and women

 

Men and women have very different perceptions of sexual dysfunction. First, men develop sexual dysfunction when they have too much information about sex or have many experiences of having sex. When a man's xesmind processes sexual information, xes wounds grow little by little in their xesmind. As these wounds accumulate, they have a negative effect on the body and mind, but it is recognized as pleasure in the conscious.

In addition, because xes wounds that cause sexual dysfunction are not recognized and not sensed, sexual dysfunction is often thought of as a physical problem by men. Therefore, when men experience sexual dysfunction, they try to treat the body to restore sexual function. However, for women, sexual dysfunction occurs when the mind is very healthy or, conversely, when the wounds in mind become much larger than normal women.

A woman's xesmind works when she is trying to repair wounds in her mind, so if her mind is healthy, there is no reason for her xesmind to work, and she is not interested in sex. If the level of her wounds is extremely high, she may also become sexually dysfunctional because she blocks her perception of sexuality completely and her body does not respond to sexual stimulation at all. 

Happiness and wounds in mind are recognized and felt in the conscious, so when women experience sexual dysfunction, they think of it as a psychological problem and not a physical problem. They hardly try to treat their bodies for sexual dysfunction. However, they may try to treat their bodies being influenced by popular misinformation about sexuality, community activities, or their husbands.

Men perceive sexual dysfunction as a physical problem, so they assume that a woman's sexual dysfunction must also be a physical problem. They assume that there is something wrong with the woman's body that causes sexual dysfunction. It doesn't occur to men that woman's sexual dysfunction may be caused by a psychological problem. So, just as men try to cure their own sexual dysfunction, they try to cure their partner's sexual dysfunction physically.

Also, because women think that their sexual dysfunction is caused by psychological problems, they think that men's sexual dysfunction is also caused by psychological problems, so they think that treating men's psychology will cure their sexual dysfunction. Women often think that men need attention and love, and they want to comfort men thinking that they are working too hard, stressed, or tired.

Women hardly try hard to treat their own sexual dysfunction, and they don't think much about treating their partner's sexual dysfunction either, because they assume that once their psychology is restored, their sexual dysfunction will naturally resolve itself. Of course, if a woman develops an addiction as a result of wound dissociation, sexual dysfunction becomes a very serious matter to her. These women override their feelings of wounds and seek only the pleasure of their sensory organs, and they become tolerant of, or indulge in, having sex, which is the most intense and pleasurable form of sensory stimulation. This activates all the sensory organs in the woman’s body, no matter how frigid or anorgasmic a woman may have been, so when a woman who was primarily depressed and frigid converts to addiction, her body becomes easily aroused and optimized for having sex.

Regardless of how men and women perceive sexual dysfunction, if they have it and want to treat it, physical treatment should never be the first thing they do. Fundamentally, men need to create habits of mind so that they can remove xes wounds, and women need to create habits of mind so that they can treat wounds in mind and change their perceptions and values about sex.

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[Sex & Xes] Divorce and Sexuality in Women with Psychological Wounds

 

Why do women get divorced? Most often, it's because their spouse has caused them a lot of wounds and stress. With small wounds, you may have conflicts and fights sometimes but good things also happen and you can just go on with your marriage feeling OK.

However, when the accumulated wounds become overwhelming, or when a spouse's infidelity, violence, or other circumstances cause unmanageable wounds in women, they turn to divorce as a means of avoiding the wounds. The problem with this is that avoiding the wounds doesn't make them go away, because divorce doesn’t remove the source of the wounds. There are a lot of wounds still staying inside you, just not acted upon because the object that triggered wounds is gone.

A woman's wounds are directly related to her entire xes psychology, including her libido and sexual functioning. Small wounds can heal by understanding the cause of the wound, receiving comfort and attention, but when the wound is too much for the mind to handle, the mind alone cannot repair it, so xesmind comes into play.

When xesmind is activated to repair the wound, even a woman who has never been interested in sex before may have a very strong desire for sex. Not only that, but the sensory organs become very active and sensitive in order to perceive sexual information, and the expression of sexuality is intensified beyond the control of consciousness. In other words, women’s sexual functioning becomes very good along with strong sexual desire, all because of the wounds in the heart.

At this point, the woman either shuts off having sex completely or her sexuality becomes hyper-activated. One may say, “I'm done with men, I'm just going to live happily with my children,” and then she pours all her xes energy, which has grown to the size of her wound, into her children. This is not to say that children are perceived as being sexual to her, but a powerful energy of the size of the wound is poured into children because desire is energy that seeks to fill in what is missing or lacking in oneself.

Wound-based needs become obsession, not love. What happens is that they obsess and over-interfere in their children's every move and mistake it for love. The result is that women end up living their lives based on wounds, and their children end up not being able to live their lives fully because of their mother's wounds.

The other choice is “men,” which is to say, “Okay. I've done enough being a wife and a mom, and now I'm going to love and enjoy my life as a woman.” In this case, the woman’s sexual function and sexual desire are highly enhanced due to the overwhelming wounds. As this is an unrecognized operation of the xesmind, the woman mistakes her change for wanting love. 

These women are easy targets for men who only want the pleasure of sex, and men are very aware that when they heal a woman's wounds, having sex follows, as does the heart. Women may consciously think, “I would never do that,” but it's not easy for the mind to control the workings of the xesmind. The stronger the “I would never do that” in the conscious mind, the stronger the opposite is in the unconscious mind. The conscious mind thinks you want a man's love, but what you really want in the unconscious is sex, not love.

If you remarry, you promise yourself countless times that you won't repeat the mistakes of the last time, and you're convinced that your new spouse will be different from the last one. Of course, in the beginning, it's too good to be true. The sex is so good, and the good times keep rolling. But as you get more intimate with your partner, the more unconscious wounds that have been building up are expressed. And then, the day you recognize something that reminds you of the events that led to the previous divorce, you have a situation where all of the old wounds come out. Then, can the new spouse handle it?

Human sexuality is a double-edged sword, and depending on how you use it, it can either kill you completely or keep you completely healthy. It has a tremendous amount of energy, but right now, everyone is unaware of its nature, so they use it to kill others and kill themselves under the illusion of love and pleasure.

Since women’s sexuality is directly related to psychological wounds, it is important to remember that when you have many wounds inside you, it is imperative to heal the wounds first. No human being can think correctly and constructively when they are in negative emotions, and in major life events such as marriage and divorce, it is imperative to heal the wounds first to create the ability to be happy to protect yourself and children.

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[Sex & Xes] Prejudice against homosexuality

 

Homosexuality itself is not a psychological disorder or problem, but the causes of a person developing a homosexual orientation can be problematic. The causes of men becoming homosexual are slightly different from the causes of women becoming homosexual. If a person's sexual orientation is formed as part of their natural psychological development, it's not so problematic. They can live their lives in the same healthy way as someone who loves the opposite sex.

For men, the pursuit of more stimulating sexual pleasures can lead to homosexuality. Since men are relatively much more liberal than women when it comes to sexual behavior, sex between men is often much more explicit and liberating than other types of sex, and men who become homosexuals this way lead a highly sexually-oriented life. This is usually the case for men who are voluntarily coming out, are active in the gay community, and are openly looking for partners. Male homosexuals who did not become homosexual as a result of seeking sexual pleasure tend to avoid revealing their homosexuality.

Many female homosexuals, on the other hand, are driven to homosexuality by a trauma that they are unable to deal with. For example, if you were sexually abused by a man as a child, the mere sight of a man can be suffocating, and the only relationship you can breathe in is with women. Or if you were neglected by your parents and bullied as a child at the same time, the scars are enormous.

When no one else cares about your wounds, you may find yourself falling in love with someone of the same sex who can easily empathize and comfort you. These are the types of female homosexuals we see most often. Women who don't have wounds and just happened to become homosexual in the process of their psychological development are the ones we don't see around as much because they don't easily expose their sexual orientation.

In the case of a man who becomes homosexual as a result of pleasure-seeking, all of his relationships and value pursuits become nothing more than a means for having sex. He has a tremendous desire for sex, which in turn leads to a tremendous amount of stress, which he is not good at handling.

A female homosexual who is driven to homosexuality by many and deep wounds naturally has to live with a tremendous number of wounds. When wounds affect women, they cause symptoms such as anxiety, obsession, irritability, depression, and dependency, so female homosexuals who have become homosexuals due to severe wounds almost certainly have these symptoms, making their lives and lives of people around them difficult.

In these cases, both male and female homosexuals become very narrow-minded because the biggest factor in their lives is sexual pleasure or psychological wounds. This leads us to think that homosexuals have problems, but it's not the homosexuality itself that's the problem, but it's the abnormal sex drive, the pursuit of sexual pleasure, and the overwhelming wounds. This can also apply to heterosexuals, but the distortions of homosexuality seem to be more pronounced since homosexuals are viewed with prejudice in society more than other people.

On the other hand, there are people who naturally become homosexual without excessive sexual pleasure-seeking or excessive wounds. These people usually live their lives without revealing their sexual orientation to the outside world, and if they happen to fall in love with someone of the same sex, they can be just as healthy and happy as their heterosexual counterparts.

It's not the homosexuality that needs to be addressed, it's the excessive pursuit of sexual pleasure and the effect of excessive wounds, which also applies to heterosexuals as it does for homosexuals. Once their psychological conditions are restored, anyone can live a healthy and happy life. Also, it is possible to change from homosexuality to heterosexuality if that is what the person wants. There are many heterosexuals who have problems mentioned above. The bottom line is that there is no need to be prejudiced against homosexuals or to have unreasonable rejection of them.

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