The perpetrator cannot sense the victim's pain

 

There are many cases where people are hurt by abusive behaviors and physical violence in human relationships. However, the perpetrator cannot sense how much pain is inflicted upon the victim. When someone hits the other person with his or her hand, the person who hit cannot sense the pain. He or she can sense only the pain in his or her hand.

 

When you are hit by another person, you can sense the pain. You may assume that the perpetrator can also sense how painful it is. However, the perpetrator may say that he or she just did it inadvertently or unintentionally, which the victim may not even believe.

 

It must be kept in mind that any behavior has the possibility to hurt other people in a great deal. When you have the idea that only your happiness is important regardless of others, you will easily hurt other people thinking that you just behaved to suit your standard of thought and happiness.

 

People who have self-conviction are in great danger of inflicting damage on other people without realizing how much pain their behaviors can cause in the victims. They cannot see what is wrong with themselves since they are convinced that their thoughts and behaviors are right with reference to their own thought standards.

 

You may throw a stone inadvertently and a frog may be killed by the stone. Is the frog's death caused by your throwing the stone or by the frog's being there at the moment?

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Counseling can be dangerous when treating psychological disorders

 

I have developed a non-contact self-treatment method of psychological disorders and do not adopt the method of counseling to treat psychological disorders. Counseling that analyzes original family, growth process, and wounds and trauma is not adopted, which actually leads many people to complain. Then, they are surprised at how effective the non-contact self-treatment method is as they proceed with the new and innovative program.

 

The core component of the non-contact self-treatment method is adjusting the unconscious in mind to treat psychological disorders. There is no need for the counselor and the client to discuss the specifics of the clients' life experiences at all. By principle, no one has the right or ability to analyze and discuss other people's unique experiences. Any life experience is unique and meaningful in and of itself.

 

Conventional counseling has a serious error of adopting the method effective only for treating mild cases psychological problems to treat severe cases of psychological disorders. Most experts from the days of Sigmund Freud to the present adopt the method of counseling to analyze the patient's psychology and treat psychological disorders. Retrieving life experiences associated with psychological pain and exchanging emotions with the counselor only aggravates the condition of psychological disorder without exception. It may look as if treatment were progressing temporarily or on the surface, but it may actually contribute to pathological condition transfering to another component of psychology thereby developing an additional psychological disorder let alone treating the original one.

 

Counseling is effective to solve mild cases of psychological problems with a certain degree of healing effect. The error of counseling comes from not differentiating psychological problems with psychological disorders and adopting the method meant for psychological problems to treat psychological disorders.

 

Human mind has the energy that enables self-treatment of psychology. An adequate  treatment method of psychological disorders must be able to guide the patient to activate the energy of mind in the unconscious and regain balance in psychological operation. Only the patients themselves have the ability to treat their own psychological disorders and restore healthy psychology inside them.

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Psychological problems after divorce or remarriage

 

I host live sessions on Youtube for 'Free Consultation on Infidelity' and 'Free Consultation on Divorce and Remarriage' every weekdays. Free Consultation on Infidelity has been held about 230 times and Free Consultation on Divorce and Remarriage has been held for a few weeks now.

 

There are many people who suffer from psychological pain before, during, and after divorce and remarriage. I also find that much information is being offered to people who go through divorce and remarriage but most of the contents are misleading and even dangerous sometimes.

 

So many reference materials lead people to live in pain and suffering after divorce and remarriage when they can actually become happy by accurately understanding the operational mechanism of human mind and psychology. Many suggestions that are readily available and trusted without questioning guide you to wander about and aggravate the condition without addressing underlying issues.

 

You can prevent diverse difficulties when you understand the psychology of divorce and remarriage accurately. Moreover, you can always recover your psychological health and happiness no matter what difficulties you have experienced through divorce or remarriage.

 

It is crucial that you treat your psychological wounds and build happiness ability in order to live happily with your loved ones regardless of your circumstances. I hope that people who are thinking about divorce or remarriage will reflect on what true happiness is when before take advice from diverse sources and make important decisions.  

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E-mail : uip@uip.ac

What is your major?

 

Many people ask me whether I have majored in psychology or medicine. I have not majored in either of them. I simply was interested in studying human mind and psychology and delved into studying the subject until I finally discovered the operational mechanism of mind and psychology and developed the Theory of Mimind and the Theory of Xesmind. I could also develop non-contact self-treatment methods of psychological disorders including post traumatic stress. Some people may think that my theories and treatment methods must not be reliable since I have no background in related fields of study, which I fully understand.  

 

I wonder if I could have been able to develop my theories and treatment methods if I had been trained in the related fields. I also wonder why people are suffering more and more psychological problems when so many theories and treatment methods are supposed to be available and effective.

 

I still plan to continue with my work to improve theories and treatment methods and do my best to help people suffering from psychological problems despite all the criticisms and doubts.

Korea Institute of Psycho-education : http://www.uip.ac

E-mail : uip@uip.ac

A friend of mine contacted me in 30 years

 

A friend of mine recently contacted me in 30 years. He said he was surprised to see me on the media and to learn that I was working in a completely different field from my major, which was computer science.

 

In addition, he mentioned that it would be nice for me to implement the treatment of less severe psychological conditions such as depression and addiction from which so many people are suffering. I explained to him that I definitely work for the treatment of diverse psychological conditions, but I am just more known for the treatment of conditions associated with infidelity. I also told him that people show so much interest in issues of infidelity since infidelity affects people's life in such a serious way and the extent of its negative influence is beyond anyone's imagination.

 

Upon developing the Theory of Mimind and Xesmind, I discovered that the cause of infidelity is relationship addiction and the victimized spouse develops post traumatic stress. Infidelity causes the destruction of individuals, family, and human relationships, thereby negatively affecting the whole society.

 

The treatment methods I developed can be adopted to treat most psychological conditions ranging from severe cases such as relationship addiction, post traumatic stress, bipolar disorder, and hysteria to milder cased such as depression and addiction.

 

Infidelity issues must be addressed in connection with relationship addiction and post traumatic stress. They are severe psychological disorders that destroy human relationships and keep progressing unless properly treated until one's life completely collapses.

 

When parents are involved in the issue of infidelity, children cannot help being negatively affected developing their own psychological problems and disorders. People in relationship addiction and post traumatic stress negatively affect all other people they interact with regardless of their intention.

 

Many experts attribute infidelity cases to problems of marriage relationship, sexual problems, problems of love and emotion, and social and environmental problems. Inaccurate interpretations and analyses lead to providing inadequate treatment and guidance for people in pain and suffering. We are in a sad situation where many people are paying for inadequate treatment and guidance with dire consequence in the life of themselves and their children.

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E-mail : uip@uip.ac

Sickness in the body vs. sickness in the mind

 

When people are sick in the body, they may immediately try to find ways to recover by getting rest, taking medicine, or consulting a doctor. They will ususally take some measures at an early stage not to aggravate the condition.

 

However, when they are sick in the mind, people are less active in trying to recover, thinking that they will become well as time goes by or not really knowing what to do. In many cases, they may blame other people for their psychological pain and suffering and try to change other people. All of the above only aggravate psychological conditions.

 

Both the body and the mind are important for us to live happily. Healthy body is necessary for survival and healthy mind is necessary for happiness. They are equally important but maintaining healthy mind is less emphasized than it should be.

 

If you want to achieve happiness, you must always watch your psychological health and take a good care of even mild symptoms of the sickness in the mind as you do for the sickness in the body. You must treat your own psychological wounds before analyzing what and who caused your sickness in the mind.

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E-mail : uip@uip.ac

Standardized psychology tests are unnecessary for treating psychological disorders

 

Standardized psychology tests may be useful in some situations such as when you use them for diagnosing general psychological conditions or for addressing mild cases of psychological problems. However, they interfere with the treatment process and aggravate psychological conditions rather then help when you treat psychological disorders.

 

Some clients may feel that standardized psychology tests serve as the basis for building trust with the therapists and facilitate the treatment but such process is usually unnecessary for treating psychological disorders, which must focus more on the operation of the unconscious than on that of the conscious.

 

When the therapists of psychology treatment refer to and rely on the results of the standardized psychology tests, they may build bias toward the clients' psychological conditions and become to focus on the manifested phenomena relying on the clients' conscious, which includes conscious thoughts and retrieved memories. Then, the therapists cannot but be led to analyze and focus on the original family, growth process, and traumatic events themselves rather than on the underlying imbalance of the unconscious operation of mind.

 

It is impossible to treat psychological disorders when the therapists become dependent on the clients' consciousness and then, the clients' psychological conditions deteriorate in the process. It is strongly recommended not to adopt methods that advocate taking standardized psychology tests for treating psychological disorders.  

Korea Institute of Psycho-education : http://www.uip.ac

E-mail : uip@uip.ac

A person and a person in relationships

 

A person and a person in relationships are different.

A person focuses on survival and pursues only individual's happiness. A person exists alone without the concept of having relationships with other people. A person exists, survives, and thinks. The psychology of perception, memory, and expression of a person operates focused on individual happiness rather than on relationships, so everyone has the right for freedom and equality when they exist as a person.

 

Human beings are unique species with their own value and dignity. They cannot be objects of comparison with any other plant or animal. Also, a person cannot be compared with another person since every individual has unique thoughts based on unique life experiences.

 

When two or more people exist in relationships, they are referred to as 'a person in relationships'. A person aims only for survival and individual's happiness, but a person in relationships exists as a person and pursue self-actualization with meanings and values of life in relationships at the same time. A person in relationships exists with other people and thinks about relationships. The psychology of perception, memory, and expression of a person in relationships operates associated with human relationships. To exist as a person in relationships, people need to suppress individual's right of freedom and equality to a certain degree and maintain harmony and order with other people.

 

A person in relationships pursues individual's happiness and happiness in relationships simultaneously, and pursues self-actualization with social, relational, and economic values in the society and with meanings in the family.

 

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The treatment of psychological disorders

 

When people complete the treatment program of psychological disorders at KIP, they say that everything looks different and they feel they are living in a completely new world. Of course, they go through ups and downs as they proceed with daily life and diverse life experiences but now they have the ability to control their own mind and psychology.

 

People who finish the treatment program need to self-check once in a while to maintain the balance in psychology. At first, they self-check once a week and then, once every two weeks, and then once every month until their psychology is completely stabilized. Some people say that they feel deeply in love with their spouse in years and understand that they have been loving each other in their unconscious all those years of pain and suffering.

 

You can correct your erroneous thoughts by accurately understanding the operational mechanism of human mind and psychology. Then, you can recover the relationships with your loved ones through understanding and consideration. You just need to activate the operation of mind in a balanced way to treat psychological disorders. Your mind itself is the source of treating psychological disorders. All human beings are born with the ability to treat psychological disorders on their own, but we keep destroying ourselves and others since we do not understand how mind and psychology operate.

 

You can leave pain and suffering behind and start living happily with your loved ones again by adopting KIP psychology treatment programs.

 

Korea Institute of Psycho-education : http://www.kip.ac/

E-mail : uip@uip.ac

Eating disorder and psychogenic gastric disorder

 

An 18-year-old girl visited for a consultation led by her parents. She was first diagnosed as having eating disorder at a major hospital and was hospitalized for  medication and psychology counseling. Then, she was also treated by adopting diverse herbal remedies and folk remedies for 1 year to no avail.

 

She was 5.5ft and 85lb when she visited for consultation. She said she couldn't eat any food. She was checked for her operation of the unconscious and she seemed to have psychogenic gastric disorder rather than a type eating disorder. She learned about the operational mechanism of human mind and psychology in the consultation sessions that consisted of 3 one hour sessions conducted every other day.

 

Her mother contacted me in 2 months after the consultation. She said the girl had changed a lot. She was eating well, gained weight, and felt happy. As seen in the above example, it seems clear that adjusting the unconscious to operate in a balanced way is quite effective. You can build the ability for happiness inside yourself by adjusting the unconscious, and then, diverse symptoms that manifest the unbalanced operation of mind and psychology will automatically disappear.

 

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E-mail : uip@uip.ac

A teenage boy who gets furious upon the slightest stress

 

A 17-year-old boy who was suffering from incidents of rage explosion upon the slightest stress visited for consultation. Not only the boy but also all his family members were suffering due to the boy's condition. The boy had had the condition for almost 3 years. He was diagnosed as having adjustment disorder by psychiatrists and given the prescription for medication for remission of symptoms. His parents were against medication and they had him take many sessions of psychology counseling to no avail. His parents referred the boy to me as the last resort.

I talked with the boy and analyzed his unconscious. It turned out that he had a healthy mind and psychology. It was only that he was not able to control his expression of the unconscious and compulsion and obsession continued making his stress being expressed outwardly by the operation of the unconscious. I explained how human mind and psychology operate and how the unconscious and the conscious operates. He understood why he suffered from such symptoms and realized that he had normal psychological operation basically. He was able to accurately understand the cause of his problems and analyze the manifested symptoms based on the understanding. We didn't have to talk about his childhood experiences or family structure to address his problem since information on the past experiences or external factors is irrelevant to solving the present psychological problems.

It takes much shorter time to solve teenagers' psychological problems compared with adults' problems. Teenagers easily understand and instantly adopt the operational mechanism of human mind and psychology when they learn about it, which makes consultations for teenagers quite rewarding and worthwhile. It took less that 3 months for this boy remove the symptom of rage explosion. All he needed was to adjust his unconscious for stable operation. Also, he learned about how to heal stress as soon as they flow in and build his own healing system for stress by controlling his unconscious.

 

Korea Institute of Psycho-education : http://www.kip.ac/

E-mail : uip@uip.ac