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7/02/2021
People who easily cry and people who don't
In case of women, those who don't cry easily may do so since they don't have many experiences of intense and overwhelming emotions of joy or sorrow, / or they are suppressing or controlling their emotions after they experienced some difficulties due to their crying. Also, women who grew under tight control of adults tend not to fully recognize or express their emotions. They may not be good at empathizing with other people when they become adults.
In case of men, those who don't cry easily are simply not getting immersed into the present sad situation. Also, when boys are persistently told not to cry during childhood, they tend not to express their sad moods by crying even though they may shed false tears when necessary. On the other hand, men who easily cry may have been repressed very strongly against crying during childhood, which can be reversely activated to make them cry upon the slightest stimulation. These men may respond to stress only by crying without being able to employ other defense mechanisms. When boys grow under strict control against expressing emotions, they become vulnerable to stress in general employing diverse defense mechanisms including crying or attacking others.
After all, crying is a means for generously expressing our emotions, and we can analyze the operation of psychology by observing when and how people cry or not cry.
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What could the employees do when their employer is dogmatic?
There are some employers who never listen to the employees. They would consider employees' opinions as unnecessary nitpicking and make having a meeting meaningless since they will dogmatically decide on all matters anyway. Then, it is the employees who must take care of troubles and problems after they occur.
This happens when the employers' thought standards are too strong and too self-centered, and they cannot accept other people's opinions at all. It is worse than when the employer has no standards or opinions of their own at all. Such employers cannot recognize the problems when well intended employees point to them. They may recognize their problems only when some serious negative consequences of their dogmatic decisions are manifested as reality.
When the employer and the employees cannot communicate with each other for decision making processes, the employees may stop wanting to belong to the company. However, employees can actually think outside the box and come up with ideas to communicate with the employer and develop the company, and above all, build their own abilities in the process. It is actually employees themselves who may benefit the most when they overcome diverse difficulties in the situation and build abilities through experiences.
When you do not actively get involved in building abilities in the difficult situations at work, you may easily feel that you are stressed out and may want to leave the company. However, from the individual employee's perspective, the employer being dogmatic is less important / than having opportunities to build his or her abilities by getting immersed in your work with passion, overcoming difficulties, and making achievements.
Then, you can become a person who can enjoy your work in many other situations and get immersed into your work with passion. It is absolutely legitimate that you may want to leave the company when the employer is dogmatic and strong-headed, but it also must be noted that the fundamental problems of yours are always associated with your own ideas and abilities but not others'.
Free Consultation on Remarriage
[Free Consultation on Remarriage]
Those who have taken or are taking KIP Psychology Treatment for Type 2 Psychological Disorders are considered to have already begun the process of becoming happy, so they simply need to make inquiries on remarriage through [Self-check & Questions] on the homepage. Free consultation on remarriage is provided for those who have not started the treatment process.
The free consultation on remarriage provided by KIP is not legal consultation. Those who need legal consultation may have to seek advice from lawyers. KIP provides consultation for anyone who suffers from psychological pain and difficulties due to issues regarding remarriage. We will do our best to guide you to solve practical problems and find the way to achieve happiness in a true sense. Especially, those who have difficulties with relationship with children and other family members may greatly benefit from taking KIP free consultation.
Please, send us an e-mail providing the following information for free consultation on remarriage. You will receive a written report on the result of consultation in a few days. We will guide you to correctly address the issues regarding remarriage with adequate concepts and strategies based on accurate understanding of human mind and psychology.
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[Application form for free consultation on divorce]
* Title of your e--mail : Application for free consultation on remarriage
(Your name or a pseudonym)
1. Personal Information:
1) Name (Pseudonym) :
2) E-mail address:
3) Country / Region of Residence:
4) Gender :
5) Age of yours and your spouse's :
6) Period of marriage or living together in the first marriage of yours and
your current partner's:
7) Period of staying alone after divorce of yours and your current partner's
8) Period of dating with the current partner before remarriage
9) Period of remarriage or living together :
10) Number of children/ their age & gender :
11) Other experiences of psychological difficulties :
2. Points of inquiry :
3. Points of request :
4. Questions :
[Notes]
1. Please, include facts about you in a simple way.
2. Include what happened, how things progressed, how things are going now
for '2. Points of inquiry'.
3. Include any requests for '3. Points of request'.
4. Include general questions you may have for '4. Questions'.
* You may be provided with a more detailed report when you provide more detailed facts.
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[About free consultation on remarriage]
Free consultation on remarriage of KIP guides people who are suffering from psychological pain and difficulties after remarriage to wisely solve practical problems regarding remarriage and achieve happiness.
Korea Institute of Psycho-education provides free consultation on remarriage based on the Theory of Minind and Xesmind. It analyzes causes of problems before remarriage, during remarriage process, and after remarriage, and provides you with important guidelines for properly addressing the issue of remarriage.
In cases where it applies, psychological problems and psychological disorders are differentiated, and different solutions are suggested for individual cases. It also informs you of treatment and prevention methods of related psychological problems and disorders.
Conventional consultations on remarriage tend to focus mostly on general counseling on dating and marriage, which leads to unhappy life after remarriage with distorted psychology negatively affecting even children. We aim for fundamental mechanism of remarriage being known to as many people as possible and for guiding people in pain and suffering to restore healthy psychology and true happiness instead of getting lost in the midst of misguiding information and knowledge and ruining their life.
[Points to be included in the report of consultation]
- Analysis of fundamental causes of problems regarding remarriage
- Causes of present pain and suffering
- Points to be noted when you attempt to resolve the issue
- Expected results when the issue is not resolved
- Expected results when the issue is resolved
- Directions and methods of resolving the issue
- Directions and methods of achieving happiness
- Answers to other questions regarding psychology of remarriage
[Recipients of free consultation on remarriage]
- People who want to get out of the present difficult situation and become
happy
- People who suffer from problems with the current spouse
- People who suffer from problems with children
- People who suffer from difficulties in relationships after remarriage
- People who cannot get into romantic relationships after remarriage
- People who suffer from sex problems after remarriage
- People who feel psychological difficulties without specific reasons after
remarriage
- People who experience insomnia or psychogenic illnesses after remarriage
- People who experience psychological disorders (depression, panic disorder,
addiction, etc) after remarriage
- People who experience severe psychological disorders (relationship addiction,
post traumatic stress, bipolar disorder, hysteria, intermittent explosive
disorder) after remarriage
- People who have worries and difficulties after remarriage but cannot find
adequate information or advice
Most people think that they will become comfortable and happy after remarriage as they start fresh with their life. They never imagine that their psychological problems keep getting aggravated due to the accumulated psychological wounds and should be manifested after remarriage making their life even more unhappy than before remarriage.
It is true that you become comfortable and happy temporarily when you remarry and start fresh. However, your accumulated psychological wounds and added wounds during remarriage are manifested sometime after remarriage and make you live an unhappy life. Also, children develop psychological problems after parents' remarriage in most cases adding more burden onto you.
Many people do not sense their deep wounds and don't know what to do when problems occur in their life or with their children. In the mean time, their psychology deteriorates even further making things even more serious. Then, you may look for solutions and seek for advice through diverse channels. They are all right and may be helpful in some situations but again, your psychological conditions keep getting aggravated in the process.
Conventional wisdom around the world tends to focus more on practical solutions than on psychological problems of remarriage and does not provide restoration methods of healthy psychology regarding remarriage and prevention methods against further psychological problems. Regardless of individual circumstances, you must restore healthy psychology to be able to live happily after remarriage.
Free consultation on remarriage of KIP provides you with accurate understanding of the mechanism of psychology in remarriage so that you can find the right path for happiness regardless of your marriage status. When you have a strong will power and make continuous efforts for your happiness, you will be able to achieve happiness in a true sense even if you feel that you are at the lowest point in your life at present.
You will receive the result report provided by KIP regarding your situation and guidelines for future actions. You will find that the result report of KIP is more accurate and systematic than any other one even though it is free of charge. You will learn why you had to go through such a difficult time without being able to see the whole picture. You will find that you can become happy again by restoring healthy psychology and taking adequate actions.
Thank you.
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Free Consultation on Divorce
[Free Consultation on Divorce]
Those who have taken or are taking KIP Psychology Treatment for Type 2 Psychological Disorders are considered to have already begun the process of becoming happy, so they simply need to make inquiries on divorce through [Self-check & Questions] on the homepage. Free consultation on divorce is provided for those who have not started the treatment process.
The free consultation on divorce provided by KIP is not legal consultation. Those who need legal consultation may have to seek advice from lawyers. KIP provides consultation for anyone who suffers from psychological pain and difficulties due to issues regarding divorce. They include people who want to get a divorce, are in the process of divorcing, and have already got divorced. We will do our best to guide you to solve practical problems and find the way to achieve happiness in a true sense. Especially, those who have difficulties with relationship with children and other family members may greatly benefit from taking KIP free consultation.
Please, send us an e-mail providing the following information for free consultation on divorce. You will receive a written report on the result of consultation in a few days. We will guide you to correctly address the issues regarding divorce with adequate concepts and strategies based on accurate understanding of human mind and psychology.
* Send your e-mail to : uip@uip.ac
[Application form for free consultation on divorce]
* Title of your e--mail : Application for free consultation on divorce (Your name or a pseudonym)
1. Personal Information:
1) Name (Pseudonym) :
2) E-mail address:
3) Country / Area of Residence:
4) Gender :
5) Age of yours and your spouse's :
6) Period of marriage or living together :
7) Number of children/ their age & gender :
8) Reasons for (thinking about) divorce :
9) Other experiences of psychological difficulties :
2. Points of inquiry :
3. Points of request :
4. Questions :
[Notes]
1. Please, include facts about you in a simple way.
2. Include what happened, how things progressed, how things are going now for '2. Points of inquiry'.
3. Include any requests for '3. Points of request'.
4. Include general questions you may have for '4. Questions'.
* You may be provided with a more detailed report when you provide more detailed facts.
* Send your e-mail to : uip@uip.ac
[About free consultation on divorce]
Free consultation on divorce of KIP guides people who are suffering from psychological pain and difficulties before, during, and after divorce to wisely solve practical problems regarding divorce and achieve happiness.
Korea Institute of Psycho-education provides free consultation on divorce based on the Theory of Minind and Xesmind. It analyzes causes of problems during marriage, during divorce process, and after divorce, and provides you with important guidelines for properly addressing the issue of divorce.
In cases where it applies, psychological problems and psychological disorders are differentiated, and different solutions are suggested for individual cases. It also informs you of treatment and prevention methods of related psychological problems and disorders.
Conventional consultations on divorce tend to focus mostly on legal issues, which leads to unhappy life after divorce with distorted psychology negatively affecting even children. We aim for fundamental mechanism of divorce being known to as many people as possible and for guiding people in pain and suffering to restore healthy psychology and true happiness instead of getting lost in the midst of misguiding information and knowledge and ruining their life.
[Points to be included in the report of consultation]
- Analysis of fundamental causes of divorce
- Causes of present pain and suffering
- Points to be noted when you attempt to resolve the issue
- Expected results when the issue is not resolved
- Expected results when the issue is resolved
- Directions and methods of resolving the issue
- Answers to questions you have provided
[Recipients of free consultation on divorce]
- People who have decided to get a divorce in order to get out of the present situation
- People who suffer in the process of getting a divorce
- People who suffer from repeated divorce and remarriage
- People who suffer from problems of children after divorce
- People who suffer from difficulties in relationships after divorce
- People who cannot get into romantic relationships after dovirce
- People who suffer from sex problems after divorce
- People who feel psychological difficulties without specific reasons after divorce
- People who experience insomnia or psychogenic illnesses
- People who experience psychological disorders (depression, panic disorder, addiction, etc)
- People who experience severe psychological disorders (relationship addiction, post traumatic stress, bipolar disorder, hysteria, intermittent explosive disorder)
- People who have worries and difficulties after divorce but cannot find adequate information or advice
Most people think that they will become comfortable and happy after divorce since they can get away from problems of marriage. They proceed with the divorce process or seek legal advice on divorce but hardly imagine that they will get severely wounded in the process damaging their psychology and cannot but live an unhappy life after divorce.
It is true that you become comfortable when you get out of all the problems of marriage. Divorce blocks you from sensing the deep wounds from marriage and the process of divorce, but this numbness does not last long. Usually, psychological wounds get aggravated even after divorce and you end up experiencing serious problems in life or living an unhappy life. Also, children develop psychological problems in most cases adding more burden onto you.
Many people do not sense their deep wounds and don't know what to do when problems occur in their life or with their children. In the mean time, their psychology deteriorates even further making things even more serious. Then, you may look for solutions and seek for advice through diverse channels. They are all right and may be helpful in some situations but again, your psychological conditions keep getting aggravated in the process.
Conventional wisdom around the world tends to focus more on practical solutions than on psychological problems of divorce and does not provide restoration methods of healthy psychology regarding divorce and prevention methods against further psychological problems. Regardless of individual circumstances, you must restore healthy psychology to be able to live happily before, during, and after divorce.
Free consultation on divorce of KIP provides you with accurate understanding of the mechanism of psychology in marriage and divorce so that you can find the right path for happiness regardless of your marriage status. When you have a strong will power and make continuous efforts for your happiness, you will be able to achieve happiness in a true sense even if you are in the worst moment in your life at present.
You will receive the result report provided by KIP regarding your situation and guidelines for future actions. You will find that the result report of KIP is more accurate and systematic than any other one even though it is free of charge. You will learn why you had to go through such a difficult time without being able to see the whole picture. You will find that you can become happy again by restoring healthy psychology and taking adequate actions.
Thank you.
[Korea Institute of Psycho-education & Japan Institute of Psycho-education]
Address (Korea) : 3rd Floor, Posta-Bldg, 14-13, Teheran-ro, 78-Gil, Kangnam-Ku, Seoul, 06194, South Korea
Tel. 070-8822-6004 (Seoul Office), E-mail. kip@kip.ac
Korea Institute of Psycho-education : http://www.kip.ac/
Address (Japan) : Room 403, 3-14-2, Ueno, Taiko-Ku, Tokyo-To, 110-0005, Japan
Tel. 03-4590-6152(Tokyo Office), E-mail. jip@jip.ac
Japan Institute of Psycho-education : http://www.jip.ac/
Address (USA) : 2954 West 8th St. Suite 101, Los Angeles, CA 90005, USA
Tel. (213) 291-46099 (Los Angeles Office) , E-mail. uip@uip.ac
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7/01/2021
Couples must stop conversing when conflicts and confrontations occur.
The husband is stressed by the wife's speech and actions expressed in negative ways, and the wife develops wounds by perceiving the husband's speech and actions expressed in negative ways. When the two have conversations, it is natural that they necessarily exchange thoughts and emotions associated with their stress and wounds. The husband will keep perceiving stressful information through conversations and respond to stress expressing negatively, and the wife will retrieve wounds from all her life and express them negatively.
Then, how could they proceed toward recovery rather than toward aggravation? Many people advise couples to put themselves in the other's shoes, which sounds pretty rational but is almost impossible to be put into practice. Men do not store emotions in memory, so are not able to retrieve negative emotions from memory as women do. Women retrieve all negative emotions stored in memory for their whole life and are not able to retrieve only facts of the past not relating them with emotions as men do. It is impossible for the husband and the wife to put themselves in the other's position and think and feel as their partner does in real life situations. In addition, individuals' thoughts and emotions are formed only based on their unique memories and unique life experiences. No one else can even imagine how you feel and what you think let alone putting themselves in your position.
What you must do is not putting yourself in your counterparty's position and vice versa, but accurately understanding the operational mechanism of human mind and psychology. In case of men, the most positive input is perceived as stress when they are already in a stressful situation. In case of women, positive input helps recovery even when they are suffering from wounds in memory, but then, women's wounds expand the moment the input is perceived as stress. It is crucial to understand that males' and females' minds operate in completely different ways.
Conflicts and confrontations simply get aggravated as the couple keep having conversations without understanding the operational mechanism of mind and psychology. Men will activate stress more and more connecting stress and facts of the past, and women will activate wounds more and more retrieving all the wounds stored in memory. The first and the foremost thing to do in conflict situations in marriage relationship is to stop having conversations. Then, each partner needs to heal stress and treat wounds separately before they can resume conversations with a positive emotional state. Adopting this strategy will raise the probability of reaching recovery of relationship in a great deal.
When spouse infidelity occurs, attempting conversations between the straying partner, who has relationship addiction, and the victimized partner, who has post traumatic stress, is like pouring oil on the flame. You must stop having conversations and recover yourselves separately by treating relationship addiction and post traumatic stress in order to restore a happy marriage relationship.
6/30/2021
How to generate passion and use it to benefit yourself and others
Passion is moods with which you get immersed into an object you like or an object you perceive as positive. The object of passion can be people, work, hobbies or anything other than yourself. When you get immersed into the object you like, stress is naturally generated. Stress is healed every time you think about the object and take actions in order to overcome and relieve stress. Passion toward the object you like is formed as you repeat this process. In order to generate passion toward a certain object, you must think about it first and then, take actions. Passion cannot be generated without thinking about the specific object first.
For example, we all get a certain amount of stress when we work. Passion is generated as you overcome stress and make achievements at work. However, when you are not interested in the work and do not feel you need to work at all, you may try to avoid stress instead of overcoming it. Generating passion starts from being interested in the object, so when you do the work just because you have to, you cannot generate passion and you only accumulate stress. Then, the more you work, the more difficulties you feel, and you eventually may quit the work. As stress accumulates at work without being able to generate passion, you become to ask yourself questions such as, 'Why am I doing this? Am I fit for this job? Am I doing well? Do I even have the ability?'
In some cases, you may think about the object but you feel that it does not accord with you in any way. Then, stress is generated even before you start the work. In this case, stress is induced not from the object but from your thought process. Thus, repulsion toward the object gradually develops when you work without even thinking about it, but repulsion develops in a short time when you have negative perception from the beginning and then, you become to want to quit the work soon. This mechanism applies to both men and women.
If you have never had passion in your life, you need to think and find something you like first. Once you experience getting immersed into the object you like and generating passion, you can easily repeat the process the next time even if you stop generating passion toward the present object. It is important to experience generating passion for the first time. Then, you would not want to go back to the days you lived without thinking and generating passion, and you would keep looking for the object of passion.
People who live without passion usually do not have the experience of finding an object they like or generating passion toward the object overcoming stress. They may have avoided stress or have not taken actions to overcome stress. You cannot generate passion when you have the habit of avoiding stress since passion is generated only when you feel positive moods in the process of overcoming stress. People who avoid stress as habits may not experiences many difficulties in life but cannot generate passion either.
Also, your object of passion must be something that has a positive influence on you and others. When you have passion toward something unproductive, you may do harm to yourself and other people by getting immersed into the object of passion. This is referred to as distorted passion and distorted passion destroys psychology and life of yours and people around you. With this respect, we need experiences in generating passion toward objects with positive and productive values. We must be able to pursue happiness of self and others in a true sense by generating passion toward the object we like.
Not may people can find the right object of passion at one try but you can keep looking for things you may like, trying to overcome stress along the way to expand your passion as well as experiences. Trial and error in diverse areas will transform your passion into your abilities and then, you can adapt yourself in all areas generating passion and making achievements.
When you generate passion only toward pleasure and consume energy without any productive result, your passion will serve to destroy your life and lives of people around you. When you develop distorted habits of generating passion and relieving stress, you may keep accumulating stress from one object and looking for another object for relieving stress. This mechanism can be applied to differentiate people who generate pure passion toward their work and family and make great achievement contributing to the society, and people who generate distorted passion toward objects of pleasure and use it as a destructive energy.
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The psychology of men's and women's crying
Human beings cry when they are overwhelmed with joy or sorrow, but men and women have different mechanisms in their psychological operation of crying. For women, crying occurs by the operation of feelings, which can be activated and continued by retrieving memory of emotions without the present inflow of sensory stimulation from outside. Women can easily cry when they are happy or sad by retrieving memory as well as by getting immersed into the current situation. When women feel sad and cry upon some current situation, they can easily fall into the identical feelings and continue with the feelings even when the situation is long gone.
However, for men, crying occurs by the activation of temporary moods that respond to the current situation that induces the inflow of sensory stimulation. Men can feel joy and sorrow as women do, but men do not store emotions in their memory and activate only moods for the present moment when the stimulation exists. Men cry as they get immersed into the present situation temporarily. Therefore, men hardly cry when they are happy since they cannot incorporate the present happy experience with all the stored accumulated feelings as women do. They just feel happy for the moment and the positive moods disappear soon along with the disappearance of the stimulation. They cry in a sad situation by getting immersed into the sad moods, but they can neither retrieve the sad emotions from memory nor cry when the situation is over.
For example, suppose a man and a woman are watching a sad movie and both of them are crying. The man is immersed into the present situation and activates moods to cry, and the woman is also immersed into the present situation and activates feelings to cry by combining the present situation and stored emotions. When some time passes after watching the movie, the man can hardly cry even when he thinks about the sad movie, but the woman can easily cry by retrieving the stored sad feelings associated with the movie and with other past sad incidents. That is, both men and women get immersed into the present sad situation and cry, but only women can retrieve the stored feelings and combine them with the present situation.
This mechanism explains another difference between men and women. Both men and women can either cry by getting immersed into the present situation or cry by imagining a sad situation when necessary. For men, it is always the operation of temporary moods that enable them to cry whether by getting immersed into the present situation or by imagining a sad situation. So, men crying by imagining a sad situation is simply considered to be fabricated out of some specific purpose.
On the other hand, when women cry, whether by getting immersed into the present situation or by imagining a sad situation, all their feelings are completely activated and assimilated with the crying. Women's crying becomes genuine regardless of their intention since they are designed to retrieve and connect stored feelings when they express emotions. Their crying becomes incorporated into real feelings even when they are imagined and fabricated at the beginning.
Real crying and faked crying can be differentiated for men, but it does not apply to women since women tend to transform even faked crying into real crying. Since this mechanism is not known to people, men mistakenly assume that women's sadness will disappear soon without leaving a trace when they see women crying, and women mistakenly assume that men will keep the sad feelings and remember them for a long time when they see men crying.
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6/28/2021
Boys and girls have different operations of mind and psychology.
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6/27/2021
The psychology of failure
Everyone wants success and no one wants failure. However, many people do not understand the concepts of success and failure accurately and people sometimes mistake success for failure and vice versa. Usually, we think that success is to accomplish what we set as the goal. Of course, everyone has their own unique standards on what their goals are. It is usually considered as a failure when you have not reached your goal and given up on pursuing the goal.
Many people have dichotomous thinking about success and failure and they think they have failed when they have not reached the final goal. However, the concept of success and failure needs to incorporate the process of pursuing the goal as well as the result. Excluding the process and focusing only on the result leads to the false concept of success and failure. Success or failure in your life is determined not only by the result but also by every moment when you make efforts to obtain the result. Evaluation of your success in life must reflect all your experiences including both negative and positive ones.
Problems occur when you evaluate success in life only based on the result excluding the process since it means that you can become a successful person no matter how you achieve the goal. All human beings pursue success throughout their life, and pursuing success and self-actualization is meaningful and important in and of itself. Even if you go through difficult times on the way to success, they are also valuable moments of your life. If you focus only on the result excluding the process, you are likely to develop psychological problems during the process of pursuing the goal and after you achieve the goal and stop the process of pursuing. With this respect, it is crucial that you set another new goal and start pursing and making efforts based on your achievement when you think that you have achieved your goal.
All people go through difficulties in the process of pursuing success and self-actualization, and they may want and try to avoid difficult situations. However, it must be understood that it is only natural that we always go through difficulties in the process of pursuing success as far as we make efforts to create, change, complement, and improve. Human beings are supposed to endlessly encounter difficulties and feel joy and happiness each time they overcome difficulties.
When you do not include the concept of the process in the pursuit of success, you can easily conclude that you or others have failed in life when the desired result is not achieved. Also, you may have the goal and the desire for success, but you may not want to make efforts and go through difficulties. It must always be kept in mind that you fail not when you give up on the result, but when you give up on the process. When the distorted concept of success focusing only on the result prevails in the society, distorted ways of pursuing success without making efforts such as speculation or blackmail may also prevail in the society.
Success based on your own efforts and success based on distorted process or by luck are completely different. If you succeeded based on distorted process or by luck, you are rather considered to have failed. Whether your life is successful or not is determined only when you end your life, and if you have lived your life constantly making efforts for your goal, you are considered to have succeeded in you life. Such people can be said to have set an example for the next generation. From the perspective of human beings' pursuit of happiness and self-actualization, the dichotomous thinking about success and failure only based on the result cannot exist. Actually, the process of making efforts to achieve success is more meaningful and important than the result.
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6/25/2021
How can you tell if a man has an abnormal sexual desire?
Q : My husband, who had an extramarital affair with another woman in the past, shows his sexual desire within less than every 3 days. Does it mean that he has an abnormal sexual desire? How do you distinguish that a man who has nothing to do with infidelity has sexual dysfunction from that a man who has an experience of infidelity has an abnormal sexual desire? Does my husband need more healing therapy?
A : People talk about men's sexual desires a lot, but whether how big or small their sexual desires are is not an important matter. They have sex if they have someone to have sex with, and they don't if there are not. Also, an abnormal sexual desire is a term that is used not to men but to women. It talks about ups and downs in sexual desires like when they have a very strong sexual desire due to trauma or when their strong sexual desire disappears due to a specific incident.
Basically, men have excessive sexual desires, which is why they just have sex when they have someone to have sex with if they have psychological disorders. If they have an extramarital relationship with another woman, that woman is just an object to release his sexual desires. If he does not meet her, he tries whatever to relieve his sexual desire.
Therefore, abnormal sexual desire or excessive sexual desire are terms that are not supposed to be applied to the husband's infidelity. A husband's sexual desire is at work towards women other than his wife. Well, of course, it happens only in his thoughts. He is not like that from the beginning, but, after a certain period of having marital life, he considers his wife and children as if they are himself resulting in that his sexual desire does not appear toward the wife. The problem of your husband's infidelity has nothing to do with sex.
Mindfulness vs. KIP Psychology Treatment Training
'Mindfulness' is popular these days as a meditational method that promotes healthy psychology. It is considered to be an effective method for elevating the level of focus and calmness. It must be absolutely beneficial to adopt the method of mindfulness in general for such purposes. However, it must be categorized as a healing method of psychological problems rather than a treatment method of psychological disorders.
To be able to treat psychological disorders, you must establish clear concepts regarding the following questions.
- What is mind?
- What is the root cause of psychological pain and suffering?
- What operation of mind results in emotions?
- Exactly what parts of mind are targeted for treatment?
- What is the difference between mind and psychology?
Most conventional methods of psychology treatment including the method of mindfulness that claim to be effective for treating psychological disorders do not differentiate mind and psychology, and therefore cannot address the operation of mind and psychology in any fundamental and systematic way.
I have developed the Theory of Mimind that attemtps to explain the operational mechanism of human mind and psychology. It is crucial to accurately understand the operational mechanism of mind and psychology to adequately address psychological disorders for a full recovery without adverse side effects in the long term. Many people continue to suffer from psychological disorders or aggravate their conditions believing that they are adopting proper treatment methods when they are actually adopting healing methods that provide only temporary effects of diversion. It must be noted that even some well-intended programs may lead you to waste you time, effort, and money without providing accurate diagnosis and adequate treatment.
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6/23/2021
How star entertainers can prevent the collapse of their psychology
Star entertainers are born on the basis of the support of general public. They become famous and are loved by many people. They get a spotlight wherever they go and whatever they do and they make general public feel happy identifying themselves with star entertainers they like. Then, some entertainers develop psychological problems after they become famous. Their psychological problems are manifested as negative incidents as they get involved in scandalous events and accidents, disappointing people who have supported them.
Star entertainers must be more careful than other people to protect their mind and psychology. When they develop problems in their psychology, they are at risk of losing their fame and career and becoming an easy target of condemnation and hatred by general public. To protect their mind and psychology, they must build the ability to heal stress and treat psychological wounds on their own.
When star entertainers do not have the ability to maintain healthy psychology, they are more susceptible to getting involved in unfortunate incidents anytime and anywhere considering the probability of every move they make becoming public. Many star entertainers must live under constant stress and end up accumulating psychological wounds that may develop into psychological disorders. When they develop psychological disorders without even recognizing it, they may find themselves in the midst of scandalous events and unfortunate incidents that are disclosed to public in no time. It happens since they have talents in the field of their specialty but do not have the ability to protect their mind and psychology.
Not only star entertainers but also all celebrities must build the ability to build happiness in their mind to be able to pursue even greater value in their career and continue to influence general public in positive ways.
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I am surrounded with people who have extra marital affairs. What should I do?
Q : I have a close friend; her husband and my husband are friends too. She told me her story after she knew my husband's infidelity. When I told her about treatment, she said she wants to get treated too. In her case, both she and her husband are having extramarital affairs with each one's partner. How is she supposed to get the treatment? Is she possible to be treated?
Before I told her about the treatment, she said 'why don't you just enjoy your life? he (my husband) gives you living expenses anyway, doesn't he?' I think I need to keep myself away from my husband's friends. Hearing what they say seems to make my treatment delayed.
A : If you see your friend's situation, the couple has each one's partner having extramarital affair with. What you need to focus on at this point is that she told you about her infidelity. Her purpose of confessing her infidelity to you is either one of the following: first is that she really wants to get treated, or second is that she wants you to have infidelity too so that she can have and share the fun with you. Or, she might really feel the need for treatment. However, if she really wanted to get treated, she would have made contact and started her treatment. Of course, she can be treated if she really wants, but she doesn't seem like she wants to get the treatment when seeing her not asking you details about the treatment even if you told her about it. Also, what you need to keep in mind is that her problem is none of your business to care and give advice. Making own judgment and decision is up to her. Instead, you must focus on treating yourself and making the ability of happiness. Do not care about her. Her trauma will seep into you as soon as you listen to her story. Since your husband and her husband are friends, the trauma caused by infidelity will become doubled or tripled. Just make a reference to this.
As mentioned above, your friend's case is either one or the other. She is trying to make you just like her by tempting you to have infidelity as she does. Especially, if she said to you 'enjoy your life,' she is not thinking of getting treatment at all. Thus, keep a distance from her until you get recovered. If you see her after having the ability of happiness, you will be able to notice how miserable her life is.
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