[Sex & Xes] Men who suffer from excess sexual desire

 

 Meh who have healthy body and mind work hard for his career or business with passion and find the state of immersion quite fun and pleasurable. They are pursuing values of life for self-actualization. 

The energy with which men get immersed into pursuing values of life is quite powerful. As men stops getting immersed into their work after achieving their goal and get free from stressful and busy daily life, the energy also loses the goal and begins to wander about.  

This condition may be manifested in men as depression or lethargy such as in burnout syndrome. They may begin to look for meanings of life and reflect on their past life deeply. Many of them are likely to experience excess sexual desire that stem from the energy of passion that has lost its direction.

Both men’s passion for life and sexual desire originate from xes energy. Men’s sexual desire can be transformed into passion for pursuing values of life. Passion for pursuing values of life can be transformed into sexual desire. Men who immerse themselves into pursuing values of life don’t think much about sex. They find working for their career or business much more fun and pleasurable than having sex. In this case, xes energy provides men’s body and mind with vitality and health.

However, as this xes energy is manifested as sexual desire, all the xes energy is used to generate negative energy and begins to destroy their body and mind. They may start to pursue sexual pleasure instead of values of life and develop sexual dysfunctions and problems in habits of psychology. As the condition progresses, they may end up developing psychological disorders that cannot be treated without professional intervention.

If you feel that you have achieved a great deal in your career and business and somehow suffer from excess sexual desire, you must understand that your xes energy has lost its direction and has been transformed into sexual desire. Now, it is time for you to set another goal of your life and get yourself immersed into pursuing the goal with passion. 

If you still cannot get immersed into your work, cannot find fun and pleasure in what you do, and still suffer from excess sexual desire, you can treat your condition through Sex Therapy for Men. You already have experiences of getting immersed into your career and business and achieving success with passion, so you just need to learn how to redirect your xes energy into creating positive energy in your body and mind. Then, you can internalize the ability to make use of xes energy in a positive and desirable way to be able to maintain pleasure and happiness for the rest of your life.

Please, remember that excess sexual desire is the signal for crisis that directs your life to distortion and destruction and it can be cured completely.

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[Sex & Xes] Sexual desire of men who understand the operational mechanism of human sexuality

 

Human sexuality is always in operation in human mind, and it is called xes when sexuality is manifested without being connected with emotions, selfish purposes, or sexual desire in the conscious. On the other hand, when sexuality is manifested being connected with emotions, selfish purposes, or sexual desire in the conscious, it is called sex. Xes makes human body and mind healthy and restored, and leads us to generate positive energy, but sex destroys the body and mind and causes individual and social problems and leads us to generate negative energy.  

We can make sexual expressions outwardly, and they can have positive or negative effects depending on how they are connected with our mind. When men and women learn about the operational mechanism of human sexuality, they can make not only their lives but also lives of others around them healthy and happy.

Then, what would happen to the sexual desire of men who know about the operational mechanism of human sexuality? Will they have sexual desire only toward women they love and protect? Not really. When men learn about the operational mechanism of human sexuality and internalize the concepts, they become to have no sexual desire at all, not even toward women they love and protect. Then, is it a bad thing to happen? Most men may think that losing sexual desire is an awful thing to happen to them. They may think that they need sexual desire to take sexual actions and have sexual pleasure. However, it is a sheer misunderstanding.

Sexual desire is the desire for one’s own sexual pleasure not for the partner’s sexual pleasure. It is not in play when men activate their sexuality in a positive way. Then, they can comply with women in every aspect in sexual actions and daily life without sexual desire for their own pleasure. They can be given intense sexual pleasure and sexual happiness by their women who have the ability to generate sexual happiness. Men can generate only a small amount of energy through sexuality compared with women, which makes men seek women who would share their xes energy with men. Men would do anything to have sex with women to share xes energy with women at the maximum level.

Men don’t have to do anything regarding activating sexuality since they don’t have the ability to generate xes energy in the first place. They only destroy their body and mind more and more as they keep wanting to have sexual pleasure through having sex. Men are designed to protect women they love and women are designed to make sexual expressions in a natural way without even thinking about it. Of course, women must activate sexuality in a positive way. Men don’t have the right to reject women’s lead in this situation since men’s body will react automatically to sexual expressions of women they love and protect. This is how human sexuality is supposed to be operated. To reach the highest level of sexual happiness, men must learn about the operational mechanism of sexuality and internalize it, and women must internalize the ways to make sexual expressions that accord with the operational mechanism of human sexuality.

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[Sex & Xes] Pedophilia : a severe psychological disorder

 

     Feeling sexually attracted presupposes human relationships where the mind connected with sexuality is in operation. When a person activates sexuality toward an object or an animal, which can't have the mind connected with sexuality, it is considered as a psychological disorder.

     Children do not activate the mind in the way it is connected with sexuality yet, so they cannot be the objects for being sexually attracted to. Being sexually attracted to children, or the condition of pedophilia, is just a severe psychololgical disorder that leads to crimes against children. It should never be considered as a type of sexual orientation or preference as some ignorant people get confused.

     Some people even categorize pedophilia, a severe psychological disorder, as a type of sexual preferences or orientations at the same level with sexual preference for older people or

SM play, or sexual orientation for homosexuality. It must be clearly understood that children do not have the mind connected with sexuality yet, so they can never be objects of being sexually attracted to. 

      Being sexually attracted to children because they look like adult women is not pedophilia. In this case, the fact that the object is a child is not connected to being sexually attracted to. In this sense, it is also dangerous for parents to have their children look like adults through clothes, hair style, and make-up. Such parents already have distorted concepts of human sexuality and generate negative energy by activating sexuality.

     People who have the condition of pedophilia usually look serious and solemn and make other people have respect for them. However, they view other people only as objects for their own pleasure and satisfaction. It is important to accurately understand the operational mechanism of human mind and sexuality to build the right concepts of human relationships and live a healthy and happy life.

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[Sex & Xes] How men can satisfy women sexually

 

     Hello, everyone. Today, let's talk about men who have many worries and questions about having sex with women. In general, men feel that women are emotionally complicated and women feel that men are relatively simple emotionally. This is true in a sense since moods operate in men and feelings operate in women. They also have different defense mechanism to deal with stress and wounds. 

     On the other hand, when it comes to sexuality, men seem to be more complicated and show greater interest. Men tend to be more sensitive and think more about sexuality, and they can easily retrieve past memories regarding sexuality when they cannot remember much about other things. They try to accumulate knowledge and information on sex and make plans for sexual actions. They have many thoughts about how to have a good sex with the partner, what to do during having sex, how to prevent premature ejaculation, and how to satisfy the partner and so on and so on. 

     The above phenomenon applies to men who have relatively healthy psychology and have pure passion toward the woman partner. Men who have a psychological disorder seek only their own sexual pleasure and proceed as they please disregarding the partner. They don't have many thoughts about sexual actions since they focus only on their own pleasure. They may think that it is easy to satisfy women and they are very good at it. They may develop the sense of superiority comparing themselves with other men.

     Interestingly, these men are likely to meet women who have good sexual functions due to many experiences of having sex with multiple partners. These women are easily attracted to men who have selfish purposes in relationships since they mistake sexual pleasure for getting attention and happiness.  

     On the other hand, normal women prefer to go through some procedures before having sex with men. They think feelings of love and trust should exist before taking sexual actions.  They consider the partner more important than sexual actions and their sexual actions are based on their feelings of love. 

     Normal women have weaker sexual functions than women who activate sexuality casually since their mind controls their sexuality. Women who activate sexuality casually are considered to have developed problems in mind. Normal women do not experience orgasm or get immersed into sexual actions easily even when they have sex with men who boast their sexual ability. 

     Women's sexual satisfactions do not come from men being good at sex with great sex techniques. Some women respond easily to sexual actions regardless of partners and some women do not. Women's sexual satisfactions come from their own conditions and functions of the body, mind, and sexuality regardless of their men partners. Women's sexual pleasure cannot be given by men partners. Women need their own xes habits connected with their body and mind to be able to have sexual pleasure. 

     It is no use for men to think and worry about having a good sex to satisfy their women. Women's sexuality is in women's hand. Men will only be disappointed and feel frustrated when they try to lead everything in sex no matter how much knowledge and information on sex they have and apply in practice. 

     Men's role in having sex and in everyday life is to comply with women in every aspect instead of leading women. It is women's role to lead and generate happiness through sexual actions. Men's sensory organs are designed to be sensitive to women's responses, which makes it possible for men to comply with women by activating their body, mind, and sexuality. Men become happy when their women show happy responses upon their actions and share happiness with men. 

     Conventional concepts of human sexuality, which are highly distorted, lead men to get immersed into women's responses to have their own pleasure instead of using their senses to comply with women. This can lead men to develop response addiction or relationship addiction. They may put priority on seeking their own sexual pleasure sacrificing everything they have including their family. 

     Healthy men try to make their women happy and be sensitive to women's responses in sexual actions to satisfy women instead of focusing on their own pleasure. Women's response in sexual actions is like a signpost that tells men where to go. Distorted concepts of sexuality lead both men and women to activate sexuality in the opposite way from the original design. Not many women know how to be active main agents in sexual actions, so men can't find signposts. No wonder men have a hard time wanting to satisfy women but not knowing what to do. It is no one's fault. 

     Then, how can we achieve sexual actions in the way women become main agents and men comply with women in every aspect? Women can develop true sex ability through Sex Ability Training for Women. Men can build true sex ability through Sex Therapy for Men. They will be guided to discard distorted concepts of sexuality and conventional information and knowledge on sex and build the ability to to have the most powerful sexual functions without sexual desire. 

     Ideally, men need to be able to naturally comply with women without conscious thought. In that state, men can have the most powerful sexual functions without any sexual desire. Both men and women can experience utmost sexual pleasure and men can generate pure passion and women can generate feelings of love. Focusing on their own sexual pleasure will only lead men to lose sexual functions and develop psychological disorders destroying both themselves and their women partners. Just remember that there is a way to achieve healthy and happy sex life. 

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[Sex & Xes] The distinction between sex and xes

 

     Most people tend to relate sexual actions when they think about human sexuality, but the core concept of human sexuality is related with the energy that makes human beings think and act by activating their mind from inside at the fundamental level, thus referred to as xes energy. Xes energy is activated every time human mind is activated, and sexual action is only one of many outward manifestations of our emotions and thoughts all combined including sexual desire. 

     Xes energy is being activated all the time inside us. All of our inward or outward expressions may stem from the operation of xes energy, which can be referred to as xes expressions. When xes expressions are not connected with emotions and conscious thoughts including sexual desire, they are just pure xes expressions, but when xes energy is connected with emotions and conscious thoughts in mind, they function as sexual expressions with selfish purposes in human relationships usually with negative and destructive effects.

     For example, women's expressions of wounds are the result of xes energy being activated combined with negative emotions in mimind. Then, they function as sexual expressions in human relationships. Women's expressions of wounds are intended to activate xes energy more by getting attention and consolation from some external sources, thereby treating wounds and restoring happiness. Surprisingly but naturally, this same mechanism applies to the process of women developing sexual desire. 

     Positive xes expression is defined as xes energy being manifested positively without being combined with emotions and conscious thoughts including sexual desire and selfish purposes. Negative xes expression is defined as xes energy being manifested combined with emotions and conscious thoughts including sexual desire and selfish purposes. Maximized negative xes expressions present themselves as sexual actions.

     For example, when a mother scolds her son based on her negative emotions, it functions as negative xes expressions. Of course, she may not think relating her scolding with any sexual action, but she is in the condition where she is trying to get attention and consolation from any external source to recover from her wounds in mind. Then, her condition will affect her son in negative ways making him feel extremely stressed by his mother's behaviors and avoid the situation, become rebellious, or suppress his emotions. 

     Interestingly, men who operate xes energy in negative ways and have sexual desire activate sexual desire toward women's expressions of wounds in spite of themselves. They may willingly give such women attention and consolation and feel pleasure themselves. Women may not realize that their expressions of wounds function as sexual expressions, but the same mechanism is in operation as when women develop sexual desire. 

     Men who activate xes energy in negative ways in extremity may recognize their own selfish purpose of giving consolation to women and getting response from women. Women who activate xes energy in negative ways in extremity may also recognize their own selfish purpose of getting consolation from men and giving response to men in return. Then, they can be considered to be exchanging sexual expressions through empathizing with each other without direct sexual actions. 

     People who activate xes energy in positive ways do not connect xes energy with their emotions and thoughts including sexual desire and selfish purposes. They make xes expressions in pure forms. On the other hand, people who activate xes energy in connection with their emotions and thoughts including sexual desire and selfish purposes and make expressions based on negative manifestation of xes energy are living their life with the purpose of getting consolation and attention in women's case or getting their own pleasure in men's case. 

      Activating xes energy in positive ways leads to generating positive energy for your body and mind. Activating xes energy in negative ways leads to generating negative energy for your body and mind and destroying self and others. 

     Not many people know about the existence of xes energy, which operates human mind and body at the underlying level. Not many people understand that connecting emotions and thoughts with xes energy results in the same process that develops sexual desire, which, in turn leads to sexual actions. 

     Xes energy can be used to make people healthy and happy when activated in positive ways, but it can also be used to destroy self and others when activated in negative ways. It is important to accurately understand the operational mechanism of human mind and sexuality at the fundamental level to use xes energy to promote happiness of self and others. 

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[Sex & Xes] Men who claim they have no sexual desire

 

     Hello, everyone. Today, let's fact-check on men who claim they are asexual. In a nutshell, men who claim they are asexual are most likely to be lying about the matter. They are likely to have more sexual desire than other men. They usually claim they are not interested in having relationships and having sex because they are not satisfied with their sex life. 

     Firstly, they are likely to consider having sex only as a means for satisfying their sensory organs. The process of hedonic adaptation makes them continuously seek new stimulation based on this distorted concept. They may try different ways to satisfy themselves sexually, but they naturally end up finding limitations for every new attempt. Then, they reach the point where nothing is new to them and nothing satisfies them. This phenomenon occurs since they do not understand anything about the nature of human sexuality. 

     Secondly, some men may develop sexual dysfunctions since they have accumulated too many xes wounds inside themselves due to past experiences of having sex. They may experience impotence and the reduction of the pleasurable sensation in ejaculation. That is, they have developed both physical and psychological problems due to too many xes wounds, which results in sexual dysfunctions and makes them say they have lost interest in sex. 

     Ironically enough, men who have sexual dysfunctions due to different reasons tend to have stronger sexual desire than normal men. They have stronger desire for stronger stimulation, more exciting sex, and more powerful sexual functions. This is how human desire of any kind operates. The more you feel you lack something, the more you want it. Men cannot but grow sexual desire as their sexual functions diminish. 

     Men who claim that they are asexual are actually saying that they have problems with sexual functions. Not many people understand this mechanism, and innocent women are in danger of being deceived by men who claim they are asexual. Women who develop a relationship with such men may develop psychological problems and may be used for satisfying men's perverted sexual desire. Women naturally develop wounds in mimind in the process of getting involved and getting separated from such men. 

     If men feel that they are actually losing interest in sex and losing sexual desire without any specific reason, and recognize in the conscious that it is problematic, they must think that it may indicate they have some psychological problems and must try to recover. They must accurately understand the operational mechanism of human mind and sexuality and learn about the right concept of sexuality. Then, they can activate their xes energy in positive ways, which will restore their powerful sexual functions and enjoy sexual utopia with the woman they love and protect for the whole life time.

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[Sex & Xes] Women's sexual desire

 

     Hello, everyone. Today, let's fact-check on women's sexual desire and related issues. First of all, women's sexual desire is the manifestation of the desire to treat wounds in mimind. Women's mimind has the ability to treat wounds on its own, and small wounds that occur during daily life are treated naturally by the operation of mimind. Untreated wounds are accumulated in women's memory, and they are retrieved and treated later when the conditions of treatment are met.

     However, when women have too many wounds accumulated in memory without being treated, or some great wounds occur suddenly, they cannot be treated only by the operation of mimind. Then, women become to activate xes energy in xesmind to provide energy into mimind to treat wounds in mimind. Thus, when women have many untreated wounds in memory in mmind, women become to activate xesmind and this phenomenon is manifested as women's sexual desire. 

     Women's sexual desire is manifested as many different sensations and emotions, and the desire to have sex is only one of the conscious recognitions of sexual desire. One very common manifestation of women's sexual desire is loneliness. As mentioned, women's sexual desire includes all the desire to treat wounds in mimind and it is not just the desire for sexual pleasure, so women's sexual desire must be analyzed and interpreted always being connected with women's wounds in mimind. 

      Women's wounds in mimind are naturally treated when women accurately understand the cause of wounds and get attention and consolation directly related with the specific wounds. Most wounds are treated only by accurately understanding the cause of them without getting attention and consolation, but not many women can understand about the underlying cause of wounds since they don't understand the operational mechanism of human mind and psychology. 

     Then, women naturally grow the desire to get attention and consolation as their wounds are accumulated in their memory more and more. When their desire to get attention and consolation is not satisfied, it is manifested as the feeling of loneliness, and women begin to seek someone toward whom they can activate sexuality. It is because they can recognize a greater sense of happiness and satisfaction when attention and consolation are accompanied by activating sexuality. Yes, they become to want a relationship with men. Xes energy activated by xesmind is much stronger than mind energy activated by mimind. so both positive energy and negative energy get stronger when sexuality is activated in women as a result of the strong desire to treat wounds. 

     If women feel that the scale and the range of their emotions are greater than before whether it is positive or negative, they can safely assume that xes energy in xesmind is in action. For example, women who don't activate xes energy much don't have much sense of rivalry or jealousy toward other women. The sense rivalry or jealousy is the manifestation of women's sexual desire and the desire to get as much attention and consolation as other women. It doesn't occur when women address and treat their wounds in safe and healthy ways. 

     Women's obsession can be explained in the same way. Obsession is the feeling of strong attachment that goes beyond the normal range. Women's wounds are transformed into the feelings of happiness when they are treated, so women become to like or love the objects they get attention and consolation from on a regular basis. The object of attention and consolation become the object of obsession when women have strong sexual desire, which is strong desire to treat wounds. Women's obsession with anything or anyone indicates that their emotions are being operated based on wounds in mimind. 

     When women who have strong sexual desire are satisfied from sexual attention and consolation, they will recognize the sense of superiority and confidence. It is not difficult to find women who have the sense of superiority and confidence derived by activating sexuality in a society where the concept of sexuality is distorted and activating sexuality is promoted in general. Women are not designed to develop and recognize a great deal of the sense of superiority or confidence unless their sexual desire based on wounds is satisfied. 

     Women's sense of superiority does not just develop from inside women's mind without environmental factors. Thus, women's sense of superiority and confidence is only temporary mood and it's not related with women's true happiness at all. Women's mind is destroyed as the sense of superiority and confidence is reinforced by the desire for attention and consolation being satisfied more and more. 

     Women develop sexual desire in negative ways when they don't understand that they can manage their xesmind as they wish and treat their own wounds and generate happiness on their own. It is like they have all the abilities to generate happiness inside themselves, but they don't even know that they have them, let alone how to use them. Then, women try to activate their sexuality through the external conditions or other people, and all their needs for treating wounds are manifested as negative emotions such as loneliness, emptiness, jealousy, obsession, or self-blame. They try to achieve their goal of getting attention and consolation sexually, and become easy targets of men who seek sexual pleasure. 

     On the other hand, some women maintain self-centeredness in their life even if they don't understand the operational mechanism of human sexuality and human mind. They have the sense of self-respect and don't activate sexuality putting other people at the center. The sense of self-respect instead of the sense of confidence is important in women's psychology. However, even women who have maintained the sense of self-respect so far are in danger of collapsing and developing sexual desire since they don't understand the operational mechanism of human sexuality and human mind. 

     Women need to not only understand the operational mechanism of mimind and xesmind but also internalize the habits of activating sexuality in positive ways to be able to generate positive xes energy and happiness in mimind. Women who have sexual desire based on wounds in mimind may have distorted operation of emotions and justify their distorted thoughts and behaviors. Then, they may pursue only sexual pleasure mistaking it for happiness or completely block activating sexuality choosing to live in unhappiness. 

     On the other hand, women who have true sex ability always have the sense of self-respect and are free from loneliness, self-blame, obsession, or jealousy. They can have their own unique charm in the eyes of everyone regardless of age and gender. 

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[Sex & Xes] Men's sexuality and emotions

I said in previous videos that women tend to connect sexuality and emotions very closely, but men do not. Many men would argue that men also connect sexuality and emotions and men want to have sex only with women they love.

Sexuality as we recognize in the conscious is the result of the operation of mimind rather than the operation of xesmind. Analyzing sexuality with reference to the conscious recognition leads to the distortion of the concept of human sexuality and diverse individual and social problems.

The operation of xesmind is not recognized in the conscious and it provides energy to the body and mind. Xesmind operates completely differently for men and women but it may look similar on the surface. Men's and women's sexuality are different but they are designed to work in harmony for sexual happiness when they are activated in the right and natural way.

Then, what is the nature of men's emotions regarding sexuality? It is temporary moods they sense regarding sexuality as xes feelings affect men's mimind. Men can sense only moods instead of feelings in mimind. Feelings are continuous energy generated in the unconscious and moods are temporary energy sensed accompanying sensory stimulations.

Men can sense moods instead of feelings, so they cannot feel anything once they finish having sex since their sensory organs are not being stimulated. Therefore, men cannot connect feelings of love or wounds with sexuality as they do with relationships. However, women can connect feelings of love and wounds with sexuality as they do with relationships.         

Men can have sex with women who are strangers without connecting emotions. Men may find having sex with women they are not familiar with quite exiting. On the other hand, women develop wounds in mimind when they have sex with strangers or men they are not in love with. This phenomenon is the result of the operation of mimind that generates feelings not the result of the operation of xesmind. 

Then, why do men feel love toward women who they had sex with as if they had feelings? It is because their xes feelings in xesmind are operating. Xes feelings in xesmind are activated only on sexuality and they are not temporary but continuous. They are not recognized but only provide energy into mimind and have men recognize positive moods. That is, xes feelings do not carry positive or negative values in themselves, but they affect the operation of mimind and are recognized as positive or negative moods in men.  

Men's xes feelings operate as xes wounds and they affect their body as negative energy. When men have sexual desire, negative xes energy makes their mimind recognize positive moods. Thus, they can sense positive moods in their body and mind even when they have sex with women who are strangers but they may think that they don't like it very much in the conscious. They only have positive sensations in their sensory organs in this case. 

Men who consider their emotions important tend to be activating xes feelings more than normal men. They also have stronger sexual desire than normal men. Men who have stronger sexual desire tend to have xes energy affect their body and mind negatively, so they are likely to have physical and psychological problems. 

Men are healthy physically and psychologically when they minimize thinking about sexuality in the conscious. They may be in the best condition if they are able to not think about sexuality at all. All men are born with the most powerful sex ability, but as they grow and they are exposed to sexual information and knowledge, their sexual desire grows and their sex ability weakens.

It is almost impossible for men to maintain healthy body and mind these days when human sexuality is mostly interpreted by the standard of sexual pleasure. Men must unlearn and discard all the conventional information and knowledge on sexuality to restore their true sex ability. Men must protect and comply with women in every aspect of sexuality to achieve sexual pleasure and sexual happiness without damaging themselves. 

Then, xes feelings and xes wounds are not activated in men, and xes energy is not transformed into negative energy in mimind but it is provided as positive energy to make men develop pure passion as well as utmost sexual pleasure. They can have healthy body, happiness in mind, and sexual pleasure all at the same time this way.

A true expert on sexuality would not analyze human sexuality only on the surface level. 

Human sexuality must be analyzed not only at the level of conscious recognition and visible phenomena from the perspective of individual and separate psychological operations, but also at the level of the operation of xesmind and mimind from the perspective of the fundamental mechanism of human mind and psychology. What men recognize and sense regarding sexuality is not what is going on in their xesmind and mimind. 

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[Sex & Xes] Men's desire for having sex

 

Most men response negatively when they are told that they must not have the desire to have sex since they think that the desire to have sex leads to sexual pleasure. They believe that they cannot function sexually without the desire to have sex and they will not be able to have any pleasure in their whole life. It is the same as to think that they will not be able to enjoy the taste of food unless they have a strong appetite. That is, men usually think that they can have the pleasure of sex because they have the desire to have sex. 

However, men can actually enjoy the pleasure of sex when they don't have the desire to have sex. Also, they have better sexual functions when they don't have the desire to have sex. Men are considered to have true sex ability when they can comply with women in every aspect, but they limit their sex ability by having their own desire to have sex.

Men centered sex is quite simple and limiting because it only involves sensations in sexual organs and ejaculation. However, women centered sex can amplify and continue physical sensations all over the body and the pleasurable sensations can continue even after men's ejaculation and women's orgasm. When men discard their own desire to have sex and comply with women in every aspect regarding sexuality, both men and women can enjoy limitless pleasure of sex. Men's most powerful sex ability is the ability to establish the environment where women can freely activate sexuality and to comply with women in every aspect.

It is not difficult to find women who can activate sexuality in the right way. Men can simply have their women take Sex Ability Training for Women provided by Korea Institute of Psycho-education. However, it is difficult for women who have sex ability to activate sexuality in their full capacity if their men are not able to establish the right environment and not be able to comply with women in every aspect. That is, both men and women need true sex ability to be able to achieve sexual happiness. 

You may think that it is easy to comply with women regarding sexuality, but it is the highest level of sex ability that can be achieved only when men don't have the desire to have sex. Men are designed to adopt focused immersion in having sex, so they lose all the pleasure the moment even a tiny part doesn't match their standards of sexual pleasure. They may experience the decrease of pleasant sensation, the loss of erection, or the loss of the desire in such situations.

Surprisingly enough, when men's desire to have sex disappears, their standards of sexual pleasure also disappear. Then, the limit that used to define and restrict men's sexuality disappears. Men's xesmind is designed to have the function of protecting women and complying with women instead of generating men's own happiness and sexual happiness. Men's xesmind can activate its intended function when the standards of sexuality that are recognized in the conscious disappear. Men's and women's sex ability affect each other in activating sexuality.

Sexuality belongs to women instead of men for generating happiness and sexual happiness in both men and women. Women are supposed to generate sexual pleasure and sexual happiness for both parties. Men must protect and comply with women so that women can generate sexual happiness. Men's effort to generate sexual pleasure is manifested as the momentary physical sensation of ejaculation at best.

When men comply with women in every aspect for activating sexuality without having the desire to have sex, men can generate love and passion toward the partner, which amplify the positive sensations in the sensory organs, and feel happiness and sexual happiness of the same level their women recognize. Then, they can live in sexual utopia that allows unlimited sexual pleasure.

There is a saying, 'You will die if you try to live, but you will live if you try to die'. This saying properly explains the mechanism of men's sexuality. You will be able to achieve the most powerful sex ability when you discard all the desire to have sex, which most men consider as the most important thing in their life. On the other hand, you will end up destroying your body, mind, and sexuality if you make efforts to achieve sexual pleasure based on the desire to have sex and not being able to even have sex even when you have the strongest desire to have sex.

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[Sex & Xes] Does he love me, or just want to have sex with me?

 

Hi, guys. I am Kyungmi Kim at Korea Institute of Psycho-education. Women may not be able to discern easily whether men's sweet expressions come from the desire to have sex or from love. Women usually consider both of them as men's attention given to women anyway. Men themselves cannot discern whether they feel love or just have the desire to have sex with women. People just assume that love leads to the desire to have sex and the desire to have sex can lead to love sometimes. 

However, men's love is completely different from the desire to have sex and they must be clearly differentiated. When men love women, they try to protect women in every aspect including women's body, mind, and sexuality. Thus, when men love women, they lose the desire to have sex with their women, and they never express the desire to have sex with women they love even if they have it because their first priority is to protect their women. 

The purpose of having the desire to have sex is to have their own sexual pleasure, and it is not related with the concept of protecting their partner at all. Therefore, men do not consider their women as sexual objects. Of course, men can have sexual desire in a general sense. Sexual desire in a general sense is related with the pure and pleasant sensation the body recognizes regarding sexuality without the desire to have sex. 

When a man becomes to love a woman after he starts the relationship out of the desire to have sex, he loses the desire to have sex with the woman. He may seem to have lost interest in the woman. Men's losing the desire to have sex doesn't always guarantee that he loves the woman, though. He may have lost the desire to have sex because he truly loves the woman, or he may be expressing his desire to have sex to another woman. 

Men do their best to protect their women's body, mind, and sexuality, so they may do their best to make their women happy without activating their desire to have sex. Men vaguely understand that their desire to have sex destroys their women. When a man loves a woman, he naturally loses the desire to have sex with his woman, but not having the desire to have sex with her doesn't guarantee that he loves the woman. 

Men's desire to have sex activates negative xes energy in xesmind without exception, and damages men's body and mind. However, the actual operation of xesmind is not recognized and the result of the operation of xesmind is recognized only as pleasure in mimind, which makes men consider the desire to have sex and sexual pleasure as something positive. 

As negative xes energy is continuously activated, men may develop psychological problems and psychological disorders as well as sexual dysfunctions. In other words, they lose true sex ability they are born with. Men do not understand this mechanism, so they try to complement their sexual dysfunctions and reinforce the desire to have sex and sexual pleasure by having different sex partners, learning sex techniques, or even taking surgeries. It must be clearly understood that these men have neither sex ability nor the ability to love. Luckily enough though, these men can build the most powerful sex ability by taking Sex Therapy for Men at Korea Institute of Psycho-education, can build the ability to protect women they love, and live in sexual utopia without the desire to have sex for the rest of their life.

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[Sex & Xes] Pursuing sexual pleasure vs. having true sex ability

 

Men who have strong sexual desire and pursue only sexual pleasure at all costs can be compared to people who are addicted to substances. Normal people can generate passion, happiness, and pleasure in normal ways without depending on drugs or other substances. They feel pity on those who are addicted to drugs or substances. 

Those who are addicted to drugs may justify their behaviors and they will try to obtain drugs at all costs. They may even think that they are better than others since they can experience the utmost pleasure normal people cannot experience. However, they are actually destroying their own body and mind pursuing pleasure depending on drugs, and they end up living an unfortunate or the worst life. 

Men who have the most powerful sex ability naturally have confidence and composure of the winner. They can be compared to monks who have transcended the realm of human sexuality, so they don't have sexual desire and don't pursue sexual pleasure. They can achieve happiness in mind without sexual desire and sexual pleasure. 

Men who have strong sexual desire and pursue only sexual pleasure at all costs may value sexual desire and sexual pleasure as something they can be proud of having, but it only indicates that they don't have true sex ability and they are destroying their own life and others' lives. They are like drug addicts who feel pity on monks. 

Men who have true sex ability can find the oasis in the desert and enjoy happiness in the utopia. Men who have strong sexual desire and pursue sexual pleasure are following the mirage in the desert until death. Men can and must build the most powerful sex ability through Sex Therapy for Men. Then, they will understand how monks feel about laymen who suffer from all kinds of secular issues. 

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[Sex & Xes] Men's most powerful sex ability

      Hi guys, I'm Kyungmi Kim at Korea Institute of Psycho-education. Sexual utopia all men wish for can be built by having the most powerful sex ability. Men's true sex ability can result in much greater change in men's life than anyone can imagine. True sex ability is not the ability to enjoy the short moment of sexual actions. Then, what changes would men experience when they have the most powerful sex ability?

     When men have the most powerful sex ability, they can have the ability to heal stress in daily life, make their body healthy and mind happy, and generate passion and confidence. They can have calm and stable physical and psychological condition and they lose the endless thirst of sexual desire and the sense of inferiority. 

     They can comply with women in every aspect regarding the activation of sexuality. They can function sexually for as long as women want anytime anywhere. They can control their own sexual desire as needed. They can enjoy sexual pleasure and sexual happiness with or without a sex partner everyday for the rest of their life. The following are phenomena men will experience when they have the most powerful sex ability. 

     1. Men become to have different concepts of sexuality from the conventional ones. They don't make any sexual expressions whatsoever. They know that conventional information and knowledge destroy their body and mind. 

     2. They don't envy other men who have wealth, fame, and knowledge since they know that other men don't have true sex ability. They know they have the most powerful sex ability, on which men put the highest value in their life. 

     3. The activation of sexuality with women they love becomes a daily routine. Men who have the most powerful sex ability don't have to long for having sex or make efforts to have a chance to have sex. They can enjoy the most intense sexual pleasure with women they love.         

     4. Men who have the most powerful sex ability don't have sexual desire at all. You don't want what you already have. 

     5. They don't perceive women as sexual objects or the objects of men's sexual pleasure whether they look sexually attractive or not. They don't relate women with sexuality since they don't have sexual desire. They respect women as human beings and they have the sense of responsibility to protect women they love. They can build the ability to protect women which all women want in their men. 

     6. They have passion and confidence. Sexual desire is strong energy resulting from the operation of xesmind. When sexual desire disappears in men, the strong energy of sexual desire is transformed into passion that generates happiness in daily life. They have the power of immersion and achievement and feel confident in any circumstance. 

     7. They feel pity on people who destroy human relationships. They can discern people who destroy themselves and other people. They can see what women and men who are destructors do to damage people around them. They are never affected or swayed by these people but they only feel pity on them. 

     Sex ability for momentary sexual pleasure is not true sex ability. It actually destroys men's body and mind and leads to sexual dysfunctions and psychological disorders. Men's true sex ability changes men's life for the better in every aspect and enables them to achieve the most intense sexual pleasure and sexual happiness. You can build the most powerful sex ability through Sex Therapy for Men provided by Korea Institute of Psycho-education.

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[Sex & Xes] Sexless Couples Part 4 : Advice and information that misleads sexless couples

 

Sexlessness can be a painful condition for the spouse who is rejected for having sex. The pain is caused by the ignorance of the fundamental mechanism and the right solution. Advice and information that is not based on fundamental mechanism of human sexuality may be ineffective or destroy marriage relationship.

Most people try to solve the issue of sexlessness based on the partner's speech and actions and their conscious thoughts and feelings. The problem is that the partner who refuses to have sex does not understand why he or she doesn't want to have sex at the fundamental level. Even experts who provide advice base their analysis and advice only on the visible phenomena. Most of common advice and information are non-sensical or even outrageous from the perspective of the operational mechanism of human mind and sexuality. 

For example, having conversations and sharing emotions can be effective in improving the couple relationship with respect to emotional connection, but it is irrelevant to the issue of sexlessness. Men do not connect emotions with sexuality, so such advice is meaningless to the husband who refuses to have sex. Many people argue that men also connect sexuality and emotions, but it is not feelings in mimind but xes feelings in xesmind that men connect with sexuality. 

Also, when the husband tries to connect with the wife emotionally to persuade her to have sex with him, the wife loses sexual desire even further since she feels emotionally satisfied through the interaction. Women's sexual desire is the desire to treat wounds in mimind. Emotional interaction with the husband is perceived as attention and consolation and makes her feel loved and comfortable making sexual actions unnecessary. 

She may decide to have sex with the husband as a reward of getting attention and consolation as her wounds are healed and love is reinforced since sexuality and feelings in mimind are closely connected in normal women. It can be a good way of improving the couple relationship even though reinforcing emotional connection is not the direct force that activates sexuality in women. 

Another type of advice couples often adopt to overcome sexlessness is to reinforce sexual sensations to enhance sexual pleasure. It includes spending longer time for foreplay, taking surgery on sexual organs, or learn diverse sex techniques. A longer foreplay and adopting diverse sex techniques may be perceived as love and attention by the wife and she may feel better emotionally when she does not have discomfort or repulsion in the first place.

Women experience sexual pleasure in two cases. One is when sexual actions are familiar ones for them. Women with diverse sexual experiences may be able to sense sexual pleasure more easily than women who don't have many sexual experiences. Normal women cannot amplify sexual sensations when the partner or the situation is unfamiliar or they don't have feelings of love toward the partner.

The other is when women develop sexual desire based on wounds in mimind in order to restore happiness. These women are easily aroused sexually and sense greater sexual pleasure than normal women. Women's recognition of sexual pleasure is not the matter of their physical condition but the matter of the operation of their mimind and xesmind. When women try to reinforce physical aspect of sexuality consciously and pursue sexual pleasure disregarding the operation of mimind and xesmind, they necessarily develop negative sexual energy and grow wounds in mimind, which in turn increases sexual desire even further. Then, they may think that their attempts to activate sexuality are effective since they respond to sexual stimulation easily and recognize sexual pleasure more intensely. Unfortunately, they are only destroying their mind and body growing their wounds in mimind.

The wife who still refuses to cooperate with the husband's attempt or the expert's advice to enhance her sexual responses is actually trying to protect her body and mind. The same applies to the husband who doesn't show much interest in having sex. Men basically perceive having sex as a way of having pleasure. The husband not making attempts to enhance sexual pleasure indicates that he doesn't perceive the wife as a sexual object. 

People may criticize such husbands and wives blaming them for not making enough efforts to activate sexuality in the marriage relationship. They put priority on activating sexuality in marriage relationship based on distorted ideas on marriage and sexuality, and may even justify infidelity. They have no idea how destructive distorted activation of sexuality can be for both individuals and relationships. 

Activation of sexuality can be important and meaningful in marriage relationship. Sexuality in married couples means much more than just a way of enhancing intimacy or relieving sexual desire. We must accurately understand the operational mechanism of human mind and sexuality, and adopt the right method of activating sexuality in the way that promotes health and happiness for both the wife and the husband. We must be able to distinguish the right advice and information from the wrong and destructive ones. You must keep in mind that so-called experts may be actually leading you and your spouse to destroy your body and mind as well as your marriage relationship. 

The best way to solve couples' sexual issues is for the wife to understand the operational mechanism of human sexuality and internalize the method of activating sexuality putting herself at the center of her mind and sexuality. That is, she has to build true sex ability in herself. On the other hand, the husband must discard all his concepts and ideas he has had so far, simply focusing on protecting the wife complying with the wife in every aspect. Analyzing human sexuality based on visible phenomena and the visible operation of psychology is the most distorted way of approaching sexual issues, and it can be the determining factor that destroys individuals and marriage relationships.

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