[Infidelity Therapy] How the victim of spouse infidelity becomes a perpetrator.

Post traumatic stress develops upon experiencing traumatic incident. Post traumatic stress makes the victim develop fake wounds making all the life experiences felt as negative memories. They victim develops wounds upon everything perceived, remembered, and expressed, and develops problems in habits of psychology such as psychological disorders and psychosis.

The victimized spouses suffer from excruciating pain when all life experiences become fake wounds. When fake wounds develop into real wounds in mimind and problems of habits of psychology develop, the victimized spouses feel comfort temporarily and then the condition progresses into severe psychological disorders, which make them pursue pleasure.

Feeling comfort without proper treatment after you suffer from excruciating pain indicates that your condition has deteriorated. It keeps deteriorating for the who life time causing diverse psychological problems. When post traumatic stress is not properly treated, it necessarily cause unhappy or destructive life. 

Many so called experts guides victimized spouses to aggravate their condition and become a perpetrator instead of treating properly. Some may encourage victims to live a destructive life for their own profit, and many victims fall for the deception and become perpetrators themselves. Indeed, we are in a serious situation. 

Post traumatic stress can occur due to spouse infidelity, sudden loss of loved ones, rape, collapse of values of life, an accident, an aftereffect of illness. When post traumatic stress is not properly treated, you will necessarily develop a psychological disorder, which will develop into a severe psychological disorder and then, to a psychosis. Then, you do not suffer from pain but you feel comfort, pleasure living as a perpetrator. 

When you suffer from post traumatic stress upon the discovery of spouse infidelity, there are three different paths your life can take. 

1. A Happy life

You can live a happy life by treating your condition, restoring happiness ability, and building habits of wound treatment by taking KIP Treatment Program.

2. An unhappy life (Stay as a victim)

You may give up on your life, sacrifice and devote yourself to other people, and bear the pain of post traumatic stress. You are unhappy but you do not harm other people. 

3. A destructive life (become a perpetrator)

You become to live only for your own comfort and pleasure. You harm other people to obtain comfort and pleasure and justify yourself mistaking destruction for happiness. 

The victimized spouse goes through the following three stages to become a perpetrator.      

Stage 1 : Make efforts to get out of pain of post traumatic stress

You get immersed into coping with the issue of spouse infidelity through law suits, divorce, and counseling, and form relationships for your comfort. You may develop a severe psychological disorder.

Stage 2 : Make efforts to gain confidence and pleasure

You become to develop dependency and obsession on a specific object, and form relationships for your confidence and pleasure. You may develop relationship addiction, which is a severe psychological disorder. You may also develop intermittent explosive disorder or hysteria. You begin to harm other people for your pleasure. 

Stage 3 : Make efforts to damage other people for your profit and satisfaction. 

You begin to attack people, display rage, and commit crimes pursuing pleasure, and form relationships the suit your goal. Intermittent explosive disorder or hysteria may progress into psychosis, which is manifested as psychopath or sociopath. You begin to feel happy when others are suffering from pain. 

When you have post traumatic stress and don't treat the condition properly, you may live an unhappy life as a victim, or live as a perpetrator inflicting damage on others. This is due course for anyone who develops post traumatic stress. Especially, you are likely to harm close people including your spouse, children, family, and friends. Then, you may also harm anyone how happen to be around you.

Post traumatic stress can cause dire consequences in your life. You must understand that your condition deteriorates as time passes destroying your life and others' lives in the end. You must restore happiness ability by treating the condition in the right way before it's too late. KIP Treatment Program offers you the right way to treat yourself on your own to restore health and happiness in a true sense. 

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[Infidelity Therapy] Can you overcome infidelity with religion?

 

[Infidelity Therapy] The difference between religious activities and proper treatment when suffering from spouse infidelity 

Some people get confused between religious activities and proper treatment. For example, they would ask, “If shouldn't develop dependency on religion, can't I go to church, read the Bible, or pray while I am taking the treatment program?” 

Of course you can do all of them. However, you must not use religion to avoid pain and find temporary comfort justifying yourself. Then, you are more likely to aggravate post traumatic stress instead of properly treating it. 

Developing dependency on religion is not living a healthy life of faith. You cannot and should not cover up your problems of habits of psychology with religion. As you treat post traumatic stress properly, you will be able to consolidate your religious beliefs. Then, your religious activities can be beneficial for your health and happiness in a true sense. However, when you go to church to meet people and share wounds with them forming personal relationships, you can be put in danger of destroying yourself and others. In that case, you are going to church not for the life of faith but for getting attention and consolation from people. 

Religion can be distorted when humans perceive and operate it in a distorted way. The idea that any type of adoption of religion is legitimate and divine is dangerous. Human mind has the mechanism of its operation, and problems necessarily develop in habits of psychology when it is operated in distorted ways. You can restore healthy psychology only when you accurately understand the operational mechanism of human mind and psychology, and make efforts accordingly. 

You may think that you can overcome post traumatic stress only with your devotion to religion since your pain and suffering go beyond human capabilities. Indeed, the pain and suffering of post traumatic stress is excruciating enough to make you experience hell on earth. However, depending on religion without proper treatment leads you to seek only comfort with self-justification. 

When treat your condition in a proper way, you can perceive everything and pursue religion in the right way. Restoring your psychology will help you consolidate you religious belief pursuing health and happiness in a true sense. Then, you can also lead a healthy and happy life of faith.

It is recommended that you go to church, read the Bible, and pray with a true heart of faith without developing dependency on relationships with people. It can actually expedite your treatment process. They are considered as healthy religious activities that positively affect you without depending on relationships with people, and they will expedite the process of recovery from post traumatic stress. 

Only praying day and night without making efforts for treatment in the right way, it is likened to asking your god to take care of everything and you doing nothing. It is not your god but you yourself who must make efforts to restore happiness ability. Of course, praying everyday for courage and power along with making efforts and gathering up your will to treat post traumatic stress will help you go in the right direction and at a faster rate. 

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[Infidelity Therapy] You may not have an opportunity to treat post traumatic stress later.

Many people think that it would not be too late to treat post traumatic stress of the victimized spouse after they solve practical problems of spouse infidelity such as lawsuits and divorce. They may feel that it is urgent to solve the practical problems of infidelity, and think that their psychological condition will be fine even when they are going trough post traumatic stress.

However, post traumatic stress only deteriorates as time passes without proper treatment. Especially, as you continue to be exposed to infidelity while trying to solve the practical problems of infidelity. Many people neglect their condition for too long and try to treat it only when everything has collapsed. Then, it may be too late to treat post traumatic stress.

When you treat post traumatic stress before trying to solve the problem of spouse infidelity, you can easily address all practical problems related with infidelity protecting yourself and children with happiness ability. In this case, all the practical measures such as lawsuits and divorce contribute to consolidating your happiness. 

People who try to solve practical problems of infidelity first are doing their best to restore happiness in their own ways. However, it results in aggravating post traumatic stress and destroying yourself and children. When post traumatic stress advances to intermittent explosive disorder or hysteria, it is very hard to treat the condition. You may be able to prevent the aggravation through medication, but it is impossible to cure the condition and restore normalcy. 

When spouse infidelity occurs, the most important thing is not to address the practical problems of infidelity, but to treat post traumatic stress of the victimized spouse. Your conscious thought and emotions are completely different depending on whether you have treated post traumatic stress or not. You must treat your post traumatic stress before anything and then, you can give your spouse an opportunity to treat his or her condition of relationship addiction.

When relationship addiction progresses to intermittent explosive disorder or hysteria, the victimized spouse is recommended to get a divorce and then treat post traumatic stress to be able to protect him or herself and children. Of course, it is not easy to treat post traumatic stress and restore happiness. On the other hand, it is very easy to avoid the situation, display rage, and collapse. It is up to you to decide on whatever you do with your life, but it should be kept in mind that taking practical measures to solve problems of infidelity before treating post traumatic stress only leads to collapse.

     You experience pain and suffering at the early stage of post traumatic stress but you feel comfortable as the condition progresses further, which means that your mind is being destroyed and other people begin to suffer in the relationship with you. As your condition deteriorates, all your relationships with people are affected negatively. You must put priority on restoring healthy psychology and take the opportunity to treat post traumatic stress when you can. 

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[Infidelity Therapy] The optimal timing of lawsuits, divorce, and solutions

 

It may be necessary to file a lawsuit, get a divorce, or address practical issues when spouse infidelity is discovered. However, every measure should be taken at a right time. Many people who suffer from spouse infidelity do not wait for the right time and go ahead for lawsuits, a divorce, or solutions, being engulfed by rage and despair. Then, the victimized spouse and children should bear the unfortunate result that damages their life. 

1. Getting a divorce upon the discovery of spouse infidelity

You may think that getting a divorce is only natural when spouse infidelity is discovered. However, your life will be destroyed when you just get a divorce without treating wounds from marriage life and spouse infidelity, which causes post traumatic stress. The psychology of compensation is likely to be activated after a divorce, which may lead you to pursue pleasurable life losing the power of control. 

You may be convinced that you are not a pleasure seeker at all, but your damaged psychology makes you think and act in the opposite ways. Then, you may justify yourself saying that you couldn't help it because of this and that. Treating post traumatic stress must precede getting a divorce. You also need to fully prepare yourself before getting a divorce. Interestingly, in many cases, the victimized spouse loses the idea of getting a divorce after they recover from rage and resentment caused by post traumatic stress. 

2. Filing a lawsuit upon the discovery of spouse infidelity

It may be necessary to file a lawsuit against the adulterer or the adulteress. However, when you proceed with lawsuits without treating post traumatic stress, post traumatic stress deteriorates rapidly in the process of lawsuits. Focusing on lawsuits is equivalent to focusing on rage and revenge as well as on the spouse in infidelity. If you focus on thinking about spouse infidelity when you should actually try not to retrieve the incident, psychological wounds increase exponentially.

Differently from what many people think, it is almost impossible to recover marriage relationship after lawsuits. Lawsuits consolidate the idea that the spouse in infidelity as well as the adulterer or the adulteress is a perpetrator. It is as if you destroyed your life with your own hands even if you win the lawsuit. On the other hand, when you file lawsuits after you treat post traumatic stress and build happiness ability, you can proceed with lawsuits without losing the control of your life and without damaging yourself and your children. 

3. Addressing practical issues upon the discovery of spouse infidelity

The spouse in infidelity has already destroyed marriage relationship. No practical measure can restore marriage relationship, and such measures can only destroy marriage relationship at a faster rate. Both trying to be nice to the spouse or trying to hurt the spouse are examples of taking practical measures. The spouse in infidelity may act irrationally or violently upon the slightest trigger of stress and wounds since he or she has developed relationship addiction that destroys all human relationship. 

People in relationship addiction tend to have relationships only among themselves. Any practical measure taken by the spouse who has post traumatic stress induces intense stress and severe wounds in the spouse in infidelity, which in turn gives them more excuses to destroy marriage relationship. If you want to keep even the slightest chance to restore marriage relationship, it is recommended that you shouldn't address or solve practical issues just yet. Looking for solutions should wait until you treat post traumatic stress and build happiness ability. Otherwise, it is like pouring water in a sieve. 

4. Taking advice or counseling upon the discovery of spouse infidelity

Not many people understand the nature of infidelity. Most advice and counseling including professional counseling don't help you restore happiness and marriage relationship. You may feel comfortable temporarily from retrieving your stress and wounds and aggravating post traumatic stress while taking advice and counseling. When you are consoled and empathized by the counselor about your thoughts and feelings, you become to justify your rage and despair and turn fake wounds into real wounds, blurring the fundamental issues and developing dependency on the person who consoles and empathizes with you. 

You can take other people's advice and counseling after you treat post traumatic stress, remove fake wounds, and take the full control of your life. Then, you can decide on the right direction of your life on your own. Otherwise, post traumatic stress only deteriorates as you take more advice and more counseling. Then, you will end up living your life not by your own will but by other people's will. 

It is the condition of post traumatic stress that gets in your way whatever you do upon the discovery of spouse infidelity. You can and must file lawsuits, get a divorce, or address practical issues if necessary for you own happiness. However, you will end up destroying your life and your children's life when all your actions are based on post traumatic stress. You will be able to achieve happiness for yourself and your children whatever you do after you treat post traumatic stress and build happiness ability. 

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[Infidelity Therapy] You can't just go back to normality as if nothing had happened when you discover spouse infidelity.

 

The discovery of spouse infidelity causes the victimized spouse to develop post traumatic stress. Then, the victimized spouse cannot easily recover as if nothing had happened since post traumatic stress progresses unless properly treated. 

Post traumatic stress progresses for the whole life time unless properly treated. It doesn't go away even if the spouse behaves well and try to think that it will never happen again. It also deteriorates when the victimized spouse try to find evidence of infidelity and take practical measures to cope with the situation. Then, post traumatic stress begins to negatively affect all the relationships including the relationship with children.

As post traumatic stress progresses, victim mentality, perpetrator mentality, and the psychology of compensation also develop, and you will keep trying to satisfy yourself and compensate for what you have lost in order to achieve comfort and pleasure. This type of comfort and pleasure only indicated that your condition has deteriorated. You may justify yourself thinking that you deserve the compensation, give up on recovery, and remove pain to stay comfortable. 

It is only normal and natural to feel emotions of pain and sorrow as well as pleasure happiness since they are all parts of emotions generated by human mind. Removing feelings of pain and sorrow is to destroy them and make them unrecognized in the conscious. Then, you become to justify that living in comfort and pleasure with positive moods in the sensory organs is happiness. It indicates that your condition is as serious as the condition of the spouse in infidelity. 

Whether the spouse is in infidelity is less important than the fact that you have developed post traumatic stress and it will progress unless properly treated. You can't just go back to normality as if nothing had happened. 

Relationship addiction is a psychological disorder that destroys human relationships, love and happiness, and sexuality. People in relationship addiction do not hesitate to destroy any relationship when they are stressed from the relationship justifying their behaviors and blaming the counterparty. They end up destroying their own life in the end.

Relationship addiction also deteriorates for the whole lifetime unless properly treated. When the spouse infidelity is discovered by the victimized spouse, marriage relationship cannot be restored without proper treatment no matter how hard both parties try since both are in the condition of psychological disorder. 

Both post traumatic stress and relationship addiction obstruct the recovery of marriage relationships. Then, what kind of life would you choose? It is imperative that happiness be restored in the right way through Mind Training upon the discovery of spouse infidelity. Otherwise, all the family cannot but live an unhappy life or a destructive life regardless of the conscious intention destroying all human relationships. Especially, children's psychology and life are destroyed along the way. You must restore your own happiness and psychological stability first to protect your children. 

Many people live an unhappy life and a destructive life by their own choice, but justify themselves and blame their spouses who committed infidelity. The spouse in infidelity has destroyed his or her life, and inflicted pain and suffering on you, but he or she has not destroyed your life. You are the only one who can choose the path of your own life. Even at this moment, your post traumatic stress is progressing while you are watching this video. It is time for you to decide on the proper treatment for your life. 

When you justify yourself with the condition of post traumatic stress, you may destroy not only your life but also life of people around you. You may also develop dependency and obsession and live unhappily. It is you yourself who destroy your own mimind and make your life unhappy and destructive. 

 When you discover spouse infidelity, you may suffer from excruciating pain of post traumatic stress and just want to go back to the old days when you were happy. However, it is impossible unless you adequately treat your condition and restore your happiness as an individual first.  

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[Infidelity Therapy] The psychology of the spouse in infidelity

 

     People who suffer from spouse infidelity want to know about the mind and psychology of the spouse in infidelity. It is because they have to make decisions on whether they can live with the spouse in infidelity. Also, the spouse in infidelity may want to know about the mind and psychology of the adulterer or the adulteress to be able to judge whether they have to keep the inappropriate relationship. 

Infidelity is not caused by problems of marriage, sex, love, or emotions. The spouse in infidelity has developed relationship addiction, which is an advanced condition of psychological disorder. They commit infidelity when they find women who respond to men's attention or men who give women attention. The cause of infidelity is relationship addiction, which is response addiction for men and attention addiction for women. 

The spouse in infidelity has developed relationship addiction and it progresses into intermittent explosive disorder, hysteria, or psychosis when it deteriorates to relationship addiction that involves sexual actions.

1. The operation of mind of peole in infidelity

Human mind generates emotions and operates it as psychology of perception, memory, and expression. The result of psychological operation and the resulting emotions are recognized in the conscious. The spouse in infidelity and the adulterer or the adulteress have developed psychological disorders in two components of psychology. In case of men, they develop perception disorder and expression disorder simultaneously. Perception disorder can be referred to as neurotic disorder and expression disorder as addiction. The husband in infidelity or the adulterer recognizes the most intense stress upon getting the slightest trigger of stress since perception disorder is activated. They display intense negative expressions to avoid or eliminate stress.

When men in infidelity perceive stress, they experience unbearable anxiety and nervousness and form obsession with the response of the adulteress. They can relieve stress and experience the most pleasurable sensations when they get responses from the adulteress. All these psychological phenomena are expressed through their speech and actions.

In this case, their psychology of memory operates in a normal way, so they would do anything not to get caught cheating by their spouse, children and friends. They feel comfortable and composed when they are not caught. However, when they are exposed to stress, they make speech and actions to avoid and eliminate the source of stress and they distort their memory and make self-justification.

In case of women, they have developed disorders of memory of emotions and expression disorder simultaneously. The disorder of memory of emotions can be referred to as depression and expression disorder as addiction. The wife in infidelity or the adulteress perceives even the smallest wounds in mimind, the disorder of memory of emotions is activated and the experience the most excruciating pain. Then, they make intense expressions in an attempt to treat wounds. Also, they experience anxiety and nervousness and develop obsession with the adulterer's attention. They feel relieved with intense sense of pleasure when they get attention from the adulterer. 

 2. The operation of psychology of people in infidelity

1) Men

The psychology of memory of men in infidelity operates in a normal way, so they would do anything not to get caught cheating by their spouse, children and friends. They feel comfortable and composed when they are not caught. However, when they are exposed to stress, they make speech and actions to avoid and eliminate the source of stress and they distort their memory and make self-justification. They may become violent or use violent language to eliminate stress, and destroy their memory and make self-justification. Men's relationship addiction progresses as they keep avoiding and eliminating stress. 

The more men are attacked for their infidelity, the more their relationship addiction progresses. When men's relationship addiction progresses into relationship addiction that involves sexual actions, they may develop intermittent explosive disorder or psychosis. 

2) Women

In case of women, they have developed disorders of memory of emotions and expression disorder simultaneously. The disorder of memory of emotions can be referred to as depression and expression disorder as addiction. The wife in infidelity or the adulteress perceives even the smallest wounds in mimind, the disorder of memory of emotions is activated and the experience the most excruciating pain. Then, they make intense expressions in an attempt to treat wounds. Also, they experience anxiety and nervousness and develop obsession with the adulterer's attention. They feel relieved with intense sense of pleasure when they get attention from the adulterer. All these psychological phenomena are expressed as speech and actions. 

In this case, women's psychology of memory and perception operate in normal ways. They would do their best not to get caught cheating by their husband, children, and friends. They can stay comfortable and composed when they are not caught. However, they distort their memory and make self-justification when they retrieve wounds in memory and make speech and actions to treat wounds in mimind. Then, their relationship addiction progresses further. The more they are attacked for their infidelity, the more they display anger and want the adulterer's attention. This also aggravates women's relationship addiction. Moreover, when their relationship addiction advances into relationship addiction that involves sexual actions, they may develop hysteria or psychosis. 

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[Infidelity Therapy] The danger of arbitrary interpretation and self-conviction on infidelity

 

People who have relationship addiction and post traumatic stress make arbitrary interpretations thinking that their ideas and behaviors are right when they are exposed to diverse information on infidelity. People who make arbitrary interpretations tend to think and act as they please to feel comfortable. They think that they know everything about the issue and justify themselves. They are actually aggravating their condition of relationship addiction and post traumatic stress. Then, they may develop the disorder of the conscious being convinced that what is wrong is what is right. 

The spouse in infidelity has developed the psychological disorder that destroys all human relationships. Everything that obstructs their infidelity is perceived as stress and they avoid or sever all relationships that gives them stress. Then, they usually lose the opportunity to treat their condition. Also, people who suffer from post traumatic stress may develop the disorder of the conscious when they are convinced that they are fine when they actually have aggravated the condition and feel comfortable without proper treatment. They justify themselves believing that they are fine. 

You must avoid interacting with people who make arbitrary interpretations after they develop relationship addiction or post traumatic stress. They will attack you in many ways when they find that others' ideas and behaviors do not accord with them since they have such strong conviction that their ideas and behaviors are absolutely right. They are good at justifying themselves with the idea that what they know to be right represents all the truth there exists. They never realize that they are in a serious psychological condition. 

For this reason, it is recommended that people who have taken KIP Treatment should never talk about or suggest the program with other people. It is only to be used for your own treatment and happiness and not for anyone else. You may actually fall for arbitrary interpretations yourself and destroy yourself and other people when you try to teach the operational mechanism of human mind and psychology and therapeutic tasks that you learned at KIP Treatment Program.

All your expressions and behaviors as you aggravate post traumatic stress may destroy everyone including yourself, your spouse, children, family, friends, and acquaintances. It is dangerous to look for information on infidelity and make arbitrary interpretations and develop self-conviction. Most practical measures suggested for solving the issue of infidelity are likely to only aggravate the condition of relationship addiction and post traumatic stress. 

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[Infidelity Therapy] Making the right choice upon the discovery of spouse infidelity

                          

[Infidelity Therapy] Spouse infidelity is painful, but you must make the right choice for your future. 

When the spouse infidelity is discovered, most people suffer from rage and pain since they want to restore happiness. They suffer from post traumatic stress and it means that they have the possibility to recover. When you don't suffer from rage and feel comfortable accepting the situation, it indicates that you nave no possibility to recover. That is, you have nothing to recover in the first place. You will not feel pain whatever your spouse does in that case. 

We must understand that those who suffer from post traumatic stress instead of those who don't feel pain upon the discovery of spouse infidelity are the ones who have lived a righteous and good life so far. 

People who don't feel pain when spouse infidelity is discovered are considered to have marriage relationship with some selfish purpose. Most people suffer from pain when spouse infidelity is discovered. This is because they want to restore happy marriage relationship.

You must first restore you own happiness to restore marriage relationship. Then, you can make the environment where the spouse can recover. Most people think that only the spouse in infidelity must recover and don't think about their own recovery. However, the spouse in infidelity usually do not try to recover first. 

The spouse in infidelity has relationship addiction, which is a progressed condition of psychological disorder and destroys all human relationship. They would sever the relationship with anyone who gives them stress whether they love the person or not.          

The spouse in infidelity is likely to destroy marriage relationship when the victimized spouse displays symptoms of post traumatic stress such as rage and anger. In this process, he or she does not think twice about destroying the relationship with children. Relationship addiction is a psychological condition to destroy all human relationships when stress is induced. 

If you want to restore happiness and marriage relationship, you must first stop giving stress to the spouse in infidelity. It is really hard for the victimized spouse not to give stress to the spouse in infidelity since the pain is absolutely excruciating. It must be noted that treating the condition of the victimized spouse is the first step to stop the aggravation of condition of the spouse in infidelity and restore marriage relationship. 

Many people advise you to get a divorce when spouse infidelity occurs. Some people advise for law suits to make the spouse return to home. Strictly speaking, it cannot be considered as returning home in that case since the spouse has actually aggravated condition relationship addiction. 

People who suffer from post traumatic stress due to spouse infidelity are facing the worst crisis situation in the life. Your future is only up to your decision, not anyone else's. You may aggravate your condition of post traumatic stress and make your whole life unhappy unless you treat your condition by adopting the right methods and choose the right path for happiness. You can and must make the right choice and decision for your self and your family. 

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[infidelity Therapy] The husband's display of rage justifies the adulterer's wrongdoings.

[infidelity Therapy] The husband's display of rage, violent behaviors, filing lawsuits, or getting a divorce justifies the adulterer's wrongdoings. 

The husband develops post traumatic stress upon the discovery of wife infidelity. The husband suffers from the excruciating pain and blames himself or others. If he blames the wife and the adulterer, he may display rage employing violent language and behaviors since he cannot bear his pain of post traumatic stress. In some cases, he may blame himself, file lawsuits, or get a divorce as his psychological condition deteriorates. No one thinks about what dire consequences the husband's behaviors will result in.

It must be noted how the husband's behaviors are perceived by the adulterer. First, all the husband's negative expressions can be used to justify the adulterer's wrongdoing of committing infidelity with the wife. The husband's behaviors are equivalent to giving the adulterer what he wants. The husband's behaviors may be used as a support for the wife's infidelity, her falling for the adulterer's attention and consolation, and getting a divorce. Especially, the husband's violent language and behaviors are effective in serving this purpose. 

The adulterer may get stressed when the husband files lawsuits and display violent behaviors against him. However, he forgets about his stress soon by avoiding the situation or just enduring until it ends, and then, he feels sympathy for the wife. He may try to avoid the situation or just stand firm until it ends. 

The adulterer thinks that the husband is not good enough for the wife. He thinks that the wife committed infidelity because the husband is violent and incapable of protecting the wife and satisfying her sexually. This idea will lead the adulterer to conclude that he is superior to the husband in many ways. 

Secondly, the adulterer thinks that he had to give the wife attention and consolation because the husband didn't. The husband behaviors have proved so. That is, the husband's behaviors are used to justify the adulterer's infidelity with the wife. He thinks that the wife is a good woman who is sweet and sexually attractive but she is suffering from the relationship with the husband. 

Thirdly, the adulterer thinks that he can take advantage of the wife as a sexual object more easily when she gets a divorce, so he keeps giving attention and consolation to her. Then, the wife may choose to stay with the adulterer since the husband keeps being violent and blaming her for infidelity. The adulterer will be glad when the husband abandons the wife. 

The wife in infidelity may tell the adulterer everything about what is going on in her life and marriage in order to get attention and consolation from him including sexual issues. The adulterer perceives all her speech and actions as sexual responses and thinks that he must give her sexual pleasure, too. He may feel proud of himself for saving the wife from a miserable life. 

The husband's behaviors to display rage or to solve problems lead the adulterer to justify infidelity. The husband is helping the wife fall more and more infidelity. The more actions he takes to cope with the situation, the more incompetent he becomes. If you are suffering from post traumatic stress due to infidelity, you must treat your condition first by taking KIP Treatment and must not pay attention to your wife for now. Then, you can give your wife an opportunity to treat her condition and take all the measures to make the adulterer pay for what he has done to your family. You have to make him learn that the price of committing infidelity is high.

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[Infidelity Therapy] The psychology of the husband who buys sex services

 

    When the wife finds out that her husband has bought sex services, she feels betrayed by her husband. The wife thinks that she has sex because she loves the husband and the fact that her husband buys sex services means to her that having sex with the wife has been denied and he doesn't love his wife. The husband may think that buying sex services is no big deal, but the wife may develop post traumatic stress as if she were shocked by husband infidelity. 

     The husband's buying sex services has a few stages. The first stage is when he buys sex services by being carried along while he is drinking and having fun with people. The second stage is when he repeats buying sex services since he finds it fun. The third stage is when he put more importance to sexual pleasure than to the whole activity. The fourth stage is when he gets involved with the woman who sells sex in a romantic relationship committing infidelity. 

     The husband may think that he is just having fun temporarily and he has not betrayed the wife and children in any way. However, the wife may develop post traumatic stress thinking that she is denied by her husband and he has sex with another woman since he doesn't love her. 

     Especially, when the husband aggravates his condition of relationship addiction when he has a personal relationship with the woman who sells sex services. As his relationship addiction advances, he continues buying sex services even when he is caught by his wife and eventually develops intermittent explosive disorder. He may make an excuse saying that it was just a mistake and an accident, but he is only justifying his behavior. It has the same mechanism as the husband in infidelity making self-justification of all types upon being caught. 

     The husband who buys sex services is likely to fail in his life as well as in business and work and he suffers from physical illness. His relationship addiction advances rapidly as he spend time, money, and energy. 

     The husband who buys sex services develops relationship addiction and the wife who discovers it develops post traumatic stress. The wife must treat her post traumatic stress before anything to restore her life and family. 

     Most women think that they have sex with men they are in love with, but women who sell sex services have sex for financial gain. The husband buys sex services for temporary sexual pleasure but it causes him to suffer from permanent damage on his psychology. He becomes addicted to women's responses and sexual pleasure, which cannot be reversed by his conscious control.

     The husband's pursuit of values is distorted and his relationships with people are damaged after he buys sex services. He begins to destroy the closest relationship making his wife and children suffer. He may even sever the relationship with children if they try to stop him from buying sex services. 

     The wife must first treat her post traumatic stress and then address his husband's problem. If she tries to address the husband's problems before treating her won condition, both the husband's and the wife's conditions only keep deteriorating. The husband thinks that buying sex services is valuable and important for him, so any attempt to stop his wrong doing is considered as an attack against his pursuit of values of life, which makes it even harder for him to recover. 

      When the husband realizes that his buying sex services caused relationship addiction in him and tries to treat his condition on his own, he can restore balance in psychology and understand the importance of being happy together with his wife as well as having sexual happiness together. 

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[Infidelity Therapy] The collapse of the life of men who commit infidelity

[Infidelity Therapy] The collapse of the life of men who commit infidelity (the husband in infidelity and the adulterer)

People who know that infidelity is caused by relationship addiction tend to associate relationship addiction only with infidelity. However, not everyone who develops relationship addiction gets involved in infidelity. Of course, people in infidelity have developed relationship addiction. 

 [Symptoms of men's relationship addiction] 

1. Commit infidelity

2. Do not have sex addiction but repeat buying sex services

3. Find more pleasure in diverse activities such as work, gatherings, traveling, hobbies, or sports than in family life

4. Suddenly have more sex or become sexless with the spouse

5. Mingle with people with many human relationships and become overly nice to people

There are many more symptoms of men's relationship addiction than listed above. Men with relationship addiction are addicted to people's responses regardless of the gender when they express themselves nicely to other people. When men develop relationship addiction, they express themselves compulsively and they feel relieved and excited only when they feel the counterparty's responses. 

When they express themselves to a woman and the woman with relationship addiction responds to men's expressions, they become close to each other and commit infidelity. Men with relationship addiction think that giving attention and consolation to women with relationship addiction is the most valuable thing in their life. 

Men's relationship addiction is an advanced condtion of psychological diaorder in the sense that they have developed both perception disorder and expression disorder simultaneously. Perception disorder makes men not be able to stand even the slightest stress and expression disorder or addiction makes men feel relieved from obsession and anxiety only when they get responses from the object of obsession. 

Men with relationship addiction have developed a psychological disorder that destroys all their relationships as well as their pursuit of values and sexuality. They sever all the relationships that give them stress and form only the relationships that give them responses. They pursue distorted values and sexuality justifying their ideas and behaviors. 

Men with relationship addiction end up putting priority on sexual pleasure and relationships that make it possible as the highest values of life. They can stop pursuing sexual pleasure only when they lose everything, become sick, or literally die. 

Men with relationship addiction must realize that they have a serious condition and make efforts to treat their condition even if the process is hard and even painful to restore healthy and happy life. They are usually given an opportunity to treat their condition when they are on the verge of losing everything or they feel the threat of life after losing everything. In this situation, their wife and children are very important for their treatment. 

The treatment can be chosen and proceeded only by men themselves and it requires their own strong will power and efforts. They must treat relationship addiction, prevent the relapse of the condition, and build stress healing ability and happiness ability to achieve complete cure. Korea Institute of Psycho-education provides an effective and innovative treatment program without psychology counseling. 

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[Infidelity Therapy] The collapse of the life of women who commit infidelity

 

[Infidelity Therapy] The collapse of the life of women who commit infidelity (the wife in infidelity and the adulteress)

     

     People who know that infidelity is caused by relationship addiction tend to associate relationship addiction only with infidelity. However, not everyone who develops relationship addiction gets involved in infidelity. Of course, people in infidelity have developed relationship addiction. 

     [Symptoms of women's relationship addiction] 

1. Commit infidelity

2. Find comfort in specific objects such as religion, study, counseling, consumption, or fortune telling.

3. Find more pleasure in diverse activities such as work, gatherings, traveling, hobbies, or sports than in family life

4. Suddenly get out of depression and lethargy and begin to focus on activities outside home. 

5. Mingle with people overly with many human relationships

     There are many more symptoms of women's relationship addiction than listed above. Women with relationship addiction are addicted to attention and consolation. They can be addicted to attention and consolation of any type from both men and women. They feel excited and happy when they are given attention by the counterparty's friendliness and kindness. Since they are addicted to attention and consolation, they develop obsession for attention and consolation and they feel relieved and happy only when they are given attention and consolation. When the object of attention and consolation is a man, they get involved in infidelity, and women provide responses to men in infidelity in return for men's attention and consolation. 

     Women with relationship addiction develop the disorder of memory of emotion and expression disorder simultaneously. The disorder of memory of emotion makes women suffer from their own wounds from perception or memory. Expression disorder or addiction makes them develop obsession and anxiety and feel relieved and happy only when they get attention and consolation from the object of addiction. 

     Women with relationship addiction destroy all her relationships as well as her love, values, and sexuality. They sever all the relationships that are related with their wounds and form relationships that give them attention and consolation. They pursue distorted love, values, and sexuality justifying their ideas and behaviors. 

     Women with relationship addiction must realize that they have a serious condition and make efforts to treat relationship addiction even if the process is hard and even painful to restore healthy and happy life. They usually choose to treat themselves when they are blocked from getting attention and pursuing pleasure. Their husband and children have nothing to do with their own treatment in this situation. 

     The treatment can be chosen and proceeded only by women themselves and it requires their own strong will power and efforts. They must treat relationship addiction, prevent the relapse of the condition, and build wound treatment ability and happiness ability to achieve complete cure. Korea Institute of Psycho-education provides an effective and innovative treatment program without psychology counseling. 

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[infidelity Therapy] The difference between infidelity and prostitution

 

[infidelity Therapy] The difference between infidelity and prostitution, the sexuality of the husband, the wife, the adulteress, and the adulterer in husband infidelity and wife infidelity

     Infidelity is legal and prostitution is illegal. Infidelity is considered to be a form of love and prostitution is considered to be a form of business. When someone gets involved in infidelity with many people for the purpose of earning money, it is also considered to be a form of business. Infidelity destroys self, the spouse, children family and human relationships. Prostitution destroys one's body, mind, and sexuality. Infidelity is caused by relationship addiction. Prostitution has the purpose of exchanging sexual pleasure and economic gain. Prostitution evolves into infidelity, which is a more advanced psychological condition. Infidelity is more hedonic than prostitution. 

     People in infidelity destroy their spouse, children, family, and human relationships and people who buy sex destroy their own body, mind, and sexuality. The husband in infidelity invest his time, effort, and money for having sex with the adulteress and destroys all human relationships. Infidelity has more adverse effects than prostitution. The wife must understand that the husband considers the adulteress as a prostitute. The wife in infidelity must understand that she is considered as a prostitute by the adulterer. The adulteress and the wife in infidelity are only sexual objects of the adulterer. 

      The husband who suffers from wife infidelity must understand that the adulterer considers his wife as a prostitute. The husband must treat his post traumatic stress and then, punish the adulterer regardless of their marriage relationship. The husband who commits infidelity to get even with his wife in infidelity makes his adulteress a prostitute. 

     The husband in infidelity and adulteress have developed relationship addiction, which is an advanced condition of psychological disorder and the victimized wife has developed post traumatic stress. The wife in infidelity and the adulterer have developed relationship addiction and the victimized husband has developed post traumatic stress. They may develop intermittent explosive disorder or hysteria when the conditions progress even further. Everyone who gets involved in the infidelity issue develops psychological disorders and their conditions progress as time passes unless properly treated.

     KIP Treatment is provided to treat psychological disorders and restore balanced state of mind. It also guides you to build the ability to prevent the relapse of pathological conditions as well as habits of wounds treatment and habits of happiness to achieve complete cure. It is an innovative and highly effective non-contact self-treatment method. 

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[Infidelity Therapy] Self-injury that kills your mind : fake wounds

[Infidelity therapy] You mind perishes when fake wounds are turned into real wounds.

   The spouse in infidelity has developed relationship disorder, which is an advanced condition of psychological disorder. The victimized spouse develops post traumatic stress upon the discovery of spouse infidelity. Relationship addiction distorts one's thoughts and ideas and the spouse in infidelity perceives everything in distorted ways. The victimized spouse also develops distorted thoughts and ideas. 

     The victimized spouse perceives all his or her past memories as negative ones and aggravates the psychological condition. Psychology counseling, lawsuits, divorce, and taking other practical measures also contribute to the aggravation of post traumatic stress. It is crucial to treat post traumatic stress in the right way as soon as possible.  

     The unconscious in human mind generates emotions and have the conscious recognize them by operating the three components of psychology, which are perception, memory, and expression. Psychological problems or disorders makes you recognize negative emotions in the conscious 

     One component of psychology operates in a distorted way in the early condition of psychological disorder. Two operates in a distorted way in the advanced condition of psychological disorder. Three components of psychology operate in a distorted way in post traumatic stress. 

      People who have psychological disorders hardly feel the need for treatment but people with post traumatic stress feel that they need treatment since their psychological pain is so excruciating. When they take psychology counseling to treat their condition, they have to analyze their past experiences one by one to find the cause of the pain. Then, their distorted and false wounds are turned into real wounds in their mind making all their past memories real wounds. They used to think that they are happy when they are with the person who they love. Now, they may think that they can be happy when they are with anyone as far as they can have sexual pleasure.

     Fortunately, the distorted ideas are developing but have not been fixated for people in post traumatic stress. They can restore the balanced psychology by taking a right treatment. They can build habits of wound treatment and achieve complete cure. They can restore happiness and family and give the spouse in infidelity to treat his or her condition.

     Any other approach will only aggravate the condition and your mind will perish eventually destroying yourself and people around you. You must make your own efforts to treat psychological disorders or post traumatic stress. You must treat yourself, build habits of wound treatment, and achieve complete cure on your own. 

     Korea Institute of Psycho-education provides an innovative non-contact on-line self-treatment method of psychological disorders, which will lead you to complete cure of psychological disorders without adverse effects of conventional psychology counseling.

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