[Mother Therapy] Build skills through hands-on experience

 

Before we do anything, we all think a lot about it: ‘Is this the right thing to do? What if I fail? What if something goes wrong? Am I really capable of doing this? etc. This can make you hesitate to try something, and if you have negative comments from people around you, you can get into a deeper rut. “Stick to what you're doing,” ‘That's not for you,” “Do you really think you can do this?” and so on. 

It's often assumed that a long period of reflection minimizes failure, and there's nothing wrong with that, but only if you have a clear purpose and goal. More often than not, overthinking just takes time, and you may miss the boat.

In fact, whether you execute after a long deliberative process or a short deliberative process, you're going to keep running into new and different problems along the way. No matter what you do, you're going to run into unexpected things, and a long deliberation process doesn't mean you won't run into problems. So once you've decided to do something, the fastest way to get to your goal is to take action before it's too late.

Of course, taking action doesn't mean you'll achieve your goal, but the experience you gain from every step you take adds to your skill set. You gain experience, and that experience is something you can't create with anything else. You don't get it by thinking about it, you don't get it by reading a lot of books, or you don't get it by taking advice.

If you have a great mentor through all of this, that's great. They can teach you skills and give you tips to solve problems in execution, but even if you don't, you can still get experience, and you can add to your knowledge, and you can put things together to make it your own. So if you're thinking about doing something today, why don't you stop thinking about it and just do it? It doesn't have to be big, it doesn't have to be amazing, you can start small, and as you gain experience, it will become a tremendous skill and solidify the path you want to take.

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[Sex & Xes] Secrets of long-lasting male adult video actors

 

Men's sexual function is not weakened by aging. The more you have a desire for sex and immerse yourself in existing sex methods, the more your body and mind are damaged by the negative xes energy generated by it, and your sexual function is weakened. This negative xes energy causes sexual problems in men, and if you don't stop and pursue sex excessively through drugs or surgeries, you will develop psychological disorders and other unexplained physical illnesses. It can also be inferred that a person who seems to be healthy suddenly dying for no reason or having a coition death is caused by negative xes energy.

Male adult video actors who make sex their business are bound to experience psychological problems and physical problems, including sexual problems, more intensely than other men. So, how do long-lasting and legendary adult video actors maintain their sexual performance?

Of course, they may have been born with stronger physical durability than others, so even if they are damaged by negative xes energy, there are cases where their sexual function lasts longer than other men, but psychological disorders are inevitable even if their sexual function lasts physically. In such cases, the rate of destruction is only delayed, but at some point, complete destruction of the mind and body by negative xes energy will come.

Surprisingly, however, there are two cases in which men are not harmed by negative xes energy. The first is when a man thinks of sex only as a job. He does think of sex strictly as a job, to the extent that he does not have the purpose of sexual pleasure, and he treats it as if it were like any other regular job.

Negative xes energy comes from having sex with a purpose and a desire for sexual pleasure, so if you don't perceive having sex as a sexual action, or if you don't have a desire for sex, then you don't activate negative xes energy. In that case, you don't have sexual problems or dysfunctions, but the moment you find a partner you like, or the moment you start perceiving sex as sex, then all of that falls apart.

The second case is that, because you've made having sex your business, you may inadvertently realize the nature of human sexuality in the midst of all the sex opportunities you have, which is to realize the intrinsic gender roles of men and women in sex. The intrinsic gender role of a man is to not perceive sex as a means of self-pleasure, but to use himself as a tool like a dildo to make the woman's body and mind happy, and to do everything in his power to make her happy.

It doesn't matter if the sex partner is or isn't the woman he loves. Men, by their nature, keep love and sex separate. Of course, when love is involved, a man's passion amplifies his sexual sensations, leading to boundless pleasure. But even if love is not involved, if he's using everything he has for the woman partner at least for that moment, then he's having sex in accordance with his essential gender role.

In this case, the man has no specific sexual standards for his own pleasure, no desire for his own pleasure, and no purpose to use the woman, because he only has to adapt himself to the woman, and his sexual function is infinitely activated by the woman partner. Naturally, there is no damage to the body and mind caused by negative sexual energy, so the body and mind can remain healthy for a long time.

This is the kind of sex men should be aiming for. Most men think that having sex with a woman who doesn't meet their sexual standards and having no desire for sex will make it impossible for them to have sex at all, but the truth is that men need to play their natural gender role, not have any sexual standards for their own pleasure, and not have any desire for sex for their own pleasure, so that they can enjoy the pleasure of real sex they've never felt before.

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[Mother Therapy] How do you solve problems? Building problem-solving skills

 

How do you deal with problems when they arise? Our lives are a series of problems and solutions. Sometimes in relationships, sometimes in our minds, sometimes in our work or in our daily lives, we are constantly faced with big and small problems that make us wonder, “Why is this happening to me?”

We all have different attitudes and ways of dealing with problems - some of us are good at staying calm and finding solutions, while others' first instinct is to avoid or run away. Are problem-solving skills something you're born with? Or can it be cultivated? I believe that problem-solving skills can be cultivated, just like a muscle that you develop through consistent exercise. It's a skill that gets stronger with experience and practice, just like physical training.

So how do you develop problem-solving skills? You can start by being open to new experiences. It's about stepping out of your comfort zone, embracing diversity, drawing a lot of simulations, learning something new that you don't normally do, trying new tools, meeting people from different fields and hearing about their experiences. The more you expose yourself to different perspectives and experiences, the broader your view of a problem and the better your ability to find a solution. I'm not suggesting that you go out on a limb and try something risky. It can be difficult at first, but it gives you the opportunity to see things from different perspectives.

Even if you've practiced looking at things from different perspectives, it's not always going to work every time, so it's important to stop and take a break when things aren't working. If something is stuck and it doesn't work out right away, instead of holding on to it, I'll stop and walk away and go for a walk or get a cup of tea. If it doesn't work out, I'll try to let go of everything and look away from it for a little while, or I'll do something easier that's quicker to solve. After I've satisfied myself by doing something easy, I'll come back to the stuck problem, and sometimes I'll see it again with a much lighter heart and find a clue to the solution.

The important thing is to find a method that works for you and stick with it. Problem-solving skills don't happen overnight, but if you keep an open mind, embrace new experiences, and practice consistently, you'll definitely get better at it. You may be stumped, upset, and frustrated in the moment when faced with a problem, but you'll soon find yourself able to shift gears and deal with it flexibly and effectively.

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[Sex & Xes] Self-esteem and self-respect in sexuality

 

Self-esteem is about ideas, while self-respect is about feelings. In sexuality, there are many issues of self-esteem and self-respect, mostly self-esteem for men and self-respect for women. Men are hurt by words and actions that go against their ideas and concepts, and women are hurt by words and actions that go against their feelings and expressions. The lower your self-esteem in sexuality, the less control you have over sex, and without self-respect in sexuality, the expression of your feelings in sex will gradually disappear.

  For men, self-esteem in sex is very important because it involves your thoughts and ideas about your own sexuality. Low self-esteem in sex can lead to negative perceptions and rejection of your own sexual abilities. It can also lead to feelings of comparison, like you're not as good as others at sex.

  Self-respect in sexuality is very important for women. If a woman has low self-respect in sex, she will compare herself with others about the feelings and emotions of sex, and as a result of the comparison, she will feel inferior to others. They'll also have negative feelings about how much permission and freedom they have in sex, so they'll feel less empowered than before. They'll also feel hurt if they don't feel the same way about sex as their partner.

  For both men and women, the result of low self-esteem and low self-respect is a very negative  sexual relationship, resulting in rejection, discomfort, avoidance of sex, and a loss of self-confidence, causing self-deprecation, self-devaluation, and feelings of guilt toward the partner.

  If this situation persists and becomes entrenched, sex with your partner can become dull and dry, which is very different from dull sex related with just boredom. While overcoming boredom can bring back the pleasure and enjoyment of sex if the dull sex is due to boredom, the decline and loss of self-esteem or self-respect manifests as lethargy and disinterest, making it very difficult to analyze the specific cause of the problem. This is a matter of restoring lowered self-esteem and self-respect, not a matter of boredom, so the approach and analysis must be different.

  If couples are struggling with self-esteem and self-respect issues, it may be time for sexual counseling and therapy. This is when you need to seek professional help to heal the wounds, especially if you've experienced unwanted sex due to one-sided, coercive sex, or if you're in an unavoidable situation where you feel guilty after sex. When a person is forced to have sex in a situation where he or she feels rejection, guilt, discomfort, unpleasantness, or other negative feelings about sex, he or she may self-justify by converting the negative feelings into an attachment to his or her own entitlement or pleasure. This leads to enjoying and seeking pleasure from one-sided, coercive sex, and the self-justification process that changes the original concept of love and affection and leads to mistaking pleasure for love and affection.

  Self-esteem and self-respect in sexuality are unique feelings that each individual possesses, and damage to self-esteem and self-respect of sexuality has serious after-effects. This is why it is important to talk to each other about it, to express your feelings wisely, to understand each other, and to repair it with care and consideration. Even a casual remark can cause serious hurt in your partner. If it is not repaired, it will gradually go deeper and deeper into the heart, and it will not be resolved easily.

  When you have low self-esteem and self-respect in sexuality, both the person who was hurt and the person who hurt the partner can become victims. Sex is not something to be enjoyed alone, and it requires two people of loving mind, and ways to heal and recover from problems should be applied as soon as they arise. Behaviors that may harm the partner’s self-esteem and self-respect need to be changed and worked on.

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[Mother Therapy] Passive income! Feels good just thinking about it?

 

What do you think when you hear the term “passive income”? Many people probably think of “income that comes without effort,” but does it really exist in the real world?

Many people look at someone's success or easy life and think, “They must be lucky,” or “They must have been born with it,” or “They must have found the right spouse.” However, it is more likely that there's been a lot of trial and error, hard work, and investment of time behind their apparent success that we don't see, and we don't really look deeply into that process, so it's easy to misunderstand or stereotype.

For example, when we see someone earning a steady return on their investments, we say, “Wow, they just sit back and make easy money.” But how many failures did they have to go through, how much did they learn, how much did they prepare, how many hours of consistent effort did they put in? We don't see that invisible effort, or we don't want to see it, and we make a lot of judgments based on the visible results, but that's probably an arrogant judgment because we haven't done it. If you've ever put in the effort and time to get something, you know how hard the process can be.

We've all heard the saying that hard work never betrays you, and while it doesn't always guarantee a positive outcome, it does leave a mark. More importantly, the hard work you put in should be something that allows you to grow and have a positive impact on others.

It's easy to look at someone else's success and feel envy or jealousy. But what if you could channel that emotion into something more positive? You could learn from what they've gone through, apply it to yourself, and find your own path. If someone is making progress, cheering them on has a healthy effect on you. On the flip side, harboring negative feelings and tearing someone down is just a reflection of your own inadequacies. Tearing down someone else's success isn't going to improve your own situation, and you're spending energy where it doesn't belong.

Many people look at successful people and say they “got lucky,” but most of them didn't get there in one fell swoop. They are more likely to have worked day in and day out for years, facing failure after failure and challenge after challenge. What looks like stability and ease may seem like a windfall, but more often than not, it's the result of hard work. Why not learn from their process and apply it to your own, so that you can grow through new challenges, too?

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[Sex & Xes] The interrelationship between the pleasure of sex and the mind.

The xesmind exists within the mind, supplying energy to the mind and the body. When the xesmind is activated, you can have feelings of happiness in the mind or pleasure in the body. When sexuality energizes the mind, it can create positive feelings by healing wounds in the mind to create feelings of comfort or happiness, and when sex energizes the body, it can create pleasurable sensations in the sensory organs or make the body healthy. When these actions are out of order and distorted, they can disrupt the psychology that works in the mind and cause illness or sexual dysfunction in the body.

When this activation of sexuality is biased toward one or the other between the body and the mind, energy is lost in the other. In the case of women, once they are married and have a solid sense of stability in their minds, the pleasure of sex felt in the body becomes unnecessary. Surprisingly, women’s xesmind works for the happiness of the mind, so when a woman feels she has fulfilled meanings of life with her husband and children, there is no reason for her sexuality to be activated.

On the other hand, women who have a lot of wounds to heal, or who are not yet married and have not yet created meanings in their lives, live with a passion for sex. But what happens if a woman’s xes energy is activated only for the body and not for the mind? The mind loses its function and role as the energy is not fed to the mind, so the feelings of love and happiness, or the social norms and controls that operate in the mind, all lose their meaning, and she lives solely to feel pleasure from the sensory organs in the body. In other words, she becomes psychologically disturbed and live her life solely for the pleasure of sex.

Men, on the other hand, do not generate emotional energy from their xesmind; their minds are conceptual minds that process only facts and temporary moods. Men’s xesmind is biased to direct its energy toward feeling pleasure in the sensory organs of the body in the first place, men's love is not connected to sexuality, and men value the pleasure of sex for its own sake. 

Men use sex as a vehicle to activate the women’s xesmind, and women use sex with men to create feelings of happiness and love in their minds. When a man's passion for sex creates the feelings of happiness in a woman, he can create a mood energy called passion based on the woman’s emotional energy. In this way, a man's passion is generated by doing something for his woman, using his heart and his sexuality as a vehicle. So, ironically, men don't connect sexuality with their own emotion because their sexuality is supposed to be a tool to create happiness in women.

If this mechanism is disrupted, if a man has sex for his own pleasure and not for the happiness of the woman he's with, he becomes overly sexualized and develops psychological disorders and sexual dysfunction. This is what happens when men begin to perceive women as tools for their own pleasure.

Normal women use sex to create emotional energy in their minds, so it's very important for them to have a sexual partner who doesn't see them as a tool for pleasure, but who can help create feelings of happiness and protect them. Connecting emotions to sexuality is what women need.

When a man and a woman meet and marry to protect each other's bodies and minds, the woman fulfills meanings of life and feels stable, and she doesn't need sexuality to work for her. Then, the man's passion for creating happiness for the woman can become misdirected, and he wants to use sex for his own pleasure. If you don't understand this mechanism, all kinds of sexual problems, marital problems, and social problems will arise.

No matter how stable a woman's mind is, she should know that she can strengthen her emotional energy for happiness and love through the work of her xesmind, so she should never stop activating sexuality with the person she loves for her own happiness. It is good to keep in mind that a woman can continue to live the happiest life until the moment she dies by activating both her xesmind and her mind at the same time.

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[Sex & Xes] A Life of Self-Chosen Slavery of Sexuality

 

Men and women don't know each other as well as they think they do. The psychology of each individual is different, but the system of mimind and the system of xesmind operating within mimind are the same for all men, from the youngest boy to the oldest man, and the same for all women, from the youngest girl to the oldest woman.

This system of mimind and xesmind is human nature. On top of this common system, each person's memories and habits are built up differently, resulting in their own unique disposition. However, the system is essentially the same, and we must understand it in order to understand ourselves and others.

Human sexuality, in particular, is a human instinct, and we must understand it in order to be able to live our own lives as major agents. Otherwise, we simply live our lives swept along by social standards. Social standards are important for the harmony and order of human relationships, but people who are swept along by distorted social standards become increasingly stressed and hurt.

Not many people clearly understand the nature of man and woman, and the system of mimind and xesmind, and everyone is interested only in psychological phenomena, which leads to the clash among different individual ideas and many controversies.

Sexuality is supposed to be inherently female-centered, but because it's been male-centered for so long, the psychology of all men and women is now tuned to male-centered sexuality. This inevitably leads to psychological and physical problems for humans, and they're living out of alignment with their underlying instincts. Humans live in relationships, so when individual psychological problems become prominent, they also become social problems.

Both men and women are so accustomed to a male-centered sexuality that many people feel very uncomfortable to go back to a female-centered sexuality. And there's nothing wrong with that feeling. You may feel like your life is over as you've lived in male-centered sexuality for the whole life time. However, it has been a life that has damaged your bodies and minds, creating distorted happiness, passion, and love that destroy each other.

Both men and women don't think about what lies beyond because such knowledge and information is unheard of. By and large, only those whose lives have been completely destroyed by their distorted sexuality strive for what lies beyond, and say, “If only I had known the system of mimind and xesmind before everything was destroyed.

Female-centered sexuality can be achieved when a woman separates her mind from her sexuality and becomes the main agent of her sexuality, and when a man supports it with his mind, not with his sexuality. It is very difficult for a man who has lived in male-centered sexuality to let go of his sexuality and strive to support his woman with his mind, and it is very difficult for a woman to separate her sexuality from her mind and strive to become the main agent of her sexuality. Sometimes, they don't want to do it, they don't know why they have to do it, and they don't know what they can accomplish by doing it.

This is not an unnecessary struggle for something idealized and fictional. Living a life with female-centered sexuality is true to who you are as a human being, and if you've been living with male-centered sexuality, it means that you've been denied happiness, love, true pleasure, and true passion that you deserve as a human being. Striving to live with female-centered sexuality should be a necessity, not a choice. It's about reclaiming what you've lost as a result of being swept along by distorted social standards. If you can’t lift yourself up from a life of downgrading, no one else can. 

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[Sex & Xes] Women seeking sexual pleasure are in serious condition.

 

Today, we're going to talk about why the psychology of women seeking sexual pleasure is unhealthy. In today's world, saying that “women who enjoy sex are unhealthy” is going to cause a lot of controversy. This is because most people think about women and sex in terms of feminist and gender equality logic, so you'll hear a lot of people say, “Why shouldn't women enjoy sex, but only men?”

Both adult men and adult women have the right to enjoy sex, but sex is a very polarizing energy, and when it's used for good, it's a powerful force for happiness for both men and women, and when it's used for harm, it's a powerful force for destroying happiness for both men and women, ruining bodies and ruining lives. To harness the energy of sex for good, we need to understand its exact mechanism and essence before we can enjoy it. Once this is clear, we can create happiness energy through activating sexuality without limit.

Women who seek sexual pleasure having a distorted concept in a distorted environment where sexuality is interpreted only in terms of pleasure and love will develop serious psychological problems and lead a destructive life.

Sexuality is actually more important for women than for men, because through the work of the xesmind, women create happiness in the heart, and men's sexuality works to protect and support this, but now it is distorted into the opposite concept, as if sexuality is very important for men and women's sexuality is to support it, so both women and men are destroyed.

Men cannot use the energy of their xesmind to generate feelings of happiness in their hearts, and their sexuality only works in conjunction with their bodies. Men only utilize their sexuality as a source of temporary positive mood energy. Men's minds are not for generating feelings like women's, but rather they are minds of ideas connected with facts that make men experience temporary moods of pleasure or pain.

Woman's xesmind works to generate feelings of happiness, so it has a direct connection to a woman's psychological wounds. The bigger and deeper a woman's wounds are, the harder it is for her to repair them with her mind alone making her xesmind begin to work. There are women who have deep wounds that are activated, and then there are women who have wound dissociation, where the wound is so deep that it's covered over. They both try to activate their sexuality, so they are sexually expressive, but the woman with the deep wound is sexually expressive because she doesn't want to hurt, and the woman with wound dissociation is sexually expressive because she wants pleasure. 

As women try to activate their sexuality, they may have plastic surgery or genital surgery, they may train themselves to increase sexual sensitivity, or they may go to classes to learn about the art of sex. The original reason for women to activate their sexuality was to create feelings of happiness by repairing wounds of their heart, and their xesmind should only work for their own heart. However, when they have sex based on sexual desire that is rooted in wounds, the energy that should be working on their own heart is expressed to the other person, and the temporary positive sensations perceived through the sensory organs make them think that the partner has created happiness for them and they mistake this for love. Over and over again, instead of trying to repair the wound directly from their mind, they rely on the pleasure of the senses to create a temporary positive mood.

Eventually, she no longer needs the work of her mind, and the standards and notions of relationships, habits of control, and systems that create feelings of maternal love and happiness that were originally created in her unconscious mind are all broken. As a result, these women are no longer able to live a normal human life because they have abandoned the concept of being happy with other people and have come to believe that the pleasure of sex is happiness, or that any man who gives them sex loves them. If a woman's sexuality is triggered by her wounds and she is constantly wanting to express her sexuality, she needs to heal her wounds and stabilize her psychology before anything.

Men's sexuality is not connected to emotional wounds, but it is connected to the body, and excessive activation of sexuality leads to physical problems and sexual dysfunction in men. Men's sexuality is meant to create feelings of happiness in women, to protect women and make women happy, and to generate achievement and passion in men. When men use sex solely for their own pleasure, they end up using women as a means of pleasure, and this creates a vicious cycle that leads to breakdowns of both men and women.

The result of this vicious cycle is that the happiness of the mankind is lost, and we live in an environment where we compete and confront each other solely for individuals’ pleasure and satisfaction. The concept of family becomes unnecessary, and societies and nations exist solely for the survival of the individual. The emotionless humanity we see in science fiction movies is not just fiction.

We should never take sexuality lightly. Sexuality should be activated between two people who love each other, for women for their own happiness, and for men to create and protect it. It's for life's sake, and this is not some outdated idea, but an interpretation based on the Theory of Mimind and Xesmind. If you are not sure what you're really talking about, it's better to live in an outdated way of thinking about sexuality taking it seriously and conservatively, and protect yourself and your loved ones.

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[Mother Therapy] The 'Stability Formula' Working Moms Should Know

 

A friend of mine who is a working mother told me that she wants to continue pursuing her career, but it's not easy because she worries about her child every day. Her child is still young, so she relies on her family for child care, but sometimes she can’t get help when she needs it. She loves her career, but she constantly wonders if her working outside home is affecting her child and if the choices she makes will have a negative impact on her family.

I think every working mother has to deal with the same thing at one point or another. If you're constantly feeling unstable, it can have a negative impact on both your work and your family, and you can't focus on either one. In the end, the more unstable you are, the more likely it is that your family will be unstable as well. So, what's the most important thing? You guessed it - your own psychological stability. If you're a working mother who wants to pursue your values through career, you need to think about how important your psychological stability is.

It's really not easy to pursue your career while maintaining a family and raising children. As a working mom, you're trying to make sure that both your work and your family are stable, and I think it's safe to say that the most important thing is how stable your psychology is. If you're unstable yourself and you're trying to make your family and children feel stable, you are likely to end up with conflicts and anxiety that you didn't intend to have. You're trying to make them feel stable when you're unstable yourself, so you're either repressing yourself or forcing yourself on them.

Another friend of mine wanted to be perfect at both work and raising her child, so she worked hard at work and tried to spend more time with her child at the same time, but there were many days when she was disappointed in herself because it was difficult to fully immerse herself in both work and home, and she blamed herself a lot. She was disappointed and blamed herself, and she didn't know what to do, so she kept repeating the same routine. She kept thinking about her child even while she was working, so it was difficult to concentrate on work, and even when she was spending time with her child, she became anxious about work. Finally, she quit her job, but quitting her job didn't solve all the problems either.

Eventually, she realized that she was unstable psychologically, and from then on, she started by first recognizing her own psychological state and then tried to recover. She was able to approach new things in a more relaxed way, both for his child and for herself. If a child sees anxiety in a mother's expression, it is transmitted to the child, so the child is affected by the psychological state of the parent and has a similar emotional state. In fact, your own stability leads to the stability of your family.

Of course, it can be harder when you don't have people around you to help you, but there are things you can do within your resources and your environment, depending on how you think about it. Don't limit yourself by saying you can't do this or you can't do that. It's not always easy to put yourself first as a working mom, but I want you to remember that your own psychological well-being is the most important starting point. When you are stable, your family is stable, and your child is able to see you and feel psychologically stable forming a virtuous cycle. That's when we can truly pursue our values and meanings of life with balance.

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[Sex & Xes] Sexual Hedonism and Sexual Objectification

 

You've probably heard the term sexual hedonism, and sexual objectification is the perception of an individual only as a tool for sex. Often, the parties involved are unaware of the concept of sexual objectification because the person who is already hedonistic about sex and perceives the other person only as an object of pleasure doesn't care about the other person's position, and the person who is perceived as an object of sex doesn't know that they are being used as a tool for sex. 

A sexual hedonist values the pleasure itself above all else in sex, perceiving everything else as a means to that pleasure. They perceive the other person as an instrument of pleasure in order to pursue the pleasure of sex, and are not concerned with the pleasure and happiness of the objectified person. They also assume that if they are satisfied and happy, the other person will be satisfied and happy.

If you use everything you have to enjoy the pleasure of sex, and consider it to be the highest value and happiness, you're going beyond hedonism, especially if you're in a position of economic and social power. Sexual hedonism and objectification are more common among people with some degree of social power because they use their ability and power to realize their hedonism.

This is because it is advantageous to have a certain level of wealth, status, popularity, etc. to use others as a tool for sex. Sexual hedonism and sexual objectification can occur easily as successful people lose sight of their life goals and indulge in the pleasures of sex. The perception that anything is possible if you have the ability only reinforces this distorted perception.

Sexual hedonists are unable to escape the distorted pleasures of sex because they don't know the true flavor and coolness of sex. This is a phenomenon that has been primarily driven by men in the past, but in recent years it has also been driven by women. Once the pleasures of sex lead to addiction, you can never get out of it on your own. Sex is such a personal and secretive act that only the parties involved know about it, not the outside world.

As sexual hedonism and sexual objectification progress, people no longer get pleasure and enjoyment from sex between a couple or with a lover and lose interest in it, so they seek out sex with different stimuli and seek endless variety in sex. They try to brainwash and persuade everyone around them to join them in their sexual hedonism and objectification. As the stimulation of sex becomes more and more intense, it spirals out of control and every aspect of their lives becomes related to sex.

People who are sexually hedonistic and see others as nothing but objects of pleasure cannot address their condition on their own because they are so thoroughly mired in their own logic: they become dogmatic and closed off to sex styles that are different from their own, even though they think of themselves as open-minded with respect to sex. They are also very obsessive about sex, so what they think about once, they try to make happen. Their spouses often get caught up in this and slip into sexual hedonism with them.

People who practice sexual hedonism and sexual objectification have lost the concept and value of proper sex and live out their sex fantasies, which is why they are so permissive about sex with others. Having pleasure is a fleeting moment, followed by a search for greater stimulation and pleasure. These people should be reminded of their true sexual capabilities with a detailed explanation of the need for change, and to transition to feeling intense pleasure and happiness even from sex between two people in a normal relationship.

Sexual hedonism and sexual objectification are a phenomenon that can happen to anyone, and many people are currently in quite serious conditions. There's nothing wrong with enjoying sex, but it needs to be done in the right way and with an awareness of the other person's true happiness.

To do this, we need to first recognize the importance and value of human relationships, and then we need to educate ourselves about sexual empowerment so that we can enjoy the true flavor and beauty of sex. Surprisingly enough, most men want this. Women also need to know the value of true sex ability and build their sex ability, so that they can escape and prevent the objectification of sex. Pursuing only the pleasure of sex will make your body and mind sick. Please, keep in mind that you need to know the correct concepts so that you can know what true pleasure is and reach true sexual happiness.

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[Sex & Xes] If you want to get the best woman

 

Men aren't actually interested in women with good hearts. They usually like women who have a pretty pretty, have a good body, and are sexually capable. Women who only have these things are great for a momentary fling, but they're not what men want to be in a relationship with. They want to be with women who have all of the above, plus feelings of love.

In other words, they want a woman who is not only pretty and sexy, but also a woman who will be loving and caring to her husband and children, and of course, there are women who are both pretty and sexy and have feelings of love. In order to get such a great woman, a man must have the ability to protect her. There are men who only want women for their looks and sexual prowess, not their feelings of love. Once a woman is taken by such a manipulator, she loses the ability of love. Therefore, a man must have the ability to protect his woman from such a womanizer.

And men shouldn't go around looking for women, because if they do, they have already become one of the womanizers. A man should be able to protect a woman and wait for a woman. When a man is ready and able to wait, the woman he wants will come to him. And when he lives with that goal in mind, he will be passionate about pursuing his values, and do his best in whatever he does.

But if a man can't wait and starts looking for a woman, he won't be able to meet such a great woman. Such a woman won't come to a man who is looking for a woman because she has healthy mind. In fact, a woman should go looking for a man who can protect her.

A woman who has good appearance without having feelings of love is not the kind of woman a man would want to protect as his woman. If a man falls for a woman like that, he's only looking for a sexual relationship, not love, and that makes him sexually dysfunctional, and when you're sexually dysfunctional, you lose the ability to protect your woman, so a man should never go around looking for women.

When a man builds true sex ability, fulfills his values, and wants to protect a woman's love, a woman who has it all will find him. The most important thing for a man to do to get the woman he wants is to have the ability to protect her.

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