Abnormal Human Relationship

 

Abnormal human relationships always bring problems. Thus, if it is not understood clearly or if it is not prevented, you might either be involved in incidents that you didn't want to be involved with or be damaged due to this relationship. These cases happen in relationships with specific purposes such as fraud, relationships of blind passion, adultery & infidelity, unfair works due to the cooperation of two who are not in the same position, etc.

Serious problems are potential even though one perceives his or her counterparty as an intimate person since the counterparty perceives their relationship as the relationship with a specific purpose. 

If one expresses his or her emotions through speeches, actions, and facial expressions by habits, the unconscious, to his or her counterparty because the counterparty is intimate, the counterparty will accept the expressed emotions to the conscious through thoughts. Then, the counterparty will make speeches, actions, and facial expressions that the one wants; through this, one's thoughts and memory can be recognized by his or her counterparty. So, the one perceives the counterparty's speeches, actions, and facial expressions as if they are true. At this point, one does not recognize the counterparty's expressions are made intentionally for a specific aim but perceives only that the relationship with the counterparty has become intimate. 

When looking into the abnormal human relationship, habits of the unconscious operate when one expresses his or her emotions because he or she thinks that he or she is close to or loves his or her counterparty. whereas the counterparty uses the conscious to express and perceive the expressed emotions. In this case, the person with habits operating is damaged by his or her counterparty who uses the conscious; this makes the counterparty become a perpetrator. 

The abnormal relationships are relationships holding specific purposes. For examples are a criminal relationship, the relationship between swindler and victim, the relationship between perpetrator and victim, etc. In the end, it is very natural for one expressing his or her psychology through habits and for the counterparty accepting the expressed psychology by the conscious. However, expressions of psychology are made intentionally by thoughts of the conscious resulting in making one and the counterparty express psychology differently. 

This kind of abnormal relationship occurs very often especially in intimate relationships and in relationship with people who have known for a long time. This does not operate in the conscious human relationship. Even though one person in a relationship feels intimacy and thinks the relationship has become closer, it is useless if the counterparty has a specific purpose to keep the relationship. 

As mentioned several times, abnormal human relationships occur when relationships are considered to be intimate and when the relationship has been kept for a long time. People are swindled mostly by others who have kept intimate relationships with them. It is rare to be swindled by a stranger. So, although the conscious operates in the beginning when meeting a stranger, expressions start being made unconsciously by habits once one starts feeling intimacy in the newly formed relationship. The conscious keeps operating in the counterparty. In other words, the counterparty is using this person. As the counterparty starts thinking consciously with specific purposes, an abnormal human relationship has been formed. This person does not recognize this. 

There are some people trying to come between related others by making them misunderstand and distrust each other. This is possible because the victims are close to the person trying to come between them; this also makes them keep this abnormal relationship with the perpetrator holding a specific purpose. When there is someone trying to play both sides in the middle, it means that the person has a specific purpose. Like this, those with specific purposes in human relationships express psychology intentionally.

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The Memory of Emotion

 

Emotions are very important for human beings since they are the source of psychology. These emotions are the moods being lasted; women mostly feel emotions whereas men feel only temporary moods. These emotions have direct impacts on human relationships by making humans beings feel joy, anger, sorrow, and pleasure. 

The memory of human beings must be understood first in order to understand this text. Human being separate facts from emotions when remembering them. Facts are the contents of specific incidents. These are information accepted through the five sensory organs; they are felt and recognized. Also, the facts are remembered both by men and women in their needs. 

Whereas, emotions are feelings that occur by specific facts and incidents. Emotions are generated by fact of outer information and felt and recognized as moods. Moods are temporary feelings whereas the lasting moods are called emotions. That is why mood and emotions can be called to be the same feelings. At this point, men and women remember emotions differently. Men remember positive feelings but cannot remember negative ones by removing them since they enlarge the negative moods to emotions. On the other hand, women cannot remember positive emotions but remember negative ones to treat them since their psychology is affected by their moods. 

As facts and emotions are remembered together, human beings perceive the facts and emotions as if they have occurred at the same time. So, men think every fact they remember positively since they only remember positive moods whereas women think every fact they remember negatively because they only remember negative feelings about the facts. 

When negative moods are aroused, men remove them and remember facts positively by getting immersed into positive feelings. By doing so, they can remember the fact that put them in difficulties in the past as a good memory when recalling it. Many times, they forget facts as they cannot remember negative feelings related to the facts. 

Women remember negative emotions, but they remember them as the void of emotion after these negative emotions are treated. If positive emotions are created and if the emotion of happiness is formed, they no longer think the fact that caused them to have negative emotions negatively. If facts are remembered negatively, it means that the facts are remembered as wounds being left untreated. 

According to this, it could be said that men suffering from negative emotions from the past and women forgetting negative emotions from the past have psychological disorders. A woman suffering from memories of negative emotions from the past has normal psychology. She's just not treated yet. 

Facts are remembered by the needs for both men and women. Facts are remembered as things related to the facts by thoughts. If they are not remembered, that is still fine. Men and women remember emotions related to specific facts or incidents differently. Emotions of joy, anger, sorrow, and pleasure are generated within human relationships due to this. 

Men remember the fun and interesting things very well but cannot remember wounds because the rejection defense mechanism operates in their mind when traumas happen. Women, on the other hand, cannot remember the fun and interesting things but remember wounds very well because the acceptance defense mechanism operates in their mind. This is 'the error of the memory of emotion.' Without knowing that men and women remember emotions differently, misunderstandings along with distorted thoughts that the counterparty would remember the same will be caused. 

Ultimately, the memory of emotions depends on whether present happiness is pursued, or future happiness is pursued. Since women pursue present happiness, they accept and remember negative feelings of wounds; then, they treat the wounds and change them into positive psychology so that they can feel the present happiness. Women are like a factory creating the energy of happiness; men do not have this. 

Memory is very important in human psychology. Memory is either saving objects and knowledge in the brain or recalling the saved information. By education and experience, facts and emotions are remembered together. Emotions can be separated into negative emotions, positive emotions, and the void of emotion; the memory of emotions is dependent on the defense mechanism of the human mind. 

The defense mechanism of the mind is like a processing device of psychology that maintains and recover happiness by processing emotions to meet psychological standards that pursue happiness. Depending on men's and women's memory of emotions, psychology can be decided to be either normal or abnormal. The memory of emotions is very important since it allows us to figure out the causes of psychological problems and psychological disorders. 

When emotions on facts are being remembered as they are divided into negative emotions, positive emotions, and the void of emotions, negative and positive emotions are remembered with their sizes together. Rather than remembered knowledge by studying, the knowledge remembered by experiences generate emotions; the remembered emotions have direct impacts on human psychology. Moreover, the memories can be separated into the memory of a specific fact and the memory of emotions. Memories of facts and memories of emotions are generated simultaneously. 

Men and women remember memories of facts by the conscious when they need them whereas memories of emotions are remembered differently for men and women due to their different defense mechanism. Men are controlled by the defense mechanism of the mind so that they cannot remember negative moods but remember positive ones; women are controlled by the defense mechanism so that they cannot remember positive emotions but remember negative ones. 

The memory of emotions is also important in human relationships because relationships are decided depending on whether positive emotions are generated, or negative emotions are generated after psychological operations. Especially, the memory of negative emotions causes not only problems in human relationships but also psychological problems and disorders; due to this, the memory of negative emotions is called trauma. 

Educated knowledge do not generate emotions in most cases since is it not the result of psychological operations but general information that has become knowledge. It is remembered just as facts of knowledge. However, knowledge from experiences and the memory of a specific incident are the information received through sensory organs of the body. These are controlled by habits and the mind because emotions are formed by the conscious and remembered along with the fact; the remembered emotions influence psychology. Thus, the mind judges whether aroused emotions are positive or negative, decides which defense mechanism to operate, and controls emotions to be remembered by the conscious. 

Men and women remember the memory of emotions differently because of their different defense mechanisms that pursue different happiness. Men pursue future happiness so that they cannot remember negative moods due to operations of rejection defense mechanism but remember positive moods by operations of acceptance defense mechanism whereas women pursue present happiness so that they cannot remember positive emotions due to operations of rejection defense mechanism but remember negative emotions by operations of acceptance defense mechanism.

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The Composition of Emotion

 

Emotions of human do not flow in from outside but are generated from psychology.  They can be expressed outwardly but do not flow in from outside when accepting outer information through the five sensory organs. Psychology can be said to be operations of emotions; emotions are generated by psychology. Simply saying, emotions occur in one's own mind. 

Emotions of psychology can be separated into three: emotions of the conscious, emotions of habits, and emotions of the mind. 

The emotions of the conscious are emotions that are being recognized. Men recognize positive emotions (they mistake moods to emotions) whereas women recognize either negative emotions or the void of emotion. These are the actual emotions that are remembered consciously; they are generated by operations of thoughts and memories. Also, the memory of the past must be remembered because these emotions are able to be thought only when they are remembered consciously. Like this, the emotions of the conscious are the actual emotions that are remembered. 

Second is the emotions of habits, which are the emotions that have gotten used to and the emotions of the unconscious that are formed in constant patterns. These are the emotions that are created unknowingly regardless of good or bad things happen in the surroundings. They are emotions occurred by patterns by related facts. They operate unconsciously and are familiar to self. These emotions of habits are emotions occurred unknowingly although they are not actually remembered. 

The third is the emotions of the mind; they are emotions formed when the mind judges the emotions of sensory information flowed in through the five sensory organs by standards of emotions and processes them with habits. In other words, they are emotions generated in the mind about present outer information. If the information flowed in does not meet the standards pursuing happiness, the mind judges it as negative emotions. If it meets the standards, the mind judges it as positive emotions. According to this, when integrating sensory information flowed in through the five sensory organs, the emotions judged by the mind are called 'the emotions of the mind.' 

As mentioned above, 3 kinds of emotions operate in human psychology; they are not the same. The remembered emotions, the emotions that have been familiar with, and the emotions of the mind could be different. If these 3 kinds of emotions are different, processing emotions become slower a little bit because one must think about them. Psychological compulsion and suppression are caused due to this. 

Each of the three emotions of psychology cannot be different because emotions are always either positive or negative although there are 3 kinds of emotions of psychology. So, 2 of the 3 kinds of emotions of psychology are always the same. Considerations are asked when the remaining kind of emotions is different. This usually happens to girls. They recall the remembered memory of the past and keep thinking about it if there are differences in the 3 kinds of emotions. 

You can see that emotions are not given by your counterparty but made in your own psychology. The emotions decided by psychology is emotions of sensory information. It is rare for these emotions to be the same as the emotions that the sensory information actually has. It is because the expressed emotions of the counterparty and the emotions that you recognize are different. Therefore, emotions generated by outside and the emotions that one recognizes are different.

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Five Senses and Emotions

 

Human beings have five sensory organs. Sight, hearing, touch, smell, and taste are called the five senses. Psychology operates upon these five senses resulting in moods or emotions. Moods and emotions created in this way make joy, anger, sorrow, and pleasure by making psychological operations in human relationship and make us feel happiness and unhappiness. 

If moods become bad negative emotion or hurting and difficult emotion, the five senses are perceived negatively. You will feel very bad as well. If it is said in the opposite way, psychology will be in good condition if the five senses are in good condition. Fashion Therapy is made based on this fundamental principle. When looking into other various Therapies, they all have the same principle that improving the psychological condition by making the five senses good. Therefore, psychology changes if five senses are changed. 

Psychology formed by operations of emotions influence five senses; saying reversely, five senses can influence emotions and control psychology. So, psychology can be stabilized unknowingly if you try to see good things and have positive senses when you suffer from difficulties mind. This is very useful when resolving psychological problems, rather than psychological disorders. 

According to this, sex is very important to human beings. When perceiving sex, the five sensory organs accept everything as good feelings and operate positively simultaneously when making sexual expressions through speeches, actions, and facial expressions. Sex is the only thing that satisfies five senses of both you and your counterparty at the same time. That is why sex plays a very important role in human relationships and has great impacts on human psychology as well. 

If you get good and thrilling emotions by your moods and body feeling good, the unconscious makes your psychology become good and stabilized unknowingly even though the conscious doesn't like it. There are some women trying to eat constantly when they are psychologically wounded a lot. Eating disorders are the phenomena occurred as they focus on eating in order to stabilize their psychology. People with eating disorders like this try to stabilize their psychology through the smell and the taste. At this point, eating disorders can be removed if the way to stabilize psychology can be changed to touch, hearing, and sights. It's just that another psychological problem or disorder will be caused, but still, the present psychological disorder will be gone. 

Five senses not only receive but also express emotions, which means that five senses are affected by psychology and influence psychology as well. Thus, it is also a good idea to stabilize psychology by making these five senses good when you are in bad emotions. Just make sure to know that this is effective temporarily.  Although this has a temporary effect, your psychology will be stabilized unknowingly if this lasts constantly. That is to say, the five senses are used as a method of psychological treatment; it would very effective if habits to treat psychology can be formed depending on the environment or circumstances.

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The Occurrence of Emotions

 

Emotions occur in one’s own psychology. At this point, one of the emotions is the emotions occurred by the memory of emotions that one remembers; it operates by the conscious along with thoughts and memory. 

The memory of emotions of trauma makes the conscious operates; when the conscious is at work, it suppresses the negative emotions that are remembered. Thoughts control emotions because the time to interpret whether the emotions of habits and the emotions of the mind are the same or not is needed in this process. However, if these two emotions are different, more thoughts are asked to be done making psychology operate for understanding and interpretation. In this way, which emotion to be used is chosen; when it is decided, it is combined with outer information and expressed. The circumstance of outer information being flowed in at the moment when the emotion is suppressed is already over; the new outer information gets flowed in. So, after the emotion is decided through deep considerations and suppression, it is combined with the outer information that is newly flowed in; it is then expressed and remembered. But the sensory information before and the sensory information now are different for sure. The expression made now is the combination of the suppressed emotion that has been formed before and the sensory information that is made later. 

For example, let's say your mom nagged you. Do you think her negging is expressed negative emotions because you did something wrong? She is just expressing her suppressed emotions now that are negatively formed before by other reasons. You must think about why your mother expresses her negative emotions to you. Your mother makes expressions by operations of habits that are the unconscious through people who are the closest and whom she loves in order to treat her negative emotions. These are not expressed to other people but suppressed. 

Thus, people getting lots of stress outside express their expressed, negative emotions to somewhere. The targets are usually people who are closest or whom they love. So, these targets always get damaged emotionally, but they do not know about these psychological operations. They never think that the expressed negative emotions are the emotions that have been suppressed. When a mother scolds her children so badly, the children ask, 'what are you nagging me? what did I do?' 

Like this, negative emotions that are remembered are not expressed right away but suppressed by thoughts, the conscious, before being expressed. When these negative emotions are expressed, they are mostly expressed within intimate human relationships. In other words, negative emotions are suppressed by the conscious and expressed by the unconscious so that they can be treated.

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Emotions of Psychological Operations

 

Psychological operation is when each of one's own psychology and the counterparty's psychology is perceived to each other's conscious through external expressions. Among one's own psychology, the conscious which takes up 5 % only, habits which takes up another 5 %, and the mind, which takes up 90 % are expressed through speeches and actions. Although this person expresses his or her psychology unconsciously, the counterparty thinks that these expressions are made intendedly for 100 %.
 
This process is called psychological operations; by the results of processes of one's own speeches and actions, the counterparty's emotions are generated. The problem is that 95 % of the speeches and actions that one makes are expressed by the unconscious (habits and the mind) whereas the counterparty perceives these speeches and actions as if they are intended for 100 % sure. The errors of psychological operations occur at this moment. These are very important in human relationships because they become the causes of both one's intentions and the counterparty's thoughts being distorted and misunderstood and are very important factors of generations of emotions.
 
Like this, the psychological operation is the process of one's and the counterparty's psychology being accepted mutually to each other's conscious; one cannot make psychological operations by alone but will only have the memory of emotions. As results of psychological operations, either positive or negative emotions are generated; thus, human relationships are up to the process of emotions being generated through one's and counterparty's psychological operations.
 
Whether emotions are positive or negative when they are generated depends on whether psychological operations are self-centered or whether they are other-centered. If self-centered psychological operations and other-centered psychological operations are mutually made in harmony, both oneself and the counterparty will have positive emotions and happiness. Having psychological operations like this is called either the exchange of positive emotions or communion.
 
Results of self-centered psychological operations generate positive emotions to oneself, but one will become dogmatic, behave self-righteously, and be faithful to only one's own emotions; due to this, understanding and considering the counterparty will be impossible to be done. The counterparty will suffer from wounds and agony. Human relationships will be destroyed, and psychological operations won't be possible. For the pursuit of one's own happiness, the counterparty will be wounded, which is a very serious problem.
 
Moreover, results of other-centered psychological operations generate positive emotions to counterparty, but one will be dependent on the counterparty, lose confidence, and easily assimilate with the counterparty's emotions. Rather than understanding and considering the counterparty, one will sacrifice the self, be wounded for the counterparty's happiness, and won't be able to have psychological operations as human relationships become complicated. Abnormal human relationships will be formed, and the suppression and compulsion of one's psychology will happen. For the pursuit of the counterparty's happiness, one will end up being wounded, which is also a very serious problem.
 

Since serious problems occur if psychological operations lean toward either side, self-centered or other-centered, it is necessary to create positive emotions for oneself and the counterparty by forming a harmony of psychological operations. At this point, the method of forming harmony of psychological operations is understanding and considering counterparty.

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Psychology and Mind Energy

 

First of all, positive emotion and positive psychology are different. Emotions exist individually whereas psychology means operations of emotions. Positive psychology is not made automatically just because you have positive emotions. When a positive emotion generates another positive emotion, it is called positive psychology. Thus, positive emotions and positive psychology have different concepts. 

Man's positive psychology and active energy are not positive moods and active energy.  Strictly saying, they don't remember positive moods; positive psychology operates instead. For men, positive moods are generated from passion as positive psychology, like the desire for psychological operation and devotion, operates. Thus, when they have passion, they have devoting passion, which becomes the power to enjoy stress. It is the passion that allows them to enjoy devoting for others. 

On the other hand, there's a case when having passion for oneself not for others; pleasure seekers and those having specific purposes represent this case. Seeking pleasure constantly as if being addicted to drugs by maximizing positive emotions is the same as having a passion for oneself only. So, most of passion is formed when a man devotes himself to his counterparty. It is a stress for sure to do something for the counterparty, but the man perceives it fun and interesting. He's making devotions. 

If a man has devoting passion, positive moods are generated; as these moods last, the unlimited responsibility, which is the love of the unconscious, is formed unknowingly, making positive psychology operates. So, he gets hopes and anticipations for the future being with his counterparty and pursues future happiness constantly. By doing so, the energy of passion is constantly formed for himself. Like this, a man gets the energy of passion when he has passion. 

Man's passion can be felt, but the energy of passion is formed vaguely. Ultimately, it means that positive psychology is at work in human psychology. The energy of passion is the operation of positive psychology; man's passion is the power of enjoying stress. 

If a woman's wounds are treated, positive psychology is formed, generating active energy called love. As negative emotions become the void of emotions, she feels as if her emotions become positive. At this point, positive emotions are formed, but they are not real. Woman's positive psychology is not real whereas mans' positive psychology is real.

A woman gets the emotion of love and has the operation of positive psychology as she communes with her counterparty. Since those emotions are felt and that psychology is operated, the woman communes with counterparties she gets the emotions of love. In other words, psychology operates for women as they exchange positive emotions. Through this, women feel present happiness. This is how the energy of love is created for women. As their negative emotions get treated, they generate the energy of love, which is active energy, and feel present happiness. 

What needs to beware of at this point is that psychological disorders might occur. Men can have positive emotions even if their passion is distorted, which is good for oneself. However, if positive emotions formed distortedly operates in psychology, negative psychology operates. If passion is distorted, psychology operates negatively. Similarly, women can have positive emotions even if their love is distorted. Their emotions are good, but these emotions created distortedly operate negatively in psychology, causing psychological disorders. Problems occur when psychology operates even if oneself is good. 

For men, the energy of passion is consumed if positive emotions exist only for themselves and become maximized because psychology operates negatively despite positive emotions generated. The reason for the operations of negative psychology and consuming energy is that men pursue purposes and pleasures as their passion become distorted. They constantly ask for strong positive emotions. Thus, negative psychology operates as psychological disorders appear; the bigger the positive emotions, the greater the psychology operates negatively. According to this, men mistake future happiness, hopes, and anticipations. 

Originally, future happiness is vague, but they become certain that having positive emotions is the future happiness and think distortedly. So, the psychology of consuming energy for distorted future happiness operates. 

In general, thinking that possibility of having the future happiness come true, they believe that everything will be done fine whereas mistaking future happiness is thinking that positive emotions are the only happiness for themselves and being certain that taking and seeking strong pleasures and fun is the future happiness. They don't refuse to commit crimes and do drugs for their happiness. Problems have occurred in both mind and body. They don't mind about others being damaged by them. What they only care about is their own pleasures. 

Therefore, When mistaking future happiness and hopes, one will constantly consume and waste the energy in a wrong way. What’s distinctive of these men is that facial expressions they have now are way much different from the facial expressions they had before. In cases when having psychology works as consuming energy by pursuit of pleasures due to psychological disorders and the past when the future happiness was pursued vaguely, facial expressions change rapidly and don’t look fine. They pursue very strong pleasures but have their mind and body becoming devastated, which is unusual. 

When looking into women’s negative psychology and consuming energy, they mistake that their wounds get treated through consolations. So, rather than treating negative emotions, they ask for fast positive emotions. However, positive emotions disappear fast; this causes them to ask positive emotions again and again in their psychology. They mistake the love and get psychological disorders; as negative psychology operates at this point, they end up mistaking the present happiness. 

Then, the energy is consumed endlessly. They think they have positive emotions, but problems keep constantly occur in psychology. This is because of negative psychology operating. There’s only the consumption of energy without the energy of love being generated. 

The condition of psychology in usual is not good, but they mistake it for present happiness. So, they don’t have any other choice but live the mistaken life and keep consuming the energy. When circumstances like this come, women cut off maternal love. The love given will disappear. Like this, negative psychology is different from negative emotions. Negative psychology means that psychology operates negatively. 

What must be aware of is psychological disorder as well. If men have negative psychology even though they have positive emotions generated, they have psychological disorder. Men will consume energy if they pursue pleasure; women will have psychological disorder of mistaking happiness if they mistake consolation for love. 

If psychological disorders occur, operations of negative psychology will cause problems despite comfortable and good positive emotions. One might be good because of the positive emotions of oneself, but others around this person will be damaged. One might fall in pleasures due to positive emotions, but the mind and the body become ill as energy keeps being consumed due to negative psychology.

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Too Much Is As Bad As Too Little

 

In the Analects of Confucius, there is a saying, ‘too much is as bad as too little.’ Whether it is positive or negative, leaning towards one side will cause problems. 

Leaning towards positive emotions too much is not that much different from leaning towards negative emotions. This is the same as the Theory of Psychological Symmetry. Whatever that is, having it too much needs to be avoided since it is the cause of having psychological disorders. 

Since the mind never changes and operates until the day of death, this old saying cannot be applied, but problems will occur if the conscious or habits lean towards either the positive emotions or negative ones. Imbalance in psychological operations, wounds, expressions, sex, conversations, etc. becomes the causes of psychological disorders. That is why I’m saying that ‘too much is as bad as too little.’ 

When having psychological operations, if these operations are either self-centered only or other-centered only, it means the psychological operations are leaned toward one side too much. Having too much and/or too less is a psychological disorder. This applies the same to both men and women. Even if men remember positive moods, it is a psychological disorder if they remember too much or too less; it is also a psychological disorder if women remember negative emotions too much or too less even if they remember negative emotions. 

Whatever that is, having a moderate amount is psychological stabilization. In other words, it is best for men to pursue fun and interest moderately and to have a moderate amount of wounds for women. Combining these two will result in a combination of joy, anger, sorrow, and pleasure of human beings, forming happiness. Therefore, a person must become a PIR (person in relationships) in order to have happiness. 

In general, imbalance in psychology is directly related to personality. When looking at psychology system, there are 3 kinds: the system of memory, the system of perception, and the system of expression. When psychology is at work mutually, perception, thoughts, memory, and expression are the cores. At this point, leaning toward one side due to the loss of the balance is called the imbalance of psychology. 

The five sensory organs must operate in balance when perceiving information and when expressing psychology. If this balance is broken, various problems will occur, causing psychological problems or disorders. Psychological disorders occur when processing psychology is leaned toward either positive emotions or negative emotions too much. 

If the balance of emotions is broken, psychological disorders will occur.

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Self-centered Psychological Operations

 

In the imbalance of psychology, there are two types. One is other-centered psychological operations, and the other is self-centered psychological operations. Let’s look into self-centered psychological operations in more detail. 

Those having self-centered psychological operations speak and act having themselves in the center when making psychological operations in human relationships. So, what matters to them is their own speeches and actions regardless of whom they have psychological operations with. They tend to have problems in human relationships if their counterparty’s speeches and actions do not meet their standards. 

Self-centered psychological operations make them speak and act for themselves only. These people are very opinionated and dogmatic, causing their counterparties to have wounds and difficulties by making them form suppression and compulsion. They don’t even care about others’ emotions but only think of their own emotions. 

Moreover, they don’t have understanding and consideration about counterparties because they perceive that their own happiness is the only thing they need to care about. So, they destroy most of their human relationships and keep the relationships that are very necessary or that need specific purposes. In the end, psychological operations among human relationships are, in fact, incapable. 

People who don’t admit their wrongs, people who never accept other’s opinions, people think that their thoughts are always correct, etc. feel grudged if their expressions are not accepted by others. Simply saying, they are selfish. 

This means that problems have occurred in psychology; the possibility of having psychological disorders is very high. This is caused by the imbalance of psychology. There are so many people around us doing self-centered psychological operations only.

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Other-centered Psychological Operations

 

Having psychological operations that are only other-centered is also the imbalance of psychology. In this case, one only tries to have other-centered psychological operations because self-psychology is missing. 

Those doing other-centered psychological operations only always sacrifice themselves. So, no matter who their counterparties are, they always do as the counterparties want, become dependent on their counterparties, and have either low self-respect or low self-confidence. Also, they only think of others’ emotions, not minding about their own emotions that importantly. Thus, they become wounded and end up having compulsion and suppression. 

Moreover, they think that only the counterparty's happiness is important. Their own happiness is not that important matter for themselves. Due to this, human relationships become very complicated. Others around them like them, but they keep being wounded. That is why they have difficulties in human relationships. People like this cannot make normal psychological operations in relationships because they will get wounded if human relationships are formed. 

They hold and endure anxieties derived from compulsion and suppression. People doing other-centered psychological operations always have wounds from compulsion and suppression. They think they could be wrong about whatever, blames themselves and have a guilty conscience. They feel comfortable by accepting the other's opinions, making themselves obedient. Therefore, in general, people making other-centered psychological operations tend to be obedient. They are obedient to parents and others because it makes themselves comfortable if they ignore their own thoughts and opinions and follow others. 

There are much more teenagers like this than we think. They have been tamed by their parents to make psychological operations that are other-centeredness. They live with compulsions and suppression since they are weak yet, but this is the cause that makes them become temporarily arbitrary when they become adults and behave self-righteously. Moreover, in cases of psychopaths and sociopaths, most of them have lived with compulsions and suppressions due to other-centered psychological operations as they grow. In the middle of their growth with compulsions and suppressions, their emotions are expressed through specific circumstances. 

Problems are seen in people who make self-centered psychological operations from the first; however, problems in people making other-centered psychological operations are not seen well even though problems have occurred, making difficult to expect psychological problems.

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The Principles of Happiness

 

The principle of happiness is the coexistence of wounds and happiness and means the principles of symmetry of psychology. Women can get present happiness as the energy of love is generated in the process of wound treatment. Men pursue future happiness as passion is generated by the power of enjoying negative emotions of stress. So, passion is generated by stress for men whereas women get love and happiness by wounds. 

Regardless of men and women, it is impossible to become happy as a PIR (person in relationship) by oneself. However, it is possible for teenagers since they can get love from their parents. When they become men and women as adults, there is no happiness of PIR. 

Regardless of gender, it is impossible for one to have happiness as a PIR (person in relationships) by alone. It does not apply to teenagers who are being reared by parents though because they get love from their parents. However, when they become adult men and adult women, they cannot have the happiness of a PIR by alone. 

Happiness is the coexistence of joy, anger, sorrow, and pleasure; joy and pleasure are man's passion whereas anger and sorrow are woman's wounds. At this point, woman's wounds can be treated by man's passion and changed into love, which forms happiness. So, woman's present happiness and man's future happiness is formed when a man and a woman interact mutually and form a harmony. 

Therefore, positive emotions and negative emotions mutually interact with each other. Positive emotions are joy and pleasure; theses are man's passion and the power that allows men to pursue future happiness. Moreover, negative emotions are related to woman's wounds; by treating these wounds, they can pursue love and present happiness. Since joy and pleasure, anger and sorrow are separated and operates individually, happiness can be created only when these two are combined by man's psychology and woman's psychology. 

If positive emotions get maximized, one might become a pleasure seeker generating problems; what plays a role as a safety device at this point is negative emotions. Also, if negative emotions get maximized, one might become a pessimist with agony is followed; the thing that works as a safety device is positive emotions. The safety device for women is positive emotions whereas that for men is negative emotions. At this point, wounds are the source of the energy necessary for women to pursue present happiness. 

According to the principle of happiness, being fun does not mean being always fun; suffering in difficulties does not always mean that your future will be difficult too. Living with the coexistence of joy, anger, sorrow, and pleasure is a happy life. Even if you are in difficulties, you still need to have hope because that means happiness will come to you soon. What you need to beware of is comfort. It is the condition that there are no emotions of joy, anger, sorrow, and pleasure. It is the condition that there is no happiness and unhappiness. In other words, being comfortable cannot make happiness but could become unhappiness even by little stress. It is the forewarning of unhappiness.

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The Formation of Happiness

 

In order to understand the principles of how the psychology of happiness is formed, let me compare and explain depression and bipolar disorder. Since psychology operates in the same way for everyone, it is possible to understand the principles of every psychological disorder and the process of psychology if the principles of psychology are understood. The principles and rules of psychology are the same for everyone since psychology operates in one way. 

When looking into depression first, it is a psychological disorder (the disorder of emotion) that negative psychology operates. The standard of emotions is at 0 states in general; 0 becomes -10 (this numerical value depends on the size of negative emotion) if negative emotions are at work in the psychology. If the negative psychology by these negative emotions is constantly at -10 instead of being recovered to 0 states, the standard of emotions gets changed. In other words, depression is when the standard of emotions is and stays at -10. 

Second, bipolar disorder is a psychological disorder (the disorder of emotion) that occurs as positive and negative psychology cross each other. Originally, psychological state is at 0. If this 0 becomes +10 (this numerical value depends on the size of positive emotion) due to the influx of a specific positive emotion and if it stays at +10 instead of being recovered to 0 states, the standard of emotions gets changed to +10. One becomes manic as he/she gets the psychology that feels as if having a constant influx of positive emotions. 

This person keeps the condition of being manic until negative emotions come in. This person becomes depressed as negative psychology is formed and lasts at the state of -10 (this value depends on the size of negative emotions) due to the flux of negative emotions. 

When this happens, one changes from being manic to being depressed. The standard of emotions drops from +10 to -10, which means that the numerical value of the psychological change is -20. This is why bipolar disorder is more serious than depression. 

As for bipolar disorder, it is fine when one is manic since he/she keeps the fun, but it is very dangerous when this person suddenly becomes depressed. Depression is endurable although it is not easy since the standard of emotions constantly stays at -10. However, the negative emotion is felt very strongly as much as -20 as it drops from +10 to -10 when one changes from being manic to being depressed. Therefore, the most dangerous moment for a person with bipolar disorder is when this person's psychological conditions changes from being manic to being depressed. 

The occurrence of wounds means there is an influx of negative emotions. It is the changes in the standard of emotions from 0 to -10, making one feel depressed. Then people try to recover the standard of emotions and actually recover the standard to get back to 0 states. At this point, one can feel the emotion of happiness as he/she becomes comfortable since positive psychology as much as +10 operates even though the standard of emotions is still at 0 states. Especially, if the standard of emotions become +10 from -10 by the influx of positive emotions, the psychology of happiness as much as +20 can be formed. Thus, it could be said that the principle of bipolar disorder that comes and goes between wounds and happiness is the same as the principle of happiness. 

When looking into this principle, bipolar disorder isn't always bad. It is just that danger is followed when changing from being manic to being depressed whereas changing from being depressed from being manic results in bigger happiness. 

As mentioned above, wounds and happiness are created as emotions of joy, anger, sorrow, and pleasure come and go among each other. Bipolar disorder appears when one stays at a specific emotion.

According to the principles of happiness, psychology changes in a cycle of 3 days; it becomes the driving force to lasting happiness. This is the basic principle of wounds and happiness. As for reference, the man's physical cycle is 3 days; the woman's psychological cycle is 3 days as well. Also, the man’s psychological cycle is 28 days whereas the woman's physical cycle is 28 days as well. The reason why the man's and the woman's physical and psychological cycles are mutually opposite is that they can mutually form happiness as they exchange emotions of joy, anger, sorrow, and pleasure.

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The Principle of Women's Happiness

 

By this point, you might understand that women's love and happiness play very important roles in human happiness. Women's love and happiness is the key for husband, man, children, etc. to become happy; it needs to be understood how great and important becoming a woman is for oneself. 

For the happiness in a woman's life, the love that lasts by a man's passion as a husband, speeches and actions made by understanding and consideration of the desire for psychological operations, and sacrifices and efforts by the desire for devotions are important. For the happiness in a woman's life, the love that lasts by a man's passion as a husband, speeches and actions made by understanding and consideration of the desire for psychological operations, and sacrifices and efforts by the desire for devotions are important. 

Thus, if she gets happiness as a woman by the love received from a man, who is her husband, she gets the wife's happiness by sacrificing and devoting herself for the husband, and also gets the mother's happiness by sacrificing and devoting herself for her children through maternal love. The most important core at this point is becoming a woman that arouses man's passion.  

That a woman pursues present happiness is the phenomenon that the mind of the woman trying to treat her hurting and difficult wounds appears. Positive psychology generated as wounds get treated, the love, and happiness are the woman's present happiness. Therefore, we can see that love, which is the base of the woman's happiness, is the combinations human relationships such as love received from a man (romantic relationship), love given to the husband (conjugal relationship), and love given to children (parent-child relationship). At this point, the love of a man, who is the husband, plays a very important role; for this, one must become a woman first 

When looking into this circulation structure, a female must become a woman first. If a man, who is the husband, perceives her as a woman, passion will be generated within him, making him give his love to the woman. The woman with the love received will become happy; she will give her love to the husband as a wife and to children as a mother. In this way, love and happiness can become true in reality. 

Therefore, becoming a woman is a very important matter. If one is perceived as a woman to her husband, the husband, who is the man, will have passion generated in this mind; by the desire for psychological operations, he will make speeches and actions of understanding and considerations. Also, the love that allows keeping the effort of sacrifices and devotions by the desire for devotion will be created. 

Moreover, the husband will get the energy pursuing future happiness as his passion, sexual desire, and the desire for achievement become stronger and the energy of the right function that allows him to keep the future with his woman (hopes and anticipations for sex). If this process lasts, the man's unlimited responsibility towards his woman will be created, which forms the man's true love that never changes even when he gets extreme stress or difficulties of habits and mind.

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