[Sex & Xes] My friend and my girlfriend are seeing each other.

 

Hello, everyone. Today I will fact-check on the situation where a man’s friend and the man’s girlfriend have developed a romantic relationship. The three of them would hang out together often, but the man never doubted his friend and his girlfriend would develop a relationship. One day, he had an argument with his girlfriend and she began to avoid seeing him since then. After some time, he finds out that his friend and his girlfriend have been seeing each other.

The man can’t figure out how it has happened. He thinks that he shouldn’t have introduced them to each other in the first place. However, the problem started not when they were introduced to each other, but when the man and his girlfriend had an argument. They didn’t fall in love when they first met as the man’s friend and his girlfriend. It is nothing like they were meant for each other or anything like that. It is more about how human psychology and sexuality work. This kind of phenomenon happens often around us.

Firstly, a man perceives his friend’s girlfriend as xes information as he does all other unrelated women. It doesn’t mean that he would think about going out with the woman betraying his friend at all. Men who have psychological problems would do so, but a normal man respects the relationship between his friend and his friend’s girlfriend. However, his xes psychology is activated when they hang out together with them, which makes him feel good.  

The woman also perceives her boyfriend’s friend as xes information and feels uncomfortable and awkward at first. Normal women refuse to accept new xes information. She keeps her boyfriend at the center of her emotions and she doesn’t think much of her boyfriend’s friend. However, as the three people get together often, the woman perceives her boyfriend’s friend as familiar xes information more and more. Moreover, she thinks that he is just her boyfriend’s friend and lowers her guard against him and become defenseless.

When she has arguments with her boyfriend, she may talk with his friend about the matters. In this process, the woman makes expressions of her wounds and, surprisingly, the man begins to activate sexuality upon her expressions of wounds. He may begin to provide her with attention and consolation and try to solve problems for her. There are not many things he can do to solve problems in this situation. She is his friend’s girlfriend after all.  

As the woman gets attention and consolation from the man repeatedly, she also begins to activate sexuality in the relationship with her boyfriend’s friend. It must be clearly understood that women’s expressions of wounds and men’s attention and consolation lead to the activation of sexuality. What would happen when women’s expressions of wounds and men’s attention and consolation are repeated? Yes, they develop feelings toward each other without even understanding why they feel that way.  

Suppose that one day the couple had an argument and the woman and the man friend had a talk and a drink together, with the woman expressing her wounds from her argument with her boyfriend and the man providing her with sincere attention and consolation. They usually end up having sex with each other that night.

You may feel sorry for her boyfriend and think that you will never introduce your girlfriend to any of your friend. You don’t have to worry about it at all. It is only natural couples have arguments and friends hang out with couples. You just have to keep in mind that the woman must express her wounds only to her boyfriend and the boyfriend has to provide her with attention and consolation as much as possible. Then, their relationship becomes more solid.  

The operation of human xesmind and sexuality lies beyond the realm of human consciousness. You must accurately understand the operational mechanism of human mimind and xesmind to avoid undesirable or dangerous circumstances in relationships with other people. Then, you can protect yourself and other people and establish healthy and happy relationships.

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[Sex & Xes] Setting limits on sexual pleasure #1 : Men’s standards & women’s feelings

 

Conventional concepts of sexuality set limits on the scope and depth of sexual pleasure. Today, the most typical factors are discussed, which are men’s standards for sexual pleasure in having sex and women’s feelings regarding sexuality and having sex.  

       All men have their own standards regarding sexuality. These standards are formed and maintained in order to satisfy men’s sexual desire. For example, if a man has a strong idea that a full bust arouses him sexually, he is likely to be aroused and satisfied only when a woman has a full bust. Then, this man may have less sexual pleasure from having sex with a woman who doesn’t have a full bust, or he may exclude women who don’t have a full bust from his prospective sex partners. Having strong preferences or standards about sexuality leads men to develop sexual dysfunctions.

       Men’s standards regarding sexuality based on their own sexual desire are the biggest contributor to setting limits on their sex ability and sexual pleasure. In other words, men can enter the world of limitless sexual pleasure only when they discard their own standards based on sexual desire. 

     Men’s sexual functions can also be maximized only when they are free from sexual desire and specific standards regarding sexuality. It means that men can comply with any woman who they choose to love and protect to achieve sexual happiness in the relationship. In this condition, men’s sexual functions are controlled not by themselves but by the woman partner in the way the woman wants.  

     Many men and women misunderstand that women’s sexual pleasure is less than men’s sexual pleasure in its scope and depth. It is because the distorted concept of sexuality has been formed and maintained for such a long time in history, with men at the center instead of women. The most basic distortion is the belief that men’s sexual pleasure starts from sexual desire.

     Women’s sexual pleasure is greater in its scope and depth than men’s sexual pleasure by nature. Women’s sexual pleasure doesn’t even end with reaching orgasm. To put it more accurately, the idea of ending doesn’t apply to women’s sexual pleasure. The idea that having sex ends with men’s ejaculation is completely men-centered and absolutely limiting. The idea that penetration and ejaculation are major parts of having sex also sets limits on the scope and depth of sexual pleasure and on men’s sexual functions. Men’s sexual pleasure and sexual functions can become limitless only when women’s sexual pleasure becomes the standard in having sex.

Then, what about women’s feelings regarding sexuality as an important factor that sets limits on sexual pleasure. Women’s feelings regarding sexuality sets limits on sexual pleasure even more than men’s standards regarding sexuality based on sexual desire. Women’s feelings regarding sexuality and having sex plays the role of protecting women by limiting the sex partner to a man toward whom women have positive feelings, that is, a man who they can have sex without damaging their emotions. However, women often activate this safety measures against men who love and protect them.

 Women usually block the activation of sexuality against the counterparty toward whom they have negative feelings. Or they activate sexuality to compensate for their negative feelings. It indicates that for women, sexuality is only a means for managing their feelings.  Women feel that they don’t need to activate sexuality when their desire for attention is satisfied, or they cannot proceed naturally in having sex by the operation of the sense of shame or repulsion.

As a result, having sex may actually make women’s feelings even more negative, the whole situation may lead women to limit their sexual actions making it hard for men sex partners to find women’s responses for them to act upon. Then, men cannot but lead the whole situation and their sex life becomes men-centered. Now, men cannot but adopt and follow their own standards and knowledge on sexuality, which naturally focuses on penetration and ejaculation, entering the vicious cycle. It is as if women lead men to set limits on the scope and depth of sexual pleasure.

       It doesn’t mean that women need to have sex with any man without involving feelings. The sex partner must be someone who has healthy body and mind, and someone with whom you can have sex in a safe environment, and this applies to both men and women. Especially in case of women, they should be safe physically when having sex, and their sex partners must be men who protect their body, mind, sexuality, human relationships, and even financial values. When all the above conditions are met, women must separate all her feelings from sexuality and having sex, and must enjoy making sexual expressions as much as possible. Women should focus only on themselves when having sex and should never try to comply with men or limit themselves.

Thus, when men’s standards and women’s feelings on sexuality as well as selfish purposes are excluded in having sex, couples can experience a new and much higher level of sexual pleasure that is completely different from what is known. To be able to do that, men must discard sexual desire to erase standards on sexuality, and women must build habits for separating sexuality and feelings to erase feelings on sexuality. It may not be easy but you can definitely achieve the goal by adopting the right method and making efforts.

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[Sex & Xes] Living in the animal world

 

When you learn about the operational mechanism of human sexuality and build true sex ability, you will see the fundamental factors that lie underneath the visible phenomena regarding sexuality. You will see how naive and destructive people can be activating sexuality in distorted ways. You will also see how people end up paying for their ignorance and distorted ideas.

      In a world where sexuality is viewed from the perspective of sexual pleasure and where sexuality is considered to be closely connected with love at the same time, men are likely to generate negative xes energy and reinforce stress and sexual desire and women are likely to generate negative xes energy and reinforce the desire for love and attention.     

They may live with psychological problems or psychological disorders depending on levels of wounds and stress and the degree of distortion of ideas. Men and women who don’t have true sex ability only aggravate their physical and psychological conditions as they continue activating sexuality. They cannot but keep going away from generating pure passion, love, and happiness by generating positive xes energy and their body and mind keep deteriorating.

Then, women try to appeal their sexual attractiveness and do their best to become men’s sexual objects based on their desire to get attention and consolation. They never imagine that such behaviors induce wounds in their mind and destroy their body. Men encourage women to appeal sexual attractiveness and look for women who activate sexuality based on wounds in mimind. Then men develop sexual dysfunctions and lose true sex ability in spite of themselves. Both men and women falsely believe that they are going in the right direction because they recognize pleasure and love in the conscious when activating sexuality in distorted ways.

Sadly enough, most conventional knowledge and information lead us to generate negative xes energy and destroy our body and mind. Our mind will try to compensate for what we have destroyed and lost, but all our expressions and actions based on wounds and stress in mimind, which is manifested as sexual desire, activate sexuality in distorted ways. 

Having a small talk with men and women who have strong negative xes energy can be compared to having sex with them. The operations of xesmind and mimnd in actual sexual actions and in having a small talk based on strong sexual desire are the same. This phenomenon occurs in our daily life, so men and women who know about the operational mechanism of human sexuality and have true sex ability may feel that they are in the animal world instead of the human world.  

You may have to live as an animal who only follows sexual desire instead of a human being as you keep activating sexuality based on stress and wounds and the desire for attention and consolation, not even knowing what is wrong and what is right. Your level of education or intelligence may not be a factor in this condition since you have already developed a psychological disorder with which you justify all your thoughts and behaviors. Furthermore, xesmind cannot be controlled by the conscious after all.  

Men can build true sex ability through Sex Therapy for Men, and women can build true sex ability through Sex Ability Training for Women. It is hoped that you will leave the animal world as soon as possible, protect yourself, and generate pure passion, love and happiness as well as sexual happiness by building true sex ability.

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[Sex & Xes] Men who claim they know everything about sex

 

Today, we will fact-check on men who claim they know everything about sex. Many men have a great deal of information and knowledge on sex. They may feel proud of themselves for knowing much about sex. However, their knowledge and information about sex is usually superficial and distorted one and they don’t understand what is really important in human sexuality. Especially, they usually don’t know much about how women’s sexuality is operated, so they may be unskilled in actual sex.

Even men who are good at leading women to reach orgasm may not accurately understand the operational mechanism of human mimind and xesmind that enables women to reach orgasm, and just focus on physical stimulation and sex techniques. Also, many men focus on information and knowledge on sex that deals with only physical aspects.

     This is the typical image of men who don’t have true sex ability. Learning and accumulating such superficial and distorted knowledge and information on sex causes their negative xes energy to destroy their body and mind. Then, they end up developing psychological problems and psychological disorders and pursue their own sexual pleasure using women as sexual objects. As their psychological disorder advances, they justify themselves believing that what they know is truth and keep destroying self and others.

Men in this condition cannot enjoy staying in a relationship with a single partner for a long time, and they cannot enjoy having sex with women who are passive. They can maintain their sexual pleasure only when they keep changing methods and partners for having sex. They may blame external factors such as women’s appearance or responses, but it actually indicates that they don’t have true sex ability.

Negative xes energy produced in this process damages not only men’s psychology but also their health, so they necessarily develop sexual dysfunction. They become to keep seeking new methods and new partners to activate their sexual functions. Then, they cannot but accumulate information and knowledge on sex and feel that they know everything about sex.

On the other hand, men who have true sex ability and generate positive xes energy never make any expressions about sex or their sex ability. They know that making any expression related with sex generates negative xes energy and destroys their body and mind as well as the partner’s body and mind. However, they can comply with women in every aspect in having sex regardless of the woman partner’s appearance, character, and style. They are considerate and understanding, and they protect their women. Also, they are always composed in having sex since they know that sex ability does not come from sex techniques or physical ability.

     Men who have true sex ability never have or express the sense of superiority, but they are actually superior to all the men who boast their knowledge and information on sex in front of other people. Please, remember that empty vessels make the most sound and men who claim they know everything about sex are empty vessels here.

                                      https://youtu.be/0jGPHro02rg?si=0vZOHwj1QVoLFgzx

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[Sex & Xes] Why men cannot resist being taken advantage of by gold diggers

 

Hello, everyone. I am Kyungmi Kim at Korea Institute of Psycho-education. Today, I will talk about why men cannot but be damaged by a woman gold digger even if they know that she is a gold digger. Most people think that men are deceived by a woman gold digger because they have innocent mind. It is possible that men do not know what specific purposes the gold digger has in the relationship with them, but many men give the gold digger what she wants knowing that she has selfish purposes. These men repeat being taken advantage of by gold diggers and they cannot stop themselves even when they are aware that they may end up losing everything they have.

As mentioned repeatedly in the previous videos, human beings have xes energy being operated from birth to death. Xes energy is manifested in a negative way and destroys human body and mind when we connect sexuality with the desire in mimind such as selfish purposes, emotional desire, or sexual desire. When xes energy is not connected with any desire in mimind, it is manifested in a positive way and restores the body and the mind generating happiness.

Both negative and positive xes energy spread to other people through expressions. When you activate xes energy in a negative way, it destroys not only your body and mind but also the body and the mind of people you interact psychologically. When both parties are activating xes energy in a negative way in connection with the desire in mimind, both of them recognize pleasure in their conscious even when they are being damaged.

Women usually make expressions of wounds to compensate for their negative emotions and xes energy is manifested in a negative way in this process, and negative xes energy is delivered to the counterparty. Normal women try to restore positive xes energy by getting consolation regarding their specific wounds. When expressions of wounds are made accompanied by selfish purposes, the negative xes energy can work as more powerful destructive energy. If the man partner also activates xes energy connected with selfish purposes, emotional desire, and sexual desire, this man feels strongly captivated by the woman’s activation of negative xes energy, amplifying his sexual desire. Xes energy is not recognized in the conscious, so the man cannot even fathom why he is attracted to the woman and cannot fight against the captivation.

Interestingly, the level or the size of women’s xes energy can be expanded limitlessly depending on situations, but men’s xes energy is small and limited compared with women’s xes energy. Men must be provided with xes energy from women to amplify their passion. Men are attracted to xes energy provided by women whether it is negative or positive. Men who activate xes energy in a negative way are attracted to women who activate xes energy in a negative way much more than normal men. As a result, they cannot get themselves out of the trap set by women who activate xes energy in a negative way at the full scale once they are captivated, even when their body and mind are destroyed and their values of life are lost. This mechanism explains how men are damaged by gold diggers, feeling intense pleasure from the woman’s expressions and responses.

The man feels that he wants to give the gold digger whatever she wants even if he doesn’t have sex with her. It is because the gold digger activates xes energy in a negative way at a much higher level than normal women, and she spreads it to the man through expressions and responses. Men’s body and mind are destroyed by being infused with negative xes energy, but they feel intense pleasure in the conscious. Men who are in this condition may be able to distinguish right from wrong in the conscious, but they have lost the ability to make right decisions and take right actions. This can be considered as Stockholm syndrome that can occur in men.

Men who are captivated by a gold digger may even give up their life as well as their wealth and career. They may justify their thoughts and actions and even think that they are in love with the gold digger. This phenomenon is not uncommon to see around us. A typical example is infidelity. Many men are abandoning their wife and children, and are being exploited by their adulteresses even at this very moment.  

Men who are under great stress or on the verge of suffering from burnout syndrome must be extremely careful not to get involved with women who approach them with selfish purposes, emotional desire, or sexual desire. Men who have great passion and the ability for immersion usually develop burnout syndrome when they suddenly lose passion for some reason. They can recover easily when they are provided with women’s positive xes energy. However, these men also become targets of gold diggers since they become sensitive and responsive to women’s negative and strong xes energy.

When men are infused with positively manifested xes energy, which doesn’t involve any desire such as selfish purposes, emotional desire, or sexual desire, men can restore pure passion and pursue self-actualization in a healthy way. When men are infused with negatively manifested xes energy, they develop distorted passion and pursue only sexual pleasure. The operation of human sexuality and that of xesmind cannot be controlled only by the operation of the human conscious. What we can do to protect us is to accurately understand the operational mechanism of human mind and sexuality, that is, the operational mechanism of mimind and xesmind, and build the ability to activate xes energy in a positive way. We should also make the environment safe and healthy so that we are not exposed to dangerous situations. This way, men can build true sex ability, and this is the only way for men who are taken advantage of by gold diggers to restore healthy psychology and healthy life.  

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[Sex & Xes] A male friend, a female friend, & a friend with benefit

 

Hello, everyone. Today, we will talk about the concept of a male friend, a female friend, and a friend with benefits. Many people have friends who are opposite gender. It is argued that they are opposite gender, but they don’t feel any emotion or feeling that occurs in a prospective romantic or dating relationship at all.

 Human beings cannot but involve emotions and feelings in all relationships with people whether they are the same gender or opposite gender as we make psychological interaction. Humans are designed to perceive sexual information the moment they perceive the counterparty is the opposite gender. Any interaction or relationship with people who are opposite gender leads to the activation of xesmind. You may not recognize this activation of xesmind in the conscious, so you may think that your relationship with a person of opposite gender can be without any activation of sexuality.

Generally, people who have healthy and normal psychology try to keep a certain distance from people of opposite gender even when they feel that their relationship is only that of pure friendship. It is to acknowledge that they are opposite gender. The woman will try to protect her sexuality by keeping distance and the man will also respect the woman’s intention. Then, harmony and order is achieved in the relationship and their psychology keeps working in a healthy way even when they don’t know about the operational mechanism of human mind and sexuality.

When they overtly claim that sexuality or xesmind is never activated in the relationship with a person of opposite gender, it indicates that they are trying to hide the fact that they perceive the counterparty as an opposite gender and are activating the psychology of sexuality even more than other people.  

      Sexual actions are only a small part of the result of the operation of mimind and xesmind. A complex process takes place in mimind and xesmind before sexual actions are taken as a result. You and your friend of opposite gender cannot but be involved in the psychological interaction accompanied by the activation of xesmind whatever you do together. Your activation of xesmind is expressed in your speech and actions even without any sexual expressions.

     In this process, the man can have fun and pleasure from the woman’s responses, and the woman feels good by getting the man’s attention. They may not take sexual actions, but they are in the process of reaching sexual actions. They can be considered to be flirting with each other denying the fact in the conscious.

         When friends of opposite gender make sexual expressions toward each other, but when they don’t want to take responsibility for each other as in normal romantic and dating relationships, they are considered to have the relationship for selfish purposes. Many problems occur since they deny that the relationship is based on selfish purposes. They are pursuing sexual satisfaction without making sexual actions on the surface whether they have the spouse, a girlfriend, or a boyfriend.

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[Sex & Xes] How to deal with post-coital tristesse

Hello, everyone. Post-coital tristesse is a depressive feeling that anyone can experience after having sex. Some people say that it includes men’s feeling of loss that lasts only for a short time right after ejaculation, and others argue that the feeling should be overwhelming and strong enough to make one cry or develop hatred against the sex partner and oneself to meet the criteria for post coital tristesse. Both cases can be included in post-coital tristesse but its operation is different for men and women.

Let’s first look at men’s post-coital tristesse. As men develop sexual desire, xes wounds are generated based on xes information that is perceived in xesmind and negative xes energy is generated. Negative xes energy is delivered to men’s body and mind and the pleasure of the same level of negative xes energy is sensed in men’s conscious. Men may maintain a certain level of pleasurable sensation in the process of masturbation and having sex with a partner and feel a strong pleasurable sensation at eh moment of ejaculation. 

Men who cannot generate positive xes energy always activate negative xes energy so they activate negative xes energy even at the moment of ejaculation. They just cannot recognize it since it is covered with the pleasurable sensation recognized in the conscious. Then, the pleasurable sensation ends right after ejaculation and negative xes energy is recognized as stress with the same value of pleasurable sensation. 

Then, how is post-coital tristesse different for women? Women’s post-coital tristesse is not a temporary sensation that men feel after ejaculation but a continuous feeling of depression. Women feel deeper and stronger negative feelings. Wounds of mimind is at work instead of xes wounds in xesmind in women. Women do not activate negative xes energy based on xes wounds as men do. Women’s wounds in mimind is activated to generate negative xes energy.

Women who have many wounds in memory feel more depressive feelings after having sex. They may feel like crying or actually cry and retrieve feelings of hating self and others. Women’s wounds activate the operation of xes energy to restore happiness, which is manifested as women’s sexual desire. Women’s sexual desire is not the desire for pleasure but the desire for wound treatment.  

Not many women understand that they can treat wounds in mimind through activating xesmind. They rather try to depend on other people who can make them feel happy, which only aggravate their condition and raise the level of dependency. Then, they seek having sex as a means to satisfy the desire for love and happiness and keep losing their energy in mimind and generating negative xes energy in xesmind

Ironically, these women feel greater level of sexual pleasure based on the greater level of wounds in mimind, but they recognize the deep depressive feelings after having sex without knowing the reason. They may enter the vicious cycle of seeking sexual pleasure, feeling more and more depressed after having sex, and developing greater level of sexual desire and dependency for love and happiness.

There can be two ways to solve the problem of post-coital tristesse. One is to completely destroy one’s mind and live only for sexual pleasure, which makes both men and women unable to recognize pain in mind. People with serious psychological disorders may not feel depressed after having sex since their mind has stopped functioning in a normal way.

Another way is to learn how to generate positive xes energy. Men can enjoy the highest level of sexual pleasure without sexual desire and use xes energy for generating passion for pursuing values of life. They have most powerful sex ability and don’t have to experience post-coital tristesse at all. Women can activate sexuality in the way they can generate love and happiness. They should learn about the concepts accurately and internalize them to practice in daily life.

                             https://youtu.be/hq9rXY_zDA8?si=P6rJlCeISNc__HFs

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[Sex & Xes] The criteria of sex crimes

 

Men and women have different operations of mimind and xesmind, and mimind and xesmind are operated in the opposite ways. What we recognize in the conscious about the operation of sexuality necessarily leads to serious errors and distorted judgment and decision. Men cannot know how and to what extent women’s feelings are activated in sexuality even if they conceptually understand women’s sexuality and women cannot know about men’s sexuality, either.

Xes wounds in xesmind are activated in men’s sexuality instead of wounds in mimind, as they are in case of women. Men’s xes wounds in xesmind damage men’s body and mind, but they are recognized as positive sensations in the conscious in mimind. Men can experience stress in mimind due to sexual dysfunctions based on negative xes energy accompanied by conceptual problems, but men do not develop wounds in mimind related with sexuality as women do.

Men and women perceive differently about cases of sex crimes. The victim’s viewpoint must be considered most importantly in dealing with sex crimes. Sexuality can function as a destructive energy in men’s and women’s mimind and xesmind. It is important to judge on sex crimes considering not only visible and physical damage but also psychological damage that may last for a long time. It is absolutely absurd to accept the perpetrator’s claim that the victim also enjoyed the sexual actions.

The damage the victim experience goes beyond the level of conscious recognition. The damage may be more fundamental and much more far reaching in the victim’s life. The victims may develop their own psychological problems based on the damage of sex crimes such as Stockholm syndrome. 

When the victims’ xesmind is overly activated in an attempt to treat wounds in mimind, they may become dependent on the perpetrator regarding everything including the body, mind, and sexuality. The victims may feel that they are in love with the perpetrator to justify their abnormal sexual desire and keep reproducing wounds in mimind in the vicious cycle.

The victims cannot live on their own even after they are separated from the perpetrator if they have developed dependency. They usually end up getting involved with another perpetrator who induces wounds in their mimind. They also keep involving sexual actions in the process and they may become perpetrators themselves eventually. They may feel excruciating pain when they do not have the object of dependency or literally lose their mind.

On the other hand, men feel pleasure even when they are sexually violated as a victim of sex crimes since their wounds are created in xesmind and men’s wounds are not recognized in their conscious in mimind. Negative xes energy damages their body and mind, and they may develop somatization, sexual dysfunctions, and psychological disorders. They have more and more sexual desire and pursue more intense sexual pleasure, which in turn generates more xes wounds in a vicious cycle eventually destroying their body and mind completely.

In this sense, both perpetrators and victims are damaged greatly in their body, mind, and sexuality when sex crimes occur. The perpetrator destroys the victim’s whole life to achieve momentary sexual pleasure. 

Activating sexuality can lead human beings to generate great happiness, but can also destroy human body and mind in a great deal. Sex crimes must not be taken as a single incident but as an action that destroys the victim’s whole life as well as the perpetrator’s life. Both the victim and the perpetrator cannot live with healthy and normal psychology.

Many crimes seemingly unrelated with sexuality are actually based on the operation of sexuality. Sexuality provides strong energy that activates human mind. It can be used to reinforce love and happiness but it can also be used to reinforce stress and wounds. It you feel that you cannot control your mind to the extent that you are driven to commit a crime, it indicates that your xesmind is at work at its full scale.

It is crucial to understand the operational mechanism of human mind and sexuality to be able to deal with cases of sex crimes properly. This may be the key to preventing sex crimes and lowering the second offense rate.

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[Sex & Xes] What it truly means by having sex without ejaculation

 

Many ancient books and scriptures deal with the nature of human sexuality. They usually talk about the fundamental aspects of xes energy, but they are often mistakenly interpreted from the point of view of sexuality recognized in the conscious. One example is the practice of having sex without ejaculation. In the practice of having sex without ejaculation, you can take sexual actions but you are not supposed to ejaculate. It sounds pretty absurd but it is often known as a way to strengthen men’s sexual functions and sexual energy.  

As far as sexuality is approached in the distorted way as is recognized in the conscious, especially from men’s point of view, it leads to problems whether they ejaculate or not. It is because all sexual expressions and sexual actions with the purpose of sexual pleasure activate xes energy in a negative way and damage the body and mind of both women and men.

What would happen when the concept of having sex without ejaculation is interpreted in the right way? The major agents in activating sexuality are women instead of men. All sexual expressions and sexual actions must be made putting women at the center. Men must protect women and comply with women in every aspect so that women can make sexual expressions and actions as much as they want. Men should not even have the idea of their own standards of sexual pleasure. All men have to do is to comply with women and help them express without having their own desire for sexual pleasure.

When men discard all the standards of sexual pleasure, they automatically become to comply with women’s sexual expressions and their sexual functions are activated in accordance with women’s sexual functions without limitation. Men can experience greater satisfaction than when they have sex for their own sexual pleasure. The true meaning of having sex without ejaculation is not that men should not ejaculate, but that men should have sex without the desire for their own sexual pleasure, which is usually accompanied by ejaculation. Men usually think that the pleasure of ejaculation is the climax of having sex and most men would not consider having sex without ejaculation very enjoyable. Ejaculation is at the heart of men’s desire for sexual pleasure, and the ancient saying tells you not to focus on ejaculation in having sex.

Men’s ejaculation is only a part of having sex, and it is not the goal or the climax. When sexual actions are centered around men’s sexual pleasure, men face limitations in sexual functions and are likely to experience the sense of disappointment. This way of approaching sexual actions put limits on sexual happiness, which is supposed to be limitless by nature. In this process, xes energy is activated in a negative way and damage men’s body and mind.

On the other hand, when xes energy is activated in a positive way by putting women at the center, men may or may not ejaculate. In this case, men’s ejaculation does not even indicate the end of sexual actions. Women may decide to make sexual expressions further after ejaculation and men can still feel satisfied. Having sex activating xes energy in a positive way restores the body and the mind, so you get healthier as you have more sex. It also has both men and women generate love and passion.  

Seemingly similar sexual actions can have completely different impacts on human mind and body depending on whether xes energy is activated positively or negatively. Any sexual action based on the desire for sexual pleasure will lead to the destruction of the body and the mind. So many people have practiced having sex with the distorted concepts for such a long time, and we have to learn the right concept and internalize the right habits. Men can build the most powerful sex ability through Sex Therapy for Men and women can build true sex ability through Sex Ability Training for Women. Please, remember that many conventional sex therapies only aggravate your sex ability and destroy your body and mind by activating xes energy in a negative way. 

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