How to think to change your life

     You may be thinking that you want to change your life. You may want to change your life since you feel that your future life should be different from the past and the present. You may feel that your past was a failure and you don't even have hope in the future if you continue the way you have been living.

     Human beings usually think before they take actions. Your present thought comes from the present recognition employing the conscious based on your past experience and knowledge. After you think in a certain way, you may develop the will power to make efforts in order to change your life. Will power can be considered as unwavering thought that leads to determination. Putting your ideas into practice after establishing the will power is the beginning of change. Only having thoughts without developing them into the will power will not lead to practice. You cannot change anything unless you put your ideas into practice. Thus, you need to not only think about how to change your life but also establish your will power in order to change your life. 

     In addition, another important thing to consider when putting your ideas into practice with will power is to refrain from being anxious and impatient for a quick change or wishing for good fortune. When you become anxious or wish for good luck without making efforts, you may look for expediency thinking that you don't have much time left after all the wasted time in the past. Being impatient and wishing for good luck is the same as only staying in thought for change, which leads many people to collapse without taking right actions. 

     Then, what can you do to build ideas of goals and action plans and build the will power? Firstly, you must know in a clear and concrete way what type of life you want to have. There are two perspectives to consider when you think about changing your life. One perspective is that of an individual. You must be able to have a type of life where you yourself can feel the emotions of passion and love. You must be able to get immersed into what you do in your life with passion and love. The other perspective is that of human relationships. You should be able to achieve meanings and values of life in relationships with people around you. You need goals in your life that lead you to achieve happiness in the family and the society together with other people. 

     Secondly, you must check for your talents and abilities that enable you to achieve your life goals. If it is found that you don't have the abilities to achieve your goals, you must begin with building abilities, which is one way of putting your ideas into practice. One crucial point to be noted here is that we all have basic abilities since human beings have the ability to 'think', which allows us to put ideas into practice. As far as they have healthy body and mind, all human beings already have the basic ability to achieve their dreams. 

     Based on the basic abilities, you must build the abilities required to achieve your goals. You may also get help from other people when necessary exchanging what you have with what others have and working together. You must never think that you have less abilities than other people. Comparison with other people does not even apply to the concept of building the will power and putting ideas into practice. Everyone can have their own unique passion and love toward what they do and pursue their own goals in life. 

     The reason you want to change your life is that you want to become happy. It is impossible to change your life when you only stay in thought and live your life on a whim. When you do not have a strong will power, you are likely to fall into negative thoughts easily. You may blame your circumstances or the society, you may think you are not good enough, or you may give up easily, all of which block you from making efforts. You may also go through many trials and errors in the process of changing your life since you need to build new and unfamiliar things. This naturally causes stress to be generated in you. However, you must hold onto hope and keep going for goals overcoming difficulties one by one. The more trials and errors you experience, the more abilities you can build. As you continue with this process, you will find that your life is changing the way you have wanted. 

     There is a saying, 'It's all in your mind.' Everything depends on how you think of it. 'How you think' here is much more than just having a thought. It includes the whole process of developing ideas, building the will power, putting ideas into practice, and continuing with efforts. All the experiences in this process become your abilities to change your life for a better one. It is only natural that you may feel nervous and insecure since the future has never been lived before. However, you will definitely be able to achieve your goals and change your life the way you want if you keep building the will power and putting your ideas into practice. 

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Will repeated experiences of failure cause trauma?

 

     Repeatedly experiencing failures may cause you to develop trauma along with the loss of confidence and the distrust of people. It may also indicate that you have developed problems in your will power. When you repeat challenging and failing many times, great stress keeps being generated. You need to keep building the will power and making efforts to go on with the pursuit of goals, but when you lose the will power and give up on making efforts, you may end up blaming yourself, other people, or circumstances. Trauma develops as a result of giving up on your efforts and blaming self or others. 

      It must be clearly understood that your will power and efforts belong only to yourself. They are necessary for pursuing your own goals of life and have nothing to do with other people or the society. People with weak will power tend to listen to other people and make efforts as guided by other people rather than by themselves, which usually leads them to feel hurt when they experience failures. Your will power must come only from yourself and must not be associated with other people or circumstances. 

     Also, the goals set for you by others or external factors are easily given up in the process of making efforts since they are not what you have wanted in the first place. Also, when you make great efforts to achieve goals set by others or by inevitable circumstances, you may easily develop trauma. In such cases, it is recommended that you start all over again by checking for what you yourself really want for your life, setting your own goals, building will power, and making efforts accordingly.

     As you continue with your own will power and efforts, you will soon recognize changes in your life even if they are small ones. Those small changes will reinforce your will power, and then, trials and errors including repeated failures will not result in trauma any more. Stress stemming from pursuing your own goals is completely different from trauma resulting from pursuing goals imposed by others or external factors. Stress generated from pursuing your own goals may actually lead you to reinforce your passion and will power and make even greater efforts forming a virtuous cycle.

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People who can benefit from Free Consultation on Divorce and Remarriage

Following is the list of people who can benefit from Free Consultation on Divorce and Remarriage. 

1. People who have decided to get a divorce or remarry.

If you have decided to divorce or remarry, you must prepare for divorce or remarriage whether you have the person you want to marry or not. You must transfer to the psychology of divorce or remarriage and learn what to think and what to do to prepare for divorce or remarriage. 

2. People who are in the process of divorce or remarriage

You may be taking the procedure for divorce or remarriage at present. You must learn how to prevent problems that may be accompanied in the process of divorce or remarriage and how psychology changes when you divorce or remarry. You need to adequately prepare yourself to become happy after divorce or remarriage. 

3. People who have difficulties after divorce or remarriage 

It is quite common to have psychological and practical difficulties after divorce or remarriage. You can solve the present problems and learn how to prevent further problems and build happiness in the future. 

4. People who repeat divorce and remarriage

Repeating divorce and remarriage indicates that your psychology has deteriorated without being able to adequately operate psychology of divorce or remarriage. You must accurately understand the psychology of divorce and remarriage and treat your psychological condition for your future happiness. You must clearly understand that you can be as happy as possible even after divorce or remarriage. 

5. People who suffer from relationships unexpectedly after divorce or remarriage 

You must understand that you need to build different types of human relationships after divorce or remarriage from relationships you have had before. You must sever the relationships you don't need any more and maintain and develop the relationships that you need in accordance with your circumstances. 

6. People who have problems with children after divorce or remarriage

Most people assume that problems with children come from 'children' limiting the issues only to children. However, problems with children after divorce or remarriage are mostly likely to be caused by parents problems manifested in parenting, which most parents would deny. When you have problems with children after divorce or remarriage, you definitely need consultation on divorce or remarriage before anything. You must understand how you can approach children's problems, what underlying causes lie behind the phenomenon, how you can prevent further problems by adopting adequate parenting strategies. You also need to learn how you and your children can be happy  together in the future. 

7. People who have difficulties with sexual issues after divorce or remarriage

Only you yourself can recognize what sexual issues or problems you have. It is not uncommon at all that people experience difficulties with sexual issues after divorce or remarriage. They need to accurately understand what caused the problems and learn how to solve and prevent sexual problems and live happily.

8. People who are simply curious about the psychology of divorce or remarriage

*** Regardless of your circumstances, whether you have divorced, remarried, or are in the process of divorcing or remarrying, you must get 'Consultation on Infidelity Issues' if you are related with them. Consultation on divorce and remarriage and consultation on infidelity issues are completely different. 'Consultation on Infidelity Issues' applies to people who got involved in extra-marital affairs or suffered from spouse infidelity at any time in the past. You are considered to have developed post traumatic stress and/or relationship addiction if you are related with infidelity issues.   

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On human mind and psychology

 

All human beings have the body and the mind. We all admit the existence of the mind and understand that the mind exists within the body. The body has been more systematically studied than the mind since it is visible and concrete whereas mind is invisible and abstract.

 

Psychology operates connecting the body and the mind. Psychology has three components : perception, memory, and expression. Psychology of perception transfers external information to the mind through sensory organs. Psychology of memory operates to match perceived information and stored information and store the processed results. These days, the study of human memory is being vigorously conducted by brain science. Psychology of expression operates to recognize in the consicous, which is inward expression, and be manifested as speech, actions, and facial expressions through the body, which is outward expression. The field of psychology focuses on diverse psychological manifestations that are represented through the responses in the body that result from the operation of mind.  

 

The number and types of information operated in perception, memory, and expression are infinite. As the field of psychology has focused on the manifested phenomena rather then the underlying mechanism of mind operation, the number and types of psychological theories have grown to become numerous with each theory attempting to explain each phenomenon. Even today, diverse psychological theories are being developed to explain a certain psychological phenomenon or a group of similar phenomena.

 

Differently from many conventional theories of psychology, the Theory of Mimind and the Theory of Xesmind are postulated as a theory that attemepts to explain the underlying mechanism of human mind and psychology, and with which psychological treatment methods can be developed to adequately address the root causes of psychological problems manifested as diverse symptoms and phenomena.

 

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Psychological suffering caused by spouse infidelity is beyond imagination.

      Many people ask how painful psychological suffering caused by spouse infidelity can be. Metaphorically speaking, when the level of general stress and wounds is -10, stress and wounds due to spouse infidelity is more than -100,000. If you are older and have longer period of marriage, stress and wounds due to spouse infidelity is even more severe. This pain comes only from your own memory and is sensed only by yourself.       

     Only you yourself can sense the pain inside yourself and no one else can even imagine how painful it is let alone sensing it. You have not done anything to cause this pain but you feel that your whole life is suffering in and of itself. The suffering from post traumatic stress due to spouse infidelity is considered as one of the most excruciating psychological pain human beings can experience. People who cannot understand how painful it is may easily say that you must just get a divorce and forget about it. Post traumatic stress is not something that goes away by just forgetting about it and starting a new life. You may be able to forget about it only when your mind completely perishes and your life collapses. Without proper treatment, post traumatic stress only gets aggravated without recognition, and you cannot even sense the pain when mind completely perishes and the ability of recovery is completely lost.

     Then, you become to mistake a pleasurable life for a happy life inflicting pain and suffering onto other people including your own children. Post traumatic stress gets aggravated as time goes by until death. If you can still feel pain upon a certain trigger that reminds you of spouse infidelity, it indicates that your condition is still in the phase where treatment is possible. 

     Post traumatic stress due to spouse infidelity is not cured by forgiving the spouse and trying to recover marriage relationship deliberately out of self-justification. Such conscious attempts also only aggravates your psychological condition. No matter how hard you try to become happy and recover your life and marriage relationship, you will experience occasional occurrences of explosive rage or excruciating pain upon the slightest trigger, which also indicates that you still have a chance for treatment and recovery. When you do not experience rage or pain any more getting immersed into objects of fun and pleasure including having an affair, it is considered that you have finally developed the worst psychological condition and lost the chance of treatment and recovery. Now, you cannot find any reason to recover and pursue true happiness, and you are convinced that you can achieve your own happiness only at the cost of other people's happiness. 

     Post traumatic stress due to spouse infidelity makes you feel that your whole life up until now is negated. You are sensing pain since your unconscious in mind tries to recover. You must never look for any kind of comfort or seek pleasure in the midst of the suffering since it will only aggravate the condition. When post traumatic stress gets aggravated, you may think that you need to live a new and different life since your future life will end up being negated by living the way you have so far. You may try to find a completely opposite way of life from the one that you have had so far. However, it is nonsense to negate your life so far since you only pursued happiness in relationships in the right way getting married, raising children, and pursuing career. 

     You may look for ways to start a new life and build hope for the future. You are actually driving yourself to expedite the process of collapse by doing so. You may begin to feel that your life as an individual is more important than your life as a spouse and a parent and take actions to destroy relationships with people including your children. For example, a wife who used to be good at managing family matters would begin to spend too much time and expense for her own pleasure and form new relationships with people who share pleasure with her. Or a husband victimized by wife infidelity may look for ways to augment his sexual ability by taking radical measures such as medication or surgery. Both of them are investing into destroying their life and life of their loved ones. 

     Post traumatic stress due to spouse infidelity is a matter of life and death for anyone who experiences it. After some time, you will realize that you have wasted a tremendous amount of time and expense to no avail only to aggravate your condition. It must be clearly noted that your life so far was a good and righteous one, and the so-called 'new life' that you are dreaming of in the condition of post traumatic stress and that many so-called experts suggest is a destructive and tragic misfortune. 

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Do not become dependent on information related with infidelity.

 

     You may be suffering from spouse infidelity and trying to solve the problem. You may feel excruciating pain even upon the slightest trigger related with spouse infidelity. Most people look for practical solutions to the problem when spouse infidelity is discovered. They may look for information related with spouse infidelity and try to figure out what to do. They may easily fall for arbitrary interpretation in the process and aggravate psychological condition since they tend to listen to information that seem to provide comfort. It is not the information itself that is problematic but people who arbitrarily interpret the information in a way that makes them feel comfortable. It is crucial for you to understand that your psychology is getting aggravated no matter what you do when you become dependent on them.   

     Arbitrary interpretation only aggravates the condition of post traumatic stress and you become to keep looking for information that makes you feel comfortable more and more. Especially, information that provides quick and easy solutions must be avoided at any cost since they are like poison that never helps the recovery of marriage relationship or psychological condition. As far as you are in the condition of post traumatic stress, no information can serve as treatment methods or practical solutions. If the recovery is that easy as some people suggest, why are so many people are living in misfortune destroying their whole life and the lives of their love ones? Please, try to think where the countless pieces of information you are being exposed is leading you. They will never lead you to the path of treatment, recovery, or happiness. 

     You need to treat your psychology with the right methods such as Infidelity Therapy of KIP. It takes 3 to 6 months to recover from the explosion of rage and sensation of severe wounds, and 1 to 3 years to achieve a complete cure by building happiness ability and prevention ability. It is only you yourself who can treat your own psychological disorder with effort and will power. No information out there, even writings and videos provided by KIP, will just give you a quick and easy solution for the extreme pain and suffering due to spouse infidelity. You are the one who is in charge of your life and must take care of your body and mind with you own standards of happiness. When you treat post traumatic stress with the right method, you can come back to yourself who used to live happily with your loved ones. Then, even the present pain and suffering may be remembered as good memories and valuable experiences. 

     The mechanism of psychological treatment is clearly explained in the book 'Hope for the Flowers' written by Trina Paulus, which is strongly recommended to many people who are suffering from rage and wounds. It beautifully describes the situations before, during, and after the treatment. Enlightenment in life is nothing grandiose. You don't really have to practice long and painful asceticism. Enlightenment is achieved when you accurately understand what life is and what happiness is in a true sense and internlize habits of happiness. 

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People who are good at dreaming but do not take actions

 

There are people who like getting immersed into thoughts such as making plans or imagining things, but do not take any actions. They are susceptible to developing delusional disorder. We cannot say that daydreaming or fantasizing is good or bad since it can have either positive or negative effects depending on the situation. When you put your ideas into practice but things don't go as well as you have planned, you can recharge yourself by daydreaming and fantasizing. Dreaming is necessary for healing yourself and adjusting directions. However, it is crucial that you come back to reality, put your ideas into practice, and get immersed into the object of passion making effoerts in real life. 

When you dream and make plans but just stop or stay there, you cannot make any achievement in real life. You may only think until the day you die, and no greatest idea that is not put into practice in real life is of any use. You can have fun and sense a certain degree of passion when you dream and get immersed into thinking. 

As you keep getting immersed into only thoughts sensing passion from thinking itself, you may develop delusional disorder. When you develop delusional disorder, you feel as if your thoughts turned into reality. As the condition progresses further, you may actually recognize sensations through sensory organs only by thinking. Then, you may develop megalomania seeing, hearing, and sensing what you think. 

People who have not experienced achieving their goals in real life by actually getting immersed into the object of passion and making efforts are susceptible to getting immersed into only thoughts since they can achieve anything in thought. The sense of achievement can serve as healing but it is crucial to make efforts in real life in order to make your dream a reality. 

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Why your passion wanes easily.

 

     People who easily develop passion toward diverse objects can get immersed into an object immediately when they find that it is fun. They easily become passionate toward objects of fun and pleasure, but also, their passion easily wanes when their goals are easily achieved. In other words, their goal is not that high in the first place.

     The higher the goal is for the object of passion, the longer you can maintain the high level of immersion into the object. When the goal is achieved easily, you may naturally lose interest in the object easily. When you achieve the goal that you set at first, you can modify and develop your goal to a higher one in order to maintain the level of immersion. You can also set a higher goal for the object relating it with other objects of passion. 

     The same mechanism applies to your work. When you start new work, you usually get immersed into work and generate stress at the same time in order to do well. When you get used to the work and the work becomes easy without generating stress any more, you may lose interest in the work. Thus, your work should not be 'a piece of cake' in order to maintain passion. Therefore, it is recommended that passion must be expanded as well as fun and interest in the object. You need to develop your goal to make it higher as you achieve the goal you have set at first. Otherwise, your immersion into the object of passion only stays as experience instead of becoming your ability. 

     It is crucial to transform your passion into your ability, but many people do not succeed in developing abilities through developing passion. When you enter the state of ennui without transforming passion into an ability, you may not be able to get immersed into the same object again at a later time. Once you lose interest in an object, it is hard to become interested in the same object again. Losing interest in the object of passion can be dangerous since losing pure passion toward an object can lead to developing distorted passion only looking for momentary fun and pleasure without generating and overcoming stress to achieve the goal. The concept of passion is incompatible with the concept of satisfaction since you need a goal that has not been achieved to be able to get immersed into the object of passion. 

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The uniqueness of Free Consultation on Divorce and Remarriage of KIP

Anyone who has difficulties with relational problems associated with divorce and remarriage can benefit from Free Consultation on Divorce and Remarriage provided by KIP. 

Many people associate consultations on divorce and remarriage with legal consultations or couple counseling. However, Free Consultation on Divorce and Remarriage is not a legal consultation or couple counseling at all. Free Consultation on Divorce and Remarriage guide you to analyze and address underlying psychological issues so that you can achieve happiness even after divorce and remarriage.

You must adequately prepare for divorce and remarriage and start your new life with clear understanding of psychology of yours and your loved ones. For example, the romantic relationship of people who have experience of marriage and who don't are completely different and must be approached accordingly. When you are confused about psychology of people with and without marriage experience in relationships while dating and after remarriage, you may end up being completely lost and develop all kinds of problems. 

Free Consultation on Divorce and Remarriage provided by KIP will help you adequately address your own psychological issues, problems with children and other family members, relational issues outside family, and sexual issues. It analyzes and resolves fundamental issues of human mind and psychology associated with divorce and remarriage and guide you to achieve happiness in a true sense living with your loved ones.

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What is Free Consultation on Divorce and Remarriage?

      Korea Institute of Psycho-education provides free consultations on psychological problems, infidelity, sex issues, child psychology, and teenager psychology. Many of the cases that are referred to KIP are found be related with issues of divorce and remarriage, so we have decided to add free consultations on divorce and remarriage. Many psychological problems related with divorce and remarriage tend to progress into psychological disorders and post traumatic stress more easily than other general psychological problems. 

     Whether you are thinking about divorce or remarriage, or have already got a divorce or remarried, you must certainly want to start a new and happy life. You have chosen or will choose divorce or remarriage for a better life. However, when problems occur after you get a divorce or remarry, you may aggravate your psychological condition and repeat unhappiness since you do not know about the adequate solution. You may end up paying with all your life for not accurately understanding the psychology of divorce and remarriage. 

     Problems that occur after divorce or remarriage greatly affect not only yourself but also other family members including children and people around you. You must analyze and address the underlying structure and the root cause of problems and build 

happiness in a true sense. Free Consultation on Divorce and Remarriage of KIP is designed to guide people who are suffering from psychological and practical problems after divorce and remarriage in the right direction in their life.

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The reason why social problems and criminal incidents get more and more serious

 

These days, we are living in a society where social problems and criminal incidents are prevalent in every sector, and society's capacity for managing and preventing the problems seems to be far from being adequate. We are busy dealing with individual cases every time problems occur, but more and bigger problems keep occurring in a vicious cycle and no one seems to have the solution.

 

Attempts to solve problems based on the analysis of visible phenomena may not lead to solve problems adequately since it does not address the root cause of problems. Also, social problems are always associated with individual problems, so addressing underlying psychological problems of individuals within the social system may be an effective approach to dealing with social problems.

 

When one person has psychological disorders, he or she naturally affects other people in negative ways causing psychological disorders in more and more people. When more and more people in the society develop psychological disorders, the whole society cannot but suffer from more and more disruptive incidents in a vicious cycle.

 

Then, why do we still have more and bigger problems when there seem to be so many well-intended government policies and social programs addressing individual psychological problems and social issues? Again, it is because we are not adequately addressing the root cause of problems based on the accurate analysis of underlying mechanism.

 

Now is a high time that we all came up with ways to address the root cause of social problems by accurately understanding the underlying mechanism of human mind and psychology and applying it to properly managing the society.

 

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A man who claims he is in love with a married woman

 

(Q) A man in separation with his wife and a married woman have had an extramarital relationship for 7 years. The man tells the woman that he loves her and plans to marry her after his divorce 5 years later. Can we say that he really loves her?

 

(A) The two people are in relationship addiction with psychological disorders. They have been seeking only pleasure in life for the last 7 years and they could easily continue such a relationship for the rest of their life. It is simply a nonsense that he loves her and he plans to get a divorce 5 years later and marry the woman.

 

He is only lying that he plans to marry her in order to continue his pleasurable life without problems and is self-justifying the current situation. It is identical to say that they should just keep enjoying as they do now since they will get married in 5 years, which is unlikely to happen.

 

Normal people cannot understand speech and actions of people with psychological disorders since their thoughts are completely distorted from normal operation. They may look absolutely smart and rational in dealing with other matters, but their psychology operates in a distorted way to accord with the standard of pleasure seeking regarding the object of addiction, which is relationship in this case.

 

People in infidelity may actually think and argue that those who seek pleasure are capable of love and those who do not are not. They are at the center of destroying healthy human relationships along with destroying individuals, families, and the whole society. The nature of such a relationship is the woman offering her body for the man's sexual pleasure disguised as love.

 

The woman is likely to be indifferent to her family and her children since she is also in relationship addiction. She is considered to be addicted to the man's attention and consolation at the cost of her life, and she has to keep responding to the man in return for his attention. She is also highly likely to display symptoms of hysteria upon the slightest negative stimulation.

 

Both of them are ruining their own life and the lives of people around them without even having a clue about what is actually going on in their mind and psychology.

 

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New Semester Syndrome

 

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Sacrifice is not what mothers should do.

 

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People who easily cry and people who don't

      In case of women, those who don't cry easily may do so since they don't have many experiences of intense and overwhelming emotions of joy or sorrow, / or they are suppressing or controlling their emotions after they experienced some difficulties due to their crying. Also, women who grew under tight control of adults tend not to fully recognize or express their emotions. They may not be good at empathizing with other people when they become adults.

     In case of men, those who don't cry easily are simply not getting immersed into the present sad situation. Also, when boys are persistently told not to cry during childhood, they tend not to express their sad moods by crying even though they may shed false tears when necessary. On the other hand, men who easily cry may have been repressed very strongly against crying during childhood, which can be reversely activated to make them cry upon the slightest stimulation. These men may respond to stress only by crying without being able to employ other defense mechanisms. When boys grow under strict control against expressing emotions, they become vulnerable to stress in general employing diverse defense mechanisms including crying or attacking others. 

     After all, crying is a means for generously expressing our emotions, and we can analyze the operation of psychology by observing when and how people cry or not cry.

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What could the employees do when their employer is dogmatic?

 

     There are some employers who never listen to the employees. They would consider employees' opinions as unnecessary nitpicking and make having a meeting meaningless since they will dogmatically decide on all matters anyway. Then, it is the employees who must take care of troubles and problems after they occur. 

     This happens when the employers' thought standards are too strong and too self-centered, and they cannot accept other people's opinions at all. It is worse than when the employer has no standards or opinions of their own at all. Such employers cannot recognize the problems when well intended employees point to them. They may recognize their problems only when some serious negative consequences of their dogmatic decisions are manifested as reality. 

     When the employer and the employees cannot communicate with each other for decision making processes, the employees may stop wanting to belong to the company. However, employees can actually think outside the box and come up with ideas to communicate with the employer and develop the company, and above all, build their own abilities in the process. It is actually employees themselves who may benefit the most when they overcome diverse difficulties in the situation and build abilities through experiences. 

     When you do not actively get involved in building abilities in the difficult situations at work, you may easily feel that you are stressed out and may want to leave the company. However, from the individual employee's perspective, the employer being dogmatic is less important / than having opportunities to build his or her abilities by getting immersed in your work with passion, overcoming difficulties, and making achievements. 

     Then, you can become a person who can enjoy your work in many other situations and get immersed into your work with passion. It is absolutely legitimate that you may want to leave the company when the employer is dogmatic and strong-headed, but it also must be noted that the fundamental problems of yours are always associated with your own ideas and abilities but not others'. 

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Free Consultation on Remarriage

 [Free Consultation on Remarriage]

Those who have taken or are taking KIP Psychology Treatment for Type 2 Psychological Disorders are considered to have already begun the process of becoming happy, so they simply need to make inquiries on remarriage through [Self-check & Questions] on the homepage. Free consultation on remarriage is provided for those who have not started the treatment process. 

The free consultation on remarriage provided by KIP is not legal consultation. Those who need legal consultation may have to seek advice from lawyers. KIP provides consultation for anyone who suffers from psychological pain and difficulties due to issues regarding remarriage. We will do our best to guide you to solve practical problems and find the way to achieve happiness in a true sense. Especially, those who have difficulties with relationship with children and other family members may greatly benefit from taking KIP free consultation. 

Please, send us an e-mail providing the following information for free consultation on remarriage. You will receive a written report on the result of consultation in a few days. We will guide you to correctly address the issues regarding remarriage with adequate concepts and strategies based on accurate understanding of human mind and psychology.

                       * Send your e-mail to : uip@uip.ac 

[Application form for free consultation on divorce]

* Title of your e--mail : Application for free consultation on remarriage

                         (Your name or a pseudonym)

1. Personal Information:

   1) Name (Pseudonym) : 

   2) E-mail address: 

   3) Country / Region of Residence:

   4) Gender :

   5) Age of yours and your spouse's :

   6) Period of marriage or living together in the first marriage of yours and      

      your current partner's:

   7) Period of staying alone after divorce of yours and your current partner's

   8) Period of dating with the current partner before remarriage

   9) Period of remarriage or living together :

   10) Number of children/ their age & gender : 

   11) Other experiences of psychological difficulties :

2. Points of inquiry : 

3. Points of request : 

4. Questions : 

[Notes]

1. Please, include facts about you in a simple way. 

2. Include what happened, how things progressed, how things are going now 

    for '2.  Points of inquiry'.

3. Include any requests for '3. Points of request'.

4. Include general questions you may have for '4. Questions'.

* You may be provided with a more detailed report when you provide more detailed facts. 

* Send your e-mail to : uip@uip.ac

[About free consultation on remarriage]

Free consultation on remarriage of KIP guides people who are suffering from psychological pain and difficulties after remarriage to wisely solve practical problems regarding remarriage and achieve happiness. 

Korea Institute of Psycho-education provides free consultation on remarriage based on the Theory of Minind and Xesmind. It analyzes causes of problems before remarriage, during remarriage process, and after remarriage, and provides you with important guidelines for properly addressing the issue of remarriage.

In cases where it applies, psychological problems and psychological disorders are differentiated, and different solutions are suggested for individual cases. It also informs you of treatment and prevention methods of related psychological problems and disorders.

Conventional consultations on remarriage tend to focus mostly on general counseling on dating and marriage, which leads to unhappy life after remarriage with distorted psychology negatively affecting even children. We aim for fundamental mechanism of remarriage being known to as many people as possible and for guiding people in pain and suffering to restore healthy psychology and true happiness instead of getting lost in the midst of misguiding information and knowledge and ruining their life.

[Points to be included in the report of consultation]

- Analysis of fundamental causes of problems regarding remarriage

- Causes of present pain and suffering

- Points to be noted when you attempt to resolve the issue

- Expected results when the issue is not resolved

- Expected results when the issue is resolved

- Directions and methods of resolving the issue

- Directions and methods of achieving happiness

- Answers to other questions regarding psychology of remarriage

[Recipients of free consultation on remarriage]

- People who want to get out of the present difficult situation and become 

   happy

- People who suffer from problems with the current spouse

- People who suffer from problems with children

- People who suffer from difficulties in relationships after remarriage

- People who cannot get into romantic relationships after remarriage

- People who suffer from sex problems after remarriage

- People who feel psychological difficulties without specific reasons after 

   remarriage

- People who experience insomnia or psychogenic illnesses after remarriage

- People who experience psychological disorders (depression, panic disorder, 

   addiction, etc) after remarriage

- People who experience severe psychological disorders (relationship addiction, 

   post traumatic stress, bipolar disorder, hysteria, intermittent explosive 

   disorder) after remarriage

- People who have worries and difficulties after remarriage but cannot find 

   adequate information or advice

Most people think that they will become comfortable and happy after remarriage as they start fresh with their life. They never imagine that their psychological problems keep getting aggravated due to the accumulated psychological wounds and should be manifested after remarriage making their life even more unhappy than before remarriage. 

It is true that you become comfortable and happy temporarily when you remarry and start fresh. However, your accumulated psychological wounds and added wounds during remarriage are manifested sometime after remarriage and make you live an unhappy life. Also, children develop psychological problems after parents' remarriage in most cases adding more burden onto you.

Many people do not sense their deep wounds and don't know what to do when problems occur in their life or with their children. In the mean time, their psychology deteriorates even further making things even more serious. Then, you may look for solutions and seek for advice through diverse channels. They are all right and may be helpful in some situations but again, your psychological conditions keep getting aggravated in the process. 

Conventional wisdom around the world tends to focus more on practical solutions than on psychological problems of remarriage and does not provide restoration methods of healthy psychology regarding remarriage and prevention methods against further psychological problems. Regardless of individual circumstances, you must restore healthy psychology to be able to live happily after remarriage.

Free consultation on remarriage of KIP provides you with accurate understanding of the mechanism of psychology in remarriage so that you can find the right path for happiness regardless of your marriage status. When you have a strong will power and make continuous efforts for your happiness, you will be able to achieve happiness in a true sense even if you feel that you are at the lowest point in your life at present. 

You will receive the result report provided by KIP regarding your situation and guidelines for future actions. You will find that the result report of KIP is more accurate and systematic than any other one even though it is free of charge. You will learn why you had to go through such a difficult time without being able to see the whole picture. You will find that you can become happy again by restoring healthy psychology and taking adequate actions. 

Thank you. 

[Korea Institute of Psycho-education & Japan Institute of Psycho-education]

Address (Korea) : 3rd Floor, Posta-Bldg, 14-13, Teheran-ro, 78-Gil, Kangnam-Ku, Seoul, 06194, South Korea

Tel. 070-8822-6004 (Seoul Office), E-mail. kip@kip.ac

Korea Institute of Psycho-education : http://www.kip.ac/ 

Address (Japan) : Room 403, 3-14-2, Ueno, Taiko-Ku, Tokyo-To, 110-0005, Japan

Tel. 03-4590-6152(Tokyo Office), E-mail. jip@jip.ac

Japan Institute of Psycho-education : http://www.jip.ac/ 

Address (USA) : 2954 West 8th St. Suite 101, Los Angeles, CA 90005, USA

Tel. (213) 291-46099 (Los Angeles Office) , E-mail. uip@uip.ac

Korea Institute of Psycho-education : http://www.uip.ac/