[Review] To the land of happiness

 

People who have not suffered from pain could not even imagine what it is like. 
It felt like my whole life had collapsed, and I couldn't even care about my own children. I barely survived in pain and obsession, and thought I couldn't live like that forever. So I started KIP Treatment.

I floundered in the bog of pain, and then, regained comfort for some time. I became irritable and unstable, and then, resumed therapeutic tasks. I repeated the whole process endlessly going back and forth.

Now, I feel quite composed. My teenage boy who was always grumpy and wouldn't talk to me has become talkative and laughs a lot. I find him so adorable even when he is complaining for nothing. I have recently found out that there are flowers on the street in front of my house. They are adorable, too.

I, who have lived as a full-time home maker for 17 years, have begun to pursue values. I feel that I can be passionate for may career. I took a test to get some kind of license, but I failed, but it's OK. I can try again. I am thankful for having an opportunity. I want to smile at people who I see on the street. 

Everything seems to be OK now. I think I can heal stress on my own these days. I don't know how exactly to express it but I feel moved while I am healing stress. 

I still miss some points when I do therapeutic tasks. I plan to continue until I am completely cured, keeping my first intention and doing my best to do therapeutic tasks.

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[Mother Therapy] Parents' psychological problems are passed down to children.

 

     Children who are neglected or abused by parents are necessarily to develop psychological problems. However, parents may not realize that their children have developed psychological problems due to parents' problems since they are busy dealing with their own psychological problems. They only focus on their pain and difficulties and sometimes even blame children for their problems. They may say, "Only if you hadn't done such a thing….", "It is your own fault, not mine. This problem is your own making.", "You really give me a hard time."

     Children have the right to be protected by parents and learn how to adapt to relationships and form their own standards of happiness. Parents have the responsibility to protect children. When parents cannot solve their own psychological problems, they negatively affect children neglecting or abusing children. 

     Children's psychological problems may not have surfaced yet. They may look like they are doing fine, going to school and not getting into troubles. Sometimes, children do not show any visible signs of problems at all even when parents have serious psychological problems. It only indicates that children have really serious psychological problems but it has not surfaced yet. They will be displayed in diverse ways sooner or later. They may also have difficulties or get involved in accidents or crimes when they become adults and pursue self-actualization. 

     Parents should never neglect or abuse children even if they are going through difficult times psychologically. Parents' psychological problems may be passed down to children since children are necessarily affected by parents' psychological condition. It is recommended that parents try to solve their own psychological problems and treat their condition to be able to provide a good environment for children to develop healthy psychology. Otherwise, both parents and children may have to live unhappily in spite of themselves. 

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[Review] Surprised and grateful for my change

 

I have recently read an e-mail that I wrote to Mr. Kim right before I started KIP Treatment Program 1 year ago. I could see how lost and vulnerable I was not knowing what to do and how intimidating my existence was in my children's life at that time. ​

One year ago, everyone but me looked so happy and I thought I could be happy only when other people gave me happiness. I blamed others for not making me happy and giving me only pain. I blamed even my mother and my children. ​

Now I can see clearly why I was so in pain even when I tried so hard to get out of it. My wounds come from my own feelings and they are sensed only by me. Now I understand that I am the only one who can treat myself. I am the one who makes wounds in mimind and at the same time I am the one who has the key to my happiness. 

I still have to keep going on the bumpy road for some time but I can do it because I have hope. I am grateful to my mother and my children for not complying with me when I was beside myself. ​I am surprised that I don't envy other people and don't feel unhappy anymore. I am deeply grateful to Korea Institute of Psycho-education. 

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[Infidelity Therapy] The psychology of the spouse in infidelity

 

     People who suffer from spouse infidelity want to know about the mind and psychology of the spouse in infidelity. It is because they have to make decisions on whether they can live with the spouse in infidelity. Also, the spouse in infidelity may want to know about the mind and psychology of the adulterer or the adulteress to be able to judge whether they have to keep the inappropriate relationship. 

Infidelity is not caused by problems of marriage, sex, love, or emotions. The spouse in infidelity has developed relationship addiction, which is an advanced condition of psychological disorder. They commit infidelity when they find women who respond to men's attention or men who give women attention. The cause of infidelity is relationship addiction, which is response addiction for men and attention addiction for women. 

The spouse in infidelity has developed relationship addiction and it progresses into intermittent explosive disorder, hysteria, or psychosis when it deteriorates to relationship addiction that involves sexual actions.

1. The operation of mind of peole in infidelity

Human mind generates emotions and operates it as psychology of perception, memory, and expression. The result of psychological operation and the resulting emotions are recognized in the conscious. The spouse in infidelity and the adulterer or the adulteress have developed psychological disorders in two components of psychology. In case of men, they develop perception disorder and expression disorder simultaneously. Perception disorder can be referred to as neurotic disorder and expression disorder as addiction. The husband in infidelity or the adulterer recognizes the most intense stress upon getting the slightest trigger of stress since perception disorder is activated. They display intense negative expressions to avoid or eliminate stress.

When men in infidelity perceive stress, they experience unbearable anxiety and nervousness and form obsession with the response of the adulteress. They can relieve stress and experience the most pleasurable sensations when they get responses from the adulteress. All these psychological phenomena are expressed through their speech and actions.

In this case, their psychology of memory operates in a normal way, so they would do anything not to get caught cheating by their spouse, children and friends. They feel comfortable and composed when they are not caught. However, when they are exposed to stress, they make speech and actions to avoid and eliminate the source of stress and they distort their memory and make self-justification.

In case of women, they have developed disorders of memory of emotions and expression disorder simultaneously. The disorder of memory of emotions can be referred to as depression and expression disorder as addiction. The wife in infidelity or the adulteress perceives even the smallest wounds in mimind, the disorder of memory of emotions is activated and the experience the most excruciating pain. Then, they make intense expressions in an attempt to treat wounds. Also, they experience anxiety and nervousness and develop obsession with the adulterer's attention. They feel relieved with intense sense of pleasure when they get attention from the adulterer. 

 2. The operation of psychology of people in infidelity

1) Men

The psychology of memory of men in infidelity operates in a normal way, so they would do anything not to get caught cheating by their spouse, children and friends. They feel comfortable and composed when they are not caught. However, when they are exposed to stress, they make speech and actions to avoid and eliminate the source of stress and they distort their memory and make self-justification. They may become violent or use violent language to eliminate stress, and destroy their memory and make self-justification. Men's relationship addiction progresses as they keep avoiding and eliminating stress. 

The more men are attacked for their infidelity, the more their relationship addiction progresses. When men's relationship addiction progresses into relationship addiction that involves sexual actions, they may develop intermittent explosive disorder or psychosis. 

2) Women

In case of women, they have developed disorders of memory of emotions and expression disorder simultaneously. The disorder of memory of emotions can be referred to as depression and expression disorder as addiction. The wife in infidelity or the adulteress perceives even the smallest wounds in mimind, the disorder of memory of emotions is activated and the experience the most excruciating pain. Then, they make intense expressions in an attempt to treat wounds. Also, they experience anxiety and nervousness and develop obsession with the adulterer's attention. They feel relieved with intense sense of pleasure when they get attention from the adulterer. All these psychological phenomena are expressed as speech and actions. 

In this case, women's psychology of memory and perception operate in normal ways. They would do their best not to get caught cheating by their husband, children, and friends. They can stay comfortable and composed when they are not caught. However, they distort their memory and make self-justification when they retrieve wounds in memory and make speech and actions to treat wounds in mimind. Then, their relationship addiction progresses further. The more they are attacked for their infidelity, the more they display anger and want the adulterer's attention. This also aggravates women's relationship addiction. Moreover, when their relationship addiction advances into relationship addiction that involves sexual actions, they may develop hysteria or psychosis. 

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[Infidelity Therapy] The danger of arbitrary interpretation and self-conviction on infidelity

 

People who have relationship addiction and post traumatic stress make arbitrary interpretations thinking that their ideas and behaviors are right when they are exposed to diverse information on infidelity. People who make arbitrary interpretations tend to think and act as they please to feel comfortable. They think that they know everything about the issue and justify themselves. They are actually aggravating their condition of relationship addiction and post traumatic stress. Then, they may develop the disorder of the conscious being convinced that what is wrong is what is right. 

The spouse in infidelity has developed the psychological disorder that destroys all human relationships. Everything that obstructs their infidelity is perceived as stress and they avoid or sever all relationships that gives them stress. Then, they usually lose the opportunity to treat their condition. Also, people who suffer from post traumatic stress may develop the disorder of the conscious when they are convinced that they are fine when they actually have aggravated the condition and feel comfortable without proper treatment. They justify themselves believing that they are fine. 

You must avoid interacting with people who make arbitrary interpretations after they develop relationship addiction or post traumatic stress. They will attack you in many ways when they find that others' ideas and behaviors do not accord with them since they have such strong conviction that their ideas and behaviors are absolutely right. They are good at justifying themselves with the idea that what they know to be right represents all the truth there exists. They never realize that they are in a serious psychological condition. 

For this reason, it is recommended that people who have taken KIP Treatment should never talk about or suggest the program with other people. It is only to be used for your own treatment and happiness and not for anyone else. You may actually fall for arbitrary interpretations yourself and destroy yourself and other people when you try to teach the operational mechanism of human mind and psychology and therapeutic tasks that you learned at KIP Treatment Program.

All your expressions and behaviors as you aggravate post traumatic stress may destroy everyone including yourself, your spouse, children, family, friends, and acquaintances. It is dangerous to look for information on infidelity and make arbitrary interpretations and develop self-conviction. Most practical measures suggested for solving the issue of infidelity are likely to only aggravate the condition of relationship addiction and post traumatic stress. 

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[Mother Therapy] Teenagers' mood swing

 

Q. My daughter seems to have mood swings for no reason. It is really hard for me to deal with it. She doesn't display her temper to other people as much as she does to me. My daughter and I get into conflicts a lot. It is hard for me to get along well with her. 

A: First of all, it is only possible for the daughter to show her moods to her mother as they are when they are in a good relationship. You are suffering from difficulties just because you don't accurately understand how your daughter's and your psychology operate. 

Here is an example case where a mother who is taking Mother Therapy. When her daughter seemed irritated and down, the mother approached and tried to have a conversation. 

“You look unhappy today. Can I ask what is bothering you?”

The daughter looked down at the floor and said, “I don't know. I just feel down. I'm just not happy and it's been like this for a while.”

The mother thought about what it was like when she was at her daughter's age. A few minutes went by with no one talking. Then, the mother began to talk about how she felt when she was a teenager. 

“I think I was like you when I was young. I was irritable and grumpy and complained to your grandmother a lot about this and that. Later, I found out that I was comparing myself with other girls and I was not happy about myself and my situation.” The daughter listened to her mother, and said, “I don't know. I guess I'll just sleep now.” Then, she went to her room. 

The mother realized that her daughter was also going through the teenage days when they get confused about things at school and at home and try to figure out about different things on their own. She didn't try to take it as a problem to be fixed but as a process her daughter cannot but go through to become an adult. She thought she would support her daughter in every aspect so that her daughter could grow in a healthy way making trials and errors.

Your daughter is in the process of growth. She is in the process of forming her own thought standards making trials and errors. When parents accurately understand the operational mechanism of children's mind and psychology and learn about the right parenting strategies by taking Mother Therapy, they can naturally support children's growth and wait for children to grow making trials and errors without feeling worried. Then, children can form healthy psychology in the safe environment the parents provide for them even when they go through a negative phase psychologically. 

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[Review] Change and hope for happiness

 

I have been taking KIP Treatment for 8 months to treat my relationship addiction. I was really unstable and anxious before starting the treatment and I had a serious condition of relationship addiction. I couldn't stop thinking of other people all day everyday. I was extremely lonely most of the time and I felt I was alone even when I was with my family. The most salient change I can feel after 8 months of training is that I don't feel lonely that much any more. ​

I thought that people who looked happy were happy because they had many people around them. I thought that I was lonely because no one took care of me. ​

I feel less and less unstable and less anxious as I proceed with the therapeutic tasks. I still have some degree of instability, loneliness, and depression, but I am surprised that I have changed a lot for the better. I have realized that I can be happy without depending on other people. ​

I am still a little unstable and anxious, but I have hope. I keep my hope seeing my instability and anxiety fading little by little. I can feel that my unconscious is changing little by little. KIP Treatment has taught me how I can be satisfied with my life as it is. 

Thank you. 

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[Infidelity Therapy] Making the right choice upon the discovery of spouse infidelity

                          

[Infidelity Therapy] Spouse infidelity is painful, but you must make the right choice for your future. 

When the spouse infidelity is discovered, most people suffer from rage and pain since they want to restore happiness. They suffer from post traumatic stress and it means that they have the possibility to recover. When you don't suffer from rage and feel comfortable accepting the situation, it indicates that you nave no possibility to recover. That is, you have nothing to recover in the first place. You will not feel pain whatever your spouse does in that case. 

We must understand that those who suffer from post traumatic stress instead of those who don't feel pain upon the discovery of spouse infidelity are the ones who have lived a righteous and good life so far. 

People who don't feel pain when spouse infidelity is discovered are considered to have marriage relationship with some selfish purpose. Most people suffer from pain when spouse infidelity is discovered. This is because they want to restore happy marriage relationship.

You must first restore you own happiness to restore marriage relationship. Then, you can make the environment where the spouse can recover. Most people think that only the spouse in infidelity must recover and don't think about their own recovery. However, the spouse in infidelity usually do not try to recover first. 

The spouse in infidelity has relationship addiction, which is a progressed condition of psychological disorder and destroys all human relationship. They would sever the relationship with anyone who gives them stress whether they love the person or not.          

The spouse in infidelity is likely to destroy marriage relationship when the victimized spouse displays symptoms of post traumatic stress such as rage and anger. In this process, he or she does not think twice about destroying the relationship with children. Relationship addiction is a psychological condition to destroy all human relationships when stress is induced. 

If you want to restore happiness and marriage relationship, you must first stop giving stress to the spouse in infidelity. It is really hard for the victimized spouse not to give stress to the spouse in infidelity since the pain is absolutely excruciating. It must be noted that treating the condition of the victimized spouse is the first step to stop the aggravation of condition of the spouse in infidelity and restore marriage relationship. 

Many people advise you to get a divorce when spouse infidelity occurs. Some people advise for law suits to make the spouse return to home. Strictly speaking, it cannot be considered as returning home in that case since the spouse has actually aggravated condition relationship addiction. 

People who suffer from post traumatic stress due to spouse infidelity are facing the worst crisis situation in the life. Your future is only up to your decision, not anyone else's. You may aggravate your condition of post traumatic stress and make your whole life unhappy unless you treat your condition by adopting the right methods and choose the right path for happiness. You can and must make the right choice and decision for your self and your family. 

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[Mother Therapy] How to raise your child's sense of self-respect

 

     Every parent knows that their children need to build the sense of self-respect to live a happy life. They may try to help children build the sense of self-respect in diverse ways. They may listen to lectures, read books, and get counseling to do so. However, it is a different matter to apply their knowledge during daily life. It is because they are missing the fundamental element. 

     Parents know the importance of self-respect and they pay attention to children acknowledging children's existence with love and affection. However, not many people know that parents need their own stabilized psychological condition to be able to apply all their knowledge and information in an effective way. 

     When parents have psychological problems, it is impossible to pay attention and give love to children in a healthy way. They may pay attention to children but only in distorted ways usually focusing on the superficial and visible phenomena. For example, it is well known that parents must accept children as they are without judgment. However, parents with psychological problems cannot accept children as they are. They may consciously think that they are being good parents, but their distorted psychology leads their distorted habits of perception to be projected in perceiving their children's behaviors. They may accept their children as they are only when certain conditions are satisfied based on their own standards. 

     When parents accept children's existence as they are, children will be able to build the sense of self-respect more easily and comfortably. When children are demanded to live up to parents' expectation, it is equivalent to being forced to live with their parents' standards instead of their own standards. When a child is born, the only wish most parents make is for the child to grow healthy and parents accept the existence of the child. However, when parents have psychological problems and leave them unsolved and untreated, parent's problems affect children negatively. That is, parents cannot look at children with composedness in mind. 

     Children who are accepted as they are by their parents will easily build the sense of self-respect. They know that parents always accept them and support them under any circumstance. It is important to examine whether parents have healthy psychology to be able to help children build the sense of self-respect. If parents have psychological problems, they must solve problems or treat their condition first. Parents' psychological problems keep being activated to affect children's psychology negatively unless properly treated causing unhappiness for both parents and children.

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[infidelity Therapy] The husband's display of rage justifies the adulterer's wrongdoings.

[infidelity Therapy] The husband's display of rage, violent behaviors, filing lawsuits, or getting a divorce justifies the adulterer's wrongdoings. 

The husband develops post traumatic stress upon the discovery of wife infidelity. The husband suffers from the excruciating pain and blames himself or others. If he blames the wife and the adulterer, he may display rage employing violent language and behaviors since he cannot bear his pain of post traumatic stress. In some cases, he may blame himself, file lawsuits, or get a divorce as his psychological condition deteriorates. No one thinks about what dire consequences the husband's behaviors will result in.

It must be noted how the husband's behaviors are perceived by the adulterer. First, all the husband's negative expressions can be used to justify the adulterer's wrongdoing of committing infidelity with the wife. The husband's behaviors are equivalent to giving the adulterer what he wants. The husband's behaviors may be used as a support for the wife's infidelity, her falling for the adulterer's attention and consolation, and getting a divorce. Especially, the husband's violent language and behaviors are effective in serving this purpose. 

The adulterer may get stressed when the husband files lawsuits and display violent behaviors against him. However, he forgets about his stress soon by avoiding the situation or just enduring until it ends, and then, he feels sympathy for the wife. He may try to avoid the situation or just stand firm until it ends. 

The adulterer thinks that the husband is not good enough for the wife. He thinks that the wife committed infidelity because the husband is violent and incapable of protecting the wife and satisfying her sexually. This idea will lead the adulterer to conclude that he is superior to the husband in many ways. 

Secondly, the adulterer thinks that he had to give the wife attention and consolation because the husband didn't. The husband behaviors have proved so. That is, the husband's behaviors are used to justify the adulterer's infidelity with the wife. He thinks that the wife is a good woman who is sweet and sexually attractive but she is suffering from the relationship with the husband. 

Thirdly, the adulterer thinks that he can take advantage of the wife as a sexual object more easily when she gets a divorce, so he keeps giving attention and consolation to her. Then, the wife may choose to stay with the adulterer since the husband keeps being violent and blaming her for infidelity. The adulterer will be glad when the husband abandons the wife. 

The wife in infidelity may tell the adulterer everything about what is going on in her life and marriage in order to get attention and consolation from him including sexual issues. The adulterer perceives all her speech and actions as sexual responses and thinks that he must give her sexual pleasure, too. He may feel proud of himself for saving the wife from a miserable life. 

The husband's behaviors to display rage or to solve problems lead the adulterer to justify infidelity. The husband is helping the wife fall more and more infidelity. The more actions he takes to cope with the situation, the more incompetent he becomes. If you are suffering from post traumatic stress due to infidelity, you must treat your condition first by taking KIP Treatment and must not pay attention to your wife for now. Then, you can give your wife an opportunity to treat her condition and take all the measures to make the adulterer pay for what he has done to your family. You have to make him learn that the price of committing infidelity is high.

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[Review] Well begun is half done.

Before I began KIP Treatment program, I thought I would get better just by listening to Mr. Kim's lectures all day everyday, which I actually did. I ignored his advice that treatment and open lectures are completely different and endured that way for a year. 

​My symptoms of post traumatic stress kept deteriorating and they began to destroy my precious children. I was acting like a crazy mother or a monster not seen easily around. 

My parents had to stand my craziness suffering and crying. I was destroying my family such that my child finally developed panic disorder. ​

I suddenly woke up to my child's suicide attempt. I made up my mind to treat myself then. I realized I had destroyed myself and my children. I fought to death against my disease with KIP Treatment and Mother Therapy. 

​The treatment process was not easy at all. I knew that the program guided me in the right direction, but the contents were hard to understand and I felt uncomfortable doing therapeutic tasks. I tried to focus on the tasks as much as possible and children began to be stabilized in about 3 months. I was still in pain but I expressed my gratitude to children and tried to smile.

I am into 6 months of treatment now. I feel something inside myself and wonder if this feelings is 'happiness'. I start the morning with a smile. I feel the sunlight and breathe in the fresh air. I could not even imagine this calmness if I were still only watching the videos of KIP. 

​I want to thank Mr. Kim for persuading me to treat my condition. I may have a long way to complete cure but I will definitely continue with my efforts for my own feelings of happiness growing little by little everyday. I feel sorry for people who haven't been able to start the treatment yet. I earnestly hope that everyone who suffers from pain will choose to treat their condition. I may become a happiness evangelist. 

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[Infidelity Therapy] The psychology of the husband who buys sex services

 

    When the wife finds out that her husband has bought sex services, she feels betrayed by her husband. The wife thinks that she has sex because she loves the husband and the fact that her husband buys sex services means to her that having sex with the wife has been denied and he doesn't love his wife. The husband may think that buying sex services is no big deal, but the wife may develop post traumatic stress as if she were shocked by husband infidelity. 

     The husband's buying sex services has a few stages. The first stage is when he buys sex services by being carried along while he is drinking and having fun with people. The second stage is when he repeats buying sex services since he finds it fun. The third stage is when he put more importance to sexual pleasure than to the whole activity. The fourth stage is when he gets involved with the woman who sells sex in a romantic relationship committing infidelity. 

     The husband may think that he is just having fun temporarily and he has not betrayed the wife and children in any way. However, the wife may develop post traumatic stress thinking that she is denied by her husband and he has sex with another woman since he doesn't love her. 

     Especially, when the husband aggravates his condition of relationship addiction when he has a personal relationship with the woman who sells sex services. As his relationship addiction advances, he continues buying sex services even when he is caught by his wife and eventually develops intermittent explosive disorder. He may make an excuse saying that it was just a mistake and an accident, but he is only justifying his behavior. It has the same mechanism as the husband in infidelity making self-justification of all types upon being caught. 

     The husband who buys sex services is likely to fail in his life as well as in business and work and he suffers from physical illness. His relationship addiction advances rapidly as he spend time, money, and energy. 

     The husband who buys sex services develops relationship addiction and the wife who discovers it develops post traumatic stress. The wife must treat her post traumatic stress before anything to restore her life and family. 

     Most women think that they have sex with men they are in love with, but women who sell sex services have sex for financial gain. The husband buys sex services for temporary sexual pleasure but it causes him to suffer from permanent damage on his psychology. He becomes addicted to women's responses and sexual pleasure, which cannot be reversed by his conscious control.

     The husband's pursuit of values is distorted and his relationships with people are damaged after he buys sex services. He begins to destroy the closest relationship making his wife and children suffer. He may even sever the relationship with children if they try to stop him from buying sex services. 

     The wife must first treat her post traumatic stress and then address his husband's problem. If she tries to address the husband's problems before treating her won condition, both the husband's and the wife's conditions only keep deteriorating. The husband thinks that buying sex services is valuable and important for him, so any attempt to stop his wrong doing is considered as an attack against his pursuit of values of life, which makes it even harder for him to recover. 

      When the husband realizes that his buying sex services caused relationship addiction in him and tries to treat his condition on his own, he can restore balance in psychology and understand the importance of being happy together with his wife as well as having sexual happiness together. 

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[Mother Therapy] Are you worried that your child takes after you in a negative way?

Some parents are worried that their children take after them with undesirable personality traits. They try to make children change in the right direction, but not many people know that it may lead children to develop psychological problems. 

    “My son takes after his father, so he is not good at controlling his temper. I am worried that he doesn't even make efforts to control himself.”

     “My son is in a hurry all the time just like his father. I try to change him but nothing seems to work. I am worried about how he will do when he becomes an adult.”

     “My daughter is shy and not good at talking. I always tell her to be confident when talking, but it doesn't work. I used to be shy when I was a child and it worried my parents, too. I don't know what to do.”

     “My daughter is stubborn just like her mother. She becomes more and more like her mother as she is growing up.”

Some parents become upset about children's worrisome personality, so they express their concerns negatively by saying, “Who on earth do you take after?”, “You are just like your father, and I don't like it.” 

Parents know through their experience that they have negative traits in their own personality and they can cause problems in life. They hope that their children will not make the same mistake as they did and try to guide them into the right direction. That is, parents judge on children's behaviors and try to correct children based on their own standards. Parents will feel difficulties when children do not change as they want.

However, parents must understand that children should learn through their own direct experience as they did. Children will realize they need to change themselves when problems occur due to their negative habits or traits, and they will make efforts themselves and learn how to live with other people in harmony. When parents don't know about this mechanism, they will keep imposing their own standards on children causing conflicts between parents and children. 

Especially, when a certain behavior of children that resembles the parents' behavior bothers parents, it indicates that the parent's untreated wound is retrieved to make the parent respond sensitively. When you are in a good relationship with the spouse, the traits your child and your spouse share may look adorable to you. However, when you are in a troublesome relationship with your spouse, such traits retrieve your stress and wounds. Then, your children's perfectly normal behavior becomes a problem from the perspective of the parent who has his or her own psychological problems. 

When you find some negative traits in your children that resembles you or your spouse, you must first question whether you yourself have some problems and try to deal with them. When parents accurately understand about their own psychological problems and make efforts to address them, parents will change for the better and become to accept children as they are instead of trying to correct their behaviors, leading children to grow with healthy psychology. 

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[Infidelity Therapy] The collapse of the life of men who commit infidelity

[Infidelity Therapy] The collapse of the life of men who commit infidelity (the husband in infidelity and the adulterer)

People who know that infidelity is caused by relationship addiction tend to associate relationship addiction only with infidelity. However, not everyone who develops relationship addiction gets involved in infidelity. Of course, people in infidelity have developed relationship addiction. 

 [Symptoms of men's relationship addiction] 

1. Commit infidelity

2. Do not have sex addiction but repeat buying sex services

3. Find more pleasure in diverse activities such as work, gatherings, traveling, hobbies, or sports than in family life

4. Suddenly have more sex or become sexless with the spouse

5. Mingle with people with many human relationships and become overly nice to people

There are many more symptoms of men's relationship addiction than listed above. Men with relationship addiction are addicted to people's responses regardless of the gender when they express themselves nicely to other people. When men develop relationship addiction, they express themselves compulsively and they feel relieved and excited only when they feel the counterparty's responses. 

When they express themselves to a woman and the woman with relationship addiction responds to men's expressions, they become close to each other and commit infidelity. Men with relationship addiction think that giving attention and consolation to women with relationship addiction is the most valuable thing in their life. 

Men's relationship addiction is an advanced condtion of psychological diaorder in the sense that they have developed both perception disorder and expression disorder simultaneously. Perception disorder makes men not be able to stand even the slightest stress and expression disorder or addiction makes men feel relieved from obsession and anxiety only when they get responses from the object of obsession. 

Men with relationship addiction have developed a psychological disorder that destroys all their relationships as well as their pursuit of values and sexuality. They sever all the relationships that give them stress and form only the relationships that give them responses. They pursue distorted values and sexuality justifying their ideas and behaviors. 

Men with relationship addiction end up putting priority on sexual pleasure and relationships that make it possible as the highest values of life. They can stop pursuing sexual pleasure only when they lose everything, become sick, or literally die. 

Men with relationship addiction must realize that they have a serious condition and make efforts to treat their condition even if the process is hard and even painful to restore healthy and happy life. They are usually given an opportunity to treat their condition when they are on the verge of losing everything or they feel the threat of life after losing everything. In this situation, their wife and children are very important for their treatment. 

The treatment can be chosen and proceeded only by men themselves and it requires their own strong will power and efforts. They must treat relationship addiction, prevent the relapse of the condition, and build stress healing ability and happiness ability to achieve complete cure. Korea Institute of Psycho-education provides an effective and innovative treatment program without psychology counseling. 

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[Infidelity Therapy] The collapse of the life of women who commit infidelity

 

[Infidelity Therapy] The collapse of the life of women who commit infidelity (the wife in infidelity and the adulteress)

     

     People who know that infidelity is caused by relationship addiction tend to associate relationship addiction only with infidelity. However, not everyone who develops relationship addiction gets involved in infidelity. Of course, people in infidelity have developed relationship addiction. 

     [Symptoms of women's relationship addiction] 

1. Commit infidelity

2. Find comfort in specific objects such as religion, study, counseling, consumption, or fortune telling.

3. Find more pleasure in diverse activities such as work, gatherings, traveling, hobbies, or sports than in family life

4. Suddenly get out of depression and lethargy and begin to focus on activities outside home. 

5. Mingle with people overly with many human relationships

     There are many more symptoms of women's relationship addiction than listed above. Women with relationship addiction are addicted to attention and consolation. They can be addicted to attention and consolation of any type from both men and women. They feel excited and happy when they are given attention by the counterparty's friendliness and kindness. Since they are addicted to attention and consolation, they develop obsession for attention and consolation and they feel relieved and happy only when they are given attention and consolation. When the object of attention and consolation is a man, they get involved in infidelity, and women provide responses to men in infidelity in return for men's attention and consolation. 

     Women with relationship addiction develop the disorder of memory of emotion and expression disorder simultaneously. The disorder of memory of emotion makes women suffer from their own wounds from perception or memory. Expression disorder or addiction makes them develop obsession and anxiety and feel relieved and happy only when they get attention and consolation from the object of addiction. 

     Women with relationship addiction destroy all her relationships as well as her love, values, and sexuality. They sever all the relationships that are related with their wounds and form relationships that give them attention and consolation. They pursue distorted love, values, and sexuality justifying their ideas and behaviors. 

     Women with relationship addiction must realize that they have a serious condition and make efforts to treat relationship addiction even if the process is hard and even painful to restore healthy and happy life. They usually choose to treat themselves when they are blocked from getting attention and pursuing pleasure. Their husband and children have nothing to do with their own treatment in this situation. 

     The treatment can be chosen and proceeded only by women themselves and it requires their own strong will power and efforts. They must treat relationship addiction, prevent the relapse of the condition, and build wound treatment ability and happiness ability to achieve complete cure. Korea Institute of Psycho-education provides an effective and innovative treatment program without psychology counseling. 

https://youtu.be/3CelouwEY7U

                         

About KIP(Korea Institute of Psycho-education)