When you're working, no matter how clear
your goals and direction, no matter how capable you are, there's a limit to how
much you can do on your own, so you naturally realize that you can't do it all
on your own, and you find people to work with.
The people you work with determine not only
the outcome, but also the pace and direction of your work, so “who you work
with” is a very important issue for success. I've categorized the people I
encounter in my work into three main types.
The first is people you can grow with. It's
a mutually beneficial relationship where you grow and they grow. It's a very
positive and ideal relationship. If you have someone like that in your life,
it's really important to keep that relationship alive and well, because you're
helping each other grow.
The second one is someone who stunts your
growth. Honestly, you want to avoid these people, right? But the reality is
that you can't pick and choose who you want to be around. These people tend to
tear you down out of envy or jealousy, or they tend to put you down, and it's
easy to get stressed out and see them in a negative light, and when you see
them in a negative light and pay attention to them, it's stressful and hurtful.
It's a vicious cycle, and instead of seeing it as a negative thing, you can use
it as an opportunity to reflect on yourself and say, “I must be doing something
right,” because their envy and jealousy could be a sign that I'm doing
something right. In other words, their negativity could be a reflection of my
success. The important thing is to take care of yourself and not let the
negative energy of these people get to you. Having your own way of dealing with
stress and wounds can be very helpful!
The third type of person is someone who
leads you in a wrong direction. These are the people you need to be careful of,
as they often try to use you for their own gain. It would be nice to cut ties
with these people completely, but sometimes that causes more problems. For
example, they may attack you in other ways after you cut ties with them. So
rather than cutting ties altogether, it may be wiser to keep a healthy distance
from these people and engage with them only when necessary. This way, you can minimize
the negative impact they can have on you.
In the end, in order to achieve any goal,
you have to be careful and selective about who you surround yourself with. It's
important to find people who can grow with you and cherish those relationships,
while keeping the right amount of distance from those who have a negative
impact on you, so that you don't lose your way. I think all of the above are conditions
we cannot help facing at some point of our career to achieve greater growth.