[Review] I want to praise myself for winning through the difficult time.

 

It is a peaceful and calm weekend.

My husband went out early to see his friends, 

children are enjoying the time doing things they want, 

and I am reading next to the window with a cup of coffee. 

I read what I wrote on the cover of the book last year. 

'Yeah, it was a hard time for me.' 

I feel overwhelmed for a second remembering the time. 

I feel not pain and sorrow 

but fullness and pride for winning through the difficult time. 

I have read other members' reviews.

I thought I wanted to share my experiences, too.

The fact that I have such an idea must indicate that I am free from pain now and have been treated.   

Everything I went through feels almost like some good experience rather than pain. 

As I was told when I started KIP Treatment Program, 

things that caused pain and suffering in me are becoming old memories. 

Still, I plan to keep making efforts until I reach full recovery.

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[Infidelity Therapy] How to defeat the devil called spouse infidelity

 

The spouse in infidelity has developed relationship addiction, which is a psychological disorder. Relationship addiction is a psychological disorder that destroys all healthy human relationships. Relationship addiction recurs and keeps deteriorating for the whole life time unless adequately treated. 

People in infidelity justify their behaviors. They keep relationships mostly only with people in infidelity and develop distorted ideas of love and sex. They begin to destroy normal relationships including marriage and family relationships. 

The victimized spouse develops post traumatic stress, with which all his or her life experiences turn into stress and wounds, and he or she experiences the pain of death and life crisis. When victimized spouses suppress their feelings without adequate treatment and become dependent on people or activities such as parenting, work, religion, study, or hobbies, they end up living in unhappiness for the rest of their life. Also, most attempts to deal with the situation of spouse infidelity by taking practical measures including counseling, coaching, lawsuits, or divorce aggravate post traumatic stress, and make them destroy healthy relationships with people including their own children. When victimized spouses are not adequately treated for post traumatic stress, they are bound to live the worst kind of life they can imagine. 

When spouse infidelity occurs, marriage relationship and family relationship are considered to be going through a crisis. Then, should we just be devastated and give up? Fortunately, you are in a crisis situation but you still have a chance / to restore your happiness and healthy marriage and family relationships by taking the right steps. 

Step 1 : To transform your life into a happy one by treating post traumatic stress. 

You must transform your thoughts and emotions into healthy ones that you had before the discovery of spouse infidelity. You must also build problem solving ability and wound treatment ability for future life. As you proceed with the treatment of post traumatic stress, you can build these abilities and can prevent the recurrence of post traumatic stress. Post traumatic stress turns all your life experiences into stress and wounds referred to as fake stress and wounds, triggered by the incident of spouse infidelity. You can restore happiness only when you treat the condition of post traumatic stress.

Step 2. To make decisions on marriage relationship. 

When you have built happiness ability, with which you can be happy on your own, you can give your spouse an opportunity to treat relationship addiction and decide whether you will stay in marriage or get a divorce. 

Step 3. To live a happy life and take practical measures on infidelity issues. 

You will live a happy life regardless of your marital status and your spouse's psychological condition. Now, you can also take practical measures on infidelity issues such as lawsuits or divorce with healthy psychology and right judgment. 

     If you are suffering from pain and confusion due to spouse infidelity, please, make reference to the provided guideline to overcome the crisis and restore happiness in a true sense. 

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[Life Crisis] Wealthy and successful people need to build leader psychology.

 

We usually classify people into wealthy and successful class, middle class, and poor class with respect to economic and social status. We can also classify people's psychology into leader psychology, psychology of self-actualization, and psychology of survival.

The combination of economic and social class and psychological class leads some people to live a happy life benefiting self and others and being respected by everyone. It leads others to live an unhappy life destroying self and others and being condemned by everyone.

Especially, wealthy and successful people cannot but have great social influences whether they are positive or negative. Thus, wealthy and successful people's psychological status is intimately associated with the society's overall condition and wellbeing.

For example, when wealthy and successful people have healthy leader psychology, they use their power of influence to lead other people to happiness. People in middle class and poor class can have more opportunities for self-actualization and survival, they pay respect to wealthy people who help them, and the society progresses in the direction of happiness and prosperity.

However, when wealthy and successful people live with distorted psychological condition, they prioritize their own individual happiness. Then, people with less economic ability and lower social status are more deprived of opportunities to pursue happiness since people cannot but affect one another in human relationships and people with wealth and success and distorted psychology negatively influence other people with more power. When wealthy people with the psychology of self-actualization or survival pursue distorted happiness with greed and selfishness, many people's pursuit of happiness is destroyed. Then, everyone in the society suffers and lives of many people are destroyed.

Not all wealthy and successful people have leader psychology, so they must try to build healthy leader psychology when they achieve financial and social success. You cannot just automatically obtain leader psychology when you rise from middle class or poor class to wealthy and successful class. 

Also, they must lead their children and their spouse to build leader psychology. Then, they can enjoy not only economic affluence but also true happiness, which is accompanied by respect from other people and prosperity of the whole society. When wealthy people and their family cannot build healthy leader psychology, they may look fancy and happy outside, but they live in pain and unhappiness inside with insatiable greed and distorted desire. They may develop compensation mentality with self-display and over-consumption seeking pleasure and indulgence at all costs. Wealthy and successful people with distorted psychology inflict great damage upon many people and aggravate division and conflict in the whole society. Then, the society will have more and more people with distorted and destructive psychology in all social and financial classes. 

If you feel that you and people around you are not happy even when you are rich and successful, you may greatly benefit from Consultation on Leader Psychology. For your wealth and success to be valued and be connected with happiness in a true sense, you need to live in healthy relationships with other people with harmony and order. Consultation on Leader Psychology will help you build and maintain healthy leader psychology so that you can achieve happiness in a true sense on top of what you have already achieved. 

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[Infidelity Therapy] People who disseminate contents on infidelity are screwing up others with them.

 

Many individual stories about infidelity are publicized through mass media or social media. These publicized stories about infidelity draw many people's attention. Both the person whose story is known to general public and people who are exposed to the stories may suffer from diverse types of psychological damage. 

Anyone can experience infidelity cases during their life directly or indirectly, getting involved in infidelity themselves or being influenced by infidelity of people who are close to them. Such experiences can cause crisis situations in people involved, with great adverse effects on self and others. People who are exposed to infidelity cases even remotely are also under the influence of adverse effects of damaging their psychology and aggravating existing wounds and stress. 

People who become interested in stories of infidelity of people they don't even know are also negatively affected by the operation of emotional assimilation. They may become to think, feel, and express the experience as if it happened to themselves. As such indirect experiences are repeated and continued, their psychology may begin to develop problems in spite of themselves. 

People who produce dramatic and sensational contents on infidelity cases in social media and mass media can be considered to be causing psychological pathologies in general public. It is a pity that neither those who produce harmful contents nor those who expose themselves to them do not realize the magnitude of both individual and social problems. Many people who produce such contents consciously focus on selfish gains and financial profits neglecting the damage they may inflict on innocent people. The more dramatic and sensational, the more psychological damage and the more gain and profit. When someone produce and disseminate contents on infidelity knowing their adverse effects, it must be considered as a crime.

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[Review_Infidelity Therapy] To those who are hesitating even at this very moment

 

I could sense that my husband had changed a bit,  

but I just assumed that he was also going through some tough time like others in their 40s.

I thought it would just pass naturally. 

After all, we had been happily married for more than 10 years. 

I had never imagined that he would have an affair.  

I was completely at a loss 

when I found out that he was actually having an affair. 

I had insomnia, was extremely irritable, 

lost more than 10 pounds in a week, and even missed my cycles. 

I was looking for causes I could never figure out. 

I blamed myself for all possible things. 

I kept trying to find some solutions. 

Everyday felt like a year. 

I was in pain every moment I was awake. 

I even thought about taking drastic actions. 

I hesitated to take the treatment since it seemed expensive and time consuming. 

I became dependent on Youtube videos. 

They gave me temporary comfort and consolation, but didn't solve any problem. 

One day, it just occurred to me that I had children. 

My children…. 

They were studying my face constantly. 

I suddenly came to my senses. 

'What have I done to them? 

I can't let my children be miserable no matter how much pain I have.' 

I began to take KIP Treatment Program. 

My children began to change for the better 

as my wounds were treated through watching training videos and doing therapeutic tasks.

I regret that I wandered about and hesitated for a few months before taking the treatment. However, I am grateful to myself that I made a right choice. 

I want to praise myself for not destroying myself further, 

not wandering about for too long, 

learning about Korea Institute of Psycho-education, 

and focusing on my treatment. 

I am still going forward to build happiness. 

I am trying to protect my precious life and my children.

Your decision may make the difference of night and day. 

If you are hesitating even today, I suggest you should give it a try and try hard. 

You will see what it means by the difference between knowing and not knowing about human mind. 

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[Infidelity Therapy] 3 Steps to take upon the discovery of spouse infidelity

 

     Upon the discovery of spouse infidelity, most people develop post traumatic stress with severe psychological pain and run about in confusion. They are overwhelmed with thoughts and emotions but cannot judge what is right or wrong, and they are simply swallowed by pain and rage. They may end up destroying everything with their own hands. If you want to overcome post traumatic stress and restore a healthy and happy life, you must take actions following the order provided. 

     The first and foremost thing you must do is to become independent psychologically. When you experience excruciating pain due to spouse infidelity, / you must focus on your existence as an individual rather than on your existence in marriage relationship until you recover healthy psychology. The decision on whether you will stay married or get a divorce can wait until then. Any practical measures taken to recover or sever marriage relationship in the condition of post traumatic stress will only expedite the destruction of individuals and family. The moment you discover spouse infidelity, you must simply erase the idea of marriage or divorce. 

     You must put yourself out of marriage relationship and achieve psychological independence. You must make it clear that you exist as an individual before you exist as a spouse or a partner in a relationship. You and your spouse are still parents of your children, but must stay psychologically separated until you restore healthy psychology. It is only natural that you are in great pain, but you must prepare yourself to live happily regardless of the presence or absence of your spouse. 

     The second most important thing to do is to become independent economically. You must be able to support and protect yourself and your children without other people's help. Economic independence does not mean that you must have the ability to live affluently. You just need to achieve sufficient economic independence with which you and your children can live in a safe and healthy environment. 

     As you make efforts to achieve psychological and economic independence, the treatment of post traumatic stress must be proceeded adequately. You can make right judgment and decision and take right actions only when you restore healthy psychology. In the process, you may also be able to give your spouse an opportunity to treat his or her psychological disorder. 

     The third thing you must do is to make decisions on practical matters such as restoring marriage relationship or getting a divorce. By then, you must have fully recovered and have the ability for right judgment for a happy life. You will be happy and will not experience much difficulty even when you get a divorce since you have prepared yourself well.

     Many practical measures people take when spouse infidelity occurs presuppose that you and your spouse still exist as people in relationships rather than as a self-contained individual. You must go back to exist as an individual to adequately address the condition of post traumatic stress. It is quite ineffective and even dangerous to approach the issue of spouse infidelity and post traumatic stress due to spouse infidelity from conventional points of view. It is recommended that you make efforts to restore healthy psychology and a happy life in the right direction with the right method.

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[Mother Therapy_Q&A] My daughter won't talk to me and wants to stay alone.

Q. I am worried about my 13-year-old daughter. She used to be a very sweet girl who would always talk to me about every little thing about her daily life. However, these days, she wants to stay alone most of the time. Recently, she came home and just slammed the door into her room. I knocked on the door and asked her what happened, but she refused to talk and told me to leave her alone. I am really worried since she has suddenly changed so much.  

A. As a child's body grows, his or her mind also grows. They will not stay forever as what they are as children. Parents can easily see their body grow everyday but the growth of their mind is less visible, so parents may assume that their mind stays pretty much the same as before. One day, parents may suddenly realize that their children have changed a lot and become worried not knowing what to do.

When they are still in elementary school or before they reach the age of adolescence, they are quite close to parents and talk with them about almost everything no matter how trivial the topic is. Children's patterns of expressions naturally change as they enter the age of adolescence and develop their own thought standards, which are likely to be different from those of parents. They may sometimes disagree with parents and want some psychological space of their own. All these behaviors indicate that they have entered the developmental stage of the formation of self-identity, which usually covers the ages between 13 to 19. 

It is only a natural part of psychological growth, but parents may feel worried when they do not understand about the developmental process of child psychology and have not expected such a phenomenon. They may overreact and assume that there is something wrong with the child's condition or situation including school life or relationships with friends. 

Your daughter seems to be able to express her emotions and ideas clearly by saying that she wants to stay alone. If you still keep pushing her for talking with you, she may think that you are not listening to her and do not respect her ideas, which, in turn, makes her talk with you less and less. Therefore, you must first show her your respect for her ideas and let her have some time and space to herself. 

Please, understand that not only her body but also her mind grows as time goes by. Now, she is in the developmental phase of the formation of self-identity, where she is working on developing her own thought standards. You can be assured that your daughter is growing with healthy mind instead of being worried about her changed behaviors. Of course, she may experience many trials and errors in the process. 

When parents accurately understand about the growth process of children's psychology development and adopt adequate parenting strategies, children can develop healthy body and mind within the boundary of the safe environment parents have set up for them.

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[Infidelity Therapy] Types of responses husbands make when they are caught cheating

 

There are so many different responses husbands make when they are caught cheating  depending on the husband's habits and the wife's response types. However, they can be categorized into roughly 10 different types. 

1. Husbands who realize how wrong they were and truly ask for forgiveness. 

2. Husbands who ask for forgiveness but do not realize how wrong they were. 

3. Husbands who admit their wrongdoing but cannot stop infidelity. 

4. Husbands who keep silence on the issue of their infidelity.

5. Husbands who continue infidelity secretly.

6. Husbands who blame the wife for their infidelity.

7. Husbands who display violent behaviors. 

8. Husbands who leave home. 

9. Husbands who overreact and turn on the wife. 

10. Husbands who explain about their affair to the wife in detail. 

Whatever type of behaviors they display, it is simply to avoid or remove stress they perceive from the situation. Husbands caught cheating perceive almost everything related with the wife as stress. Especially, when the wife expresses rage and anger interrogating, crying, or clinging, they sense extreme stress, which may be comparable to the pain of death. 

Therefore, the wife should not judge the situation according to the husband's responses, believe what he says, put any meaning to his actions and words, or expect anything from him. The wife just needs to make efforts to treat her own condition of post traumatic stress as she would treat her physical illnesses when her body is sick.

The wife can set a new direction of her happiness and give the husband an opportunity to treat his condition only when she restores healthy psychology. She cannot live a happy life even if she divorces her husband if she still has to carry on with the condition of post traumatic stress inside her. 

The wife must not be affected by any of the husband's responses upon the discovery of husband infidelity. She must treat post traumatic stress and build happiness ability before anything. Working to build her happiness in the future is not necessarily related with the husband. 

When the wife does not treat her post traumatic stress and takes other practical measures such as suppressing her feelings and enduring the situation, trying to get even with the husband and the adulteress, taking counseling and coaching, developing dependency on medical care, filing lawsuits, or getting a divorce, her post traumatic stress may advance at a fast rate and she ends up living an unhappy life destroying her life and the life of her children. In the process, the husband's relationship addiction also deteriorates at a fast rate. 

The couple do not nave to stay in marriage to be happy when infidelity occurs. However, the treatment of post traumatic stress must precede any discussion, judgment, or decision on the path of future life. When the wife's post traumatic stress is cured and she can live happily with children, any judgment and decision based on her healthy psychology will lead her to happiness. 

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[Review_Infidelity Therapy] I fought and I won! (overcoming husband infidelity)

 

Finally, the day has come!

"Congratulations! we are pleased to inform you that you have achieved complete recovery.”

I blankly looked at the sky with the setting sun for quite a while.

I have spent the last 4 years to hear this message...

I looked back at the days before I started treatment.

My whole life collapsed due to husband infidelity. I simply wanted to stop living. 

I had never even imagined such a thing could happen to me. 

My body collapsed. My children were in fear looking at me.  

Everyday was as if I were in the hell.   

I couldn't talk to anyone and endured all by myself. I cried so much.  

I decided to begin treatment to save myself and my children. 

I gradually learned about my mind, and made efforts to rebuild my life on my own. 

I repeated falling and rising within the guideline of the treatment program, 

and I encouraged myself to continue for buiding happiness habits. 

I guess I was changing slowly. Children began to smile. My husband began to join family.  

It has been a week after I got the report of full recovery. I am having a good life everyday. 

I still keep doing therapeutic tasks, just for myself. 

I generate xes energy through Xes Training, just for myself.  

I have enough amount of love and happiness to give to my children.  

Children do not seem scared anymore even when I get angry. 

I guess I express differently from when I was in pain. 

I can see that I am smiling most of the time. We are all smiling most of the time.  

I have trust in myself that I will be just fine no matter what.  

I know how to stay happy inside myself under any circumstance, and I also know how to rise when I fall. 

My life is going forward for happiness. 

I was lucky to be given the opportunity for KIP Treatment Program. 

It was one of the most valuable education I had in my life. 

I realized how great the difference between knowing and not knowing is. 

Keep up with your efforts, everyone!

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[Infidelity Therapy] You will ruin your life if you sue the adulteress right away.

 

<Q> “I am suffering from excruciating pain caused by husband infidelity.” 

<A> The wife suffers from great pain since she has developed post traumatic stress. Post traumatic stress makes her sense not only the incident of infidelity but also all her life experiences with her husband as pain, which is referred to as ‘fake wounds’. The more the wife has had a good marriage life, the greater pain of post traumatic stress she senses. It is only natural that the wife suffers from great pain upon the discovery of husband infidelity. 

<Q> “Will I recover when my husband breaks up with the adulteress and comes back to me?”

<A> Suppose that the wife makes efforts to restore marriage relationship and the husband comes back to her. Actually, the wife’s post traumatic stress and the husband’s relationship addiction get aggravated in the process of making efforts since they add more wounds in the wife and more stress in the husband. Eventually, the restoration of marriage becomes more difficult and their relationship is more likely to worsen in the end. The whole situation unfolds in the opposite way from what the wife wishes for. 

<Q> “Most people around me tell me that I must break them apart and sever their relationship to have my husband back. Is that true?”

<A> They say so because they only see the surface phenomenon and do not accurately understand the erroneous operation of the wife’s and the husband’s psychology. Husband infidelity occurs when he develops relationship addiction, in which he becomes addicted to the adulteress’s response. The wife has developed post traumatic stress. They cannot engage themselves in normal psychological interactions. Most people assume that causes of husband infidelity are problems of marriage, sex, or love, so they simply think that they need to address those issues directly. 

People who advise on infidelity issues think that they have done the right thing since, at least on the surface, they helped the husband break up with the adulteress and come back to the wife. However, it is the wife and the husband who have to suffer and make all the efforts only to aggravate their psychological conditions leading to even worse practical situations in the future. 

<Q> “Does it mean that even experts advise for suing the adulteress knowing that it will aggravate the situation? How could they do that?”

<A> Of course, they may be well intended since filing a lawsuit against the adulteress makes the wife feel a little comfortable as far as they understand. Some experts advise for lawsuits to truly help the wife since they don’t understand the true nature and the root cause of infidelity. Others may seek their own interest associated with the procedure of lawsuits and divorce. Again, it is the wife and the husband who end up dealing with dire consequences of inadequate actions. 

Some people may induce the wife to develop the idea that the husband is a bad person for cheating her and encourage her to divorce him. Then, the wife may become thankful to them and they may take advantage of the wife in many ways. They are actually committing crimes in disguise of kindness and good intention. 

<Q> “What? Then, are people who advise for the lawsuit against the adulteress and divorce hiding their intention to take advantage of the suffering wife?” 

<A> Of course not. Not everyone is ill-intended. People who understand the true nature of infidelity or people who accurately understand that the couple can overcome the adversity and restore true happiness would recommend the treatment of post traumatic stress before filing a lawsuit against the adulteress. 

However, anyone who does not take consideration of the whole life the couple have had together or the wife’s suffering, and just advises for taking practical measures such as lawsuits and divorce is definitely trying to take advantage of the wife. Some of them even may try to make the wife dependent on them by gaslighting her. 

<Q> : Then, should I never sue the adulteress to break them apart?”

<A> Of course, you can sue the adulteress, but only after you recover. You must sue the adulteress after you recover your healthy psychology by adequately treating the condition of post traumatic stress. When the wife treats her condition and restores healthy psychology, she can have the ability to adequately resolve infidelity issue on her own, and live happily regardless of practical situations. The wife must restore healthy psychology first regardless of her husband’s condition, and then, she can take any practical measures she wants. 

When the wife can live happily with children after full recovery, she can decide on whether to stay in marriage or get a divorce as well as on other practical matters as she herself chooses. 

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[Mother Therapy_Review] My child is happy now.

 

My child is an adult. 

Still, as I become happy everyday little by little, 

my relationship with my husband improves, 

and then, I can see that my child has become psychologically stable, 

and finds the right direction in life on his own. 

I am happy, composed, and grateful for everything. 

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[Mother Therapy_Q&A] I have always lived my life as I was told by my mother, and I have become totally dependent on her.

 

Q. My mother really wanted to get higher education when she was young, but she couldn't because she had to make a living. She always told me that education and having a big dream is important, so she even sent me abroad for study. However, my academic achievement didn't work out as she had planned, and I don't know what to do with my life. I tend to depend on her for everything I do and decide, and haven't really done anything by my own will. I guess I have to make my own decision and accomplishment from now on, but I have no sense of confidence. What should I do?

A. As a child learns to walk, parents help the child to start a few steps at first, and then, gradually let the child take over for walking independently. Child rearing becomes harder when the child walks about everywhere, but parents do not make the child stay at one spot or keep carrying the child. 

As children become teenagers and begin to form their own self-identity and thought standards, parents should support them so that they can form healthy self-identity and thought standards, and pursue their own self-actualization when they become adults. However, as parents impose their own thought standards upon children, children are deprived of opportunities to build their own thought standards.

You seem to have lost the chance to build basic abilities for decision making and self-actualization during teenage years even though you were a good daughter and student. Your mother made all the decisions for you and helped you with every single thing when problems occurred. Now, you must make your own decisions and direct yourself in the path of life, but you don't have the ability to deal with stress and wounds in your career or relationships. You and your mother are likely to develop relational conflicts blaming each other as your mother is not satisfied with your achievement and you are also stressed from the relationship with your mother. 

From now on, you must practice making your own decisions and accomplishments without your mother's help even if they are small and trivial ones. As you build problem solving abilities by tackling small issues one by one, you will gradually develop not only basic abilities but also confidence. You can overcome dependency on your mother and build your own self-identity and thought standards as far as you keep your will power to do so. Just keep in mind that it will take quite some time to become psychologically independent. Keep making efforts to put your ideas into practice and never give up.

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[Husband Infidelity] Getting a divorce due to spouse infidelity is easy, but then, what?

 

Q : I got a divorce due to husband infidelity. I thought I would be comfortable after divorce since I wouldn't have to see my ex-husband anymore. However, I suffer from even greater pain as I get involved with other men. I also find that people who used to be close to me seem to avoid me. I wait for my boyfriend's call all day, and become obsessive and dependent in the relationship. I don't know why I feel suffocated and keep crying. Does it mean that I am still being affected by the past experience with my ex-husband? 

A : Men's infidelity is the phenomenon where they are addicted to women's response, and women's infidelity is the phenomenon where they are addicted to men's attention. In the condition of relationship addiction, men mistake relationship addiction for their passion and women for their love and they all justify their behaviors.

As a man and a woman get married and become husband and wife, they are supposed to build happy life together, but when the husband develops relationship addiction, he may want to exist only as a man instead of a husband, and seek only his own pleasure breaking trust and responsibility of marriage relationship. Then, the wife may choose to get a divorce as she develops post traumatic stress accompanied by the pain of death wanting to get out of the unbearable pain and be comfortable.

However, when she gets a divorce without treating post traumatic stress, she suffers from even greater pain every time her wounds of post traumatic stress are activated in daily life. Post traumatic stress gets aggravated for all your life time unless adequately treated whether you stay married or get divorced. After the divorce, most women become to make efforts to forget wounds and get attention and consolation every time the wounds are activated.

When a divorced woman with post traumatic stress gets attention from men, she temporarily feels better and mistakes it for happiness. However, every incident of temporary attention and consolation only aggravates her condition of post traumatic stress. As they repeat mistaking men's attention for love and justifying their behaviors, they may develop relationship addiction on top of post traumatic stress. Such phenomenon occurs in so many women who get a divorce with the condition of post traumatic stress. 

The attention men give to divorced women with post traumatic stress is not love. These men mostly seek sexual pleasure by getting immersed into such women's response. When they cannot get sexual pleasure from these women, they will not even think twice before ending the relationship. 

Women who mistake men's attention for love generate even greater wounds thinking that their love has been betrayed. It must be clearly noted that you cannot build healthy romantic relationship based on post traumatic stress. Women with post traumatic stress will repeat such unhealthy relationships and end up developing hysteria and being unable to live a happy life. 

Women who get a divorce due to husband infidelity without treating post traumatic stress may lose their capacity for healthy women's feelings, develop relationship addiction, and become pleasure seekers themselves. Otherwise, they may develop severe depressive disorder. It is urgent and crucial that you treat post traumatic stress due to husband infidelity for your own happiness regardless of your marital status. 

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[Mother Therapy_Review] Now, I can have good conversations with my daughter.

 

Since I started Mother Therapy, 

my daughter, who is staying in the school dormitory, and I 

have been interacting a lot through texting and video calls. 

In many cases, my daughter texts or calls me first. 

I feel comfortable talking with her, 

and my daughter seems to like talking with me too, 

as I adopt parenting strategies and treatment methods of Mother Therapy. 

I find learning about Mother Therapy very interesting and valuable. 

I feel that my life and my daughter's life as well as our relationship 

are changing for the better.

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[Mother Therapy_Q&A] Mom's worry about 13 year-old daughter going steady with a boy.

 

Q. My 13 year-old daughter says that she has decided to go steady with a boy she has a crush on. I am thankful to her that she talks to me about her boyfriend, but I cannot help being worried about her first dating relationship. Will dating have a good or bad effect on a 13 year-old girl?

A. We cannot simply judge whether dating is good or bad for a teenage girl. Generally, her experience is likely to have both positive and negative influence on her life. However, a girl repeating dating relationships over and over again with different boys with short duration and intervals indicates that she has developed psychological problems. 

For example, your daughter goes out with a boy and breaks up with him. Then, she goes out with another boy and breaks up with him for similar reasons. Next, she repeats the whole process with multiple boys in a row. Then, you as her mother must try to find out what psychological problems she has. 

The experience of breaking up with a boy may accumulate psychological wounds in her and it may outweigh the positive effects of dating experience. Frequently changing partners for a dating relationship during teenage years may also lead her to develop similar pattern even when she becomes an adult. 

You can help her form healthy habits of forming and maintaining harmonious relationships with men through dating experiences by paying attention to her and talking with her about the topic with warm heart. Then, she will naturally be able to learn how to manage healthy relationships at present and in the future.

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