[Sex & Xes] Stress and male sexual dysfunction

        Unlike women, men don't process stress and store it in their memory, but rather, when it comes to stress, they either eliminate it or avoid it. This means that they are generally vulnerable to stress, but some men are more prone to sexual dysfunction than others. Let's take a look at the underlying reasons for this difference.

First, stress is a feeling that occurs when information perceived by the five senses, which are sight, sound, touch, taste, and smell is unpleasant. When men experience stress, their mind's defense mechanisms kick in to eliminate or avoid it. When a man's stress is persistent, it's not really a cumulative effect of stress, but rather one stressful event followed by another.

In order for a man to eliminate stress, he must convert the information perceived by his sensory organs due to a stressful event into a good mood, which means he must indulge in fun and pleasure, which we call healing. Even if the information that causes stress is blocked, it's not the end of the story: men may feel relaxed and comfortable after blocking stress, but they won't have the passion to do something again. So men must generate passion by immersing themselves in post-stress pleasure. This is where sex comes in. The more stressful and intense the situation is, the more men are likely to turn to sex to relieve it, because what gives them the most fun and pleasure in the moment is sexual information.

Men don't really think about sex at all when they're in a stressful situation, regardless of their sexual functioning. Sexual desire occurs the moment when they want to block out that stress and immerse themselves in pleasure. It's a momentary diversion in which you want to immerse yourself in fun and pleasure, and sex is a way to do that. If you can deal with stress properly and rekindle your passion by having healthy sex, you can actually stabilize your body and mind. But one thing that's often overlooked is that when men have sex with the intention of relieving stress, they accumulate xes information in xes memory.

For men, this accumulation of sexual information grows xes wounds, which can have adverse physical and psychological effects on men. When a man thinks about sex, it doesn't have much of an effect on his xes memory, but when he actually has sex, it triggers a lot more xes information and xes wounds than just thinking about it. For example, if you think, “I've been really stressed out at work, and I really want to blow off some steam,” it doesn't have much of an effect.

 But when you have that specific thought and actually have sex to relieve yourself, it's like a sponge soaking up water, and it makes you perceive a tremendous amount of sexual information. This is because you're not having sex mindlessly or to make the woman you love happy, but you're having sex with the explicit and overwhelming purpose of getting off for pleasure and fun. The more you do this, the more you build up a huge amount of xes information in your xes memory, and the more it's constantly working against you, and that's what leads to sexual dysfunction.

It's not that stress is causing you to not be able to get an erection or to ejaculate prematurely, but that your using sex as a means of pleasure to deal with stress leads to sexual dysfunction.

There's a big difference between stress directly causing sexual dysfunction and sexual dysfunction as a result of dealing with stress by means of having sex. No man is free from stress, and if you're passionately pursuing values of life, you're likely to be more stressed than others. Even if stress is the root of all your ills, you can't give up your values and your social life to be stress-free. Fortunately, sexual dysfunction is not directly caused by stress, but by using sex as a means of coping with stress. Even if you've already developed sexual dysfunction, you can overcome it by creating a healthy stress coping system, either on your own or with the help of a professional.  

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[Mother Therapy] What do autism and ADHD have in common?

 

Autism and ADHD are similar in the sense that both are accompanied by the imbalance between perception and expression. If you express everything as you perceive, you have ADHD, but if you remember what you have perceived but don't express it, you have autism. Autistic people who can't get out of their thoughts and cannot express themselves should be led to express themselves through words and actions, but they don't want to express themselves because they can't handle expressing them.

      When we are born, our minds are empty, but then, our conscious and unconscious minds begin to come into play, and the first thing babies do is to perceive. Both ADHD and autism are caused by problems of perception, which is why they are so common in boys. Conversely, Asperger's syndrome, which is linked to memory, is more common in girls.

     These symptoms are caused by an imbalance between perception, memory, and expression, so it's important for children to create habits to remember what they perceive and express it properly, so that their psychological operations are balanced and not tilted in one direction or the other. When perception, memory, and expression are balanced, the child's psychology works in a stable way, and the child can live a healthy life without any problem.

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[Mother Therapy] Children and teens who are verbally abusive and violent at home

 

Sometimes children and teens use verbal and physical violence at home against parents and siblings. To address this issue, it's important to understand the causes, problems, and solutions for children's aggression and violence, and to know what to do in your home.

First, we need to understand why children and adolescents use verbal abuse and violence. First, verbal abuse and violence can occur when a child is at risk of losing his or her right to be safe, or when a child is at risk of losing his or her right to develop healthy psychological habits. This can happen when parents neglect or coerce their children, which can be seen as an absence of parenting. Second, children may use verbal abuse and violence as a means of avoiding or relieving stress and wounds when they are unable to manage trial and error in the process of forming psychological habits.

Third, when a child pursues his or her own pleasure and a parent or sibling interferes, verbal abuse and violence may result. Fourth, when a parent has psychological problems, verbal abuse and violence can occur as a result of resentment and distrust of the parent. This is when a parent's words and actions become intolerable to the child, and the child expresses anger toward the parent.

The problems that occur in this situation are as follows. First, the psychology of the parents, siblings, and children is destroyed, so family breakdown occurs very quickly., Second, the child who is verbally abusive and violent already has psychological problems, which is rapidly worsening. Third, the child loses any sense of guilt or remorse for his or her verbal abuse and violence, and rationalizes and justifies his or her verbal abuse and violence.

Fourth, a child who is verbally abusive and violent may come to believe that everything in the family belongs to him or her, that he or she should be in control of the family, and that everyone in the family should obey him or her. Therefore, he or she will use everything in the family for his or her own pleasure and enjoyment. In this way, a child's verbal abuse and violence destroys a family, and leads to the development of psychological and behavioral problems in both the child and the family, ruining everyone's life.

Then, what can you do about your child's verbal abuse and violence? First, you need to separate the abusive child from the victims of the abuse, so that they have a chance to learn that they can't get their way. Second, you need to hold your child accountable for their verbal abuse and violence. You can do this by helping them understand their rights and responsibilities as children and adolescents and their rights and responsibilities to self-actualization. If they commit crimes, they need to be punished and held accountable.

 Third, the family needs to be restored. The family must be helped to cure and recover from the psychological and behavioral problems caused by the child's verbal abuse and violence, and when the child returns to the family after recovery, the child must be properly raised and educated about their rights. Fourth, you need to adopt a process of psychological recovery for children who are verbally abusive and violent. They need to recover by treating their own psychological conditions and form their own healthy habits of healing stress and healing wounds.

Once your child has recovered, the verbal abuse and violence will stop, and they will be able to grow up in a happy, healthy home with their family. It's important to note that superficially addressing your child's verbal and behavioral issues can actually exacerbate the problem. A comprehensive solution that fits the family environment must be applied.

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[Sex & Xes] To have sex or not to have sex

 

Sexual desire is something that any man or woman can have, and it is not subject to judgment as right or wrong because it is a thought that belongs to only one's own mind. Sexual desire as well as appetite and the desire for achievement is energy that seeks to fill in, compensate for, or develop something that is missing in order to live happily. Therefore, the first premise is that an individual's sexual desire is no one's business to judge or interfere with, unless it is misguidedly expressed outwardly and causes harm to others.

Sexual desire can always be converted into the desire to pursue values of life. However, there are some people whose thoughts remain stuck on sexual desire. This is usually the case for men who are unable to pursue their values and heal from stress, or for women who are in an unstable state in the pursuit of meanings in their lives and have many wounds. Overly focusing on sexual desire can lead to a life of pursuing only sex as the manifestation of sexual desire. However, sexual desire can also be used as a great source of energy for happiness.

Some people self-impose abstinence because they believe that having sex wastes energy that could be spent for other fulfillments. From the perspective of the theory of mimind and xesmind, this is actually not a suppression of desire, but rather a transformation of desire into the energy of value-pursuit. For men, for whom having sex is actually only a temporary outlet for their sensory organs, there is only a small and temporary loss of energy, not enough to be called a waste.

In fact, when men have passionate sex with someone they love and protect, this energy is actually used to fuel their passion for future happiness, and this energy can be used to better pursue their values in life. However, when a man has reckless sex with a woman he doesn't love and protect, his xes wounds grow to be excessive, causing damage to the body and leading to sexual dysfunction and somatization.

Men are usually very passionate about their value pursuits, and when they put all their energy into them day and night, they have no reason to think about sex. When they stop pursuing their values in life for a moment, the energy that they put into them becomes disoriented, and they feel sexual desire, but when they return to their value pursuits, sexual desire disappears again soon.

 Women, too, will no longer feel lonely or in need of love and attention from other people if they allow the sexual energy to work on their own emotions and create their own happiness. The important thing is to accurately know the nature of sexuality, which creates human energy, and the nature of the mind, so that we can put that energy to good use constructively. If you don't know the nature of sexuality and the mind, and you practice abstinence just by suppressing your sexual desire, it is very likely that the opposite force will come into play, and your desires may be distorted and expressed in actions that cause harm to yourself and others.

If you are considering trying abstinence for any reason, it's good to know that it's possible to have a fully satisfying sex life with someone you love and protect and still live happily with the great energy of passion that your happy sex life creates.

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[Mother Therapy] Children and teenagers who refuse to go to school

 

There are times when a child or a teenager doesn't want to go to school or wants to drop out. As a caregiver, you may try to convince the child or the teenager to stay in school or not drop out. In some cases, caregivers may not think it's a big deal to not go to school or drop out, telling them, "It's your life, it's your decision," or "I respect your decision." Others may offer a plan for not going to school or dropping out, or they may simply assume that the child will figure it out.

There are many reasons why children and adolescents may choose not to go to school or drop out. They may not feel the need to do school work, they may be stressed or hurt at school, they may have more fun or interests outside of school, they may have problems with their relationship with their teacher or with their peers, or they may be victims of bullying, verbal abuse, or violence.

These are all signs that a child or adolescent is experiencing trial and error in the formation of psychological habits, or that they have developed problems in the habits of psychology. Children and adolescents try to avoid going to school or drop out in order to feel safe or comfortable.

In this case, the first problem is that the formation of psychological habits may be distorted, and problems in the habits of psychology may develop. This will cause serious problems in the growth process of children and adolescents, and when they become adults and pursue self-actualization, they will have many difficulties in life.

The second problem is that it can cause problems with knowledge education. Acquiring knowledge is a necessary process for higher education and intellectual development, so we must find ways to replace knowledge education in schools so that children and adolescents can continue knowledge education on their own.

The third problem is that children and adolescents give up their rights and are easily exposed to self-actualization as if they were adults. In this case, children and adolescents may be victimized for other people's self-actualization, become perpetrators or victims of crimes, and have everything they have taken advantage of by selfish people.  

Then, what can you do if a child or a teenager refuses to school or wants to drop out? First, you need to keep them safe, which means creating an environment where they can't be taken advantage of by others. Second, the primary caregiver needs to rebuild the relationship with the child or the teenager. You need to build a good relationship with the child or the adolescent so that they can trust you and talk to you. The third is to help the child or adolescent understand their rights and responsibilities for self-actualization, which should be understood by children or adolescents, but not taught or imposed upon them.

Fourth, you should help children and teenagers develop habits for healing stress and treating wounds, and help them develop these habits on their own, rather than having caregivers, teachers, or professionals create habits for them. Fifth, you need to help them create habits of problem solving, trial and error, and overcoming challenges. Sixth, you need to help them find good things about school.

By following these six steps in sequence, you can help children and teenagers who refuse to go to school or who want to drop out of school. Not going to school or dropping out may not not a sign of a serious problem, but it's important to know exactly what the benefits and drawbacks are, and what the problems and solutions are.

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[Sex & Xes] Women’s masturbation

 

Today we're going to talk about masturbation in women. We're going to talk about it from a psychological perspective. Masturbation is the act of arousing oneself to sexual pleasure. In general, women masturbate less than men. Whether or not you masturbate depends on whether or not your sexual desire leads to direct sexual arousal or not. Different individuals have different levels of sexual desire, different passive or active approaches to sex, different ways of expressing themselves, and different perceptions of sex. If you have a negative perception of sex, you will tend to have a strong aversion to masturbation.

      Women value psychological satisfaction and emotional connection when it comes to sex, which is a major factor in women’s sexual arousal. Therefore, women tend to believe that it is more appropriate to have sex with a partner to achieve physical and emotional satisfaction than to masturbate just to please their sensory organs. Women's different levels of sexual desire results in the difference in how often they masturbate. Rather than most women having an average level of sexual desire, women tend to be on a spectrum of either very high or very low sexual desire, so they either really enjoy masturbation or really dislike it.

For women who enjoy sex and are familiar with the pleasure of orgasm, masturbation can be very helpful, but overall, women who enjoy sex are more likely to prefer having sex with a partner to masturbation, as masturbation usually has only 70% of the satisfaction level of having sex with a partner. You can take a full control in masturbation, whereas having sex involves a lot of movements that are out of your control and the arousal is intensified by the perception of the other person's response in having sex.

     There is still a negative perception of female masturbation in society, and women who haven't experienced the benefits of masturbation may have a negative perception of it. However, as a substitute for sex, masturbation has many benefits for women. Women may prefer masturbation to avoid the negative aspects of sex, such as stress, hassle, and exhaustion that come with sex. They can feel comfortable expressing their desires that they may not be able to show to the partner, and they can experience the pleasure of sex without being judged by their partner. Sexual stimulation is also beneficial because it provides a sense of comfort and security, both physically and psychologically.

     Women have the ability to generate xes energy on their own, and they can be trained to generate xes energy and utilize it as positive energy in their daily lives. In this sense, masturbation can be a very effective practice compared with suffering from and struggling with incompatible sex with a partner. In recent years, female masturbation has been on the rise, and it has become more socially acceptable. The number of single women living on their own is also on the rise, and their personal preferences for sex and their right to pleasure are being recognized more.

There are many different ways for women to masturbate. Each person has their own preferences, so it's a good idea to expose yourself to a variety of information and then, find your own way. There is another thing to keep in mind. Any imaginary sex you have while masturbating should only be for the duration of your masturbation and you must leave it at that. Trying to make it a reality or continuing to connect emotionally in your daily life is asking for trouble. Masturbation is not just for men; it's a very useful tool for women, and women should try to have a positive perception of it rather than a negative one.

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[Mother Therapy] Dependency in children and teenagers

 

There's an old saying that goes, ‘Habits formed at age three stay with you to age eighty.’ This means that psychological habits formed during childhood and adolescence are with us for life. Children and adolescents have the right to be safe and have the right to form healthy psychological habits. What does the future hold for children and adolescents if healthy psychological habits are not formed and dependency habits are formed?

     Dependency is the habit of relying on the words and actions of others. Children and adolescents who have developed habits of dependency are likely to follow the words and actions of others. They may grow up to be good children who listen to their parents, teachers, and other adults. They don't have confidence in their own words and actions, so they tolerate by following others rather than asserting themselves.

      Children and adolescents develop dependency when their caregivers are overprotective, coercive, controlling, or interfering. Children and adolescents form healthy psychological habits through trial and error by solving problems and recovering from them on their own. However, if they lose the right to form healthy psychological habits and others recognize their trial and error as a problem and always solve the problem for them, they are unable to form their own healthy psychological habits.

As a result, they feel comfortable only living the way others want them to live, so they do what others tell them to do. As a result, they form the habit of being dependent on others. Once you have developed this habit of dependency, you're not only dependent on your caregivers, but on everyone else in your life. This can lead to a lifetime of struggle without developing self-directed relational habits, emotional habits, and thinking habits.

      In order to correct dependency habits in children and adolescents, caregivers need to understand the rights of children and adolescents to be kept safe and to form healthy psychological habits, and to apply the right parenting methods to help children and adolescents form healthy psychological habits. In particular, when addressing psychological habits in children and adolescents as well as in adults, self-help methods that do not involve psychological counseling are necessary because psychological counseling can aggravate psychological habits.

By applying the right parenting method or self-help method, children and adolescents will form their own healthy relational habits, emotional habits, and thinking habits while preventing or eliminating dependency habits. They will also form their own stress healing habits, wound treating habits, and problem-solving habits. Korea Institute of Psycho-education helps children and adolescents form healthy psychological habits by providing Mother Therapy, Father Therapy, and self-help programs such as Youth Mind Training and KIP Mind Training.

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[Sex & Xes] What it means by a man protecting his woman with respect to sexuality

 

Nowadays, all sexual information is skewed towards sexual pleasure, so much so that both men and women have the misconception that a man's sexual instinct is all about seeking sexual pleasure. However, a man's true sexual instinct is about protection of women. It is the essence of a man's sexual instinct to protect and accommodate his woman so that she can safely and freely engage in sexual actions using him as a vehicle. That is why a man does not attach meaning and emotion to sex. If a man attaches his own ideas or specific meanings and emotions to sex, he will not be able to accommodate a woman's sexual actions freely because he will apply his own standards to her sexual actions.

Without knowing this principle and essence, most men think that it is a man's sexual instinct to pursue sexual pleasure, especially if he does not attach any meaning, emotion, or thought to having sex. Pleasure is a natural need in human life, but its basic nature is "for me". Pleasure is the maximization of the positive sensations felt by my sensory organs, and the pursuit of pleasure is basically for myself, not for the other person.

The essence of a woman's sexuality is the generation and radiation of xes energy, which means that a woman generates and radiates xes energy and transmits it to a man when the man protects and attunes to her. Therefore, from the woman’s point of view, the partner himself is actually much more important than sexual actions or sexual pleasure to be able to keep herself safe. This is because a woman can basically generate as much xes energy as she wants on her own, so sexual actions or sexual pleasure isn't as important as the partner with whom she can share her sexuality and reinforce her xes energy. The partner must be able to protect her and he must be valuable enough to share her sexuality with.

Therefore, it is a basic value for a woman to attach meaning, feelings, and thoughts to having sex, because if she engages in sexual actions without these elements, she cannot be guaranteed for her safety. However, today, women's sexual instincts also have been understood in distorted ways, and women are preoccupied with these meanings, feelings, and thoughts, putting aside the generation and radiation of xes energy.

When a man says he wants to protect a woman, he's actually saying, "I don't want to use you for my own sexual pleasure," which means he wants to make sure she doesn't become a vehicle for his own self-pleasure. This is how a man's sexual instincts work, so even if he doesn't know how it works, when he finds a woman he truly loves, he will want to protect her by restraining himself. Also, the same sexual action has completely different outcomes when the woman is the main agent and the man complies with the woman, and when the man is the main agent and uses the woman as a means to his own sexual pleasure.

Since a man can generate xes energy only at a negligible level, sexual actions that are dominated by a man end up achieving only the temporary pleasure in the sensory organs, and since this is such a short hedonic response, a relationship that is dominated by this aspect quickly becomes boring, and the woman actually creates a lot of wounds in the process.

On the other hand, in a relationship where the man is attuned to the woman's happiness, not his own sexual pleasure, and where the woman is in control, passion and love are strongly activated and long-lasting, beyond the pleasure of the sensory organs. This is because xes energy that a woman generates and radiates through sexual activity strengthens passion and love for both herself and her partner.

In order for the relationship to be virtuous in nature, it is essential for a woman to stop being sexually dependent on a man and become the master of her sexuality, but no matter how much a woman becomes the master of her sexuality, she will be useless to a man who values sexual pleasure and is unable to adapt himself to her. Therefore, a man must also become the master of his sexuality, knowing that his sexuality is protective and supportive, and that he can use his sexuality to protect and comply with his woman, not for his own sexual pleasure. Please, remember that sexual pleasure, no matter how ecstatic, is fleeting, while passion and love are lasting and fulfilling.

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[Sex & Xes] The danger of using adult products to overcome boredom or sexual dysfunction

 

When sex in a couple is not going well due to boredom or sexual dysfunction, some people may try to use sex toys as a way to restore sex in their relationship, but this is very dangerous and futile.

Women and men's xesminds work in opposite ways. Women only accept familiar sexual information that accords with their xes habits, and the more sexual information they have in their memory, the better their sexual performance becomes. Men only accept new sexual information that is not in their xes habits, and the more sexual information they have in their memory, the more sexual wounds they have, and the worse their sexual performance becomes.

As a married couple live together for a long period of time, the husband's sexual function gradually deteriorates as he accumulates new sexual information from daily life, and the sexual information that comes from his wife becomes so familiar that he no longer recognizes her sexually. On the other hand, most wives start out with relatively little sexual information and sexual function, and as they meet and have sex with their husbands, their sexual function gets better and better because they accumulate more and more familiar sexual information from their husbands.

What would happen if the husband starts looking for adult products to restore sex with his wife? During this search, he accumulates more and more new sexual information, and his sexual performance gets worse and worse. Meanwhile, the wife tries to stick to the familiarity of her xes habits, so she bounces from one sex toy to the next, saying "I don't like this one, I don't like that one," and so on.

However, during this process, the wife gradually accumulates sexual information regarding adult products, and before you know it, the wife's sexual performance improves as she becomes more familiar with the products. The problem here is that when a woman's sensory responses and her sexual performance improve, she begins to prioritize physical pleasure over feelings of love. Now, it may not have to be the person she loves or her husband, and it just has to be pleasure.

The husband may also be new to using adult products, so his sexual performance may initially improve as he perceives the new sexual information, but as he gets used to it, his sexual performance may deteriorate again, and he may eventually switch to seeking out other new sexual information, leading to the destruction of the relationship eventually.

So, you might be thinking, "Does this mean that we should just throw our hands up in the air when boredom or sexual dysfunction strikes?" Well, no, it doesn't, and it's really something to be celebrated that a couple doesn't give up on their relationship when boredom or sexual dysfunction occurs. That's why it's important to know how to rekindle the passion and love in a way that's satisfying and safe for both of you.

 First and foremost, you need to get back to being a man and a woman, not husband and wife, or dad and mom. You need to intentionally set aside time for just the two of you, and during that time, you should never think about your children. A lot of people say that you have to solve marital problems with having sex, but men and women who meet for the first time never start with having sex. You have to have conversations and talk about each other and your lives, but of course not as parents or as husband and wife. The conversation should always be about "me and you", just like it was when you were in a dating relationship. Of course, it's going to be very awkward and hard at first, so you have to be committed and make efforts for each other.

If you can do this, you'll start to feel passion and love for each other again, and sex will naturally follow. In fact, the sex will be even more flavored and ripe than when they were in a dating relationship. But there's another thing to keep in mind here. You shouldn’t focus only on the pleasures of ejaculation and orgasm in activating sexuality. In the healthy and happy sex life, the woman first enjoys the attention she receives from her partner and amplifies her feelings of love, and the man gets great satisfaction, excitement, and pleasure from watching her.

Thus, the process leading up to having sex is what's important: just wanting to touch the person you love, feeling good about touching them, and feeling excited and happy just fantasizing about sex is all part of the process. Penetration and ejaculation are only a small part of sexual actions; when you go traveling, everything you feel together in a new destination is sex, and every date you go on together is sex. That's the love, passion, and sex in a romantic relationship.

This is also women-centered sex. Women amplify the pleasure of sex into feelings of love, and the more you feel in love, the more satisfying and orgasmic the sex will be. But surprisingly, men also perform better when they have sex with the perspective of the mind with the passion to make their partners happy, rather than focusing on the pleasure of senses such as ejaculation and orgasm. In this situation, everything men do with their partners leads to men’s passion that they feel in their mind.

Couples who make the effort to overcome boredom, sexual dysfunction, and sexlessness should be cheered, but it's worth remembering that if you go about it the wrong way, it's often the cause of your relationship's demise, and it's usually due to a distorted perception of human sexuality.

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[Mother Therapy] Rights and responsibilities of children and teenagers

 

Childhood and adolescence are periods of psychological development during which children and adolescents are kept healthy and safe, and form psychological habits that enable them to pursue self-actualization as adults. While adults have the right to self-actualization and the pursuit of happiness, and must take responsibility for their own self-actualization, children and adolescents have only the right to be healthy, safe, and protected, and to form psychological habits for self-actualization in their future. In this process, the responsibility that comes with rights must be taken by parents, schools, society, and the state, and responsibility should not be placed on children and adolescents alone.

       In particular, children and adolescents go through a lot of trial and error in their psychological development and the formation of psychological habits. Parents and caregivers are primarily responsible for the problems that arise during this trial and error process. Parents and caregivers need to know how to parent and how to solve problems so that they can help their children and teens solve problems. If parents and guardians don't take responsibility, then schools and teachers, or society and the state, must take responsibility. Most importantly, parents and guardians, schools and teachers, and society and the state must have accurate knowledge about human bodies, minds, sexuality, relationships, and the pursuit of meaning and value in life.

      When parents and guardians, schools and teachers, society and the state do not know this, they may take away children’s and teenagers’ rights for adults’ selfish  purposes and make children and teenagers be responsible for problems. Holding children and young people responsible for their mistakes, they may tell children and teenagers that they should be able to do it themselves because adults have already taught them, telling children they did the best they could, or telling them that adults are not responsible. In the end, children and teenagers are harmed, and they grow up feeling victimized, competitive, resentful, and angry, and develop distorted psychological habits in mimind about responsibilities and rights. When these children and teens grow up and become adults, they carry these distorted psychological habits with them for the rest of their lives.

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[Sex & Xes] The purpose of having sex

 

What is the purpose of sex? For men, it should be for the happiness of the woman they love, and for women it should be solely for the happiness of their own mind. This is the easiest and fastest way to restore the essence of sex, which has been distorted for quite a long time in the history of mankind. Of course, the moment you hear this, you may think it's nonsense, because your conventional wisdom and common sense will never allow you to understand what it means.

"A man should have sex for the happiness of the woman he loves, and a woman should have sex solely for her own happiness." This statement is a condensation of the Theory of Mimind and the Theory of Xesmind into a single phrase, and it actually requires an accurate understanding of the Theory of Mimind and the theory of Xesmind in order to understand what it means. But you don't need to know these theories in detail to apply the concept in your life.

There is an element in the above quote that applies to both men and women. It is  "women's happiness." and this has nothing to do with feminism at all. And another thing, when I say "happiness," I'm not referring to sexual happiness, such as orgasm or sexual satisfaction. I'm talking about the pure happiness of the mind that is created after sex with a loved one, using sex to energize the mind. Having sex is just an act that serves as a vehicle for mimind and xesmind to work.

When a man has sex to make the woman's life happy, not for his own pleasure and enjoyment or to see her sexual response, his own life becomes energized. When a man has sex with no thought other than the woman's happiness, he will never experience sexual dysfunction, no matter how old he gets. Sexual dysfunction is not an aging issue.

Women should not have sex for pleasure and fun, for sexual attention, or to please a man, but solely to create the energy of happiness in their own lives. When this is possible, the woman’s mind becomes impervious to wounds of mimind and can have tremendous self-healing power. When a woman is able to make herself happy, her partner is also able to make himself happy and live a life of lasting passion.

Animals mate only based on the instinct to reproduce, but humans activate sexuality to pursue self-actualization, searching for meaning and value in life. Having sex is just one of the means with which we generate energy to fulfill self-actualization, but these days, people rarely think of having sex as separate from pleasure or love. Human sexuality is supposed to work in accordance with the operation of human mind. The most important thing to keep in mind when having sex is that for men, it should be with the intention of making the woman they love and protect happy, and for women, it should be with the intention of making themselves happy.

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