[Sex & Xes] The concept of sexual function

 

Today we're going to talk about sexual function as a result of the workings of xesmind. Many people think of sexual function only in terms of the physical function, but it's a misconception that sexual function and sexual dysfunction are solely a matter of the body. Sexual function can never be discussed in isolation from the mind.

In order to perceive any information from the outside and become conscious of it, the five sensory organs of the body must work, and when we think, we must retrieve memories from the brain, update new information, and store it in the brain. And when the mind wants to express the results of the mind's work to the outside, it can only be expressed through the body, whether it is a facial expression, a gesture, an action, or a word.

In this way, the process of processing information in the mind is done through the three psychological processes of perception, memory, and expression, and if we are processing information about sex, the xes psychology of perceiving sexuality, remembering sexuality, and expressing sexuality comes into play. And the work of the xes psychology is manifested as sexual function through the body used to perceive sexuality, the body used to remember and think about sexuality, and the body used to express sexuality through words, actions, and facial expressions.

If sexuality should be recognized and felt through the sensory organs, but it is not recognized well enough, it is considered as sexual dysfunction, and if you have to think about something by bringing up the memory of sexuality and it does not work well, or if you think about something sexually that is not common due to distorted sexual memory, it can also be a sexual dysfunction. And it goes without saying that if you can't express your sexuality in words, actions, and facial expressions as well as you need to when you need to, it's sexual dysfunction. In this case, not only too little, that is, not working well, is sexual dysfunction, but too much, or more than necessary, is also sexual dysfunction.

Fundamentally, if you want to recover from sexual dysfunction and have full control at the right time and in the right place, you have to have a clear concept of sexual function and treat sexual dysfunction from the perspective of mind and psychology. But the current approach to sexual dysfunction focuses on mostly physical aspects, and that means taking certain foods, taking pills and supplements, getting surgeries or even training sexual organs. This is one of the most common and most grossly distorted errors we face in sexual problems.

A physical approach to sexual dysfunction is not a cure-all, so the problem will either return, or one problem will be solved and another will arise. It's important to keep in mind that the more you try to do something to fix your sexual dysfunction to the exclusion of your mind and psychology, the more you're going to aggravate not only your sexual function but also your psychological condition.

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[Mother Therapy] How to ease conversations

 

Have you ever been in a conversation with someone and had it turn awkward? Whether it's with a friend, family member, or coworker, we've all had the experience of having a conversation with someone and having it turn awkward. Let's take the example of a conversation between a mother and her teenage daughter.  

The topic of conversation was plans for the future, and the daughter was talking passionately about the direction she was thinking about taking, and the mother was listening and sharing some of her own thoughts. Sensing that things were getting awkward, the mother asked her daughter what was wrong, and she said, “Mom, I just wanted to talk to you about this and that, but you took it so seriously that I don't know if I should say more.”

So the mother said, “Was I too serious? Maybe I was thinking and talking only from my own perspective. Maybe you were uncomfortable.” They checked on each other's thoughts and feelings in the moment, and the mother explained the situation to her so she could understand, and then they were able to clear up the misunderstanding and get back to talking.

When we have conversations, we tend to think and express ourselves more from our own perspective than our partner's, but conversations are not just about exchanging words, so it's important to try to understand where the other person is coming from and what they're expecting. For example, when a close friend confides in you about a problem, she might not want your advice, but just want to be listened to and empathized with, and if you give her advice, the conversation won't go anywhere.

It's good to keep these two things in mind when you're having a conversation: one, be clear about what you really want to communicate and think about how you're going to express it, and two, try to understand where the other person is coming from when they're having this conversation.

Conversation is an important tool for us to communicate, understand, and develop relationships with others, but sometimes things get awkward or we say things that can be hurtful, and conversations don't always go smoothly, but we can learn from these experiences to do better and understand the other person more deeply.

Conflict in conversations, especially in intimate relationships, can lead to other difficulties, so remember and apply these tips the next time you have a conversation with someone close to you, and you'll have a richer conversation and a closer relationship.

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[Sex & Xes] Women’s sex ability vs. sex techniques

 

When people think of sex ability, they usually think of sex skills and techniques, but a woman's true sex ability has nothing to do with her sex techniques. Sex ability is the ability of xesmind to operate xes energy to get the body and mind in the best possible state, while sex techniques are fragmentary abilities that only comes into play during the sexual action. Putting it this way, men might think that a woman with good sex techniques would be better than a woman with sex ability, but a woman with sex ability will automatically have sex techniques as she maximizes her emotions to help men create passion.

For a woman to build the greatest sex ability, she must first have a healthy mind and body. For sex ability to translate into sex skills, the body must first have good sexual function, and women's sexual function improves as their sexual sensations develop. To develop sexual sensations, you need to have a lot of information about sex. Women only take in the sexual information that is in their sexual habits, so the more sexual information they have, the more they can perceive with their sensory organs, which leads to the development of sexual sensations.

In this process of accumulating sexual information and improving sexual function, direct sexual action, or having sex, is not important. When women accumulate information about sex in a healthy state of mind and body, they will unconditionally improve their sexual function and performance. In this state of good sexual function and sex ability, it is up to the individual to decide whether or not to adopt certain sex techniques and skills in sexual actions.

Especially in women, the work of xesmind and the wounds in mimind are closely related, so if a woman has the ability to recover from her own wounds, her sex ability will be the best. This means that the work of xesmind is active enough to repair any wound in mimind by itself. If sex techniques are added to this, the happiness felt through having sex will also increase. However, if a woman has sex only for the pleasure of sex without true sex ability, the emotions that create happiness will not function, so the mind will collapse and only the body's sexual function will improve, and she may become to live for sex. 

If a woman has sex skills in addition to sex ability, she doesn't have to seek the pleasure of sex, because the pleasure of sex takes only a small part in her happiness, especially when she is with someone she loves. So instead of chasing after sex, she just has to be ready to have sex whenever she needs it to create her happiness.

Women who have true sex ability don't consider having sex to be important and they don't have a strong sex drive, but they're at their best when they have sex because they're ready to have sex at any time. Men who have sex with these women can't even think about having sex with another woman.

When xes psychology is in play, using xes energy without associating it with having sex removes the desire for sex. However, when xes energy is used for having sex, or in an other-centered way instead of a self-centered way, the healing is delayed because less energy is available to transform the wound into happiness. This is because a woman's libido works in tandem with her mimind as it works to treat her wounds.

So if a woman wants to have the best sex skills, she has to build sex ability first, and to build sex ability, she has to build the ability to turn wounds into happiness on her own. Thus, sex ability and sex skills are two different things. Of course, a woman with sex ability is able to maximize her xes energy through sex, which makes her much more pleased and happier than a woman who is just chasing pleasure without true sex ability.

On the other hand, women with no sex ability and only with sex skills are likely to chase pleasure, which leads them to seek out men with sex skills, but all they end up with are men with no sex ability and only with sexual dysfunction. This is often the case with people who verbally brag about their sexual prowess.

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[Mother Therapy] A woman before you were a mother

 

You know what? Mothers were women before they were mothers. So, knowing what constitutes a woman's happiness can help you a lot with whatever emotional or psychological challenges you're having right now. As we all know, people are divided into men and women. Not only do men and women look different, but they also have major differences in how they seek happiness.

First of all, men mainly pursue future happiness, so they set goals, work hard to achieve them, and feel positive and energized in the process. Hope and anticipation for the future is an important factor in happiness for men. For example, if your husband has had a tough day at work, he might enjoy a beer at home to unwind and find the energy to get back to work tomorrow. It's his future-oriented pursuit of happiness.

Women, on the other hand, are more concerned with present happiness, and transforming negative emotions into positive ones through the emotion of love is an important source of life energy for them. This doesn't mean that women don't think about the future at all, it's just that it's harder to think about the future if they are not happy in the present. The process of healing psychological wounds and turning them into positive emotions is what makes a woman happy. So in a marriage, the woman feels happy through the love of her husband as a man, and as a wife, she feels happy through giving love to her husband, and as a mother, she feels happy through giving love to her child.

After all, a mother is a woman before she is a mother. Understanding and respecting a woman's happiness will help you understand and address emotional difficulties or psychological issues a mother may be experiencing.

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[Sex & Xes] Is sex about pleasure or love?

 

When we discuss sex, it's often a binary pro/con debate in terms of pleasure and love, but it shouldn't be a binary of which is right and which is wrong. When we think of sex in terms of love, we generally have a lot of positive feelings, but when we think of sex in terms of pleasure, we have more negative feelings. We might ask if pleasure is bad, because pleasure is a strong positive feeling, so why do we have negative feelings about sexual pleasure?

This is because pleasure and love work differently in the mind: pleasure is the maximization of the sensations felt in your own sensory organs, and it's only for yourself. Love, on the other hand, is the work of the human mind in the company of another human being. That's why pleasure itself isn't bad, but it can destroy relationships and cause harm to others, because when you pursue only your own pleasure, you don't care about others at all. Sex, in particular, is an act of intense pleasure. If you start to think of the other person as a means to an end, with the sole purpose of your own sexual pleasure, it will destroy both your own psychology and that of others.

So what about the idea that sex is love"? Technically, sex is not love, but sex is a natural accompaniment to a romantic human relationship. Sex serves to strengthen the passion of a man and the love of a woman. Sex is an accompaniment to love, but sex cannot be love. If sex is love, then it must follow that if there is no sex, there is no love.

So we shouldn't look at sex from a binary perspective, debating whether it's love or pleasure. The correct definition of sex is a sexual act and nothing more. We use sex as a means for living happily as human beings with love and passion. The energy created through sex enhances love, passion, and happiness.

It's worth noting that when we don't know exactly how sex gives us pleasure, how it strengthens passion and love, and what the purpose of sex is, our values about sex become muddled, leading to distorted ideas and conflicts in human relationships.

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[Mother Therapy] Finding healthy ways of healing stress is essential.

 

Many people are concerned about their mental health as well as their physical health. If you look at a typical day, one-third of it is used for sleeping and two-thirds is used for working or doing various activities. When you are working or doing different activities, sometimes you are alone, but more often you are with other people, and when you are with other people, you are more likely to have a conscious relationship with them, and when you have a conscious relationship, you naturally tend to suppress your unconscious expressions, and you use more of your conscious expressions, and that's when you get tired. You're thinking more consciously than unconsciously, and you're thinking a lot, and you're stressed.

Most people who have worked hard for the day want to go home and relax, or have a drink at a comfortable place, or meet up with their close friends, to relieve the stress of their conscious relationships. It's great for our mental health to have our own ways of dealing with stress, but what happens when we don't do it in a timely manner? Stress can accumulate and cause physical and psychological problems, or it can lead to interpersonal conflicts as you unconsciously express stress when you're with people you love and are close to.

Important tasks, demanding jobs, and situations with strict hierarchies require rational control and a lot of thinking, which takes up a lot of mental energy and contributes to even more stress. You can excel at your job, but if you don't have your own healthy stress-relief methods, you may find that your relationships suffer because you may freely express your negative emotions inappropriately in intimate, unconscious relationships.

Additionally, if you're constantly dragging your feet about the stresses of your job, you're increasing chances of developing psychological problems. No one is immune to stress, so it's important to create your own healthy coping mechanisms to deal with stress as it happens instead of holding on to it. Stress doesn't go away by avoiding it, so it's important to create your own ways to address it. 

Stress relief can be done in a variety of ways, including exercise, hobbies, or talking to someone you find comfortable with. By regularly and healthily relieving stress, you'll prevent unconscious stress outbursts, which in turn will help you maintain healthy relationships and improve your physical health. If you don't have a personal favorite relaxation method, take the opportunity to create one or more, and if you already have some, maintain them and create some more different ones so that you have a variety.

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[Sex & Xes] Men who like only kinky sex

 

I want to first say that my intention is not on whether kinky sex is right or wrong, good or bad. The word "kinky" is often used with a negative connotation for something that is abnormal and deviant, but what is normal for one person may be abnormal for another, as the standards of what is normal for sex are extremely personal and subjective in the first place.

What should be emphasized is that sex, in any form, shouldn't be damaging or destructive to others, and that the people having sex should be pleased and happy through it. Seemingly "kinky" and outlandish sex can certainly make the people healthy and happy, but people who enjoy only kinky sex because they have a warped concept of what sex is, are unknowingly destroying themselves and others through sex. In this video, we will talk about men who enjoy only kinky sex, and deal with women who enjoy only kinky sex in the next video.

Every man has his favorite sex fantasies, but men who like and practice only kinky sex have three major characteristics that may cause problems. First, they think of sex only in terms of their own pleasure, so the woman they're having sex with is only a means to an end of achieving kinky sex for their own pleasure. They don't try to fulfill or support the sex women want, but instead, they tame women to fit the sex they want to have with them, and if the woman doesn't go along with their intention, they think she's useless as a tool and move on to a new woman.

Second, these men usually have sexual problems or sexual dysfunction. They think their sexual function isn't working because regular sex isn't fun enough, but men who are physically and mentally healthy are naturally capable of performing well in any kind of sex. To put it another way, if they don't have the high stimulation of kinky sex, they're not able to perform well.

Third, they usually have high levels of stress, and even if they enjoy a variety of other hobbies, sex and sexual pleasure is the only way they can relieve their stress. And because their standards for sexual pleasure are so narrow and rigid, they will criticize and demean anyone or anything that doesn't meet their standards.

Often, men who only like kinky sex tend to think that they've experienced all sorts of sex and reached some kind of high level when it comes to sex. They may even openly say so, packaging their tastes nicely. But the bottom line is that men who like only kinky sex don't have the sexual capacity to get pleasure outside of certain kinky acts.

A man who is truly sexually competent will be able to support any woman in sex, regardless of what she looks like, to create the best sex possible that will make her feel truly happy. In doing so, the man himself also feels the greatest pleasure and happiness from sex. The sex that these men and women create may be unique and unusual. As the sex they create is new, tailored to their style and their style alone, it may be seen different and peculiar compared with typical, conventional sex.

In the end, kinky sex itself isn't the problem, the problem is that we don't know why we need sex, what we can create with it, and we see it only as a means of pleasure and live our lives being dependent on it.

Please, keep in mind that anyone can create and sustain powerful feelings of pleasure, happiness, passion, love, and more through kinky sex, but if you don't know what sex does for a human being, and you only have sex for the ostensible purpose of pleasure or love, you're going to end up in a weird place where all of your relationships and values are being used for pleasure or for love as you recognize in the conscious.

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[Mother Therapy] Mom's facial expressions and words

 

Mothers say things like: “You need to wash your hands when you get back from going out” “Stop playing video games.”“Did you do your homework? You should do it.” “Brush your teeth, it's time to go to bed.” “Get up early, you can't stay up too late.” “No, you can't do that. You should do this.” “Stop looking at your phone and study.”

As a mom, you say these things to help your kids, but what about your children? They hear it as a nag, not as a confirmation or as a routine, but why? It's because you're not looking happy and you're talking from a mom's perspective.

Have you ever thought about the facial expressions you have when you're talking to someone? When you're talking to other people, you don't really know what you're looking like, but they know very well because they're looking at you. In other words, they know how you look but you don't.

If your children feel they are nagged all the time no matter what you say, you probably don't usually have a smile on your face. Of course, if you're talking to them repeatedly from your point of view, you're going to sound even more nagging and they're likely to close their ears. Even if you're talking to them in a way that makes sense from their point of view, if you're talking to them at length, they're likely to say, “Okay, okay, stop nagging me,” and you're left feeling hurt by the child's expression.

If you treat a middle schooler the same way you treat a kindergartner, you're going to run into trouble. But there is one thing that doesn't change regardless of the age or developmental phase of a child. It is the mother’s happy and smiling face. Even if you're saying the same thing, your facial expression can make all the difference in the world to your child. Studies have shown that a mom's facial expressions have a huge impact on her child's emotions, especially the younger the child, and that her facial expressions alone can change their emotions.

Even if you're feeling a little overwhelmed and exhausted today, try talking to your child with a smile on your face. Your child may be confused at first because you don't look as usual but just smile anyway. Before you know it, your child will be smiling back.

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[Sex & Xes] Sex men want vs. sex women want

 

Today we're going to talk about the kind of sex men and women want to have. Xesmind activates xes energy to generate moods and feelings in mimind. Having sex creates the most powerful energy and generates moods of pleasure and feelings of love, which are much stronger than general moods and feelings.

Men and women view sex differently. Men generally think of sex as pleasure because it generates moods of passion in men, not feelings of love. Of course, there are some men who assume strong connection between sex and love, or that love is what drives sex, but essentially, healthy male psychology makes men think of sex as something that is just pleasurable.

When a man first sees a woman, he develops passion for her that centers around the pleasure of sex. Then, after a long period of time together and after marriage, the man's subconscious creates love for the woman, and he no longer perceives her as an object of pleasure.

Women, on the other hand, typically think of sex as love. Women don't think of sex itself as something pleasant or pleasurable. Not only that, but when a woman first sees a man, she's not interested in sex per se, nor does she perceive him as a sexual object. When a woman with normal psychology develops a crush on a man, it takes quite some time for this to evolve into love, and only when she's sure she's in love, does she decide to engage in sexual activity.

In a woman's xes psychology, feelings of attraction, love, and sexual actions are connected together as a sequence, and in a man’s xes psychology, passion, sexual actions, and love are separate from one another. The process of developing a relationship must be adapted to the development of a woman's feelings instead of men’s moods.

Sometimes women adapt themselves to men in order to be loved, and these relationships cannot last long. Men can wait until a woman is ready to engage in sexual actions because they can maintain their passion for the woman with or without sexual actions. However, if a woman is unsure of her love but still engages in having sex because she wants to be loved by the man or because she wants to fit in, it becomes a relationship that focuses on the man's pleasure. A relationship that is all about pleasure without love and passion for the partner will quickly wither away.

If mimind is not functioning normally and is disturbed, distortion of sexuality occurs, resulting in psychological disorders. When xesmind is working on mimind, a normal man is supposed to think about sex and pleasure but he does not equate it with love, but a man with a psychological disorder may mistake it for love for the partner. As he equates the moods of pleasure triggered by the woman's responses from talking to eating to touching with love, he becomes more and more immersed in them, and sexual actions are naturally intensified. Seeing themselves immersed in the woman's responses, they become more and more convinced that they are in love.

In women, on the other hand, when xesmind works on mimind, the feelings of attraction and love should have been created first, but when their mimind is disturbed and psychological disorders develop, they may chase the positive moods of pleasure to cap their psychological wounds. Their mimind has already lost its ability to treat wounds, and as xesmind directly works only on the body without being screened through mimind, it seeks only pleasure. Women who insist that women also should focus on sexual enjoyment are considered to be suffering from the psychological disorder of wound dissociation.

Passion and love are both perceived and felt in the consciousness in mimind. When this goes further and becomes a habit in each other's unconscious minds, love and passion are not felt in the conscious anymore, so you may feel like you're not even the opposite sex, but you are unconsciously in love without even realizing it. It is important to know what kind of sex men and women want and to have clear standards so that there will be no misunderstandings and unnecessary conflicts.

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[Mother Therapy] Working mom's strategies for school vacation

 

It's summer vacation season. While kids are excited to be out of school, for working parents, this time of year can be even more stressful than during the school season. As kids are home for longer periods of time, working parents have more things to keep track of, from meals to activities to safety, which can be stressful and intimidating. Here are a few ways to make the most of this time.

First, get kids involved in programs offered by their school or community. It's great for them to know they're in a safe space so they can focus on their work, and it's great for them to make new friends and experience different activities. There are many different programs for different age groups, so take advantage of them.

Second, you can enlist the help of family and friends. You can share your child's schedule with family and friends and coordinate with them to help with childcare, or you can share childcare with neighbors or other parents, which can really help during the school holidays.

Third, it's also a good idea to give kids opportunities to develop skills that will allow them to do things for themselves when parents are not around. This may include packing a prepared lunch, cleaning up after themselves, or doing chore missions around the house. If they do a good job, you can reward them with a small allowance or other rewards. 

Fourth, we all know that keeping your body and mind healthy is a key factor in balancing work and parenting. In fact, when moms are psychologically stable, their children feel loved and cared for, which strengthens the bond between mothers and children, and positively impacts their children, even if they don't have much time to spend with children due to busy work schedule. Do your best to take time to take care of your body and mind by exercising regularly, eating well, and taking time for yourself every now and then even when you are busy with everything. Don't wait until you're really drained, but recharge yourself beforehand.

You may think of many other things that will work for your situation and environment during school vacation, and remember that the most important thing is your own physical and mental health. When you're healthy and happy, you're better able to balance work and parenting and still keep yourself and your family happy.

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[Sex & Xes] Excess sexual desire

 

If you're a woman who's ever experienced excess sexual desire, you know what it's like: you're thinking about sex all day long, your body feels sexually aroused all day long, and you can't get enough relief even after you have sex. You're so overwhelmed by sexual desire that it's hard to maintain a normal life. Some people equate excess sexual desire with paraphilia or psychosis. This is because they've never actually experienced it and do not accurately understand how human mind and sexuality work. The tragic result is that many people misunderstand excess sexual desire as something perverted and obscene.

Let's start by looking at why excess sexual desire occurs. When the human mind experiences wounds and stress, it develops a desire to repair itself, and its energy is activated to do so. For ordinary wounds and stresses, the mind can handle this sufficiently, but when the wounds become too deep and powerful, xesmind begins to be activated strongly to repair it. Xesmind creates the energy to make the mind work.

We disperse our xes energy evenly to work, raise children, and live with love and passion, but we experience excess sexual desire when all this dispersed energy is focused on sex to heal a big wound. It's an overwhelming sexual desire, which is essentially an intense desire to heal wounds and restore healthy mind.

What would happen when you accurately understand the concept of excess sexual desire and create the ability to control your energy? You could channel all that energy toward happiness, not sex. In order to do so, you must first heal your wounds and return to a neutral state of mind instead of a negative state, so that you can direct the energy of your xesmind to where you want it to go. If the wound is not healed first, then you will go straight to some kind of addiction with powerful energy of immersion. If you love with a lot of wounds in mimind, it becomes an obsession, not love. Normal love is about feeling additional feelings of happiness on top of a neutral state of emotion, but obsession is about constantly craving love from the other person in order to recover from a negative state of emotion.

What happens if you raise a child in a state of excess sexual desire? You'll either become a helicopter mom or you'll abuse your child. When you pour all the energy you can’t even handle into your child, how could the child bear it?

Men's excess sexual desire is a little different from women's. By women's standards, all normal men are in a state of excess sexual desire. They always have a certain degree of sexual desire and use it as energy of passion to pursue values of life. However, there are times when a man's sexual desire is just too much even by men’s standards. This happens when a cause they are passionate about and immersed in stops working, when a business fails, when there's a major crisis at home, or in extreme situations such as wife infidelity. All of these may cause in men an over-activation of xesmind in order to get back on track and pursue happiness normally.

Excess sexual desire can occur in young men too, usually when they lose enthusiasm about their studies, their career, or their future. They're at an age where they're supposed to be very enthusiastic about the future, but when that's not happening, all their energy may go into their sex drive. If these men are able to channel their passion for pursuing values smoothly, their excess sexual desire will disappear. People who don't know the mechanism of mimind and xesmind call it a mental illness, and some people advise them to exhaust their body by working out, but the problem is that exhausting your physical strength has nothing to do with sexual desire because desire is a thought.

Please, remember that even if you are struggling with energy that you can't handle at the moment, you can learn to use imcomparably great energy for your happiness by understanding the mechanism of human mind and sexuality and by building the ability to control it.

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[Mother Therapy] Is this the same son I knew?

 

     Does your adolescent son make no sense to you? Do you wonder what's in his head? Don't know what the heck is wrong with him? Then, just stand by him, trust him, and he'll go through it on his own. Adolescence is an inevitable and necessary part of growing up. He has been learning how to relate to people in a sheltered environment so far, and now he is creating his own thought standards, which is naturally accompanied by anxiety and confusion, and then, there's the physical changes called secondary sex characteristics, and you are having a very disconcerting experience with your son who's not the same as before.

     As a mom, it's hard to accept the unfamiliarity of your son, and you try to talk to him, soothe him, and argue with him to get him back to the way he used to be. It's unnerving to think that he's becoming less and less like the child you once knew.

     Of course, you went through puberty yourself, so you often look at your child through the lens of your own experience, but you are looking at the situation from the perspective of the mother but not the child, and his circumstances and environment are completely different from yours. You are a woman, so it is hard for you to know about the changes in boys during that period. If you look at your son through the lens of your own experience, you are bound to make a lot of errors.

     So you send an SOS to your husband and tell him to do something about it, but he says, “Leave him alone,” which can make you feel like he's not interested in parenting and that only you are freaking out, but that's not the case. He's actually offering a good solution, and you're just feeling frustrated and upset that he didn't say it the way you thought he would.

     Your son needs time to himself while he's still developing his own thought standards. This doesn't mean you shouldn’t care whatever he does. It means you should care but not interfere. Sometimes the mother has limited thought standards, so she cannot see him from a lot of different perspectives. He may be doing something wrong, but if he's not hurting anyone or getting into legal problems, share your experiences and information with him, but don't push it. If you're consistent and trusting, he'll form his own healthy thought standards through trial and error, and the day will come when you'll look at each other and smile as if you never had had this conflict.

     We're all different, but we make the mistake of assuming that others will be like us, especially in intimate relationships. If you recognize your son as an independent person and support his growth, he'll find his own way. It may not make sense by your standards, but just because it doesn't make sense to you doesn't mean it's all wrong. You can use your son's adolescence as an opportunity not only for him but also for you to grow. 

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